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Stop Premature Ejaculation – With This 95% Effective Breathing Technique

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation can wreck your sex life. Use this simple technique to say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

What you may not know is that for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in your body.

What Happens Before Orgasm

Think about what happens normally to your muscle during sex just before orgasm. They tense up, right? In particular you’ll notice that your leg and butt muscles tense up the most. The reason they tense up is because in order for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of tension.

Orgasms don’t just happen out of nowhere. A process has to happen inside you for them to happen. And the body’s natural process for experiencing an orgasm is to tense up and then release that tension through orgasm.

But what happens if there’s no tension? Well then it’s a LOT more difficult for you to experience an orgasm. And this is quite simply because the fuel needed for your body to experience an orgasm isn’t there.

If there’s no tension, you will struggle to experience an orgasm.

What does this all mean?

Well it means that if you want to last longer in bed and stop premature ejaculation then you need to take control of the tension in your muscles during sex.

Eliminating Tension From Your Muscles

Now you may have already guessed from the title what the best way is to eliminate tension from the body – the right breathing!

What 99% of men do during sex is they breathe many quick shallow breaths. It happens instinctively. Our breath is pretty much the LAST thing on our minds during sex.

So our subconscious mind just goes into default mode and breathes quick shallow breaths because of all the excitement it’s experiencing. Sex is an exciting experience for us so our lungs naturally react by taking in quick shallow breaths.

Unfortunately quick shallow breaths increase tension levels. This is because your breath and your body’s state are INTIMATELY linked. So if you breath in a nervous, excited and tense way then your body’s state will mimic that and you will ejaculate too early.

But the opposite is also true!

How Breathing The Right Way Will Help You Last Longer In Bed

You can take advantage of the fact that your breath affects it, because if during sex you instead consciously breathe in slow deep breaths, your body reacts in a totally different way.

Inhaling deeply and slowly relaxes all your muscles. It’s just how humans work.

This is why arts like yoga and Tai-Chi make such a BIG deal out of breath. Because it has a DRAMATIC affect on the state of your body.

By influencing the state of your body you influence how long you last in bed. Remember earlier when I was talking about how tension is needed for orgasm? Well, this is where the whole idea of  breath comes in. By inhaling slowly and deeply you relax all your muscles. And by relaxing your muscles, you HUGELY reduce the tension in them too. Without tension, it’s much harder for you to reach orgasm.

Without the fuel for orgasm it’s MUCH easier to last longer in bed and ultimately stop premature ejaculation. So, in other words if you want to stop premature ejaculation just consciously breathe slow and deeply during sex.

Filed Under: Erectile Dysfunction / Last Longer In Bed Tagged With: have better sex, last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, sex tips

9 Ways To Get Laid On Vacation

By dicksinthecity

The sex tips for your vacation is as follows: Get some! It’s really not a very good get away if you can’t get some action while you’re away. Here’s how you can get laid on your next trip!

What She Said:

Set the intention of finding a casual fling for your vacay – odds are you’ll meet someone with the same goal!

Go Tropical

Nothing says “vacation” like getting lit on rum and trying to limbo. It’s a great way to show that you’re fun loving, you’re loosing up and you’re willing to shed your inhibitions! It’s also a great way to get a preview of who’s the most flexible amongst your potential flings. Bonus – the warmer the climate, the fewer the clothes.

Go On A Singles’ Cruise

Yep, it sounds cheesy – and yes, they do still exist! However, if you’re willing to set aside you’re skepticism, odds are you’ll be knee-deep in fun. What else are you going to do, stranded together in the middle of the ocean?

Hit The Bars

No matter where your getaway takes you, bars and alcohol are the universal combination for folks who want to socialize and let their guard down. This is doubly true when you’re at a tourist destination. Make eye contact, start up a friendly conversation and see where it leads.

Flirt!

Be it the restaurant, the bar or in line for the next parasailing spot. If you see someone you’re interested in, give him or her a smile. You’ve got nothing to lose!

Ask

Vacations aren’t reality – they’re an escape from the daily grind. Therefore the normal rules don’t apply. Approaching someone with a bold proposition that might get you slapped back home could be just the ticket for a freewheelin’ traveler. Especially during Spring Break or Burning Man. Just saying!

What He Said:

Be Direct

You don’t have forever to make this happen. You are on vacation for a short, specified time. Make the most of it. Go big or go home. Being shy just isn’t get this done. You need to have some confidence, liquid or otherwise.

Forget Who You Are

You are not your job or your home life or your obligations. All the stresses and duties you have at home are at home. Not on vacation. So if you’re not the type of person to have a threesome or have a one night stand or pick up someone at a bar, who cares? You aren’t that person on vacation. Be that guy or girl you’ve always wanted to be.

Be Fearless

What do you care if someone slaps you for being too bold? What do you care if you get shot down? You’re on vacation? You’ll never see these people again! It’s not like you vacation in the place you live and work! That’s not much of a vacation. So you go somewhere new and exciting, and you go there for a reason. So go for it! Say and do things that you wouldn’t normally. That’s what a vacation is. An escape from reality. Own it. Embrace it.

Take Accountability

It’s your vacation. Ownership of it is on your shoulders. If you have fun or you don’t, if you have sex or you don’t, it is on you. You can’t control other people so having goals based on other people may not be so great but make sure you control things on your end and you can’t go wrong.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: booty call, casual sex, have sex, sex tips

Tantric Sex – How To Transform Your Partnership

By loveandsex

Tantric sex can bring you and your lover closer than you ever have been. Here’s how to get started – your sex life (and relationship) will never be the same!

Great sex can be any kind of sex – hard, fast, thrusting is good, but your partner will get bored of this easily, because there is little emotional connection involved   This is where Tantric sex comes in. In tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for an orgasm.

It’s All About The Approach

Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now,” with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy.

However, this kind of sex takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.

Designing An “Intimacy Space”

If you explain this procedure to your lover, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space.” Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambience created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.

Breathing Together

The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your lover. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom sex position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your lover breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!

Take Your Time

Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

Maintain Eye Contact

Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your lover and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: foreplay, sex tips, tantra, tantric sex

Cunnilingus Tongue Exercises That Will Make You AMAZING At Oral Sex!

By loveandsex

Cunnilingus isn’t something you’re born good at. Learn how to work your jaw so that when you go down on your partner, you’ll be GREAT at it!

Why Keeping Your Mouth In Shape Is Important

A common complaint from those who aren’t used to these techniques, or the time needed to get a woman to reach climax, is that their mouth or jaw gets tired after a few minutes of interaction. If you fear this issue, or if it’s been a problem in the past, here are some suggestions to get your tongue in tip-top shape.

Stretching

Take your tongue and stick it out as far as it will go. Wait for a few counts, then try stretching it out even further. The trick is to move it further without moving any part of your head or mouth. Next, touch your nose (or try to) with it, then stretch it towards one ear, then the other, and finally towards your chin. With each pass of this circle, try and extend it even further out. Start with one circle a day then slowly move your way up to five a day.

Darting

See how fast you can dart your tongue in and out of your mouth, trying for the longest extension possible. Do this ten times, in and out, in five seconds, and you’ll be an oral sex master. Then, try and do the same thing, but moving it from side to side. Four minutes of this exercise a day is more than enough, and something to work towards.

Slow Circles

Purse your lips closed and try to make your tongue as flat and wide as possible. Then, try and keep it in contact with the sides of your mouth at all times while moving it slowly in circles. Contrary to the last exercise, this is one of precision rather than speed. Five circles in each direction is an excellent start, with 50 as the ultimate goal.

Butterfly Moves

Take your tongue and make it flat; use a mirror if you need to. Then, take just the tip and curl it up, then down, without moving any other part of your tongue or mouth. Start really slowly to make sure you’ve got the movement down pat, then get faster and faster until your tongue resembles a butterfly flitting her wings. The first day aim for thirty seconds of this, moving your way up to five minutes straight. This is a maneuver you want to use on your partner’s clitoris!

Curling

If you can (not everyone is able to) curl your tongue so that the edges touch. Then stick your tongue out of your mouth while it’s still curled up in a ball. Do this back and forth ten times, getting up to fifty eventually.

Establishing A Rhythm

If tongue exercises aren’t your bag, then there’s another thing to try: think of giving head as a meditative state or a piece of rhythmic music. Find a rhythm that works for both you and your gal, and then do something to remind yourself of it. Maybe there’s a perfect song tempo that you can time yourself to (so make sure to have it playing in the background), or maybe it’s a rhyming device that works for you. No matter what it is, make sure that you commit your system to memory, so that when the time comes, you can repeat it over and over again until she reaches orgasm.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, oral sex, sex tips

Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

By loveandsex

Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: ask a girl out, attract women, Dating Tips, female orgasm, fingering, flirting, foreplay, g spot, orgasm, sex tips

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