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Why You Can’t Give Her Orgasms With Your Penis

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a girl, but many guys don’t get that far once intercourse starts. Here’s why it’s pretty much impossible to consistently give a woman an orgasm using just your penis.

There is a window of time during intercourse when practically only one thing is happening – the THRUSTING. Everything else, the kissing and caressing, virtually ceases. Often, a woman fades to the background as the man interacts solely with her vagina. It’s that point during sex when men appear to be off to their own worlds, expending all energy with genital-on-genital action.

This is easily the man’s favorite part; gladly skipping the foreplay for this – making a “repeating vaginal tourist” of his penis.

It rocks! But, is it a screaming hit for the girl too? Not necessarily.

It Takes Two To Tango

Remember: THERE IS ANOTHER PERSON INVOLVED IN SEX – and that person is a woman, someone incredibly different from you. Just because you’re teetering at Cloud 9 doesn’t mean she is also – as all the furious thrusting could very well do nothing for her!

The vagina itself is not as sensitive as many think. Although nerves that line the vaginal walls sense PRESSURE, bringing with it a pleasurable sensation of being “filled”, it’s just not the screaming ecstasy they make you believe in porn. It’s just not. Many believe that the friction between penis and vaginal walls is what gives Eve these screaming orgasms. But that’s not true!

Unless you chance on her G-spot, a great percentage of women (30%-60%) will never orgasm by penetration alone. Friction alone is not enough, you could pump her ‘til morning but she won’t orgasm from it.

PENETRATION MIGHT BE ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY OF GIVING YOU AN ORGASM but IT’S ALSO ONE OF THE MOST INEFFECTIVE WAYS OF GIVING HER ONE.

It’s the “your pleasure does not necessarily mean my pleasure” drift once again.

How Her Orgasm Is Different

While we don’t want to dive completely into female orgasms, realize this: Men and women need different types of motions to achieve climax. Penetration is YOUR way because the motions involved are similar to male masturbation – so it works for you. Hers is a bit different.

You want to give your girl an orgasm? Penetration is not the most effective way; instead, mimic what happens when she masturbates. Imagine how lesbian couples have fun. No penis there. (Gee, I wonder why.) Dildos are not even a hit. Still, they report high sexual satisfaction ratings.

Talk to bisexuals. They sleep with both teams so they’re in a position to compare. Ask them who’s better, ask them who brings the sizzlers. They’d tell you that the ones without a stick shift often wins the day.

Now, for a man sporting a huge tool, who believes it’s a gift for all womanity, this comes as a surprise. ‘How can that be?!’ – becomes the question.

Well, besides the fact that they know the bodies of fellow women better, which by the way is something we can never take away from them, the lesson here is this: THE PENIS IS NOT NECESSARY FOR HER ORGASM. Otherwise, why would women masturbate? A penis inside her pit could even prevent some from climax.

You don’t need big Jimmy to arouse or satisfy her. Heck, you don’t even need to take her clothes off, much less yours.

To focus on the penis as the source of her well-being is definitely looking at the wrong side of things. Do not look at something in YOUR body. Stop looking down there. Instead, look at HER body. Your penis gives YOU pleasure because it’s lined with nerves that ultimately connect to the pleasure centers of YOUR brain. What gives HER pleasure?

Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

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Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

Explosive Female G-Spot Orgasms – Tantalizing Tips And Tricks To Give Her Sensational Sex

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The G-Spot is present in every woman and what a man should do is to take extra measures in stimulating it and give their partners a steamier sexual experience. Even if you know where your woman’s G-Spot is, you must also know what to do once you are in contact with it in order to give her a series of explosive orgasms.

Let your fingers perform circular movements after you insert them into her vagina. In order to pleasure your partner even more, make sure the touch of your fingertips against this soft gland is constant. Stop moving your fingers inside her and start an inward and outward motion and then occasionally swivel your fingers while they are inside the vaginal canal, applying an even tempo at the same time.

Things To Keep In Mind

G-Spot stimulation can be even more exciting for the woman if you let yourself perform oral sex on her using gentle tongue movements on the clitoris. An eventful release will surely come its way to your lady!

When stimulating her G-spot, always bear in mind these 3 things that will put her on the path towards orgasmic ecstasy:

  • Take your time in hitting her G-Spot so as to put her into a sexual mood.
  • Always be aware of your partner’s preferences especially with regards to what satisfies her the most.
  • Do not forget to stroke her G-Spot whenever your fingers penetrate her vaginal canal.

Penile Stimulation Of The G-Spot

It is not only your fingers that can work wonders on her. The penis may do a better job in stimulating the G-Spot! This works exceptionally well if your penis is slightly bent when erect, as this enables it to reach this sensitive mound of flesh.

But don’t lose hope, just because your penis is not capable of making a bow shape – there are other ways to stimulate the G-Spot.

What you can do about this curving problem is to try out different sex positions. Move your body so that your penis is directed towards the north since it is most likely that you will reach her G-Spot in this way.

If your penis arches towards the left or right, lie down on the bed, let her sit on top of you and allow her to control the penetration movements. If your penis draws downwards, try letting her lay on top of you with her buttocks facing you.

Aside from using your fingers and your penis, sex toys such as vibrators are also very useful in making the G-spot more responsive and giving her intense orgasms.

Communication Is Key Too

Communication has always been an integral part of an intimate relationship. Although there are many obscurities with regards to the G-spot, it is still important that both parties relate to each other whatever gives them sexual gratification. Let your partner guide you through what is most pleasurable for her, and all you have to do is accomplish what she tells you to do!

Put these tips to good use and a hotter and spicier sex life will await the both of you! You will also feel her appreciation for all the wonderful things you have done for her!

How To Be The KING Of Foreplay!

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Foreplay is crucial, because great sex starts before penetration. Women need foreplay to become fully aroused, because they simply just don’t “turn on” instantly like a lot of guys do. But many men tend to overlook foreplay, because they think that if they pound away harder, his partner will orgasm faster and harder. Hey, it holds true for him, why not for her?

Unfortunately, this is completely untrue, and can actually guarantee that your partner will not get to orgasm at all. Most women don’t climax during actual intercourse and if they do, it’s because there was some heavy foreplay first. In fact, some of the most intense orgasms a woman can have are through foreplay alone. If you don’t engage in foreplay first, it’s likely that your partner isn’t going to want to have sex with you very often! Instead, here are the things you need to know to be the best of the best when it comes to giving your lover the right kind of foreplay.

Learn To Use Your Fingers

After some deep kissing and heavy petting, you want to move on to her vulva. Get her nice and warmed up first, by lightly touching all around the area and kissing it and maybe even licking around a little.

Once she’s warmed up enough, make sure to focus your attention on her clitoris and G -Spot – these should be your first priority. Of course, if she’s not fully aroused first and isn’t craving your touch, you’re not going to get very far. This is part of why foreplay is so important – if you head straight for the clitoris or G-spot and your partner isn’t fully aroused, it could be very uncomfortable for them.

Also, it is very important for you to remember to keep your fingernails clean and trimmed smoothly. Although a workin’ man with very “manly,” callused hands can be a turn on to some women, no girl wants you to start putting your hands down there when they are filthy and grimy.

Talk Dirty To Her

Dirty talk is a great way to get a woman so hot and bothered, that it will become much easier for her to let her body go, and have loads of very powerful orgasms, without even thinking about it. Next time you’re in the sack, whisper a few sexy things in her ear about how much you love what is happening, how good it feels, what you want her to do or what you’re going to do to her next. This works wonders in getting a woman incredibly turned on!

Get Your Grope On

Remember when you were younger, and simply fondling a girl was the most exciting thing to happen all week? Well, don’t be afraid to bring that back! And don’t just grab her breasts and butt! Gently scratch your nails down her back, tug her hair a little, and massage her inner-thighs.

The next time you see your girl minding her own business, don’t be afraid to get your grope on! Just because you’re older now and you’ve had sex, it doesn’t mean that sex should be the primary goal every time you start fooling around. Think back to the old days when it was fun, exciting and a little scary to grope around without knowing what will happen next!

When you can combine groping, dirty talk, and amazing skills with your fingers, thee is no doubt that your lover will go nuts every time you are in the room. So now it’s your duty to go out there, and please her booty!

How To Make Your Girl Ejaculate During Sex – 7 Explosive Steps To Heavenly Orgasmic Pleasures Exposed!

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Squirting is real alright – and it’s not just pee. Here’s how to turn your lover into a squirting queen!

This might be new to you but contrary to popular belief, women do experience the release of ejaculation just like guys do. Kudos to the men who can make their ladies “gush” and attain the ultimate in sexual ecstasy! For those who want their women to climax with ejaculation during your intimate moments with her, the following steps will come in handy!

More Foreplay Builds Up More Fluid

Make the foreplay hot and steamy for her. Start out with small bites on her ear lobes and along the contours of her neck, followed by smooth and tender sucking on her nipples. Give light touches along her torso with your fingertips. Do these until you come into contact with the inner part of her thighs. Let her be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to another level.

Oral Sex Will Get Her Primed

Start off with a few easy oral sex techniques. You can begin by sliding your tongue along the vulva to her clitoris and along the borders of her vagina. The upward and downward motion of your tongue should be done repeatedly and unhurriedly. Use the broad part of your tongue for best results.

Touch Her Lightly

Allow the tip of your tongue to travel along her labia minora. To make this more pleasurable for her, let your tongue slide along this minute mound together with some momentary sucking.

Next Stop Is The Clitoris!

Tenderly suck on her clitoris. You can move your tongue in various directions. Make your hands busy at the same time. Gently caress her breasts and have the tips of your fingers give light touches on her nipples and on the most sensitive spots of her body.

Roll That Tongue!

Curl your tongue into a tube-like shape and insert it into her as gently as you can. This step may be a little tricky especially for first-timers, but with enough practice, you can make her go wild.

The Power Of Fingering

Insert two fingers into her vagina with your palm facing upward. Find her G-spot – a mound of flesh inside her vagina, about one to two inches in size. Lightly touch and add pressure on the G-spot using your fingertips. You will feel this flesh swelling up and become more rigid as you continue to stimulate it.

The Wildest, WETTEST Orgasm She’s Ever Had!

At this point, she will most likely reach the peak of sexual excitement and be able to experience the “gush” of ejaculation. However, before she ejaculates, she may have a tingling urge to urinate. Assure her that it perfectly safe for her to let go. Act natural and make her feel that you are totally at ease with her because this way, the sexual encounter becomes a lot more special. And with this, she will surely ask for more!