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5 Great Sex Positions If You Want To Pull Out

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Sex positions for pulling out can be handy if you don’t want to ejaculate inside of your partner. Here are five that you definitely should know about!

Pulling out is a essential if your girlfriend or wife is not on the pill and you’re trying to prevent pregnancy but aren’t at risk for STD’s. Although pulling out is not a 100% effective method of birth control, new studies show that it’s on par with condoms.

If you are worried about getting her pregnant, there are a few ways that you can avoid an orgasm inside of her, but have it be hot. A lot of guys don’t like to pull out, even with a condom on, but pulling out can lead some very kinky fun. Having your girlfriend finish you off her in her mouth or masturbate you to orgasm can be a nice change of pace. Here are the top five sex positions for if you want to pull out.

1. Missionary

By far the easiest sex position for pulling out is missionary. While mission can be seen as very boring by the sexually elite, there are a lot of couples that love the intimacy that comes with this position. Add to the fact that this is an excellent position for pulling out and we have a winner.

When you are having sex in missionary position, your girlfriend or wife will have access to your penis. This means that they can reach your penis when you start to orgasm. Other sex positions do not give you this access. Once you feel your orgasm coming up, she can either masturbate you or you can move up so can perform oral sex during your climax.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is another position that will like if you need to pull out. Doggy style allows you to get away from her faster if she doesn’t want your semen all over her body. Some girls think that it’s kinky to have you orgasm all over their butt, breasts or even their face. If your girl isn’t into this, doggy style can give them a chance to get out of the way while you climax into a towel or something else. If you want your girl to masturbate you or give you oral sex during your climax, she can simply turn around.

3. Girl On Top (Facing You)

Girl on top is another sex position that you can utilize if you want to pull out. When the girl is on top, she has access to your penis at any time. This is a great position for giving her more control during sex. She will be able to control the amount of penetration and the amount of movement.

Once you give her the signal, she can either start to give you oral sex or she can jerk you off while your having the orgasm. Girl on top can also set you up for climaxing into a towel if your girl doesn’t want any of your semen on her. This is one of the best sex positions for her to give you oral sex during your orgasm because she can just hop off and go to town.

4. Spooning

While spooning is typically used for intimacy after sex, spooning is a great position for pulling out during sex. Line up for the spoon and enter your girlfriend. This sex position allows you to enter her at an angle for better penetration and for massaging her g-spot.

This is also a great position for kissing her neck and massaging her breasts during sex. When you start to feel your orgasm coming, you can pull out and she can masturbate your penis while you climax. Be sure to have a towel handy or you can orgasm onto her pelvis area.

5. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is a great position for your girl to take control. This can also be a pretty good position for pulling out. Have the girl sit on top of you facing away. Enter her and allow her to take control of the sex. She will be moving up and down and probably grinding on your penis.

When you start to feel the orgasm coming, Slide back and pull your penis out of her vagina. You will probably have to finish yourself off as this doesn’t leave much choice for her to finish you off. She will either have to turn around or reach back, leaving her in an awkward position. This isn’t the greatest position for pulling out, but it can still work.

Pulling out is not a fool proof method of preventing pregnancy. However, consider pulling out even when using a condom or other contraception to ensure that you don’t have any surprises. These 5 sex positions will surely give you just as much pleasure as staying in when you have an orgasm.

What To Do When He Ejaculates During A Handjob

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A handjob will hopefully end in your lover ejaculating – but what do you do with his semen? Here’s how to handle it when your man has an orgasm during a handjob.

You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job. Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate.

Take Him Through The Orgasm

A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the handjob as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones.

Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll come. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Where Does The Semen Go?

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go!

If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Men Love To Watch

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. We like for you to see our eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. We want to see wonder in your eyes as we shoot as high or far as far as we can (men are competitors by nature). Here is how one of my readers expressed it: “I want you to watch me and my manhood as I proudly throb and shoot jets of splooge for all to see! Don’t turn away, or block the squirts… sharing the full ejaculation experience with you is HOT!”

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels our sexual fires.

Letting Him Take The Reins

Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time.

Handing off to him to masturbate has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong (he’s had a lot of practice), aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself.

There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more handjobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge.

I’ll tell you what will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt. Sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your labia and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a handjob session.

For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards.

Are These Premature Ejaculation Factors Causing You To Finish Too Soon?

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Premature ejaculation has no shortcut. If you want a lasting cure to premature ejaculation, you have to know the underlying factors for your condition. Curious to know why 75% of men are not lasting long enough in the sack? I bet you are! Read on and find out the primary factors for premature ejaculation.

1. Mind Matters

Almost 90% of men who suffer from PE mentally condition themselves for failure even before they begin! No matter what they are doing in bed, their minds are already focused on how badly they think they will perform. In fact, many wonder if they will ejaculate too soon during sex.

Like it or not, such anxieties actually increase performance stress and ironically cause premature ejaculation! Sounds like you? Well, your reaction is pretty normal.

The trouble is, the human mind is the most powerful part of our bodies. It can influence how the organs in our bodies function. If your mind is sending out negative vibes to your body, guess what – your body will just follow the pattern expected of it!

2. Weaknesses of the Pelvic Muscles

This is the biological reason behind almost all cases of premature ejaculation. Your pelvic muscles help you in a number of ways, including bladder control and ejaculation. Strong and well-toned pelvic muscles can greatly boost your ejaculatory control when you make love.

In short, weak public muscles can cause any of the following:

  • Erections that come and go very fast
  • Ejaculations that are weak and have a ‘dribbling’ effect. This reduces the pleasure for the man.
  • Lack of understanding of the different levels of excitement, and therefore a failure to control premature ejaculation
  • Longer span of time between an ejaculation and the next erection

A man’s pelvic muscles are often termed the fountain of youth! These muscles can affect everything about your sex life, including how long you will last in bed and how much pleasure you can derive from the act!

So What Can I Do About These Factors?

Luckily, there is a lot you can do to address the problems I have described above. Your pelvic muscles, for example, can be strengthened with the right kegel exercises.

Control over your negative thoughts can be imposed with the right practice also. The only thing you need is to invest some time and dedication to put these to work. Believe me, these will work wonders in helping you last like a stallion in bed!

Oral Sex: How To Handle Semen During A Blowjob

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Oral sex for a guy will hopefully end in ejaculation – but when it does, what the heck are you supposed to do with his semen?

Communicate With Your Partner

This may single-handedly be THE biggest reason for communication! We all know that men ejaculate when they experience an orgasm and if they experience an orgasm during fellatio, then it is likely that the ejaculate will end up in your mouth. Depending on your preferences, this may or may not be a turn on for you, you may be indifferent to it, or the very idea may repulse you and send you running for the porcelain throne.

Swallowing

The easiest way to dispose of semen during oral sex is to swallow it. But if the idea just doesn’t do anything for you (or if it makes your stomach turn) read on for some different ways to handle his semen – and still make it sexy.

Spitting In A Towel

So you’re okay with it in your mouth, but actually getting it down? Not happening. Keep a towel nearby and when he’s done, discreetly spit his semen in it. You can also keep a glass of water or another drink nearby to swish out your mouth. This also works well if he likes to kiss you afterwards but doesn’t like the taste of his own spunk.

Finish Him Off With A Handjob Instead

This technique may sound less passionate or devoting than swallowing your partner’s ejaculate, but it doesn’t have to be. Enthusiasm makes all the difference in the world and as long as you continue to let him know that you are enjoying his orgasm (even though his orgasm is being finished with a hand instead of a mouth) and he may very well be so wrapped up in the pleasure that he doesn’t notice the difference.

Sound making or some dirty talk is of utmost importance here! You don’t have to get loud or wild but making some noises lets him know that you are getting off on him getting off and that will definitely enhance his orgasm! Verbally telling him how much it turns you on to see him cum might be just what he needs to hear to get him to finish strong as you watch.

Bad First Experiences With Oral Sex

A large number of women have had “BAD” first experiences with the first blowjob they ever gave, because they were either young and didn’t know what to expect, or some guy decided to not tell them when they were going to orgasm and they found themselves unexpectedly with a surprise mouth full of semen and that unpleasant first experience left them unwilling to ever try again.

Again, this is why communication and assurance are key factors to getting over an objectionable first experience and not letting it keep you from a very special and wonderful experience with your trusted partner.

Let Him Go “In” You

Guess where “else” is outside of your mouth?” You guessed it! Your warm, wet and waiting vagina. You can give your man the most wonderful blowjob (up to the climactic eruption) and when he says “NOW,” quickly remove your mouth and stick his penis deep into you, while letting your vagina provide that last few pumps to finish him off and capture every drop of his semen.

In the end, it really doesn’t matter where the semen goes during oral sex as long as both partners communicate before the fellatio session and are in agreement and as long as both partners stick to that agreement!

How NOT To Be Boring In Bed!

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Sex tips are something you want to have in your “tool belt” if you don’t want to make your girl yawn instead of orgasm. Use these sex tips to keep things fresh.

Don’t Be A Bore In Bed

Most men seem to think that there is a method to sex – it’s called the Foreplay-Penetration-Ejaculation (FPE) Sequence. There are two major things wrong with this misconception: 1) It’s boring, and 2) It’s all about your pleasure. I will elaborate by addressing the issues one at a time.

Why It’s Lame

The bore factor of FPE may be obvious to some, but let me explain further as to why. Let’s say you really like a certain kind of bratwurst, so you have two a day for dinner. After a while, it no longer becomes a special treat. It still tastes delicious, but it ceases to be interesting. You may end up losing your taste for it all together.

She will react the same way to boring sex. Maybe you go down on her every day, fulfilling the foreplay obligation of the FPE sequence. How long until you’re down there for hours, tongue exhausted, while she’s filing her nails? The best lover is the one who understands variety. I’m not talking about whips and chains and three-ways, just a willingness to vary the process from time to time.

Communication Is Key!

Couples are sometimes embarrassed to talk openly about sex and what happens in the bedroom, but for different reasons. Women are generally socialized to not criticize. Men will take suggestions as a blow to their egos. However, direction is not criticism. You are not a mind reader, nor should she expect you to be. Encourage open dialogue, even in the middle of the act. If she is telling you, “to the left, to the left,” this is not criticism of your technique; she’s just helping you figure out what feels good to her. Now onto the next problem.

It Shouldn’t Be All About YOU

I have some bad news. Your partner does not think that your penis is God’s gift to the world. She is not in bed with you so she can look at your penis, stroke your penis, or smother your penis with undying adoration. You’re the only one in the room who is that blatantly fond of your member. She is in bed with you because of you. She likes you enough to allow you to enter her body. Don’t give her a reason to reconsider.

How SHE Gets Pleasure

The semantics of FPE explains the issue. She neither penetrates you (unless you’re into that kind of thing) nor does she ejaculate (well, some women do). The part that is most pleasurable to her is relegated to the opening third of the act. There is no law that says sex has to happen in that exact sequence, nor is it necessary to see sex as merely penetration.

The act of being intimate is sex to her. Touching, kissing, sucking, and caressing are all part of it. Readjust your thinking for her sake, and don’t make your member the primary factor in the situation. Remember, there are two people in that bed, and only one penis.