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5 Red Hot Tips To Get Him Hard In SECONDS!

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Foreplay isn’t just for girls – it’s an essential component in giving a man a ROCK hard erection! Use these mammoth-hard-on inducing foreplay tips TONIGHT!

Before you and your man are going to ravage each other beneath the sheets, in the kitchen, in the shower or wherever you both end up getting naughty, you have to get your man in the mood and ready to go. Foreplay is crucial to how your sex session will play out that night and if you want to make it a memorable one for your man, you better make sure he is ready and raring to go.

How Much Is Enough?

A lot of women assume that just stroking your man a few times and kissing him passionately is going to be enough. It might be enough for him physically to get aroused but women often forget that men need that mental stimulation as well. Not only does getting him aroused mentally help with his stamina and arousal, but it also helps to give him a mind blowing orgasm at the end of it.

Slow And Steady

Pacing is key when it comes to pleasing your man in the bedroom. If you move too fast, you run the risk of slipping up and causing him some pain. Not only that, but if you move too fast, you can also cause his stamina to become effected in a negative way, making sex a less than enjoyable experience for you.

With the right pacing, starting off slow and gradually increasing stimulation, you are on the right path to getting him rock hard and ready for far more fun. This also plays an important role in any stimulation you choose. Whether you are touching him, talking to him, rubbing him, or licking him, you always want to start off slow and end strong.

Confidence Is Key

You can’t expect your man to be drooling over you and begging for more if you don’t believe that you are capable of doing just that. Without confidence, you are like a deer in headlights in the bedroom and that surely isn’t going to get your man rock hard in a matter of seconds.

If you really want to get him going and wanting you bad, you need to believe in yourself and your sexuality. Most men would agree that the sexiest quality about a woman is her confidence. The more a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it, the more a man loves her. Men love women who aren’t afraid to have the power and to work it to their advantage.

Go Down On Him

A lot of women assume that once you go down on a man, you had better finish or else you aren’t giving him the total satisfaction that he is craving. This is incorrect. Of course, if you are using oral sex as the main event for the evening and the only stimulation that you plan on giving him, naturally you will want to make sure that he has an orgasm.

However, if you plan on doing way more to him over the course of the night, you can most definitely use a blowjob as precursor to sex. Feeling your warm lips all over his most sensitive area will easily get him rock hard in seconds. Plus, this is an unconventional way of getting your man going for foreplay. His whole idea of foreplay might change just because of this.

Make His Fantasies Come True

Every man would be lying if he didn’t say that he had a fantasy of having his own private striptease show. Men like going to see women strip for a reason – it turns them on. Maybe he isn’t looking to get pleasure from a stripper but guaranteed that woman up on stage is making him feel something between his legs. If you really want to surprise him and get him going in seconds, getting in touch with your inner bad girl and putting on a secret strip show for him is just what the doctor ordered.

Dirty Talk

You’d be surprised to know how useful your voice can be in the bedroom. Too many women refrain from being vocal in the bedroom and that is a true shame. You can easily get your man aroused in seconds just from whispering something sexy and seductive into his ear. Pressing your body against him, and saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to taste you later” will surely get him going.

Having confidence will help in this tip but once you can hone in on your sexual confidence, you can use your voice to do all sorts of things to him. Remember how much men love women who are unafraid to say what they want and to get it so be that woman for him and he will have something waiting for you underneath those pants.

Oral Sex – 11 Hot Spots Most Girls Look Over (And Why YOU Shouldn’t!)

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Oral sex is incredible for a guy – but you can make it even more amazing by spending time on each of these sensitive areas before getting down to business.

Yes, there are more erogenous zones than just what lies between your man’s legs. While many of these spots are accessed and pleasured during foreplay, they are often forgotten once a woman’s concentration has moved down south. After learning more about the many male erogenous zones and sensitive spots, you can decide what works best on your partner and whether you should do it before, during or after oral sex.

The Head And Scalp

The scalp can be very sensitive to the touch and a great scalp massage before oral sex can send tingles down your partner’s spine and in between his legs. You can also lightly pull on your partner’s hair during fellatio if this is a sensation that he enjoys. Run your fingers through his hair ~ regardless how much he HAS or HAS NOT!

His Face

Just as a woman wants every part of her face explored and appreciated. Kissing their eyelids, temples, nose, forehead and cheeks should all be savored, not just their lips. Spend some time enjoying their stubble and the variance of their rugged male skin against your soft, supple womanly dermis.

His Ears

Most women probably know that the ears are an excellent erogenous zone in men. Many men get excited just at the thought of having their ears sucked, licked and lightly breathed on. Use this time to lightly moan into his ear to let him know how excited you are about the upcoming fellatio. This kind of foreplay shouldn’t be overlooked.

Before you “go down south”, set the stage for what you intend to do once you get down there. Talk to him and tell him what you plan to do, then ask him, “how does that sound?” He may add to it, which helps you know just want he dreams about you doing to him.

The Neck

Not surprisingly, the nape of the neck (as well as the upper neck, near the earlobes) is a very sensitive place on a guy. You can use light pressure, such as light sucking, licking and nibbling or you can use a slightly rougher technique such as more forceful sucking or biting. It all depends on your man’s mood and what he likes! Try a few different sensations in his neck area and gauge his response – he’ll give you physical cues to let you know that he likes something.

That doesn’t just apply to his neck area though – it can apply to anywhere! Another area to not ignore is their collar bone. The skin is thinner in that area that on the rest of their chest and very sensitive.

The Chest And Nipples

It is fairly well known that men’s nipples are not quite as sensitive as women’s nipples are, simply because there are more sensitive nerve endings (pleasurable and otherwise) in a woman’s nipple. That does not mean, however, that men do not enjoy having their nipples licked, sucked and nibbled before and during an oral sex session (most men do).

If your partner does like to have his nipples licked and sucked (or lightly pinched and rubbed, for that matter), do so during fellatio. You can certainly use this as a move to warm him up before oral sex or during to enhance the sensations of your mouth on his penis. Pulling or tugging on chest hair is a big turn on for some hairy chested fellas.

His Stomach

The lower tummy (near the groin area) is perhaps one of the most sensitive places (other than the penis and surrounding structures) on a man. You will definitely want to “cross this bridge” before you begin oral sex – it will make him crazy with desire! The most sensitive and responsive site is right where the thigh joins the stomach and a little bit above. If your man is really ripped, these places will be even more defined. It is possible that this area may not be as sensitive in a heavyset man, however, you can try licking and nibbling in this area before the blowjob to see if your man gives you a positive response. If he does like it, do use it sparingly.

A few nibbles here and there are just enough to get him going. If you overdo it, the area will get a bit numb and he won’t be as giddy about being touched and licked there. Some men are ultra ticklish, so caressing, not tiny glazes should be used. If you do accidently tickle him, all is not lost. Just remember and remind him that 90% of the time, tickle wars end in sex!

His Inner Thighs

A man’s inner thighs are often a neglected erogenous zone as not many women target them. Here, most men will enjoy some massaging, stroking, licking, and even some gentle nibbling. Pay some special attention to the area where his legs join the trunk of his body. It’s a real hot ticket button for many men – just be sure to use enough pressure that you don’t turn him into a “tickle me Elmo” doll and he loses his erection from all the giggling.

His Toes And Fingers

Okay, maybe not so much toes unless your partner happens to have a foot fetish (and some do). Fingers, however, can entice your man beyond his wildest dreams if caressed correctly. It is not so much the physical sensation here; it is more the visual and the imagination. Huh? Do to your man’s finger (index or middle) what you plan on doing to his penis in just a few short minutes. He will get to see your mouth and tongue action up-close and begin to imagine what it’s going to feel like when it’s on his penis.

Don’t spend too long doing this, however, because as we said – the fingers are not sensitive in and of themselves. If done for too long, he may begin to get bored with it because let’s face it – there’s only so much you can do to a finger! If done just enough, however, you can get his brain in gear for what’s to come.

The Perineum

Also referred to as the “male g-spot“, this is the ridged area of skin between the testicles and the anus. It is a very sensual area – one that when stimulated, creates sensations that most men find irresistible. This area is closely linked to the prostate gland, which is why it is so intensely pleasurable when touched. Some men love for you to run your tongue from the backside of their testicles all over this ridge and report that it’s their favorite “point of no return” when impassioned.

The Butt Cheeks

The buttocks are a definite fun spot to play with! Kiss them, rub them, shake them, smack them, tickle them, squeeze them and pull them into you with both hands while you are giving oral. It’s great to have your hands on both of them, especially if he’s in standing, so you can control the speed and also the depth. Spanking enthusiasts tout the pleasures of the backside, insisting that a good spanking before oral sex can be the perfect foreplay for your man, if he’s into it.

The Anus/Rectum

This area is a very arousing spot for a lot of people. There are many nerve endings located just at the opening of the anus making it a very sensitive and pleasurable place to touch. Try using fingers or a small, well lubricated sex toy, since any dry entry can cause pain, which is the exact opposite reaction you’re looking for. Even stroking gently around the edge while giving oral to your man is sometimes enough to push them straight over the edge.

Of course, every man is different. Your partner may have special spots (other than his penis) that he enjoys having licked, sucked, caressed, fondled, bitten, nibbled or pinched before or during oral sex. Just like with a woman and cunnilingus, you have to get a man ready and warmed up before you begin oral sex.

Killer Blowjob Tips Every Woman NEEDS To Know!

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Blowjob tips are essential if you want to give your man great head. THESE blowjob tips are ones you definitely don’t want to miss out on!

Start Out By Being Confident!

For a lot of women, oral sex is really intimidating. It can be very overwhelming having your man in your mouth. A lot of women immediately start preparing for the worst and worrying that something is going to go wrong. So many women worry that their gag reflexes are going to come into play or that they just aren’t going to be good enough. It’s time you put the worries behind you.

You can give your man amazing oral sex and you can do just that tonight. All you need is a little boost of confidence and some great knowledge. The more you know about oral sex, the more your nerves will be at ease and the calmer you will feel. If you really want to get your man going in the bedroom tonight, you need to learn these incredible blowjob tips tonight!

Start Off Slow

Just like with sex, you never dive right in a blowjob; you always start off slow with foreplay and gradually increase stimulation. The same goes for oral sex and it should be treated in the same manner. You don’t want to just take your man in all at once and then start bobbing up and down on him. This isn’t going to feel good for him because it is going to be way too much stimulation all at once. Instead, try easing him into it and easing yourself into it. Lick his penis with your tongue and trace it all over. This will ease him into feeling the warmth of your mouth and it will get the party started. Then, use your hand to stroke him a little until he is rock hard and your mouth is will salivated. Then, he can enter you and the fun can begin.

Use Everything In Your Arsenal

Just because these are blowjob tips, it doesn’t mean that you are only limited to just using your mouth. In fact, it is advised that you don’t. If you really want to maximize oral sex for your man and give him an out of this world orgasm, you have to use more than your mouth. Try doing this: use your strong hand on the shaft of his penis and stroke it up and down, use your other hand to stimulate his testicles by rubbing them and then finally, use your mouth on the tip of his penis. By following this, you are ensuring that no part of his pleasure zone is going untouched. He will feel so many different sensations and pleasure, he will easily explode.

Be Vocal!

This may sound impossible since you are going to have a penis in your mouth, making it difficult for you to speak but we aren’t talking about being vocal in the sense of dirty talking. Rather, it is a good idea for you to make some sexy moaning while you are going down on him. Your man could be feeling all of this pleasure but if all he hears is complete silence, something isn’t going to seem right to him. Men want women to enjoy giving oral sex. The more you are enjoying what you are doing to him, the more he will enjoy it.

Therefore, some sexy moans to let him know that you are really loving having him in your mouth will definitely set him off. Not only do they signal to him that you are loving it, but they also serve a bonus purpose. With your lips wrapped around his penis, and your mouth humming, you are going to send vibrations from your mouth to his penis and then throughout his entire body. This added bit of stimulation will more than likely be something he hasn’t experienced in this way before and it will feel amazing. If you really want to send chills all throughout his body, this is how you do it.

The Grand Finale

After giving him amazing stimulation and making him feel like a king, you want to finish off the main event in the right way. A lot of women can ruin oral sex in this moment and this is something that you don’t want to do. When your man is about to come, you have three choices and only one of them is the one you want to make. You can either stroke him to finish, allowing him to ejaculate on himself, you can let him ejaculate in your mouth and then spit, or you can let him ejaculate semen in your mouth and swallow.

Now, what choice do you think is the right one to make? Of course, swallowing is the sexy way to end off a killer blow job and it is a huge turn on for him. If you run to the bathroom to spit, you might as well never give him oral sex again because you are showing him that you are disgusted by it. You wouldn’t appreciate it if your man ran to the bathroom after going down on you, so don’t do the same to him. Finish off this amazing stimulation the right way and you will give him an experience he won’t soon forget.

Blowjob Tips: How To Give Head To An Uncircumcised Penis

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A blowjob should be different for an uncircumcised guy – you’re not necessarily going to use the same blowjob tips for an uncircumcised guy as you would a circumcised one. Your technique should differ a little between the two, if you really want to be a master at giving a blowjob. So here’s what you need to know if he’s uncut.

Getting Clean – It’s His Job

Most of the care for an uncircumcised penis is in the man’s court – that is to say, it is his responsibility to keep his penis, foreskin and underneath his foreskin clean and dry for your comfort during fellatio. An uncircumcised penis has more crevices in which debris and bacteria can hide, making it unpleasant for the woman during fellatio. By making sure that his penis is clean, an uncircumcised male can ensure that his partner will enjoy fellatio as much as he does.

Most men already do this – and have been from a young age. However, some uncircumcised guys don’t – and that can make things pretty unpleasant for the girl. If your guy isn’t super clean, you can always make a shower part of foreplay and make washing his penis sexy. Soap him up and rub him down while you talk dirty in his ear – you’ll fire him up for a great blowjob and get him clean in one fell swoop, without him ever knowing what you were really up to.

Being A Little More Careful

Of course, the woman must keep her end of the bargain up as well – even if his uncircumcised penis is clean, trimmed and ready to go, she must be more careful with her fellatio technique than she would if she were performing fellatio on a circumcised male. Why is that? Remember, a circumcised penis has had thousands and thousands of sensitive nerve endings removed. As a result, although a circumcised penis is very receptive to touch, it is more desensitized than an uncircumcised penis. A man will never know the difference, since he is either one or the other, but a woman that has been performing fellatio on a circumcised penis is used to stronger, more direct strokes. It is very important that for an uncircumcised man, a woman use less direct strokes and a softer approach.

So it is safe to say that the fellatio technique used on a circumcised male is a lot rougher than the technique that would be used on an uncircumcised male. A woman performing fellatio on an uncircumcised penis needs to be especially careful not to scrape her teeth on her partner’s penis or suck too hard – the foreskin is so sensitive to these maneuvers that a stroke that is too hard or rough may turn him off at best and cause him pain at worst.

As long as the female is gentle and the penis is clean, fellatio on an uncircumcised male can be a pleasant experience for both the man and the woman!

Striptease Tips: Entice Your Guy Before Oral Sex With Lingerie!

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A striptease is definitely great visual stimulation for a man before oral sex. But if you can’t dance, lingerie is another great option to make his eyes pop!

A striptease always in order, but as many women are not only self conscious about their bodies but their dance moves as well, this is not an option for everyone. If you like to dance though, throw on a cute outfit and pop in a sexy song while giving your partner an eyeful and a lap dance. We promise, it won’t be long before your partner can’t stand it anymore and is nearly busting out of his zipper. If you want to try doing a striptease before fellatio and are a little worried that your dancing isn’t up to scratch, stop worrying! Almost all men aren’t paying attention to how well you are dancing or anything of that nature. They’re too busy watching choice body parts jiggle and gyrate.

If You’re Not Into Doing A Striptease

Not a striptease kind of gal? Not to worry – a nice piece of lingerie can work wonders as well. Just make sure it is something you feel comfortable in and maximizes your best assets. Your partner may have a preference to the type of lingerie he likes but honestly, most men don’t care what type it is (whether it’s bikini cut or boy cut, etc.) as long as it’s lacy and see through! Women that are uncomfortable about having small breasts can buy lingerie with a little bit of padding for an extra lift and women that are concerned about their tummy can purchase what is called a “baby doll” type of lingerie – a sexy bra with a sheer or lacy material attached to it to flow over the tummy. It is enough to cover you up but it is still enticing!

How To Buy The Right Lingerie

  • Find a lingerie store with dimmed lighting – no one will feel comfortable in lingerie underneath harsh, fluorescent lighting. If it’s not possible to find a store with dim lighting, consider buying your size and keeping the tags on and the receipt handy while you try it on at home. If it doesn’t fit, you can take it back.
  • Absolutely wear something that you find yourself attractive in and feel comfortable in. If you are not comfortable and confident, you will not look sexy to your partner before fellatio!  Isn’t that the whole point of lingerie? Even if your breasts are not hanging out and the lingerie is simple, if you can walk over to your partner and feel like a bombshell then your partner will probably think you’re a bombshell!

How To Give Him Even More Eye Candy

Interestingly enough, oral sex is a good visual tool by itself. Your mouth working up and down his hard penis may be just enough eye candy for him – and you guessed it – most guys like to watch while you do it! This feels incredibly good to a man – it makes the connection between mind and body and gives the fellatio a whole new aspect to it. You can also look him in the eye while giving him fellatio if you and your partner enjoy this. The more visual stimulation during a fellatio session, the better!

If you’re not comfortable with your partner watching you while you perform fellatio on him, you can try dimming the lights or using candlelight. This may help relax both of you and it will help set the mood for fellatio. Dim lighting or candlelight is somewhat of a compromise between full lighting and complete darkness – your partner gets to see you perform fellatio on him but you get the comfort of not doing so in the blaring lights.