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Orgasm Dilemma – What To Do If You Can’t Have One & Your Guy Gave Up

An orgasm isn’t always easy for a man to give, and he can quickly get discouraged if he can’t find a “formula” to get you over the top in what he views as a reasonable period of time. But should you just forget about ever reaching orgasm during sex at all? And is it really only up to him to learn how to give you pleasure?

A Woman’s Orgasm

It’s not easy to make a woman orgasm, and unfortunately, many guys give up before they’ve ever learned how to make their partner climax. A woman requires a clear mind, a relaxed body, emotional immersion and the right physical stimulation to get over the top. Finding the right combination of these things (which could differ on any given day depending on the woman’s mood) can be daunting at best. Don’t put all the blame on your guy though – having an orgasm starts with YOU.

Start Masturbating

How can you expect your guy to learn what pleases you if you don’t even know? How can he learn how to bring you to an orgasm if you can’t even do it yourself? You know what gets you relaxed. When you touch down there, you know immediately if it feels good or if it doesn’t. Face it – he can’t tell what you like or don’t like unless YOU show him or tell him! It’s not like as soon as he touches you or licks you he knows whether that stroke worked or not.

Don’t turn your nose up at “clicking your own mouse” – there’s nothing wrong with female masturbation and it’s one of the only paths to supreme sexual bliss for a woman (that is, unless you’re with a total Casanova but even then, all women are different and he may not know how to please YOU). After masturbating a few times, you’re going to learn that you like it this way but not that way. You’ll figure out that you can reach orgasm faster if you do it like this, not like that. You’ll come away with a better understanding of your body and your sexuality, plus lots of new ways to play.

So grab a vibrator, use your fingers or whatever else you want and indulge in a explorative solo session. Do what feels good. Remember what it is. Do it again. Repeat.

Teach Your Man

When you find out what works, let your guy know. Don’t expect him to find out all on his own, that’s just cruel. He can’t – you don’t have a magic indicator that lets him know when he’s getting warmer or if he’s doing things the right way. If you prefer circles on your clitoris as opposed to an up and down motion, by all means tell the guy! He’ll appreciate it so much more than if you let him stumble around in the dark and get upset when he doesn’t do the right thing.

A lot of girls are too quiet during sex. They fail to let their man know what feels good during sex, so he never really knows. Many girls don’t make a peep, or much noise at all whether it feels incredible or whether it hurts like hell. So a guy will try and try and try, but will soon give up because he doesn’t feel like he’s getting anywhere. If this describes you, take a long look in the mirror if you want someone to blame for not getting off during sex. You cannot expect your guy to get it right if you don’t give him any feedback. Period.

How To Let Him Know What You Like

Dirty talk is an excellent way to not only let your lover know what really gets you going, but also to spice things up and add variety to your sex life. Dirty talk in and of itself can get you more turned on and closer to orgasm than ever before, not to mention its added use for communication of likes and dislikes.

Next time he makes a move that feels better than the rest, say “Oh yeah, just like that.” If he’s in the wrong place and suddenly moves to the right one, shout “Yes! Right there!” Don’t be afraid to get into it, he’ll think it’s hot. You can even use dirty talk to get really naughty if you want to. Tell him, “I want you to ____ my ____ right now until I ____ all over you!” Ad lib as necessary. After the initial shock and disbelief that these things are coming out of your mouth, you’ll love voicing what you want until you’re coming.

Overcoming Shyness

If you’re too shy to tell him outright what you want either during a normal dinner conversation (yes, it’s perfectly appropriate to say “Hey honey, I’d like to try ___ tonight” over braised chicken) or during sex, then you might think you’re out of luck and will never be able to communicate your desires to your lover. Wrong! You can, without using any words at all!

Just make more noise when he does the right thing. Body language is also a big indicator that he’s on the right track too. Gasp, moan, shout his name, buck your hips – do anything to let him know that you really LOVE what he’s doing. If he never gets this feedback from you, he’ll assume that every single thing he does is wrong – and then give up.

He may change his moves around and try to do something different, but he’ll figure out what you enjoy the most pretty quickly when you stop moaning when he does the wrong thing. That’s right – if he starts getting off course, you’re not going to be as vocal. He will automatically take that as a cue that he needs to go back to what he was doing before, when you were moaning, screaming and bucking wildly.

The icing on the cake? He’ll actually do what you want – meaning, you might actually get off.

How Being ‘Nice’ In Bed Is MEAN To Your Girl!

By loveandsex

Sex tips can take you from being “ho hum” in the sack to being incredible! Here are some great sex tips on how to be the ALPHA MALE she really wants!

It always amazes me at just how many men think that the key to giving a woman great sex is to just be sweet in the bedroom. I’m talking about asking her what she wants, asking her how she is doing, asking her if she’s “there” yet, so on and so forth.

Well fellas, have I got some news for you –

Women are not attracted to WUSSIES in the bedroom!

No sir! We don’t want a guy who asks us what to do and takes orders like a puppy. We want a man who isn’t afraid to pin us down and throw us around and literally ROCK our worlds!

Now, I’m not saying you should be a “jerk” when you are having sex, I but I DO mean that you need to be authoritative and IN CHARGE! This definitely extends to your dating and relationship life as well, but for the purpose of rapid sexual improvement, I want to show you right now how to use authority in the bedroom and LEAD your woman to stronger orgasms!

It’s All About Being A Man

You see, when you start asking questions and catering to your woman, her sexual attraction towards you instantly shuts off. I don’t mean to get too ” biological” on you, but think about this – women are naturally drawn to men who are leaders and protectors. In caveman days, woman would go after the strongest man, the leader of the tribe. A.K.A. – the guy who would hunt down the prey and clobber any enemies.

I know, I know, your mother and your sister tell you you should be courteous to women. And you should! But in the bedroom, what we REALLY want is the same guy that in the caveman days would be leading the hunt.

How To Take Charge

Tell us how turned on you are
Doing us HARD! (there, I said it!)
Using sex positions in which you have TOTAL CONTROL! Such as “doggy style” (which is often our favorite position – we love it because we feel like we are being “taken”!)
Having us go down on you and be there for YOUR pleasure!

I’m in no way saying make your woman do anything she isn’t comfortable with (that goes for you too).

But what I AM saying is your woman is going to be most turned on when you:

Do not ask what position to use and INSTEAD grab and her put her into it!
Lightly pull her hair during doggy style and give her ass a little slap.
Talk dirty on occasion and ravish her – and yes tell her what panties to wear!
Set up romantic evenings that you plan without asking her what she wants (Here’s a hint: “Romance” is her feeling that YOU know what she wants EVEN BETTER than she does)

The whole point of this note is to open your eyes that when you stop being “too sweet” to your woman in bed, and start taking authority and taking CONTROL, you will be pleasantly surprised by how much she likes it… AND how much easier it is for her to have intense, mind-blowing orgasms!

Watch Her Be Completely Submissive To You!

Once you start, don’t be surprised if SHE takes it the next level by telling you to do her harder, or being COMPLETELY submissive to you and even having an orgasm on your command! The next step is trying this stuff out – you won’t know just how powerful it is until you start doing it!

3 Things All Men Need To Know About The G-Spot

By loveandsex

If there’s one topic about sexual health which is controversial, that is none other than the female G-spot. Some experts say that there is such a thing as a G-spot which brings a woman earth-shattering orgasms when stimulated. However, there’s this other part of the spectrum wherein skeptics say that the G-spot does not even exist. Tantric sex practitioners believe that this ‘sacred’ spot is like the Holy Grail when it comes to the erogenous spots which turn a woman on.

But whether it exists or not, what’s important is that men can use the G-spot to bring their partner to the ultimate in sexual heights. Read on to find out more about the G-spot.

The G-Spot, and Nothing But…

First, let us try to delve deeper into what this controversial G-spot is all about. This is actually named after gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered the part within a woman’s vagina which is able to bring her to the peak of sexual heights way back in 1944.

The G-spot is more of a zone than just one particular spot – and it’s located right inside the vagina, about one to two inches within the frontal wall. If you insert a finger within the vagina, you should make a come hither motion and look for a bean-shaped tissue which feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall.

The sensations that a woman is bound to feel when her G-spot is stimulated actually depend on the individual. For some women, the G-spot is indeed the Holy Grail of all her erogenous zones which can provide hours of mind-numbing pleasure. For some, stimulating the G-spot too much may produce a sensation like you need to urinate – while others do not seem to be sexually affected by the G-spot at all.

Now, from a man’s perspective, it might be a bit difficult to bring your partner to great sexual heights through her G-spot if she herself does not know whether she has it or not. So communication is an essential key here. Just as it is when exploring a different aspect of your sex life, familiarizing the both of you with the female G-spot should be a fun and shared experience that will bring you closer together.

The Top 3 Things That Men Should Know About The G-Spot

So here are the top three things that men should know about the G-spot:

1. What to do with the G-spot

Now that you already have a basic idea about where the G-spot is located, the next thing that you need to know about is what exactly you should do with it. Basically, the best way to stimulate the G-spot is by stroking it directly or making a tapping motion using your fingertips once you’ve managed to locate it.

As mentioned earlier, you can use your forefinger and make a come hither motion once your finger is inserted about a couple of inches inside her vaginal wall. It should be pointing towards the direction of her belly button.

2. How to feel the G-spot during intercourse

The next thing that every man should know about when it comes to the G-spot is how to feel it during intercourse. Since your penis does not have the dexterity of your fingers, you would need the help of a woman in order to be in a position wherein her G-spot will be stimulated.

A woman-on-top position, a rear entry position and the doggy style position are all geared towards giving her a G-spot orgasm. These sexual positions will benefit you, too, in such a way that the variety will be as much of a turn on as knowing that you are both working towards each other’s pleasures.

3. The role that G-spot stimulation plays in female orgasms

Finally, it helps for men to know just how important a role the G-spot plays in female orgasms. A lot of women claim that they experience female ejaculation or female orgasms when the G-spot is stimulated.

All in all, familiarizing yourself with the G-spot is just one of the many aspects of sex that you can explore together as a couple. Whether your female partner thinks that she has it or not, what’s important is that the process of discovery will be highly, sexually stimulating for the both of you.

Teach Your Man To Give You An Orgasm – In 1 EASY Move!

By Kaylen Jackson

Oral sex is hard for a guy to learn – or so you thought. You’ve been with guys that don’t know how to go down on you, and you’ve tried to show him the way but to no avail. Are these men a lost cause? Not hardly! Here’s how to show a guy how to make you have an orgasm, with one simple trick!

Tell Him You Wish You Could Give Yourself Oral Sex

The idea of licking your own clitoris may give you the creeps, but he doesn’t have to know that. Chances are, he thinks the idea is hot – even if it’s impossible. Next time you’re in the mood for your guy to go down on you, tell him that you really wish you could do it yourself. He’ll be intrigued and ask you why – and then you’ll tell him it’s because you know exactly what feels good. This will prompt him to say something along the lines of you teaching him how to do it the way you like – which is precisely what you want him to ask.

If he doesn’t ask outright for you to show him what you like down there, bring it up yourself. After you tell him that you wish you could go down on yourself, ask him if it would be alright if you showed him what to do. “Showed” is the operative word here – he’s been “told” before, probably more than once.

Kiss Him – And Mimic Giving Yourself Oral Sex

If he’s ready for you to show him how you want him to give you cunnilingus, kiss him deeply. When you kiss him, pretend that his mouth is your vagina. Think of his top lip as your clitoris and his bottom lip as your labia. Instead of kissing your partner the way you normally do, think about how you really might give yourself head. Mimic these maneuvers on his mouth. After a few minutes, he’ll get the hint and realize what you’re trying to do – and then start paying attention to exactly what you’re doing so he can do the moves himself.

If he’s not picking up on what you’re putting down, don’t be afraid to tell him. Some guys won’t get it unless you spell it out. So just say, “I’m going to kiss you the way I want you to kiss me – down there.” He’ll definitely be intrigued – he’ll want to see what it is exactly that you want. Plus, this kind of kissing is super hot on its own!

Think Of What Will Turn You On

As you’re kissing your partner, it’s time to think of all the different moves that you do while you’re masturbating as well as the moves other men have used to drive you wild. Think of exactly what you might want, and then use your tongue to do it to your partner’s mouth. For example, if you love to have your clitoris flicked with the tip of a tongue, do so to his top lip. If you’d rather he insert his tongue into your vagina, lightly probe your tongue into his mouth.

Keep in mind the order in which you do things. Try to do different techniques in the order you would like them done to you. He may or may not pick up on this – but if he’s really paying attention, he will.

Don’t Make It Too Complicated

Your guy isn’t going to remember a string of sixteen different things you did with your tongue. Make it easy on him by picking a few of your favorite moves and repeating them in order when kissing him. For example, start with super soft licking and sucking and then progress to flicking his top lip with your tongue to mimic him licking your clitoris. Suck on his top lip for a few seconds, then flatten your tongue out and broadly lick his lips from bottom to top. Then repeat this same set of techniques a few times.

Having only a few techniques to remember as well as the repetition is what will really drive it home and truly teach him what it is you like when he’s giving you oral sex.

Let Him Know When He’s Got It Right

When he starts going down on you, don’t just sit there quietly – if he’s rocking your world, let him know! If you say nothing, he’ll think he’s doing it completely wrong. When he does something right, gasp or moan loudly and shout his name. Make sure that it’s impossible for him to distinguish the difference from a really great technique and one that’s lukewarm.

7 Oral Sex Tips That Will Have Her SCREAMING Your Name!

By Kaylen Jackson

Oral sex is probably one of the easiest – and best – ways to make a woman orgasm. If you’re not skilled at cunnilingus and there’s another guy who is – even if you’re better looking – the other guy will win out again and again. So shape up your game with these seven oral sex tips – they are hotter than hot!

Slow Pressure

Make your tongue as broad and as flat as you can. Put pressure on her clitoris and lick slowly – like, very SLOWLY. Mostly what you’re focusing on here is the pressure and very little movement. Let up on the pressure say, to blow air on her clitoris, and then put the pressure back on again, still moving very little – if you’re licking, you’re doing it extremely slowly. You may not think that the pressure is doing very much, but this is a great warm up technique that will prime her for more direct stimulation.

Bottom To Top

A lot of guys skip over a woman’s entire vulva during oral sex, sticking only to the clitoris. While it is possible – and probable – that you’ll make a woman orgasm just by licking her clitoris, she’s missing out on the other incredible sensations that come with oral sex. Don’t ignore her vagina or her labia – instead, lick from the bottom of her vagina, slowly, all the way up to the top of her clitoris. You can come back down with your tongue again, or you can let up and start back at the bottom if you want to tease a little more. This will create intense sensations that she probably has missed out on before now!

Tongue Thrusting

Again, this capitalizes on the fact that most guys ignore the vaginal canal during oral sex. Well, you’re not going to. Instead, you’re going to thrust your tongue in and out of her vagina, mimicking intercourse. Don’t use this move when you first start going down on your lover – save it for when she’s really warmed up and craving your tongue all over her!

Spreading Her Wide

Next time you perform oral sex on your lover, spread her legs wide first. Sit her rear on a pillow so she is more comfortable, but make her aware that you want to see, touch and lick everything. Spread her legs wide and put your hands on them to push them away from you while you’re licking her. You can also spread her labia for more intense sensations on the clitoris and inner vaginal folds.

Enthusiasm And Dirty Talk

Enthusiasm is everything when it comes to giving oral sex. If a girl isn’t excited about giving you a blowjob, do you really still want her to? Okay, the answer is probably “yes,” but the point is that enthusiastic head is better than mediocre “let’s-just-get-this-over-with” head. Don’t hesitate to let your partner know how much you enjoy going down on her, and don’t be afraid to spice it up a little bit with dirty talk. Be vocal with plenty of moans and groans (most guys forget this and just expect the girl to make all the noise) and tell her what you’re going to do and how you’re going to do it. If you act like you’re really into it, her arousal level is going to triple!

Doggy Style

Chances are, your girl has never been eaten out doggy style before and if she has, it probably wasn’t all that often. This is a somewhat “taboo” oral sex position considering the man’s facial proximity to the woman’s anus, but if your partner is very clean or this doesn’t bother you at all (heck, it may even turn you on), then next time you give your partner head, tell her to get on her knees and bend over! She will love the naughtiness of it, and she’ll also dig being able to feel and hear what is going on but not have you in her line of sight at all.

Cuddle Time Afterwards

While women absolutely LOVE oral sex, there is something about it that disconnects her from her partner. It’s most likely because she can’t hold his body, kiss him or nuzzle his neck while he’s down south. Don’t get the wrong idea though – just because she really likes face to face time with you, it doesn’t mean that she’d rather forgo oral sex. Give her the best of both worlds by following up a killer cunnilingus session with lots of sweet and romantic cuddle time. This will reassure her of how much you care, and in turn, make her more open and uninhibited the next time around!