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5 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make When Giving Your First Blowjob

By loveandsex

Your first blowjob should be great – not a disaster. A lot of women make mistakes when it comes to giving their guy head, and most of the time, little issues will be overlooked because it feels so good. However, if you screw it up big time, he won’t want it from you again! Here’s what you want to avoid when giving a first blowjob.

Using Your Teeth

It may seem like a good idea to graze your guy’s shaft lightly with your teeth or giving the head of his penis a little nibble (you like your clitoris nibbled every once in awhile, so why wouldn’t he?), but really, it’s not. Teeth can hurt and unless your man is a super masochist and enjoys cock and ball torture, letting him feel your pearly whites during fellatio is going to turn him off before you even know what happened.

Avoid using your teeth during your first blowjob by wrapping your lips tightly over them. Make sure your lips are well lubricated, either by your saliva or a good flavored lube. If your lips are dry, they won’t slide well over the shaft of your partner’s penis.

Sucking Too Hard

Lots of girls think that the harder they suck during fellatio, the more pleasurable it will be for a man. While a little bit of sucking, and even firm sucking if he’s close to orgasm is a good thing, if you do it too hard, you’re going to do much more harm than good. It may actually feel too sensitive or be painful for you to suck on his penis very hard, and it will turn him off when you do.

In this case, light sucking and licking is going to be sufficient here. Start out with light licking to tease him and get him warmed up (guys need foreplay too), and then progress to moderate sucking as he gets more and more turned on. Don’t cross the threshold though and do it too hard or too furiously.

Not Listening To His Cues

It’s crucial to listen to a man’s cues during fellatio. His body language will tell you if you’re on the right track or not. A man will thrust his pelvis towards your face, grab your hair or head and vocalize their pleasure when it’s feeling really good. If you’re not getting these results, change what you’re doing – you’re either hurting him or just not doing enough.

Also, don’t assume that if he likes something at first, that he’s going to like it the entire time you’re giving him head. Your technique should vary throughout the duration (seriously, who wants boring fellatio from a one trick pony?) and increase in intensity as he gets closer and closer to orgasm. His non-verbal cues will vary – he may start out gasping for breath and bucking furiously when you start a certain technique, but he may soon relax and get comfortable with it. In which case, you need to move on to a different technique ASAP.

Seeming Bored With It

Enthusiasm is 50% of a great first blowjob. Don’t ruin great fellatio by acting like you really would rather be doing something else. When guys fantasize about getting head, they often fantasize about whoever is doing it being really excited to do it. If you act bored with the act or don’t seem like you’re into it at all, he’s going to pick up on it immediately.

Some guys don’t vocalize their pleasure during oral sex, making it difficult for a woman to feel into it. Encourage him to show you that he’s enjoying it so you can get off on his pleasure too.

Choosing The Wrong Oral Sex Positions

There’s nothing more awkward than a woman trying to get into an oral sex position that bends a man’s penis a strange way. She may think that she’s being adventurous or exciting by doing it this way, but it really just takes away from his pleasure. Make your first blowjob all about your technique and pick a simple, tried and true oral sex position that you know will work.

Try giving him oral sex while he’s standing and you’re kneeling. Place a pillow underneath your knees so you stay comfortable. You can also have him lie on the bed with you cuddled up in between his legs. This allows you a little less control and makes it difficult for him to watch you, but you can prop his head up with pillows to give him a great view.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, body language, fellatio, oral sex, oral sex positions, orgasm, sex tips

Mastering Confident Body Language

By loveandsex

Body language is a sure way to tell if your partner is enjoying what you’re doing during sex or not. Here’s how to be a master of bedroom body language.

The “Outside-In” Body Language Method

Many think mastering body language means consciously controlling one’s movements. Take “confidence” for example. To exhibit such, one is told not to slouch, to keep the chest and chin up, broaden the shoulders, avoid fluttery eye movements and speak in low tones. Get those down and you will come off assured, certain and confident.

This is the “outside-in” method. It’s a “fake it ‘til you make it” thing where you initially feel like an incompetent idiot for trying to be somebody you’re not. You don’t own the gestures but merely acting it out, so it feels a bit off.

When this faked confidence undergoes hardcore testing, such as during dating, it’ll definitely break – because the genuine article doesn’t exist – yet.

But over time, something very interesting happens. You gradually become genuinely confident! By acting it out, you tricked yourself into believing it. Gestures from the outside have affected how you feel inside. The mind comes to believe the gestures and soon enough, the actions aren’t that awkward anymore – you own them. You stop reminding yourself to be confident, you simply are!

Some neat trick, huh?

Yeah, it’s all good, but we’re not doing that here.

Why?

It’s too slow and it doesn’t work for a lot of people. The whole façade crumbles long before the genuine articles begin to appear. Many onlookers don’t buy it in the first place. Trying to look cool, calm and confident often results in a strange, mixed message – and the very act of straining to keep the façade together indicates what’s really happening inside.

Can you imagine the clarity with which women see beyond the pretense?! You may stand upright all you want, but your blushing cheeks will give you away. You may be speaking in low tones, but those occasional cracks become very telling.

Faking it doesn’t guarantee making it.

There’s a more effective way. And the key is not to deal with non-verbals in piecemeal, step-by-step fashion. A woman doesn’t do that, she doesn’t measure the angles to which you tilt your head or the straightness of your back. She’s not trying to read or judge how you come off. To her, it’ll be just a gut feel, a funny intuition – it’s just there. That’s how minds work.

The “Inside-Out” Body Language Method

There’s an easier, more effective way. Gestures are most powerful when they come somewhere deep, that is, when they faithfully mirror what is really inside. We’re talking about core beliefs and attitudes here. The 2nd mode of mastering non-verbal communications is the “inside-out” method What’s inside, affects what is displayed outside. Let me explain.

Notice how easy it is to act happy when you actually are, and how difficult it is to jump for joy when you’re feasting with depression?

Maybe you’ve just had a break up with someone or you’ve just been fired from your regular 9 to 5. Imagine how hard it is to hide your disappointment, sadness, perhaps even anger. Your drooping shoulders and cast down gloom give you away. You work hard containing it, but emotions seep out the moment you put your guard down.

Conversely, when you’re flushed with joy, like when you’ve won the biggest cash prize in the history of lottery – notice that you don’t even try to act in high spirits. You simply are! You’re exploding with glee on the inside and this comes out naturally through the extra bounce in your step and the unmistakable smile you’ve been beaming since lunch. You don’t create the bounce and smile, you don’t even notice them. They simply ooze out.

No practice is required, you’re happy and it jumps out of you!

Both Methods Work, But Which Is Better?

Here’s the thing: Both methods work, (and it’s not like they are mutually exclusive), but one is clearly more powerful than the other. It’s like 2 modes of getting fit. You could enroll in a gym, do aerobic exercises and work the machines, Or, you can live a naturally active lifestyle by walking around a lot, baby-sitting hyperactive nephews and dancing at bars & clubs. Both methods work because they make you sweat and burn calories, one is just more natural than the other.

We’re siding with the 2nd method.

Mastering confident body language is really mastering what’s on the INSIDE.

No need to worry whether or not you’re moving in the sexy, seductive and irresistible way – that’s superficial. Those gestures are but visual reflections of what is inside. The crucial question really is not “How to make your body move?” but “How’s your inside?” – those invisible thoughts & beliefs in your head. Those are the stuff that ultimately matters because your body will find a way to put them on perfect display.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: better sex, body language, sex, sex tips

3 Weird Ways To Flirt With A Guy

By romymorgan

Flirting doesn’t always have to be by the book to be effective. Try these odd flirting techniques on the next man you’re interested in – they WORK!

Flirting with a guy can seem like an easy task, but there are a lot of things that you probably don’t know when it comes to the way his mind works. A man’s mind works so differently from a woman’s that it’s difficult sometimes to anticipate what he’s going to react positively to and what he’s going to react negatively to. It’s no secret that every guy enjoys hearing compliments and getting little touches, but there are several weird ways that you flirt with a guy and have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

Men tend to respond different to different women. Not all women can pull off these techniques at first, but with a little practice you might be able to master them all. Throwing out clichés and overly done techniques is a must.

Most men know the tricks of the trade so you will need to spice up your repertoire to land somebody that you really care about. Here are 3 weird ways to flirt with a guy.

1. Dress “Flirty” (This Isn’t What You Think)

While this isn’t going to be direct flirting, a lot of women believe that they have to be dressed up in order to flirt with a guy. Men don’t like high maintenance women. Most of the time, a decent top and a ratty pair of jeans is enough to get him interested in you.

Women think that they always have to be wearing the latest fashions to have a guy interested in them. The fact of the matter is that men love a girl that can look great even when she’s just come from the gym. Don’t think that just because you have your hair in a ponytail and your forehead is riddled with sweat that you can’t be flirty.

Men are drawn to women that aren’t obsessed with how they look in public. This doesn’t give you a pass to meet his parents in your gardening clothes, but have confidence in yourself even when you’re not dressed to hit the town. Guys find this endearing.

2. Touch Him First And Then Pull Back

Don’t be afraid to make the first move if you like a man. Even it’s just a quick touch on the arm, touching him first is a sure sign that you’re interested in him. Most guys will try to break the touch barrier first. However, if you touch him first you will easily show that you’re interested.

You don’t want to seem over eager so follow the touch up with a snide remark. Make fun of him a little bit. Don’t call him out on something that is going to hurt his feelings.

Make sure that you’re doing this in a playful nature. Making fun of something that will hurt his feelings will definitely leave you in an awkward place.

Touching him and then making fun of him is called the “Push/Pull” method. This is typically used in the pick-up artist community for flirting with girls, but it also works well with guys.

Guys love a girl that gives them a little sass. You want the guy to wonder if you’re just toying with him or if you’re actually interested. This is builds mystery and tension.

3. Open Up Easily & Don’t Be Guarded

One thing that women try to do is put mystery into their persona. While this can work for a while, the last thing that you want is to have a guy wondering whom he’s dating after three weeks of knowing you. An easy way remedy this is to be open about who you are from the start. While you might not want to tell him things about yourself that could potentially ruin the future of the relationship, you should be as open and honest as possible. Don’t be afraid to be an open book, but do be careful about the type of things you discuss when you haven’t really gotten to know each other.

Telling him about credit card debt or a one night stand three years before is not the kind of open that we’re talking about. Let him know that you’re not a “game player” and that you’re interested in him. Being forward about what you want is sexy and guys love this. You can play coy for a little while, but you should let him know that it’s going somewhere.

Teasing him and then telling him that you would like to get HIS phone number is a great way to keep him interested right off the bat. Men like mystery, but not at the expense of knowing where or not they can trust you. Keep this in mind the next time that you are flirting with a guy and they will be enamored with you.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

5 Weird Flirting Methods For EXPLOSIVE Results With All Women

By loveandsex

Flirting with girls about their beauty is the most powerful way to lower their initial defenses and attract them. You’ve only got two minutes to impress a woman and make yourself stand out as somebody unique. Understand that these beautiful ladies only want men with high standards.

1. Flirting Lines

  • Nice hair. What made you go with a 60’s style?
  • Ha. That walk is hilarious. Do it again!
  • You like cappuccino’s? (weird look) Na, that’s cool.

Imply she’s short, has no fashion sense, has a funny quirk, etc. Once you find something that gets a great reaction, keep using it and maintain your eye contact.

2. Tease Her About Her

  • Hair
  • Clothes
  • Shoes
  • Accessories
  • Walk
  • Mannerisms
  • Dorkiness

3. Where Did You Go?

Here’s a great example you can us when flirting with just about any woman. After talking for some time you can walk up to her and look over her head as if you’re looking for something. You can then say, “Where did you go?”

Don’t stand too close just close enough to get the point across. You’ll usually get a playful hit for this one because it implies that she’s short.

If you’re the same height or just a little bit shorter, stand on your toes to add some extra height. Being the same height can actually make this technique work better because it’s sarcastic humor. You’re saying she’s short even though she’s clearly level with your height.

4. Woman’s Flirting Interpretation

HE JUST SAID: “I’m short and he is laughing about it.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He doesn’t only want me for my looks! He’s different than most guys. I want to get to the bottom of this and see what he’s really like? Is he faking?
RESULT: She’s interested.

5. Reactive Flirting

While this form of flirting is slightly more difficult, it usually more effective because of its “natural conversation” feel. This will require more confidence. So here’s what you do:

Ask the woman something about her day, what have you been up to? Where do you work? Where have you been shopping? What’s in the shopping bag? Where’d you get that necklace? Anything!

The idea of teasing is that you want to DISAGREE on something with the woman. Thus, creating sexual tension.

DISAGREE on her looks
Say her clothes aren’t cool.
DISAGREE on her opinion of something.

Side note: One of the best ways to incorporate flirting is to joke to your buddy that the woman is too drunk, even if she’s not. Or, accuse her of becoming as insecure as a man who goes around trying to get lucky with his “confidence-in-a-can”, and tell her it’s not going to work with you.

In conclusion, there’s a difference between a girl being seriously upset, and just playing around and being “fake upset.” When they playfully hit you and have a half smile on their face, they like it, no matter what they say!

FACT: Women mean what they do, not what they say. Know this when you are out trying to meet singles.

When she starts laughing, acting natural, fun,  genuinely smiling, and giving you the right body language then you know you’ve spoken long enough.

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

Don’t Make This Inexcusable Conversation Mistake With A Girl!

By loveandsex

Dating tips can help you establish yourself as the kind of guy that all women want to be with. The biggest mistake men make when interacting with beautiful girls is talking in a monotonous, emotionless, dull “filling in time” way.

The Big Mistake

While starting conversations with ladies seems hard enough, it appears even more daunting to keep a interesting, fun conversation going.

When men hang around with their friends they laugh, make jokes, have fun and don’t take things too seriously. But for some reason, when a man finds himself interested in a beautiful woman, he usually becomes very reserved without any confidence.

He stops laughing. He stops making jokes. He stops teasing. He stops having fun. He stops flirting.

Keep The Friendly Vibe

When in the presence of a potential date, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe he has with his friends, he suddenly becomes boring. He won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, he won’t play around like he does with his friends, and he takes things way too seriously.

Why do men change their behavior around girls? They usually don’t’ even realizing they are doing it. The reason is that men are so afraid of losing their only chance with a particular woman that they  turn into “Mr. Serious,” but don’t even maintain eye contact.

Men get so nervous talking to beautiful women that they lose all creativity and can’t make interesting conversation. Fearful that they might say something rude or challenging, they resort to boring “walking on egg shells” conversations, which results in no emotion.

What Are You Afraid Of?

While men can tell you that it’s important to not be boring when interacting with women, they often don’t even realize when they’re doing it. Remember this simple law.

1. When you fear loosing a woman you become cautious
2. When you’re cautious you become serious
3. When you’re serious you become boring
4. When you’re boring women aren’t attracted
5. When women aren’t attracted you don’t get a date

Men have such a strong “I must have this girl” attitude that the more they desire a woman, the more serious and boring they become in their poor attempts to date them.

Although films and television strongly encourage the idea of begging women, it doesn’t work. These values are used to evoke emotions for the movie audience, and in people take it to heart and buy into the idea that this behavior will lead to success and a first kiss.

Don’t Live In The Movies

It always seems like Mr. Romantic is doing the right thing by standing outside a balcony window every night singing love songs, reading poetry and bringing flowers until his dream girl finally falls in love with him.

While these actions may seem romantic and work in movies, we don’t live in the movies; we live in the real world. Women can smell manipulative men ten miles away and have no respect for their child-like behavior.

Remember acting playful and silly around your brothers and sisters when you were growing up? Whether you were older or younger usually determined who was in control of the playing. If you were older, you’ll probably remember calling your siblings harmless names, hiding their toys and making them beg for them back.

But unfortunately as men grow into adults they forget their playful instincts and try to “make logical sense of everything.” Before reading this book you may have heard of the term “flirting”, but never really understood what it was or why it is necessary to attract women. As you learn the flirting techniques within this book, you’ll recall other times during your life when you behaved like this.

Remember these dating tips to bring back the fun!

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

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