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Best Sexting & Dirty Talk Tips Of 2011

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Sexting and dirty talk will heat up your sex life like you never imagined! You’d be surprised at just how much this stuff can take a dull and boring sex life and turn it around into sex so hot, you’ll think you and your partner just met! Check out our favorite naughty articles of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best sexting and dirty talking articles – these suggestions will get your sex life so hot, you won’t be able to contain it to the bedroom!

Also, we’ve worked very hard this year to find you the best resources to help you improve your sex life with sexting and titillating talk in the bedroom. Check out the ones we thought were the best and why, and see what you can learn to make your sex life hotter than ever before!

  • Text Your Wife Into Bed (This is THE resource on sexting – these suggestions are so hot, she’ll be ripping your pants off before you’ve sent the third text message!)
  • Dirty Talk Secrets (a great guide on how to introduce dirty talk into your sex life, with plenty of examples for those who aren’t quite sure what exactly to say)

5 Red Hot Tips To Get Him Hard In SECONDS!

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Foreplay isn’t just for girls – it’s an essential component in giving a man a ROCK hard erection! Use these mammoth-hard-on inducing foreplay tips TONIGHT!

Before you and your man are going to ravage each other beneath the sheets, in the kitchen, in the shower or wherever you both end up getting naughty, you have to get your man in the mood and ready to go. Foreplay is crucial to how your sex session will play out that night and if you want to make it a memorable one for your man, you better make sure he is ready and raring to go.

How Much Is Enough?

A lot of women assume that just stroking your man a few times and kissing him passionately is going to be enough. It might be enough for him physically to get aroused but women often forget that men need that mental stimulation as well. Not only does getting him aroused mentally help with his stamina and arousal, but it also helps to give him a mind blowing orgasm at the end of it.

Slow And Steady

Pacing is key when it comes to pleasing your man in the bedroom. If you move too fast, you run the risk of slipping up and causing him some pain. Not only that, but if you move too fast, you can also cause his stamina to become effected in a negative way, making sex a less than enjoyable experience for you.

With the right pacing, starting off slow and gradually increasing stimulation, you are on the right path to getting him rock hard and ready for far more fun. This also plays an important role in any stimulation you choose. Whether you are touching him, talking to him, rubbing him, or licking him, you always want to start off slow and end strong.

Confidence Is Key

You can’t expect your man to be drooling over you and begging for more if you don’t believe that you are capable of doing just that. Without confidence, you are like a deer in headlights in the bedroom and that surely isn’t going to get your man rock hard in a matter of seconds.

If you really want to get him going and wanting you bad, you need to believe in yourself and your sexuality. Most men would agree that the sexiest quality about a woman is her confidence. The more a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it, the more a man loves her. Men love women who aren’t afraid to have the power and to work it to their advantage.

Go Down On Him

A lot of women assume that once you go down on a man, you had better finish or else you aren’t giving him the total satisfaction that he is craving. This is incorrect. Of course, if you are using oral sex as the main event for the evening and the only stimulation that you plan on giving him, naturally you will want to make sure that he has an orgasm.

However, if you plan on doing way more to him over the course of the night, you can most definitely use a blowjob as precursor to sex. Feeling your warm lips all over his most sensitive area will easily get him rock hard in seconds. Plus, this is an unconventional way of getting your man going for foreplay. His whole idea of foreplay might change just because of this.

Make His Fantasies Come True

Every man would be lying if he didn’t say that he had a fantasy of having his own private striptease show. Men like going to see women strip for a reason – it turns them on. Maybe he isn’t looking to get pleasure from a stripper but guaranteed that woman up on stage is making him feel something between his legs. If you really want to surprise him and get him going in seconds, getting in touch with your inner bad girl and putting on a secret strip show for him is just what the doctor ordered.

Dirty Talk

You’d be surprised to know how useful your voice can be in the bedroom. Too many women refrain from being vocal in the bedroom and that is a true shame. You can easily get your man aroused in seconds just from whispering something sexy and seductive into his ear. Pressing your body against him, and saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to taste you later” will surely get him going.

Having confidence will help in this tip but once you can hone in on your sexual confidence, you can use your voice to do all sorts of things to him. Remember how much men love women who are unafraid to say what they want and to get it so be that woman for him and he will have something waiting for you underneath those pants.

Dirty Talk: What To Say & What Not To

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Dirty talk isn’t always easy to engage in. You may be wondering if what comes out of your mouth is okay. Here are dirty talk phrases to avoid – and ones to use.

Never, Ever Make Comparisons

It’s best to never make comparisons during dirty talk. Though you may think your partner would be turned on to hear “You are the best lover I’ve ever had”, or “You give a blowjob like no one I have ever known before!” The only part they might take from that little seemingly harmless statement is to start wondering “Wow, I wonder just how many partners he or she HAS had” or “I wonder how many people HAVE tried that move on him (or her.)”

This can cause the mate hearing these words to have very real feelings of uneasiness and then have them obsessing over every thing from “WHO” the other partner(s) were, “WHAT” you did with them sexually, what you didn’t do with them and just how you really stacked up in their mind against what they view as “the competition.”

No one likes to be compared to someone else when it comes to very intimate sex acts with a spouse. It is regardless of whether it was a long time ago or about a former lover from a now dissolved marriage. You don’t want what should be “fun” dirty talk to turn into something which could ultimately be used to fuel jealousy or cause feelings of inadequacies in the person you are with.

You Don’t Have To Use Dirty Talk All The Time

Once you begin using dirty talk on a regular basis, realize that it doesn’t need to happen every time you have a sexual experience. There are encounters where looks, touches and emotions allow the silence to be perfect. As a matter of fact, If you feel it’s one of those “moments” simply smile, press your fingertips to your lover’s lips and say a sweet “Shhhh… baby I just want to hear us breathing in each other tonight.”

Jumping In, Feet First

The hardest part about dirty talk may be the first step to getting started. Take the initiative and the leading role. Just remember to start out your attempt as a fun filled adventure. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be lighthearted when you bring up your desire to add dirty talk to your relationship and simply look for a willing spirit from your partner.

You may be wondering to yourself, just how do I broach the topic? Try telling your partner, “Have I told you just how much you turn me on?” Chances are they won’t be expecting you to tell them that out of the blue. You didn’t say anything over the top, but it will require your mate to answer back. Once they have responded, tell them that you think you’d really like to try a little playful dialogue in the bedroom during foreplay so that you have another outlet for letting them know just what it is about them that really does it for you. And, as easy as that, the door to dirty talk has just been opened.

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

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Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

  • If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
  • Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
  • Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

  • How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
  • To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
  • That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!

Sex Tips: The Importance Of Communication

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Sex tips can improve your sex life – here’s how communicating with your lover is one of the best sex tips out there!

Couples who communicate the best tend to have the happiest relationships. Those who can communicate about their sex needs, feelings and desires tend to have the best sex. Silence is a big turnoff for most people.

We want to help you take those thoughts in your head and let them be conveyed to your partner. Women are DYING to know what is going on between his ears while you are buried deep inside of them. Men are DYING to know just what the woman they’re with is thinking while she’s losing herself in the throes of passion.

They say silence is golden? Not in the case of lovemaking!

Most women would love for a man to open up and tell them, in great detail, what it is like for them to view and touch our nude body.

What Women Want To Know From Men

  • How does my skin feels under your touch?
  • How do I smell?
  • Do you like for me to dress up for you?
  • What do you like to see me wearing?
  • Do you want to undress me?
  • Would it excite you for me to do a striptease in front of you?
  • How do I taste?
  • How does it affect you when my body responds to yours a certain way?
  • What the sexiest part of my body?
  • What is it that I am doing to you that turns you on the most?

Women are natural born “pleasers.” If you tell them what you like, they want to provide it and then go one step further by being so good at it, you’ll think they invented the act.

Case in point – once a man has told a woman his favorite food, dessert or drink, it tends to turn up often at the dinner table. If he mentions something that his mother made that he enjoyed, she’s going to find that recipe and be sure that NOW, she is the best at providing him what he likes.

The same goes for sex.

What Men Want To Know From Women

  • Do I really excite you?
  • Do you crave me the way that I crave you?
  • Do you fantasize about me or sex in some way?
  • What do your fantasies involve?
  • Where should I touch you that excites you the most?
  • Are there some other sex positions you want to try?
  • How can I make you moan?
  • What can I do to make you want more of me and to have more sex with me?
  • Was there something I did this time that was better or different that really turned you on?
  • What can I do to get you to sometimes initiate sex?
  • Do I last long enough for you?

How To Communicate What You Like To Your Partner During Sex

Healthy communication starts with an easy phrase or two and lets your mate know that what they are doing is something you are really enjoying. Listen to how they breathe as you are making love and listen to the noises that they are making as you make that first connection. Then introduce dirty talk by simply saying something like:

“Ohhhh, that feels good … right there.”

“Mmmmm, that feels incredible!”

“Your body feels amazing.”

“When you enter me, mmmm, it feels so good I have to catch my breath!”

“Ahhh… let me pull you in deeper.”

“That feels great!”

“Yessssss!”

If you feel it, say it!!!! It’s the easiest way to be genuine and tell each other what feels good, what you like and what you want more of.

Groaning and moaning during sex are just “wordless compliments” and totally hot. Simply put, stating what you LIKE is the first step to getting what you WANT.