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3 Keys To The PERFECT Massage

Erotic massage is a great way to get things started. A good massage is not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

So to give an excellent erotic massage, you need to imbibe 3 specific attitudes:

1. Be in the Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

In Sensual Massage, both partners win!

2. Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. When having sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about Sensual Massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Attitudes 1 & 2 won’t even be possible if not for #3. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

2 Ways To Get Your Girl To Want Anal Sex NOW!

By loveandsex

Anal sex is a very intimate act for women. They are allowing someone to enter the “forbidden zone” of their body, which is a huge deal. That’s why it requires a certain level of trust and a lot of communication. She is not going to agree to do it unless
she is one hundred per cent sure that it will be all right, that you know what you are doing and that she is not going to feel pain.

You have to play your cards right and don’t leave her any room for complaining. Simone de Beauvoir explained it better: “Sex pleasure in a woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.”

If you want to get her to agree to it, you must start small, step by step, seducing both her mind and her body. Tease her to the extent that she can’t take it anymore and she’s the one begging you to do it.

1. Stimulate her mind

You’re probably wondering what goes on through that pretty head of hers while she’s looking at you, indecisive and troubled. Reading a woman’s body language can be tough, Steve Martin made quite the funny joke about it: “You know that look women have when they want sex? Me neither…”

However, there are a few things that you can do to break that cold “no” and that dead silence. You just have to be persistent, calm and methodical. First of all, fix the breach in communication. Talk to her about analingus, if it’s a blurry thing for her or if she doesn’t even heard of it beforehand. Explain your reasons for wanting it, share your deepest desires and fantasies and ask her to tell you what she thinks about it.

You can start by discussing the subject in general, maybe mentioning that a couple of your friends are doing it and it turned out to be a successful venture for them. Tell your girl details, read together articles about it, and then move to asking how she feels about you two giving it a try.

Don’t force an answer on the spot, if she’s not ready. Let your girlfriend meditate on the subject on her own, or with friends, for a couple of days, then demand an ultimatum. Then, talk to her about any fears. After extensive interviews with women all over the country, I have come to the conclusion that, besides the pain factor, most women are simply worried about the mess.

The idea that the whole act could become a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for them. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell good that they can’t accept the fact that you will consider them dirty.

Try and subtly bring that up, assuring your girl that there is no problem from your part and that you will never judge negatively when it comes to this aspect. Tell her that you could never consider her dirty, and that, in fact, dirty is not even the right word to use in this context, because anal sex is not dirty, but kinky.

2. Stimulate Her Body

The most common mistake that men do when they decide to try anal sex with their girlfriends is that they proceed without proper preparations. My secret? Extended foreplay! I have developed a three day routine that is meant to “desensitize” a woman’s derriere and help experience anal sex as she should: an act of pure pleasure. Here’s what you have to do:

Day 1

Start with a sexy shower together. Kiss, stroke and massage her body with all the nicely scented lotions she has in the bathroom. Take time to truly connect through the power of tactile orgasm. When you hear your girl moan with pleasure, reach on the buttocks and massage, stroke and knead the muscles until they relax.

Gradually move your fingers to the space between the cheeks and allow your fingers to slightly pass over the anus, without inserting anything! Give a deep kiss and let your girl finish the bath alone.

Day 2

Surprise your girl with a good dose of oral sex. As she becomes more aroused, apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to your index finger and begin to gently massage her anus.

Start with long, slow strokes, and as your tongue is caressing her clitoris, move your finger in circles around the opening of the anus. After a couple of minutes of anal massage, begin to gently push your finger against the opening of her anus with steady pressure.

Day 3

Now that she’s ready and eager for more, it’s time to start slowly inserting your well-lubed finger. After warming her up with the steps described above, insert an inch or two of your index into her anus. While she breathes deeply, start to move your finger around in small circles.

If she’s not objecting, you can start moving your finger in and out, simulating intercourse. Re-apply lube every time it’s necessary. I usually advise couples to stop here, but if she’s eager for some penis action (or a sex toy, maybe!), you know what to do!

Once you’ve completed both courses of stimulation, mental and physical, there’s no reason for her to object anymore. If she’s open minded and curious about the multi-faceted aspect of her own sexuality, she’ll have no reason to no want to try it. After all, as I have told you before, women want it just as badly as men.

Why Women Hate Men Who Love Porn

By david

Porn has a way of ruining the sex lives of men. If you have recently met a woman that you’re attracted to, you should try to cut adult movies out of your life immediately.

Does This Sound Familiar?

So you’re out one night, you’re in a bar, and you’re talking to this absolutely incredibly sexy woman.

She’s one of the hottest women you’ve met in a long, long time. As you’re talking to her, you’re absolutely fixated on her lips. She’s touching you, flirting, pushing you away.

You order one more drink. She accepts. All of a sudden you’re drinking and you start kissing her a little bit, and then your mind flashes. Your penis gets hard and you think to yourself,

“This would be the perfect time to have sex in the parking lot. It would be so awesome to have her legs up above her head as I pound her in the back of my Dodge Durango.”

And then you think, “But wait a second, that’s not as exciting as putting her on the hood of the car—spread eagle—where everybody else can see us in the parking lot.”

You’ve actually seen that online. You’ve seen that in porn and the woman looked like she was having the greatest time in the world. She looked like she was absolutely having the time of her life and you thought to yourself, “It’s time that I can make my porn fantasies come to reality with this girl. She’s drunk enough; she ready; we’ve already been kissing a little bit.”

Women Don’t Watch Porn Like You Do

This is not going to happen. They don’t want to be banging on the hood of your Durango, nor do they want to do you in the parking lot after getting smashed at the bar.

Sure, maybe the drunken skanky woman, stumbling, falling down, coming on to every guy in the bar. You might not be aware of this, but the one you’ve been talking to is actually investing time in you. She could be touching you ever so slowly, kissing you a little bit. She wants to be with you, but she wants it to be real.

She’s investing time and moments in you, she just doesn’t want to be thrown on the hood of a car with your dick inside her, and banged at 100 miles an hour for 2.3 minutes. She actually probably wants to go home with you at that moment and have you go down on her and have you please her and have you figure out how to give her an orgasm. She’s got other ideas.

She may just enjoy teasing you at that moment. This may just be a moment of foreplay for her so that all of a sudden you can hang with her another night and have sex.

Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life

I live in Los Angeles. I have friends who work in the adult film industry. Los Angeles is the capital of the industry. I’ve got friends that are cinematographers for adult movies. Every single porn writer is a man who masturbates too much and thinks of fantasies.

Women will watch porn once in a while with you, enjoy it, and pick up new positions. But the bottom line is, most women don’t want to have sex like sex in the porn movie.

It doesn’t work that way guys. Porn is warping your perception of sex. If you want to know what women really want when it comes down to sex, read a little bit.

Porn is going to ruin your sex life, guys. This is the reason you don’t have repeat encounters. That’s the reason why so many of you are one-and-done with them.

How To EASILY Give Her An Earth Shattering Orgasm During Intercourse

By loveandsex

A female orgasm is completely dependent on a solid understanding of your partner’s body, climactic response, and what makes her feel good both physically and emotionally. You feel confident about your knowledge and skills, what to look for when you’re in the heat of the moment, and can tell when your partner is aroused or not.

Even if you’ve ticked all the boxes, maybe making her come with your hands and your mouth just aren’t enough! When you both are eager to experience intercourse orgasms, it’s during these situations that you can try nudging your partner in the right direction using natural rhythms and biology. Now, not all of these options will work for everyone. Let your woman be the judge as to what works and what doesn’t, but here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Ask Your Partner To Tense Up

When your partner is already aroused, ask her to tense up different parts of her body. Things like pointing her toes, making a fist, or clenching her legs together creates tension in her body – something that is crucial for her to achieve orgasm. Try stroking different parts of her body while you are inside of her, suggesting she tighten those muscles as much as possible before moving onto the next erogenous zone. Spend extra time around her inner thighs and pelvis and feel them quiver under your gentle touch.

Ask Her To Use Kegel Exercises

Ask her to clench her vagina around your penis during intercourse. The squeezing and releasing in a rhythmic manner, called a Kegel exercise, often excites a woman and allows her to feel more of you inside of her, helping her to focus her attention and yours directly on her genitalia.

Choose Your Sex Positions Carefully

Choose positions that are more challenging than normal for your partner to hold, angled so that her head lies below her torso. These sex positions work great because extra blood flow to the head creates tension in the body and quickens breathing. For positions that aren’t already primed for this technique, scoot her to the side of the bed or couch and get her to lie her head back over the edge with her shoulders still flat and supported.

Make Sure That She Is Comfortable

Encourage your partner to really let go of her anxieties and inhibitions. If she’s comfortable, get her to use sexy language to encourage her own orgasm – for example, ask her to tell you how close she is to climax, how badly she wants to come with you inside of her. Why not try role-playing with her? Suggest she move her hips as if she were a belly dancer, stripper, or another sexual creature that she feels kinship with.

When she shows signs of arousal, move away from stimulating her directly and start teasing different parts of her body instead. Why? You’re building more tension in her body indirectly, allowing her climax to sneak up instead of focusing on it entirely.

Maybe she’d like to watch the two of you while having sex. Ask if it’s okay to grab a mirror, or have sex in the bathroom, so you can both get a better look at the incredibly hot positions you’re about to try. If she really likes the view, maybe she’ll let you hook up the video camera to the TV and get it on to your very own homemade porno!

Find Out Her Favorite Sexual Fantasy

Ask her what her favorite sexual fantasy is, and suggest you act it out. If she can’t think of anything, grab one of her favorite books of erotica and read through it together. When you find something that turns her on, try acting out whatever it is that appeals to her most.

Or if she’s still to shy to talk, try reading some erotica out loud to her during foreplay, then tell her to close her eyes and think about her fantasy while you’re having sex. Hearing you use words she might still be too nervous to say out loud might help encourage her to blurt something out in the heat of the moment!

How To Please A Man From Head To Toe!

By rochellestavi

A male orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him. Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done”, but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm?

For example, sometimes a man can have a male multiple orgasm, meaning that he feels that release sensation at the beginning of climax and then feels a sudden burst of pleasure at the end. Sometimes, a man can have an orgasm and not ejaculate at all while other times, he can ejaculate and not feel a thing. Now that you are aware that you might not have all of the signals down pat, how do you know if you have given him amazing pleasure?

Know His Body

There is one way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction and showing him that you know your way around the male body and that is to give him total body sex. This means that you just aren’t going to go for the gold and head straight to his penis to make him orgasm. No, you are better than that. Instead, you are going to learn how to please a man from head to toe and to really give him an all over amazing sensation that he won’t soon forget.

Start At The Top

There are many spot on a man’s head that can really get him going in the bedroom. Obviously you have his eyes to attract by wearing something sexy, his nose by wearing some delicious scent and his lips to give him passionate kisses to send chills all throughout his body but there is so much more. For example, kissing on his ears, his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck and so on are all things that contribute to pleasure.

Work Your Way Down And Avoid The Typical

The obvious hot spots on a man’s torso are his nipples but stay away from that. Those are the typical spots that he is used to having stimulated by you and are you a typical lover? Of course not! You want to kick this up a notch and truly show him that you know how to give him total body sex all the way from his head and down to his itty bitty toes.

Instead of going for the nipples, try stimulating his back and stomach. Kissing on his back or stomach and even using your nails to scratch all the way down will give him some amazing satisfaction. Remember that men love that rough stimulation so the rougher it is, the better. Also, don’t forget about his arms.

Use Your Fingers The RIGHT Way

Using your fingers and nails to trace along his forearms will give him a sensation he probably never knew he had. The skin is extra thin on his forearms so feeling your nails digging deep will definitely drive him wild. Use dirty talk throughout to get him really turned on.

Don’t forget about his fingers either. A super sexy tip to try is to suck on his fingers as a prelude to sex. Feeling those warm and wet lips of yours tracing along his fingers will make him desperately want to feel that warm mouth on another part of his body.

We all know how amazing it feels to have a man kiss our inner thighs and before giving him a blowjob. This move may be a bit too sensitive for your man to handle but that doesn’t mean that you can’t give him stimulation there in a different way. Again, your fingers and nails are capable of so much pleasure it is insane.

Remember That There Are No Rules!

The best part about giving your man total body sex is that there are no rules. You don’t necessarily have to start from head to toe. You can always mix and match these tips to suit whatever your man’s needs might be in that moment. You can do a lot to him or a little; it is up to you.

You are in the driver’s seat when you are pleasing him and it is all up to you how close to the edge you want to take him tonight.