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11 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy

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Dating can be complicated, but there are definitely some clear signs that the guy you’re dating should be kicked to the curb. Here are eleven of them.

So you’re dating this guy and things seems great but not that great. If its the beginning of the relationship, maybe you are holding out to see how things pan out, see if they get better. Or maybe you’ve been dating the same guy for a few years and things are not as great as they used to be. How do you know if this relationship is in fact a good thing or if you two are just wasting your time?

What She Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

1. You Don’t Look Forward To Being With Him

Whether this is a long term relationship or you’re dating a new guy, if you aren’t excited to hang out with this guy then you are defiantly with the wrong person. In the beginning of relationships everything should be exciting and you should be psyched to see him. If this is a long term relationship you should be looking forward to spending time with your man and still get a little giddy thinking about him. If these feelings are not there and you find yourself wishing you were hanging out with your friends, yourself of another guy then that is a huge sign that you are dating the wrong person. If this is a new relationship and you dread another date, or hanging with him then you are dating the wrong guy.

2. When You Are With Him You Still Feel Lonely

This usually can happen in long term relationships. After a while you guys get into a groove where you are hanging out (or living together) and can be sitting right next to the guy and feel like you two are miles away. Its a weird phenomenon but it happens when so much is left unsaid and so many touches are left un-felt If you start to feel constantly (like every time you are together) emotionally far from your guy, its a pretty good sign he is not the one.

3. You Cheat On Him

Red flag, sirens, alarms, cow bells, punch in the face!! Any sex outside of your relationship sex is a sure sign that you are with the wrong person! I’m not going to get into the moral ramifications of cheating, nor the right and wrong of it. I’m just saying there is nothing wrong with being attracted to other guys, I’m just saying that if you find yourself not only attracted to but then acting on that attraction with another guy then you are definitely not getting what you want from your man and he is not the right one for you.

4. Your Friends And Family Say You Should End It

These are the closest people in your life, they know you the best. If they think you could do better or are dating the wrong guy, listen to them. Always go with what you feel is right but don’t ignore the people that love you if they think you are wasting your time. In relationships we can wear rose colored glasses and sometimes it takes an outsider to see something we didn’t see. So listen to the people that care about you.

5. You Are More Friends Than Lovers

Sex is the glue that separates men and women from being friends or lovers. So if you are in a relationship and the passion has died then you are with the wrong person. Yes passion and sex can ebb and flow but if there is a huge lack of sex or libido and you are not happy about that then you are with the wrong person.

6. What You Once Loved Is Now Annoying

Maybe it’s the way he drinks a beer or the way he eats corn on the cob, there was a time when his little quirks and mannerism used to be so adorable to you and now they annoy the hell out of you. You once loved how he would snore in his sleep or maybe leave his coffee on the table half drank but now you are so angered by this and annoyed. It’s impossible to love everything that they do but if you are finding your self fed up with his mannerisms then you need to end it.

What He Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

7. You Don’t Appreciate Him & He Doesn’t Appreciate You

Taking someone for granted isn’t a good sign, but if you’re looking for signs that you should break up with your boyfriend, this has to be at the top of the list. Look, relationships have seasons, or cycles. You may want to rip his clothes off for a while, then not be sexual for while. Things go up and down, but if there’s more down than up, that’s a sign that either one or both of you don’t appreciate each other.

8. You’re Still In A Relationship But Have Stopped Dating

One of the big pitfalls for any long term relationship is getting too comfortable or getting stuck in the status quo. When you first start dating, everything is amazing and electric. Part of that is the new-ness of the relationship, and while the spark may fade a bit, it shouldn’t burn out. No matter how long you are together, you never ever stop dating. If you do, that’s when problems start. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, but not dating him, you may have a breakup sign and it’s one of the big ones.

9. You Don’t Want To Have Sex

Let’s face it. One of the main benefits to being in a relationship is the constant access to booty. Yes, companionship is great, but that’s what pets are for. You don’t just want companionship, you want some ass too. What’s the point without the intercourse? Not so much. If you could be getting laid and you don’t want to do the guy you’re with, that’s a red flag meaning it’s time to think about ending it.

10. The Things You Used To Like Piss You Off 

Everyone’s got their little idiosyncrasies  That’s just how we are. You know you’re into someone when you see a person’s little ticks and not only do they not bother you, you think they’re cute. When you find yourself suddenly pissed off or annoyed by them, then you’ve got yourself a sign it’s time to breakup. Everyone goes through phases, but if you find yourself consistently annoyed by these things and you just can’t stand them anymore, that’s a sign. Not a good one either.

11. You Try Sabotaging The Relationship

Ever find yourself picking fights with your partner for no reason? Ever ask “Why did I yell at him for that?” That means some part of you want to breakup with them and your subconscious is trying to get your attention. It’s saying “Hey! Get us out of here! You know you want to!” You may or may not be ready or willing to listen to your inner voice, but you should.

The main thing to remember about all these “signs” is that you need to listen to your gut and your heart. You know if you are not happy, you know if you are settling, you know if he is not the one for you. No list is going to give you the answer you already know. Now it’s up to you to do something about it.

5 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Cheating On You

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Cheating sucks – but a lot of guys do it. Is your man cheating on YOU? Here are five ways to tell if he’s being a scumbag.

A cheating lover is something that a lot of women have experienced. Cheating is one of the most disrespectful actions a guy can take in a relationship. It’s not very often that cheating goes unnoticed. If you believe that your fella is having an affair, there are a couple of things that you can look out for.

1. He’s On The Computer A LOT

One of the easiest ways for guys to meet women for sex is online. Even if the guy is not meeting a girl for sex he could be talking about it online with multiple women. The Internet has given guys a platform to play out their fantasies with women anonymously. If your guy cringes every time that you reach for his computer then he might be having an online tryst with other women.

If you guy doesn’t leave his computer open or protects everything with a password, this is another red flag. Check IM chat logs or website history if you can get into his computer. If you can’t, try to look over his shoulder when he doesn’t think you’re around. Yes, this is a little creepy, but better safe than sorry.

2. He Starts To Have Odd Schedule Changes

Does your guy follow a routine down the minute? Does he walk through the door at 5:16 every afternoon? Sudden schedule changes can be a sign that he’s cheating. Some guys like to be spontaneous, but if he has a steady job a sudden change in routine could be a sign that he is cheating. Ask questions about where he was or why he was working late.

You don’t have to prod him with an interrogation like the Republican Guard, but get some details. Details can prove that he was actually where he says he was. If you can poke holes through his story then you might want to rethink the relationship. If he tries to include you in his schedule changes then he’s probably not cheating.

3. He Disappears

No calls, no texts and no emails? This is a huge sign that he’s probably having an affair. If you have gone from hot and heavy to barely seeing each other then there is definitely a problem. If he were really interested in you then he would be trying to spend more time with you.

All relationships hit a bump in the road every so often, but if he is making excuses not to see you he might have a woman on the side. If there are changes at work or something similar then you might not see him as much. However, if there are no changes at work and he just disappears on you, he might be cheating.

4. Something Has Changed

You can feel it. Something has changed about him. He’s focusing more on his looks than ever before. He doesn’t laugh at your jokes anymore. He’s not the guy that you fell in love with. These are all indications that there is something wrong with the relationship. When you feel like something has changed about him it could be the company of another woman.

Cheating has a way of changing men. When they are having an affair, they will put you second fiddle. Take a notice of changes in the air when you’re around him and you might find that he’s spending time with another girl.

5. The Proof Is On His Phone

If you have the inclination to check his phone every time he leaves the room then there is something wrong. He might be cheating or he might not be. Usually, when a woman feels the need to check a guy’s phone she does not trust him. This can be a problem in itself; however, if you feel like you have to check his phone it’s probably for a reason.

If you find text messages of a sexual nature from numbers you don’t recognize then you should definitely confront him about it. If your guy has a password on his phone then you should also be on your toes. If your guy doesn’t let his phone out of his sight there could also be a problem.

A cheating lover is not something that you should tolerate. The disrespect that you will feel after you find out can be soul-crushing. Look for these indications so you are not a victim to his cheating. If you find that your guy is displaying one or more of these signs, talk to him about it. In most cases, talking your way through problems can bring the relationship full circle.

Am I Crazy Or Is She Cheating?

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Cheating is a tough thing to confront, so you want to make sure you’re positive your partner is cheating before you open your mouth. Here’s how to know.

Nobody wants to play the jealous boyfriend, but at one point or another you might find your mind wandering into scary territory. “Is she cheating or am I crazy?” This question comes up too often and it’s hard to determine for some women. The fear of your girlfriend cheating is enough to make any man shake with terror. The fact of the matter is that most women do not cheat. If they are not happy in the relationship, they will probably just break up with you. However, there are a percentage of women who do fall prey to their temptation. Fortunately, there are some very common trends in women who do cheat. Here are a couple of signs that can keep you on the lookout the next time your questions arise.

Her Age

Younger girls are more adept to play games. That’s not to say that an older woman will not stray, but younger girls have little commitment even if they say that they are committed. If your girlfriend is turning 25, 30 or 35 watch for signs of a crisis. These are the ages that women start to question everything about themselves. Have you ever heard a woman say something like “5 years ago I wouldn’t have done this?” Well, 5 years ago she may not have cheated. Ask your partner if she is happy in the relationship and assure her that you are. Make sure that she knows you would never have an affair and wait for her to assure you. If she doesn’t tell you that she would never cheat, get rid of her.

Job Changes

Job changes are a sign that she might be in a place to cheat on you. When a woman starts making more money or she’s put in a higher position at work, she can feel the power. She might feel like you’re yesterday’s news, especially if she’s making more money than you. One of the best ways to combat her new sense of entitlement is to tell her how proud you are of her. Brag about the promotion and let her know that she’s made a big accomplishment. This will give her the emotional support that she needs. If she starts staying at her job late at night after the first 3 months, you might want to consider whether or not she’s actually “working.” Get details when she works late. Find out what she was doing, but don’t make it obvious. Tell her that you want more time together and see what she says. If she gets defensive, something is definitely up.

She’s Put The Brakes On The Relationship

Remember when she used to call you at work just to see how your day is going? When was the last time that happened? If your romance has come to a complete halt, it’s probably time to be concerned. Get together with her and ask what is going on. Confronting the problem is the best way to move past it. The problem might not even have anything to do with you. Talk it out with her and decide on the best course of action. If she says that there’s not a problem with the relationship, offer to take a weekend trip so you can rekindle the romance. If she’s not interested, take caution. She might be seeing somebody or she’s been cheating.

You Haven’t Had Sex In A Couple Of Weeks

Sex is a pretty big part of the relationship. If you aren’t having sex, there are a couple of things that might be going on. One of the possibilities is that she’s not cheating and she’s just not interested in pursuing the relationship any further. The other possibility is that she is cheating and she’s saving all of her sexual attention for the new guy. Before you storm in and accuse her of anything, talk to her. She might have something going on with her vagina that she’s too embarrassed to tell you about. Assure her that you just want to know what the problem is. Women tend to without sex is there are deeper issues in the relationship so be prepared to talk through other issues when you bring this up. If she tells you there is nothing wrong after repeatedly asking her, assume the worst.

Cheating happens. There’s nothing that we can do to avoid getting cheated on, but diagnosing a cheater can be fairly easy when you put the relationship under a microscope. Always express concern before you accuse your girlfriend of cheating on you. If you accuse her of cheating and she’s not, she could lose all respect for you.

If Rich, Beautiful Women Get Cheated On, What Chance Do I Have?

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Cheating happens all the time – guys are notorious for cheating, and a lot of women do it too. It’s often the butt of many jokes, and there’s a lot of guys who don’t think infidelity is serious business. With all the cheating going on in the press to girls who look like they’d never get cheated on, ever. If girls who have it all get cheated on, is there any stopping cheating from happening to the average woman? Are girls who get married doomed to be subjected to adultery, no matter how pretty, nice, kind, funny or awesome they are? Do some guys just need to get it on with a different girl every now and then to be satisfied sexually, or is there a way to prevent it from ever happening?

Why do men cheat on beautiful, famous women? Where’s the hope for the rest of us when even celebrities can’t have a faithful spouse? I’m getting married soon and all this high profile infidelity is making me nervous!

What She Said:

I understand your pre-wedding jitters, but odds are good your husband will not turn out to be a cheater.

Why Do They Do It?

Why do men cheat? Because they can. Aside from that cynical joke, there’s obviously no formula to figure out what makes men stray. Some men cheat on famous women in order to restore balance in the power system. Perhaps the hubby of a celebrity feels emasculated because his wife makes more money than he does. Cheating can even the playing field in the dynamics of a marriage. Yes, it’s completely passive-aggressive – but that could explain the mindset at play.

Men are obviously loaded with testosterone – powerful men possibly more so. Not only is there a strong biological imperative to “spread the seed,” there’s also the fact that men who are with famous women are used to getting what they want, when they want it.

Regardless of who a man marries, I still believe there’s one big reason a guy would be unfaithful – if he’s not happy at home, he’s bound to look elsewhere. Everything else is superfluous and out of your control.

Enter With Full Trust

Give yourself (and your fiancé) the gift of going into your marriage full of trust, love, hope and an open heart. This should be the happiest time of your life; don’t spoil it by fretting over the end of others’ unions. Don’t cross the “he cheated on me” bridge until you come to it – if you come to it. Besides, if you’re marrying a man who’s your best friend in and out of the bedroom, you really won’t have a thing to worry about.

What He Said:

“Show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I will show you a guy who’s tired of fucking her.” — Chris Rock.

Can Men Really Be Monogamous?

It’s an exaggeration to some degree, but there’s also some degree of truth to it. Some men just need some “strange” from time to time. They say men aren’t wired to be monogamous, I’m not sure women are either. I don’t think it’s natural for us to only be with one person for life.

That doesn’t mean it isn’t doable or that it’s a bad thing. There are all different kinds of people out there and there are all different kinds of relationships. The fact that he has a penis doesn’t mean he will be screwing anything that moves.

There’s not much you can do to keep him faithful and more than he can do to keep you faithful. If you never give him a reason to stray, you’re off to an amazing start. And if that doesn’t work, just screw his brains out. Screw him stupid to the point where he is physically unable to be with anyone else. That’s the M.O. of several of my married female friends.

Weatherproof Your Marriage

You can’t go into this marriage with the idea that he’s going to cheat. That’s not going to get you anywhere you want to go. It is helpful to realize that this is a distinct possibility and plan accordingly. You don’t have car insurance because you want to get in an accident, you have it in case you do. That can mean you have a pre-nup or that simply you are aware it could happen and do everything you can do to weatherproof your marriage. That’s not being paranoid, that’s being positively proactive. You get what you put in.

Top 5 Reasons To Cheat

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Cheating shouldn’t happen in a relationship, but it does. What are some of the motives behind infidelity?

What She Said:

  1. Alienation of affection. If my partner cut me off physically and emotionally, I’d start thinking about looking elsewhere.
  2. Unhealthy/dangerous habits. If my partner seriously got into drugs and was resisting all help, it would ultimately be a deal-breaker.
  3. If he cheated on me first, I just might “have to” retaliate!
  4. Meeting someone with whom I had crazy, undeniable chemistry.
  5. Midlife crisis!

Honestly, I had trouble coming up with five reasons why I would cheat. It’s not something I believe I would do – though each situation is unique, so no judgment if this is something you’ve chosen.

Cheating happens – there are a myriad of reasons why, as we’ve seen above. For myself, my choice would be to end my current relationship before embarking on something new – as much out of respect for my partner as for myself. Think about it: Would you want to be cheated on? Most likely the answer is “no” – so don’t put your partner in a situation you wouldn’t want to be in yourself, even if the love has faded.

Cheating is usually a sign that something is wrong with the relationship. Hello, obvious! Instead of heaping more drama on the problem (even if it feels good at the time), why not stop and attempt to fix what’s wrong? Your next lover should be willing to wait in the wings while you work on wrapping up your previous entanglement. A clean slate – what’s sexier than that?

What He Said:

  1. Chris Rock rule of LTRs: He said, “Show me the hottest girl on the planet, and I’ll show you a guy who’s tired of having sex with her.”  So you’re partner is great, but you just need some “strange ass.” Not better, or worse, just unfamiliar.
  2. You met your celebrity crush, and they are “good to go.” I don’t care how faithful a woman is, if she meets Brad Pitt or that dude from Twilight and he wants her, he’s going to have her. Plain and simple.
  3. Your partner ain’t handling their business any more. To quote the wise philosopher, Shaft “it’s my duty to please that booty.” If they are not meeting this requirement, you’re probably going to look for someone who will and you probably won’t feel too bad about it.
  4. You think you can get away with it. No, you KNOW you can get away with it. You’re in Vegas, or you’re away on business, on vacation, whatever. You know you will never come into contact with this person again, and even if they did, they can’t pin anything on you. They don’t know your cell number, name, etc. They can’t trace you. This sex act is like bigfoot: everyone knows it probably exists, but no credible evidence existing that can prove it.
  5. Cause you’re human. Monogamy is not natural. It’s not unrealistic, but it’s not how we were designed. You were designed to screw around and still have someone waiting for you at home. You feel entitled to do as nature intended you to.