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6 Female Masturbation Secrets!

Female masturbation does exist – and it can be the key to unlocking a totally hot and ravishing sex life!

Female masturbation has existed since women were young girls squeezing stuff between their legs. While many still struggle with the conditioning that anything sexual is sinful, more and more women are admitting their needs and embracing the same. They jill off, pet the kitty or stroke the cat. If they’re not gonna get some from their man, they’ll settle with self-service.

Masturbation, as an invaluable spring of well-being, indeed, is the World’s Favorite Pastime. As George Carlin expressed it, “If God intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter.”

It’s The Only Way Some Women Can Orgasm

It’s the only source of O’s for many women, keeping everybody sane, and making up for life’s numerous disappointments – horrible sex included. Petting the kitty affords Eve to settle and be less demanding during sex.

The ladies got everything to gain, considering it doesn’t cost a single penny. Besides being the orgasmic highway, it’s loads of pleasure & fun! They can do it anywhere, they don’t have to dress up for it or put on serious pounds of make-up. They can have it anytime. Most importantly, they have perfect control of the proceedings. They decide how long and how many they’ll get.

Unless she’s one of those ladies who never looked down there, a woman has been touching herself years before she even met you. She has been helping herself before she even got a shot at sex. And guess what, over the years, she has become really good at it – winning herself the easiest, fastest and most intense orgasms. She knows her body best.

Over time, women have perfected a personal process and a set of techniques to reach orgasm.

Of course she has. She knows the type of stimulation needed & the specific parts to be attended. Women know how to turn themselves on and push themselves off.

Masturbation is “practice sex” – an imitation of the real thing – note that to get off, the same organs are given the same type of stimulation. For example, men can’t get enough of blowjobs, handjobs and penetrations because these stimulate the penis in the same manner as jacking off.

So during sex, replicate her jilling moves, especially during manual stimulation. You won’t be able to do that until you know exactly how she does it — so ask her to give you a show. Remember that every time a woman touches herself in front of a man, she’s schooling him and giving him insider info on her O’s!

What To Look For

You may think, “All women masturbate the same way.” Not at all. That’s only the big picture. Go into details and discover that women treat themselves very uniquely. Pay close attention to how she tangos with her vulva, her clitoris in particular – she’s giving you a private lesson from years of personal experience. Here are six elements to consider:

General Types

Though the most common method is ‘hands-on’, the routes to Orgasmville are different. She could employ objects like dildos, vibrators, pillows, bed sheets, a spray of warm/cold water, bottles, vegetables and practically anything she can get her hands on. While most women do it while resting on their backs, there are also others who prefer to be on their stomachs. Still, there are those who never use hands but press their thighs in a familiar rhythm.

Watch for her leg positions. Are they spread, bent, raised or together?

Speed & Timing

During sex, a woman is usually under her handler’s mercy. In masturbation, she has perfect control of speed and rhythm. Find out the gear she’s most happy with. See how fast she works it and try to extricate a rhythm or beat. (Notice that she doesn’t operate in a single speed but sometimes speeds up and slows down.)

While nothing beats having her guiding hand over yours, as long as you’re looking, compare how you operated in the past. Were you too slow or too fast? How was your rhythm? Apply these lessons during intercourse as she’ll be needing speeds similar to the ones she’s shown you.

Type Of Stimulation

Faithfully clone her ways.

It’s unfair for women to be expected to climax with the type of stimulation some guys give. Why? Because it’s not only grossly insufficient, it’s all wrong! How can she be expected to cum with a method totally alien and perhaps even opposite to what she’s accustomed to?! (It’s like demanding from you ejaculation when all she’s doing is tapping your penis.)

During masturbation, a woman has perfect control of the stimulation she gets. So observe her hands, palms, fingers, everything. Pay close attention to the DIRECTIONS her hands go. Is it clockwise, counterclockwise, up-down, side-to-side? Look for patterns and combinations – she has them. See if there’s some pinching, squeezing, tapping, patting, tugging or pulling going on.

Notice her applied PRESSURE. Some stroke minimally, others crave hard action. Again, different strokes for different folks, whatever works for her, works!

How often do her fingers venture inside the vagina? You might be in for a surprise. Blokes imagine that when women jill off, it’s all poke-poke-poke inside. I’m sorry to tell you that this doesn’t happen as often as we’d like to think. Some don’t even bother sliding fingers inside. After all, her clitoris is on the outside.

Specific Areas

Those who shove fingers or dildos oftentimes aim it somewhere specific. It could be at the G-spot or any of her sweet spots. Find out where these are.

Another thing, if she’s using one hand, observe what the other is doing. Is it sensually stroking her breasts? If so, observe carefully how she works them. Usually, when a woman touches herself, other areas besides the vulva gets attention.

The Environment

Environmental conditions are just as important. When women treat themselves, they usually prepare the mood by setting the environment to certain specifications. They set things right, for example, by initially taking a warm or cold shower, lighting candles, even dressing up! They prefer a certain time or day, a particular music, even props. These are her secrets, (she may not even be conscious of them.)

Conversely, guys don’t bother with this nonsense. Men do it who-knows-when and who-knows-where. Backrooms, dark alleys, wet pavements don’t make any difference, so long as they get their hands on johnny, it’s all good!

Psychological Conditions

Sex has two sides – physical and psychological. So far, we’ve dealt only with physical conditions, but just as important are the psychological ones.

What fantasies spur her? What thoughts does she focus on? Later on, it will be clearer to you how a woman’s thoughts and frame of mind affect her ability to cum. Suffice it is to say here, for now, that psychological pressures make reaching orgasm difficult for a girl.

So there it is, six things to look for when your girl schools you. It may sound complicated, but it’s really not that bad, especially when you see her with eyes closed, completely enjoying herself. Don’t you want to give her that same bliss?

Ask her to show you. As the Chinese saying goes, “He who asks is a fool for 5 minutes, but he who does not remains a fool forever.”

Top 10 Female Masturbation Tips

By loveandsex

Whether you only have time for a quick feel-good session with yourself, or whether you have all the time in the world, the following list provides a method for every woman to maximize her benefit from a beautiful masturbation experience. Right now, take a little look-see to find out which one(s) fit your personality and schedule.

Skin to Skin Contact

The Pattie Cake

With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.

The Sandwich Cookie

Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.

The Open-Faced Sandwich

Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.

The Pulsing Pelvis

Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.

Take a Dip

In the Pool

Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.

With Your Shower Head

Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.

In Your Bathtub

Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.

Common Toys

Dig the Shovel

You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.

It’s Electric

When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.

A Play Station

Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.

If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.

If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.

Orgasm Dilemma – What To Do If You Can’t Have One & Your Guy Gave Up

By Kaylen Jackson

An orgasm isn’t always easy for a man to give, and he can quickly get discouraged if he can’t find a “formula” to get you over the top in what he views as a reasonable period of time. But should you just forget about ever reaching orgasm during sex at all? And is it really only up to him to learn how to give you pleasure?

A Woman’s Orgasm

It’s not easy to make a woman orgasm, and unfortunately, many guys give up before they’ve ever learned how to make their partner climax. A woman requires a clear mind, a relaxed body, emotional immersion and the right physical stimulation to get over the top. Finding the right combination of these things (which could differ on any given day depending on the woman’s mood) can be daunting at best. Don’t put all the blame on your guy though – having an orgasm starts with YOU.

Start Masturbating

How can you expect your guy to learn what pleases you if you don’t even know? How can he learn how to bring you to an orgasm if you can’t even do it yourself? You know what gets you relaxed. When you touch down there, you know immediately if it feels good or if it doesn’t. Face it – he can’t tell what you like or don’t like unless YOU show him or tell him! It’s not like as soon as he touches you or licks you he knows whether that stroke worked or not.

Don’t turn your nose up at “clicking your own mouse” – there’s nothing wrong with female masturbation and it’s one of the only paths to supreme sexual bliss for a woman (that is, unless you’re with a total Casanova but even then, all women are different and he may not know how to please YOU). After masturbating a few times, you’re going to learn that you like it this way but not that way. You’ll figure out that you can reach orgasm faster if you do it like this, not like that. You’ll come away with a better understanding of your body and your sexuality, plus lots of new ways to play.

So grab a vibrator, use your fingers or whatever else you want and indulge in a explorative solo session. Do what feels good. Remember what it is. Do it again. Repeat.

Teach Your Man

When you find out what works, let your guy know. Don’t expect him to find out all on his own, that’s just cruel. He can’t – you don’t have a magic indicator that lets him know when he’s getting warmer or if he’s doing things the right way. If you prefer circles on your clitoris as opposed to an up and down motion, by all means tell the guy! He’ll appreciate it so much more than if you let him stumble around in the dark and get upset when he doesn’t do the right thing.

A lot of girls are too quiet during sex. They fail to let their man know what feels good during sex, so he never really knows. Many girls don’t make a peep, or much noise at all whether it feels incredible or whether it hurts like hell. So a guy will try and try and try, but will soon give up because he doesn’t feel like he’s getting anywhere. If this describes you, take a long look in the mirror if you want someone to blame for not getting off during sex. You cannot expect your guy to get it right if you don’t give him any feedback. Period.

How To Let Him Know What You Like

Dirty talk is an excellent way to not only let your lover know what really gets you going, but also to spice things up and add variety to your sex life. Dirty talk in and of itself can get you more turned on and closer to orgasm than ever before, not to mention its added use for communication of likes and dislikes.

Next time he makes a move that feels better than the rest, say “Oh yeah, just like that.” If he’s in the wrong place and suddenly moves to the right one, shout “Yes! Right there!” Don’t be afraid to get into it, he’ll think it’s hot. You can even use dirty talk to get really naughty if you want to. Tell him, “I want you to ____ my ____ right now until I ____ all over you!” Ad lib as necessary. After the initial shock and disbelief that these things are coming out of your mouth, you’ll love voicing what you want until you’re coming.

Overcoming Shyness

If you’re too shy to tell him outright what you want either during a normal dinner conversation (yes, it’s perfectly appropriate to say “Hey honey, I’d like to try ___ tonight” over braised chicken) or during sex, then you might think you’re out of luck and will never be able to communicate your desires to your lover. Wrong! You can, without using any words at all!

Just make more noise when he does the right thing. Body language is also a big indicator that he’s on the right track too. Gasp, moan, shout his name, buck your hips – do anything to let him know that you really LOVE what he’s doing. If he never gets this feedback from you, he’ll assume that every single thing he does is wrong – and then give up.

He may change his moves around and try to do something different, but he’ll figure out what you enjoy the most pretty quickly when you stop moaning when he does the wrong thing. That’s right – if he starts getting off course, you’re not going to be as vocal. He will automatically take that as a cue that he needs to go back to what he was doing before, when you were moaning, screaming and bucking wildly.

The icing on the cake? He’ll actually do what you want – meaning, you might actually get off.

Hot Sex Positions For A Handjob

By michaelwebb

A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

What Women Who Can Have Multiple Orgasms Won’t Tell You

By loveandsex

Multiple orgasms can be had, but only if a girl really knows how to let go. Here’s what girls who can have more than one orgasm know that you don’t!

They Have Self Confidence

Self confidence is a must when it comes to having multiple orgasms and you might could even say the same about just one orgasm. A girl who has multiple orgasms is very self confident – she knows she’s sexy, she knows you like what you see and she knows how to let go. She’s not worried about her cellulite during sex, and she’s most certainly not worried about her O-face, because she knows you want to see it, regardless of what it looks like.

If a girl is self conscious, she’s not going to be able to fully release herself during sex and let go of her inhibitions. Her thoughts will be consumed with whether she looks good naked or not, whether her partner likes the way she tastes and smells, and so on and so forth. Since her thoughts are consumed with all these things instead of enjoying sex, she’s not going to be able to have more than one orgasm, if she’s able to have one at all!

They Know What An Actual Multiple Orgasm Is

There are two different types of multiple orgasms. “Sequential” orgasms happen within minutes of each other, and require at least a few minutes of cool down and relaxation in between. “Serial” orgasms are actually much closer together, and sometimes a woman can barely tell that there is more than one climax happening – it may very well feel like one big, long orgasm to her.

Girls that can have more than one climax during a single sex session know that it’s not some proverbial Mt. Everest that must be climbed and only a few girls can actually do it. Instead, they understand their bodies and that every woman is capable of having more than one climax!

They Masturbate

A girl is never going to have multiple orgasms if she doesn’t know how to “click her own mouse.” Some girls have been taught from a young age that masturbation is wrong and shameful (for both guys and gals), and that’s a difficult stigma to break even well into adulthood. However, if a girl wants to learn how to have double the climaxes during sex, she’s going to have to make it happen herself first.

Masturbation teaches a woman to relax and fully experience sexual pleasure. This is because she’s alone, so she’s automatically not worried about what she looks like, her body or anything else in that moment in time. If a girl masturbates regularly, not only will she know exactly where her own hot spots are and how to push her own buttons, she’ll also learn how to let go.

Letting go is probably the most challenging aspect of having an orgasm at all for a girl, especially if she has been conditioned in any way that masturbation is wrong or that sex is a “wife’s duty” and is only supposed to be pleasurable for him.

The Right Time And Place

A girl who can have multiple orgasms knows that the timing and placement of sex makes a huge difference as to whether or not she’s going to be able to reach orgasm. If she’s sneaking off to have a quickie while the kids are preoccupied, she probably won’t be able to climax. However, if the kids are at Grandma’s and she’s all alone (or with a partner) after some time to wind down from the day and a glass or two of wine, she’ll probably be able to have more than one earth shattering orgasm.

Many people think that renting a hotel room when you don’t “have” to seems silly, but you have no idea how much the change in venue makes a difference. Even if your house is just down the road, “getting away from it all” even for just a night can help a girl relax more than you could possibly imagine.

They Use Lube

Lube isn’t something that older women use when they’re “dry.” For great climaxes, you’ve got to have lube! Things need to be really slippery – too much friction, and she’ll never reach orgasm. A girl who is a master at multiple orgasms may have a few bottles of lube hanging around – perhaps a silicone formula for fun in the water, and a good old fashioned water based lube for every day action. She may even have a special sex toy lube specifically for masturbation!

Invest in a good bottle of lube if you don’t have any. The misconception that lube is something that is needed when a girl can’t get wet, but that’s just the thing – it’s a misconception. Lube makes everything better!

Sex Is A Journey, Not A Means To An End

For a girl that can have multiple orgasms, sex isn’t all about just getting to the big “O” like it is for guys. It’s about the journey and the experience! She may take it slow, speed up, slow down again and just enjoy the ride. She won’t force herself to have an orgasm and if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

The mere lifting of the pressure to climax during sex actually opens the door to have more climaxes, believe it or not. By simply giving up the “need” to reach orgasm during sex, a woman will most likely experience an incredible orgasm – if not more than one!