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Sex Tips: The TRUTH About How Women Look At Men Sexually

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Sex tips will get you only so far – understanding the way girls see guys sexually will give you the foundation for a great sex life.

Gorgeous Girls With Ugly Guys?

I’m sure you’ve seen it a million times: the most beautiful woman you’ve seen in years on the arm of the ugliest/nerdiest/oldest man you’ve ever seen. I’m sure your first thought was, “Wow, that guy must be filthy freakin’ rich!” Well, maybe. Maybe not. Either way, that’s probably not the whole story.

The Difference Between Guys And Girls

Men and women become sexually aroused for different reasons. Men are visual, and women are multisensory. While men can get turned on by even a hint of naked flesh, women incorporate all their senses and feelings into arousal. So even if the man isn’t the most visually appealing, he could be brilliant with a wicked sense of humor and smells nice and tastes like chocolate mousse, and, yes, maybe he pays for dinner. One thing you can guarantee, he has admitted to goals outside getting that woman into bed.

When It Comes To Having Sex

Women look at the whole package, or at least aspects of the package you don’t. When men see a beautiful woman, they are physically capable of having sex with her in a matter of seconds, and probably able to finish not long after that. (This is part of the reason Playboy has remained one of the most successful publications in American history, and why Playgirl tanked when gay men got their own porn.) Women, however, need to have other senses satisfied. A good conversation is as erotic to a woman as her low-cut blouse is to you.

Sex And Emotion

This brings us to the next point: to a woman, sex and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A woman has to feel an emotional connection to her partner in order to enjoy the sex. This does not mean that a woman cannot have casual sex. It simply means that there must be an understanding of mutual respect between partners for a woman to be satisfied.

All that requires is for the man to be aware of the fact that there is a living, breathing, responsive human under him. Stated as such, that may be obvious, but it is quite overlooked. While you’re hoping you don’t have premature ejaculation, she is feeling every moment of the process and evaluating it. If you’re ignoring her while you’re inside her, she can sense it, and may see it as a form of rejection. This will not make her want to have sex with you again.

If You Can Make Her Orgasm

So there you go, if the ugly/nerdy/old guy can get a supermodel (and make her orgasm), then by all means you should be able to get the cute girl two cubes down from you. Just appeal to all her senses. And throw on some Barry White. That never hurt anyone.

Premature Ejaculation – Why It Happens And How To Stop It

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Premature ejaculation can really make your sex life suck – learn how to last longer in bed by finding out why PE REALLY happens.

Did you know premature ejaculation is curable by 100% natural methods? By understanding the main reason why it happens you’re about to learn how to stop it for good!

Pleasure Overwhelm

Most men have no idea how to influence how much pleasure they experience during sex. And a huge cause of premature ejaculation in most men is simply down to the fact that during sex they let their pleasure levels get way too high so they lose control and orgasm early.

If you can learn to take control or influence the pleasure you experience during sex so instead of experiencing overwhelm you experience fulfilling maintainable levels of pleasure you’ve just discovered the key to lasting longer in bed.

Learning to last longer in bed does NOT mean making sex boring or pleasure-free. This is why I’ll rarely recommend approaches like “think of someone really ugly” or “do math in your head to distract you”.

Because those things make sex BORING.

What I want you to know about are techniques and strategies that help you control your orgasm, while at the same time keeping sex fun and fulfilling for both you and the woman you’re with.

So to last longer all you’ve got to do is begin taking control of the pleasure you experience during sex and making sure it doesn’t move into overwhelming levels.

Step 1 – Pleasure Awareness

During sex most men have NO idea how close they are to orgasm, but then suddenly it comes along and they think “Oh shoot, there’s nothing I can do.” If you want to last longer in bed you can’t afford to let this happen.

You have to become very aware of your arousal levels and how close to orgasm you are. And doing this is really as easy as just PAYING ATTENTION. When you start asking yourself “how close to orgasm am I?” you’ll know when you start getting close.

And when you realize you’re getting close then implement the second step.

Step 2 – Pleasure Control

When you’re close to orgasm but don’t want to climax yet you’ve got to lower your pleasure levels to prevent that orgasm. There are many strategies for doing this, but two very simple ones are as follows:

Slow Things Down

As dumb and as simple as it might sound – NO GUY DOES THIS! When you’re getting close to orgasm just start thrusting slower. By penetrating slower you reduce the stimulation you experience which means you delay how long until you need to orgasm. If you go really slow you can even end up recovering significant amounts of stamina so in a few minutes time you can speed up again without the need to orgasm straight away.

Change Sex Positions

Another dead simple method to reduce your pleasure levels from overwhelming levels is to TACTICALLY change sex positions.

By changing sex positions at just the right moment in time you can help yourself last significantly longer, because during a position change you get an essential break from pleasure and stimulation. Even a short break can do wonders to helping you recover stamina so that when you get started in your new position you can last much longer.

The Formula For Curing Premature Ejaculation

Just start becoming aware of your pleasure levels and when they get too high take corrective action to lower them to a sustainable level so you can enjoy long fulfilling sex without the worry of premature ejaculation.

Female Orgasm – 3 Ways To Make Sure Your Girl Gets A Jaw Dropping Orgasm Every Time!

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The female orgasm can be elusive, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are three ways to give your girl the best orgasm she’s ever had!

Penetration Alone Won’t Do The Trick

Did you know that direct penetration during sex is unable to bring most women to an orgasm? That is indeed true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. But when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through masturbation than through sex. So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her.

The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remain the same.

The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax.

The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pelvic bone will rub against her clitoris and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Blowjob Tips For Guys – Do You Put Your Hands On Her Head Or Not?

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Blowjob tips aren’t always for the ladies. Men – should you be putting your hands on your partner’s head while she’s going down on you or not?

Holding Her The Right Way

Believe it or not, this can be a big issue for both women and men when it comes to fellatio. It is important to discuss this aspect of fellatio with your partner before embarking on a fellatio session both partners will know what to expect. Remember guys, every woman is different and it is important to know what your partner prefers during fellatio – having hands on her neck while she is going down on you might make her uncomfortable and may even gag or choke her.

Make sure you know what she prefers and also keep in mind that her mood may change and one night she may be feeling particularly turned on and like the sensation of her face and mouth being guided or pushed down on your penis and another night she may be completely turned off or even repulsed by the idea.

Communicate Beforehand!

This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about this before each oral sex session! If talking about this particular aspect of fellatio before the session seems like a killjoy or ruins the spontaneity of fellatio, you and your partner may want to decide on some kind of hand signal or the like for your partner to let you know whether it is okay for your hands to be on her like that or if she dislikes the feeling at that particular moment.

A Secret “Signal”

One of the best blowjob tips to help you handle the “hands on the head” situation because a woman’s mood may change at any given moment during fellatio and if she is okay with your hands being on her neck at first but wants you to remove them later; she can do so without breaking her rhythm.

This is also great if a man begins to push her down on his penis a little too roughly – which can happen in the heat of the moment. A hand signal gives a woman the option to let her partner know if he is restricting her breathing, going too hard or gagging her. Many women will just take their partner’s hands off of them and some will even put them on if they are feeling that this would turn them on.

Similarly, a man may come up with his own hand signal or the like to let his partner know if he would like to do this. Something such as stroking her hair or neck may let her know that he is feeling like putting his hands on her head would turn him on at that particular moment. Just discuss what the “hand signal” will be before the fellatio session so that she will know what that particular movement means.

One of the most important blowjob tips is to never do anything you haven’t asked about beforehand. So this is almost like an unspoken question and your partner will appreciate you “asking” her if it is okay to do it. If the idea of a hand signal to let her know you’d like to put your hands on her head doesn’t do it for you, you can always just ask! No matter what you do, just go with the flow and make sure to communicate with your partner!

Why Some Women Don’t Want You To Control Their Movements

Well, as we said earlier, a man that puts his hands on a woman’s head and either unknowingly or knowingly pushes her down on his penis too hard or too roughly can easily cause a woman discomfort (both physically and emotionally) and even though you may like deep throating, this may gag or choke her or restrict her breathing.  Although this is one of the blowjob tips to avoid, it generally is not dangerous if this happens – a woman will usually just discontinue performing fellatio if she begins to gag, choke or feel uncomfortable but it is important that you preempt any discomfort she may or may not have by being careful when putting your hands on her head.

Disrupting The Rhythm

Many women do not like having a man’s hands on them like this during fellatio because it disrupts their “rhythm” or their “flow.”  They’ve read plenty of blowjob tips and can definitely get the job done and done well. A woman that is skilled in fellatio will most certainly develop her own way of doing things (somewhat like a routine) and will not appreciate you disrupting that! If this is the case, just sit back and enjoy the ride to orgasm – if she’s good enough not to need your hands on her head to guide her to please you, then you certainly are in for a treat! On the other hand, some women enjoy having a partner’s hands on her head – it may make her feel like his “guiding” her makes her efforts in pleasing him during fellatio more accurate. Either way, it is really up to the woman as to what she prefers while she is performing fellatio.

(For The Ladies) Why He Likes It

A man will often want to put his hands in a woman’s hair so that he can enjoy the feel of it’s softness and then pull it back a little so that he has the added visual stimulation of the best view of her lips wrapped around his penis, not just a mass of hair blocking his sight. Tussled hair is very sexy and being willing to let him get his hands wrapped up in it shows that little “naughty” side in the bedroom and your willingness to get wild with him when the two of you are alone.

Ladies, a clear way for you to let him know you want his hands on your head is for you to take his hands and put them there. He’ll appreciate the eagerness you are showing in letting him know it’s okay for him to engage his hands on your head and in your hair and be an even bigger part of the blowjob.

The Best Erogenous Zones Below The Belt

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Erogenous zones underneath the navel don’t just include the clitoris – there’s a lot more! Check out these erogenous zones you probably didn’t know about.

You probably think this is going to be a guide to the clitoris. Well, you’re wrong. There are other erogenous zones below the belt you can touch her besides between her legs. I will break it down into regions for you so it’ll be easier to comprehend.

The Booty

I’m sure that you go for the booty-grab at every moment you can sneak on in. She leans in for a kiss – grab the booty. She gives you a hug – grab the booty. She’s doing dishes – grab the booty. When you’re in bed, there’s also the booty smack. Before you incorporate this move, be sure she’ll be down for it. I don’t mean you should stop while you’re railing her from behind and say, “Excuse me, miss, would you mind so much if I smacked that booty?” You should be comfortable enough with her to know in advance how she’s going to react.

Then there’s the more sensual approach to touching her booty, and that is the tickle. You can use your fingers, a feather, or anything else lying around. Start with her back. Caress her so lightly that you hardly make contact with her skin. Move down toward her lower back. Hang out there for a while as her body relaxes. Trace the sides of her hips, and finally, right where the thigh and the buttocks meet. Move away, and come back every once and a while. It will send shivers through her whole body. Especially to the spot you want to stimulate.

The Knees

The knees are an often overlooked area when it comes to erogenous zones. You can give fluttery little kisses around the kneecaps, or tiny bites on the sides of the knee. The real pleasure center here, though, is the back of the knees. Now, most women are quite ticklish on the backs of their knees, but if she’s relaxed, it can give exciting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks. Make sure you use only the lightest of touch, but caressing her behind her knees will give her a thrill even she’s not expecting!

The Feet

Never underestimate the power of the foot massage. It’s become a bit of a cliché, but its effectiveness has stood the test of time. Women typically wear all kinds of crazy shoes. If you give even five minutes of a good foot rub, it will ease the tension of the day. Use slow movements to make it a more erotic massage, and add some lotion to your palms to help glide along the foot. She will be so grateful, she’ll want to come up with some way special to thank you!