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6 Amazing Sex Tips From REAL Women!

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The best sex tips come from women themselves – because they KNOW what they like! You can get some good suggestions from guys on how to please girls, but it just isn’t the same as hearing it from a girl. Check out these foolproof sex tips to bring her to orgasm over and over!

Give Oral Sex Or Finger Her In A Pattern

There’s a reason that those vibrators that have multiple settings – and do different things in a pattern over and over – are so popular among the ladies. Women enjoy lots of different sensations, but not necessarily in a random order. The best way to coax a woman to an orgasm is to touch her softly and then progress to a more firm touch, then backing down to a softer touch after several seconds.

You can use this technique during oral sex if you want to give her a climax she’ll never, ever forget. Switch between flicking her clitoris lightly to firm, broad licking from the bottom up. The key here is to be persistent and avoid any temptation to change it up and do something different unless she’s giving you cues or telling you to do so. A huge complaint about men is that they change up what they’re doing at exactly the wrong moment! If she seems to be enjoying what you’re doing, don’t change a thing!

Advanced Technique

Do a pattern of three and alternate between flicking her clitoris with your tongue, sucking on it for a few seconds and then licking her with a flat tongue from the bottom of her vagina to the top of her clitoris. This move will have her clawing at the sheets!

Finger Her G-Spot While You Give Oral Sex

Another thing that really gets a woman off is multiple sensations on different areas of her body all at the same time. This is why so many women love the idea of having sex with two guys at once – the feeling of double penetration and experiencing both sensations at the same time is really powerful for a woman.

Give her intense sensations during oral sex by fingering her g-spot while you lick and suck her clitoris. If you can manage to rub and lightly pinch her nipples while you’re doing this, you’ll really drive her wild!

Advanced Technique

Combine fingering your lover’s g-spot with oral sex using the pattern technique. Be prepared for a sheet soaking, squirting orgasm!

Grind Your Pelvis Against The Clitoris

A common misconception that guys have about sex with a woman is that they think simply sliding in and out of a woman’s vagina is all they need to do to make it feel incredible for them. It’s what feels good for a guy, so it has to feel good for the girl too, right? Wrong! This couldn’t be further from the truth! Aside from possibly stimulating the g-spot, this isn’t going to stimulate a girl AT ALL.

Instead, while having sex with your girl when you’re on top, move your hips in a circular motion and grind your pelvis against the clitoris. This move will also help you feel bigger inside her because you’re putting friction on all sides of her vagina.

Advanced Technique

Take a lubed up finger and rub her clitoris instead. Make sure your finger is lubed, because it’s not going to feel good at all if you do it when your finger is dry!

Don’t Forget About The Nipples

A lot of guys forget about a woman’s nipples as soon as he heads down south. However, stimulating her nipples while you’re going down on your girl or having sex will make your partner feel incredible. This goes back to the fact that women enjoy feeling different sensations on different parts of her body all at the same time.

You can use all different kinds of techniques here, from light rubbing to firm pinching depending on what your lover enjoys. You’ll want to increase pressure as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, but don’t change what you’re doing when she gets close.

Advanced Technique

If you’re giving your lover oral sex and fingering her g-spot, you may not be able to hold yourself up and pinch her nipples at the same time. If you have trouble doing this, try a set of vibrating nipple clamps to give her intense pleasure all over her body.

Touch Her Backdoor

Many women shy away from anal sex, and they may even get upset if a man tries to stick anything in her anus without her permission (and rightly so!) However, that doesn’t mean that these women don’t enjoy anal stimulation at all. There are tons of nerve endings around the anus and you can give a girl intense pleasure simply by laying your finger or rubbing lightly around her anal opening.

Advanced Technique

Do this while you’re giving her oral sex. If she seems to dig it, let your tongue slip down there for a few seconds too.

Talk Dirty During Orgasm

Dirty talk can intensify a woman’s orgasm ten fold if used in the right way at the right time. You may have even noticed that a lot of girls will start talking dirty when they get really, really turned on and get closer to orgasm. Surprisingly, some really nasty things can come out of their mouths that you wouldn’t have imagined would!

Join in with her and start talking dirty when she gets closer to reaching climax. Tell her how hot she is, and feel free to get as graphic as you want. Make her feel like she’s the hottest, best lover on the planet and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Advanced Technique

Describe to her exactly what you want to do, what you’re doing and why you’re doing it explicitly. Make her feel like she’s the only one who could give you an incredible orgasm will make her feel incredible and make her orgasm that much intense.

6 Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Dripping Wet!

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Dirty talk is a great way to engage her mind in sex – learn these six sayings that will have her so wet, you’ll have to change the sheets afterwards!

“You Look Stunning….”

The word “stunning” will work, as will the words “gorgeous” and “beautiful.” The word “sexy” or “hot” won’t – it will just make her feel like a sex object. Tell her how gorgeous, beautiful or stunning she looks when she takes off all her clothes and you see her naked, whether it’s the first time or the thousandth time.

Women are naturally insecure about our bodies, no thanks to modern media. When she gets undressed in front of you, she’s automatically wondering if you’ll think she’s flawed, even if you don’t say anything. She’ll wonder if you think her breasts are too small, or if you’re paying attention to her cellulite instead of her lacy black panties. Put her fears to rest as soon as she gets naked and let her know that you find her absolutely, positively beautiful.

“You Taste So Good….”

This is one you’ll want to use during oral sex. If your girl lets you perform oral sex on her, she’s likely a little nervous about it, even if you’ve done it before. Women are conditioned from a young age to make sure they’re “fresh” down there, and you’ve surely heard the jokes made about vaginal odor (so has she). Even if what you’re doing feels great, she’s likely going to be wondering if you think she tastes or smells bad.

Let her know that she doesn’t – in fact, let her know that she tastes divine! Don’t just say it either – show her by giving her the best oral sex she’s ever had. Don’t just lick her clitoris and call it done. Taste every inch of her and let her know you love it.

“You’re So Good At That….”

Your girl wants to be the best sex you’ve ever had. She wants to be better than all the other girls you’ve ever done it with, and she wants no one to ever be able to make you feel the way she does. So make her believe this by working it into your dirty talk.

This phrase is best use when she’s giving you a great blowjob. Giving good head requires some skill, and if she’s any good at all, it’s likely that she takes at least a little bit of pride in her oral sex skills. Stroke her ego and let her know that she’s incredible at giving a blowjob. She’ll respond with more enthusiasm, better maneuvers and she’ll feel like you enjoy her and her alone.

“You Make Me Rock Hard….”

Part of what turns a woman on is knowing that her partner is turned on by her. Let your lover know that she turns you on and sets you on fire! Tell her that she makes your knees weak, that she makes your erection rock hard and that you can’t wait to get inside of her. She will love hearing about how bad you want her!

“I Want To Make This Last….”

A lot of girls have been burned by one minute guys, who get busy without first engaging in foreplay and who don’t last very long at all. Assure her that you’re not one of “those” guys by incorporating it in your dirty talk. Let your lover know how much you’re enjoying having sex with her, and let her know that you want to make it last.

If you struggle with premature ejaculation or just don’t have the stamina for a hot sex marathon, go slow. If you’re close to orgasm, stop and kiss her softly or give her oral sex while you take a time out. This would actually be a perfect time to use the phrase, “I want to make this last….”

“You Fit Me Perfectly….”

This goes along the line of thought that women want to hear that they’re the only woman who could ever satisfy their guy sexually – or they at least want to know that they’re hands down better than the rest. So tell her that her vagina fits you perfectly. You can do this vaguely by saying “you fit me perfectly,” or you can take this to the next level.

Be wary of going too far with this if you’ve just met someone, but if you’re going pretty strong or are in a committed relationship, you could go on to say that it’s almost as though her body was designed just for you. This will make her melt emotionally and get her so hot physically, she may just set the house on fire!

Your Blowjob Questions – Answered!

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Oral sex isn’t something every girl knows how to do. Most women have some things they need worked out. Here’s what you want to know about giving fellatio!

What If I Don’t Like The Taste Of Semen?

Many women are afraid to give their partners a blowjob because they’re afraid he will ejaculate in their mouths. Some girls are terrified of this simply because they’ve heard that semen tastes bad, or because they’ve actually tasted it before and didn’t like it. Either way, there are plenty of women out there that don’t like the taste of semen and either stop a blowjob well before their lovers are about to have an orgasm, or just don’t give head at all.

Not liking the taste of semen is no reason not to give your lover the gift of oral sex. If you do happen to bring him to orgasm with a blowjob, you don’t have to swallow, or even spit if you don’t want to. Make sure your guy lets you know when he’s getting close to the point of no return, so you can be prepared to finish him off with your hand. If you have lots of practice, you can also sense that he’s about to have an orgasm by the way his body begins to react to the stimulation.

When he’s about to blow his load, slide your mouth off of him and slide your hand on in one fluid motion and begin masturbating him until he’s finished with his climax. You can allow him to ejaculate anywhere you like – he may like to do so on your breasts or your face, or he may not even care if you hold a towel over his penis to avoid lots of clean up later. He may even want to finish off himself. To put it simply, there are lots of different ways to finish up the blowjob without having to get semen in your mouth.

How Can I Change The Taste Of His Semen?

Since many women are so grossed out by the taste of semen, it’s no surprise that they’re looking for ways to make their partners spunk taste better. Even if you don’t allow your lover to ejaculate in your mouth, the “pre-cum” that seeps out of the head of his penis while you’re stimulating him orally can taste just as bitter or just as chalky.

Fortunately, there are ways to change the taste of your partner’s semen, although it requires his full cooperation and it won’t happen overnight. If your lover’s ejaculate tastes really terrible, it’s likely due to what he’s eating or ingesting. Start by looking at toxins – cigarette smoking, drug usage or alcohol drinking. All of these things will make his semen taste fairly nasty, because the toxins in these products are leaving his body through his ejaculate.

Next, eliminate foods that are well known to cause gas, like cabbage and asparagus. These can make your partner’s semen taste bitter as well. To improve the taste, have him eat more fresh fruits or drink fruit juices. Fresh pineapple or pineapple juice is very popular, because it will sweeten the taste of his semen significantly with regular consumption.

If your lover starts leading a healthy life, eliminates toxin usage, eliminates eating processed junk food and cleans up his diet, as well as getting enough sleep and exercise, he’s going to have much better tasting semen because he’s taking care of himself and his body will begin to show it.

How Do I Keep From Biting Him?

Biting a man’s penis accidentally during oral sex is a very valid concern for both women giving a blowjob and men receiving one. Getting bitten or even lightly scraped by a woman’s teeth while getting a blowjob is the fastest way to completely ruin it and turn him off for the whole night – not to mention it’s the fastest way to cause pain and discomfort.

Although this is one of the biggest concerns with going down on a man, it’s also one of the easiest to avoid. Simply curl your lips in your mouth over your teeth, covering your teeth with the inside of your lips, top and bottom. When you move your mouth up and down over your lover’s shaft, he’ll actually be rubbing up against the outside of your lips and the skin there.

You can even use your lips to cushion him against your teeth so you can put more pressure on his penis, which many men really enjoy. This simple maneuver will keep you from hurting him while you’re sucking him off, a gesture he is sure to greatly appreciate.

How Do I Keep From Gagging?

Gagging is a common problem when it comes to going down on a guy, especially if he has a long penis or is particularly well endowed. A longer penis will bump up against the back of the throat and the gag reflex more easily than a shorter penis, making it more difficult for a woman to keep from gagging while she’s going down on her lover. If your partner has a smaller penis, you may not be as worried about this. However, if your lover makes you gag every time you give him head, even when you’re not deep throating, this can pose quite the predicament.

However, even if your man has a big penis, you don’t have to worry about gagging if you use certain techniques. You may not be able to fit your man’s entire penis in your mouth if he’s big, and if you try, you’ll likely stimulate your gag reflex. So don’t sweat it and use the hand-and-mouth technique. Place your hand at the base of your man’s penis and place your mouth over the top of it, with your mouth and hand touching each other in the middle of his shaft.

As you suck up and down on the top of his penis, your hand should be in sync, stroking the bottom of his shaft at the same time. You want your mouth and hand to go up and down at the same time, as if your hand were an extension of your mouth. This will stimulate his entire penis during the blowjob without you having to cram the entire thing down your throat, causing you to gag.

On the other hand, sometimes a woman will gag if her lover has a particularly strong smell down there. Ensuring that he keeps his pubic hair short and showers well right before oral sex can cut the smell down significantly, reducing the chance a woman will gag during oral sex because of the way his genitals smell.

What Is The Best Blowjob Position For Him?

A man might answer this question with the word “any,” and this is true to an extent. Most guys are going to prefer oral sex positions that allow him to see you lavishing attention on his genitals, but some guys like laying back, closing their eyes and relaxing while you go to work on them. Every guy is going to like something different! So in all honesty, the best oral sex position for him is the one that is best for you.

You need to be comfortable while going down on him, and if your neck is sore after two minutes or you’re cutting off the circulation to your hands because all of your weight is on your wrists, you’re not going to be able to go down on him for very long. Cutting a blowjob short because you’re uncomfortable is the pits for your man! Select an oral sex position that allows you to keep going for longer without getting uncomfortable as quickly (or at all if you can manage!) will make him happier, because you’ll actually be able to get into it as opposed to continuing to shift your weight around.

He’ll be able to tell you’re uncomfortable and he’ll know instantly that you’re not as into it. He won’t care what position you choose if it’s one you can throw caution to the wind in and really go to town on him.

5 Ways To Get Her To Give You Head More Often

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Blowjob tips are essential if you want to get good head in your relationship. Getting head is something no guy wants to turn down. But what if you’re not being offered? Here are five things you can do to get your girl to want to suck you off.

OK, even if your wife or girlfriend “sometimes” gives you head now, I still recommend you read (and reread) this article. It’s all in the name of getting a great blowjob, but what I teach you in the next few pages will do wonders for your sexual connection, your woman’s desire to try new things and the amount of FUN you guys have in the bedroom together.

Here’s a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Get Her Turned ON!

If you don’t already have a sex life with your wife or girlfriend, or don’t know how to get things heated up, learn! It’s not all about techniques – it’s about igniting her sexual desire for you. Also, don’t be shy about giving her oral sex. She’s not going to want to go down on you if you never do it for her.

2. Change How You Feel About Getting Head

You need to permanently change your thinking around getting a blowjob. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat them as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

3. Do Not Beg!

Don’t beg… EVER. Your woman needs to see you as a sexually powerful man. Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and feel confident about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

4. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

5. Share The Experience With Her

Start thinking of oral sex as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. She will love this! This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

  • Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
  • Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
  • Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
  • Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

First, let’s talk about why you are not pleasing him through oral sex…

Three Mistakes that MOST Women Make Consistently and the One Killer Mistake that ALL Women Make When Giving Head

Mistake #1: Awkwardness and Feeling Tired After Just Several Minutes of Giving Head

Most women can start a blowjob right but never finish because of tongue muscle cramps and jaw locking. When these happen, men feel the tension (and more often than not, sharp teeth!) and get turned off.

Mistake #2: Seeing Blowjob as a Tedious Chore

You CAN learn to enjoy blowjob just by being adventurous and playful. If you can see blowjob as a way to express your sexuality, you will never have to feel tired or bored while giving head.

Mistake #3: Lack of Knowledge of the “Hot Spots: on the Penis and the Whole Gonad Area

There are specific areas on a man’s penis which increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

And, finally, here’s the most common mistake that lead to annoyance, discomfort and relationship tension….

Mistake #4: Some Women Do NOT Develop a Fail-ProofSystem to Make Him Climax through Oral sex

To really learn the skills to make him climax through blowjob, you must develop a system to vary, combine and intensify the pleasurable sensations men feel while being blown… and they let their men confuse them even more with barely thought out instructions on where to lick, when to suck harder and when to speed up…

If no consistency is achieved, what results is a hit-and-miss blowjob style that only works at certain times. This lack of consistency makes women feel more inferior about their blowjob skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on…

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

  • Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
  • Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
  • Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
  • Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
  • The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
  • Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
  • Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

Still not sure? Read Our Review of Blow His Mind Tonight.