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What She Really Thinks About Your Big Penis

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A big penis is something to be congratulated on, right? Being well endowed is what every guy wishes for – and what every woman supposedly wishes for. But having a huge member isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when you look at it from the female perspective. Here’s what women TRULY think about a big penis.

Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

  • Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
  • Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
  • Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

Penis Size – And 4 Other Things He’s Secretly Self Conscious About

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Penis size is only one of the things guys are secretly self conscious about. What else is he worrying about that he’s not telling you?

There are a lot of things that women are self conscious about. Having smaller breasts or a little extra weight is enough to send some women over the edge. But there are a lot of things that men are self conscious about. Men are just as insecure about certain aspects of their body; they’re just a little better at hiding it.

Men have a way of showing confidence even when they are not confident. A guy can know that he’s not the smartest, tallest or most well endowed guy in the room, but he can still make women swoon. Here are some of the things that he’s secretly self-conscious about.

1. Height

Hollywood has trained women to think that a guy is not worth it unless he’s 6’1. If you have ever heard of the Napoleon Complex, then you know the kind of guy that is secretly self-conscious about his height. Height is a sign of dominance. When a guy is taller than other men, there is a perception that he is better than other men.

While most women know that this simply isn’t true, guys can be very self-conscious about their height. A guy that is not even average height certainly will not have any problems finding a girl that is shorter than him, but he might find it hard to have the confidence to approach her. Most women are between 5’3 and 5’7. This leaves a lot of options to guys that are 5’7-5’8 and even guys that are only 5’5, but height is a key factor to confidence.

2. Hairlines

While height is an indication of dominance, hair can be an indication of youth. When a guy starts to lose his hair, it’s a sign that he’s getting older. This symptom of mortality is enough to send any guy into a tailspin. If you have ever met a guy with a receding hairline, you probably know the self-conscious means of hiding it.

Hats are fairly common with guys who are losing their hair. Wacky haircuts to hide the fact that they are going bald are also a key factor. If the guy is loosing his hair and he’s in his 20’s, you are going to find him extra sensitive about this subject. If you ever meet a guy that is losing his hair, try to stay off the subject.

3. Weight

Weight can be a factor for guys, but it’s much more a factor for women. Although guys have been romanticized with six pack abs and bulging muscles, a little weight might not affect them that much. If the guy is very overweight he could be self conscious about it. Weight is such an issue with all people that it can negatively affect confidence levels and self-image.

If your last boyfriend was in great shape and your new boyfriend has a little pudge, it’s only natural for him to feel self conscious about it. Talk to your guy about his weight and see if there is something that you can to help him out. Simple diets and exercise can go a long way in transforming a body.

4. Body Hair

Excessive hair is an extreme turn off to most women. Having a hairy back is not something that screams sex appeal. Most guys that have hairy backs suck it up and head to a salon to have it waxed off. When the summer hits everybody likes to head to the pool, beach or lake to relax. This can be a nightmare for guys that have hair in places that it shouldn’t be. If you have ever met a guy with a hairy back, you probably know the signs. He is hesitant to take his shirt off or avoids situations where a shirt should not be present.

5. Penis Size

By far the most common thing that men are self conscious about is their penis size. The penis is not like other organs. Although there are pills, exercises and ridiculous penis pumps, most men fret over their penis even when it is of average penis size. The signs are fairly clear. Most men will avoid sexual contact with women if they have small penis or constantly bombard them with questions about previous lovers.

One way to reassure a man is to tell them that the sex is good – even great. We all know that you don’t have to have a huge penis size to satisfy a woman and there are positions that will give deeper penetration for smaller penises. Informing your partner that you are happy with them and your sex life is essential to instilling confidence in their abilities and penis size.

3 Sex Positions To Make Her Think Your Penis Is BIGGER!

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Sex positions can work wonders – they can revive a dull sex life or give a woman screaming orgasms. But did you know that the right sex positions can even make your girl think that your penis is larger than it really is! Try these to give yourself a size boost.

Position #1: Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Position #2: Fork & Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Position #3: Froggie Style

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

5 Things Women Want In A Penis

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Penis size is something men are often worried about, but girls look for other traits too. When she sees you naked, she’s not necessarily just looking at how big it is. She’s also looking at how well it can give her an orgasm! Here are five traits that work best with her anatomy.

It Doesn’t Have To Be That Big

A woman’s g-spot is actually only about 2 inches into her vagina – therefore, the myth that men have to have a huge penis to give a woman an orgasm is just that – a myth. A penis can be satisfying to a woman and cause g-spot orgasms if it’s over 3″ long, however, the average penis size is about 5 inches. So in reality, most men are able to satisfy a woman with the equipment they’ve got.

A Prominent “Ridge”

Many girls will favor a prominent ridge where the head meets the shaft. If you follow this ridge around to the underside, you will see it curve upwards into an upside down “V.” When the shaft is erect, this ridge can get very swollen and when it is prominent, it will “catch” on the g-spot and stimulate it during sex. The ridge is much more prominent in circumcised men than uncircumcised men, because the foreskin that covers the head has been removed.

A Wide Head

Again, the head is where it’s at for a woman. This is what will stimulate her g-spot during sex and give her incredible orgasms. Although her g-spot isn’t very big, the wider the head of your penis is, the more it will rub up against it and stimulate it.

A Thick Shaft

The outside of the vagina, at the opening, is also a very sensitive area. You may have seen the rabbit style vibrators with the rotating beads – those are designed to massage and stimulate those sensitive nerves at the vaginal opening. If your penis is very thin, you’re not going to be able to rub up against the walls of her vagina very well. However, if you have a thicker shaft, you will automatically be causing friction and stimulating those hot spots.

If your penis is thin, it’s not the end of the world. Your sexual technique can compensate for it. Simply thrust your penis in a circular motion during sex instead of the straight in-and-out. It may take some practice to get this technique down pat, but it is well worth it. When doing using this technique, you’re going to rub up against every side of her vaginal walls, right where those pleasure spots are.

Slight Upward Curve

The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, on the stomach side – not the butt side. So if your penis has a slight upward curve, it’s simply going to hit the g-spot even better. If your penis goes straight out, that’s not bad either. If your penis curves downward, you may want to experiment with different sex positions to find a way to stimulate her g-spot with your penis.

Doggy style is actually an excellent sex position to try if you want to stimulate her g-spot but your penis curves downwards. Some men have a penis that curves slightly to the left or right – this usually does not affect a woman sexually, unless you are long enough to stimulate her AFE Zone, which is much farther back than the g-spot.

Confidence (And Sexual Skill) Makes A Difference

No matter what your penis looks like, a girl isn’t going to get off with a weak, wimpy guy unless she has a dominant personality and that’s really her thing. Most women want to have sex with a guy that is confident in bed, confident about his body and confident that he can please a woman sexually. She doesn’t always want him asking permission to do everything. A girl wants to get down and dirty with an alpha male – no matter what his junk looks like.

Learn to work with what you’ve got. Study the female anatomy and learn where all the hot spots are. Learn different sex positions to use that help your anatomy mesh well with a woman’s. If you just don’t think you have a penis that will please a woman, brush up on your oral sex skills. Learn to give a woman squirting orgasms through oral sex and fingering and it’s almost guaranteed that she’s not going to care about your penis size, shape or color at all.

Do You Measure Up When It Comes To Sex?

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Sex is what some men are good at and some aren’t – but how do YOU stack up against the best lover your girl has ever had sex with? Can you hold a candle to him?

Women Love Making Comparisons

They compare things like diamond sizes, or this year’s sales with last season’s – wishing to see who’s got the biggest stone, or the more elegant product line. (I told you they’re into details.) Most of all, women love weighing guys against each other when it comes to sex. Some are blunt about it, others are more sophisticated and subtle, but when they compare, boy, do they compare! They’ll weigh a man with just about anybody & anything.

Through comparisons, a girl fishes out who she considers the “best.”

What She’s Looking At

She’ll measure you against her ideal man – that perfect gentleman she’s been fantasizing about since she was 14. She’ll compare how you move, with how he moves. How you do her, and how Mr. Perfect supposedly does it. She’ll note every aspect of you and weigh it against her ideal. This of course, includes your penis size as well. Very easily, you will lose – you are bound to lose. (But don’t worry, if she cares enough, she’ll turn you into a project and begin changing every detail of your soul so you approximate her dream guy. Good luck on that one.) She’ll compare you with all the guys she’s ever had sex with – well, at least those she remembers.

So What About Sex?

There’s a hierarchy of guys in her head and if she’s been around the block more than once, she remembers the losers, the one-night stands and yes, even the breast masher. She’ll even compare her orgasms with you and those she gets via self-service – heck, she’ll even compare you with her sex toys. She won’t readily own up to these superficialities, she may not even notice she’s doing them.

But this does happen, and in this game of comparisons, it pays to be unique. The female brain is always on the prowl for something new, something different. The moment she realizes you’re just like the rest, she will brush you off. A girl can’t attend to every insignificant person that comes her way.

Her Emotions Are Involved Too (Of Course)

Her emotions will certainly command a big share of how she sees you as a bedmate. Everybody may see you as a pitiful excuse for a human being, and therefore a waste of skin, but if you’ve hostaged a woman’s emotions, everything and everybody else don’t matter. You may really lose all comparisons, but if she’s that into you, she’ll let you win! If she’s flushed with EMOTIONS, if she’s sooo head-over-heels, you could ooze with sexual lameness and she’ll still be adoring you.

Letting It Go And Being Confident

By the way, none of these comparisons and emotions thing is objective. They are never objective. Remember, people, especially women, are not logical creatures, although they’d like to think they are. You’re dealing here with judgments that can be muddled by her perceptions, expectations and preferences. (Come to think of it, who in this world is completely objective?)

Many guys ask me: Is it possible that one woman will judge you great in bed while another count you as average?

Of course! Knowing the nature of humans and sex, expect that. Nobody bats a perfect thousand. Accept that, have confidence in bed anyways and you’re golden.