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5 Ways To Get Her To Give You Head More Often

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Blowjob tips are essential if you want to get good head in your relationship. Getting head is something no guy wants to turn down. But what if you’re not being offered? Here are five things you can do to get your girl to want to suck you off.

OK, even if your wife or girlfriend “sometimes” gives you head now, I still recommend you read (and reread) this article. It’s all in the name of getting a great blowjob, but what I teach you in the next few pages will do wonders for your sexual connection, your woman’s desire to try new things and the amount of FUN you guys have in the bedroom together.

Here’s a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Get Her Turned ON!

If you don’t already have a sex life with your wife or girlfriend, or don’t know how to get things heated up, learn! It’s not all about techniques – it’s about igniting her sexual desire for you. Also, don’t be shy about giving her oral sex. She’s not going to want to go down on you if you never do it for her.

2. Change How You Feel About Getting Head

You need to permanently change your thinking around getting a blowjob. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat them as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

3. Do Not Beg!

Don’t beg… EVER. Your woman needs to see you as a sexually powerful man. Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and feel confident about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

4. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

5. Share The Experience With Her

Start thinking of oral sex as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. She will love this! This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!

Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

  • Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
  • Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
  • Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
  • Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

First, let’s talk about why you are not pleasing him through oral sex…

Three Mistakes that MOST Women Make Consistently and the One Killer Mistake that ALL Women Make When Giving Head

Mistake #1: Awkwardness and Feeling Tired After Just Several Minutes of Giving Head

Most women can start a blowjob right but never finish because of tongue muscle cramps and jaw locking. When these happen, men feel the tension (and more often than not, sharp teeth!) and get turned off.

Mistake #2: Seeing Blowjob as a Tedious Chore

You CAN learn to enjoy blowjob just by being adventurous and playful. If you can see blowjob as a way to express your sexuality, you will never have to feel tired or bored while giving head.

Mistake #3: Lack of Knowledge of the “Hot Spots: on the Penis and the Whole Gonad Area

There are specific areas on a man’s penis which increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

And, finally, here’s the most common mistake that lead to annoyance, discomfort and relationship tension….

Mistake #4: Some Women Do NOT Develop a Fail-ProofSystem to Make Him Climax through Oral sex

To really learn the skills to make him climax through blowjob, you must develop a system to vary, combine and intensify the pleasurable sensations men feel while being blown… and they let their men confuse them even more with barely thought out instructions on where to lick, when to suck harder and when to speed up…

If no consistency is achieved, what results is a hit-and-miss blowjob style that only works at certain times. This lack of consistency makes women feel more inferior about their blowjob skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on…

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

  • Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
  • Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
  • Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
  • Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
  • The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
  • Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
  • Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

Still not sure? Read Our Review of Blow His Mind Tonight.

4 Incredibly Naughty Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your sex life. If you want to add a naughty element, try these 4 super hot rear entry sex positions tonight!

1. The Partial Wheelbarrow

Ask your partner to bend at the waist in front of a chair or bed, and get her to rest her head and forearms there comfortably. Stand behind her and grab onto one of her ankles, pulling her leg off the floor so that it’s close to your hip. Tell her to keep her knee bent and limp in your hand, so that you can push against it when thrusting so as not to hurt her. Then enter her from behind, making sure she’s still got one foot on the floor and she’s using her head and arms to balance herself. Put your free hand on her opposite hip, and move inside her using her hips as the pivot point.

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You get to thrust to your heart’s content and get an amazing view of her jewels, while she gets the head rush of being face down, with all the G-Spot stimulation she craves. She can also create a lot of tension using her arms, and the angle from keeping one leg up in the air changes the feeling in an oh-so-orgasmic way. Vary things up a bit by bending your knees slightly for a slightly different angle. Whoever is able to reach can tickle her clitoris for extra sensory pleasure.

2. The Rocking Wheelbarrow

Get your gal into a push up position with her arms outstretched and her body off the ground. While standing behind her, lift one of her legs onto a rocking chair, while you hold her other bent leg just below the knee. Ask her to keep the leg on the chair as straight as possible while you enter her. She’ll be able to push back against the rocking chair for leverage, and you’ll be able to hold most of her weight. Use the chair to determine the rhythm, or have her push back with her arms and chair-bound foot. You’ll definitely want to have your knees bent for this position, and try to focus your thrusting upwards instead of into her body.

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We’re relying on her feeling of weightlessness again to help her along the orgasmic process, but this time she’s got a bit of extra help with the rocking chair. The chair helps with rhythm, helping to hold her steady while you have sex, and gives her something to help create tension, which we both know is incredibly important for a woman to reach an impending orgasm. Although she won’t be able to finger herself, she will get ample G-Spot stimulation along with a definite fun factor. This isn’t a position either of you will be able to hold for long, so try it out when she’s nearing her explosion stage, or when you’ve both got energy to spare.

3. Flying Doggy Style

Have your lover lie down on her stomach and do a push up, keeping her body straight and her legs bent. Come up behind her on your knees and grip her outer thighs as you slide into her. As you lift her pelvis, get her to wrap her legs around your back, while bending her knees even more and putting her calves behind your lower back or buttocks. If she’s in the correct position, her feet will face the ceiling and her bum will be flush up against the base of your penis. Support her weight with your hands, or place a large stack of pillows under her hips to help keep her in the right position  Glide your bodies back and forth in unison, but not too vigorously or she’ll lose her balance. The higher you’re able to hold her up off the bed, the more G-Spot stimulation she’ll receive.

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There’s nothing like doggy style sex for deep penetration, but the flying doggy takes deep to a whole new level. Play around with how you move inside of her, since only subtle movements are possible here. Try short, quick strokes to massage the area where her G-Spot sits, or try long, slow, languishing strokes where she uses her feet to pull you back inside of her. If she gets tired as she nears climax, have her tilt her head down while she props herself up on her forearms. This way she’ll still be suspended in air, but she’ll have better balance and less back strain.

4. Over And Under

Have your partner position herself in doggy position on the floor with a small table, chair or even a few pillows next to one of her legs. Get her to put one leg up on the support next to her, so that her leg is perpendicular to the floor and completely straight. Come at her from behind, placing one of your legs inside hers, the other outside her straight and propped-up leg. Kneel down with the majority of your weight between her legs and enter her. Your leg on the outside will likely only drape over hers without touching the ground, and that’s just what you want.

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You’re coming at her from an odd angle in this position, yet both partners have leverage to push back or thrust deeper. You’ll be a little off balance too, which might give her a rush from the unusual rhythm and thrusting, especially if she’s nearing the pre-orgasm phase. Because your body is propped up against the length of hers, you may be able to take one of your hands and sneak it underneath her for some clitoral action. If you can’t reach around, try pushing firmly on her mons pubis and see if you can feel your penis moving inside her. If you can, apply more pressure to sandwich those special G-Spot area nerve endings, and see if it brings her closer to orgasm even faster.

99% Of Women DON’T Know How To Give A Blowjob – Are YOU One Of Them?

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Almost any guy can get a blowjob and ejaculate. But does that mean the blowjob was great, or even mediocre? Not hardly!

In fact, chances are, almost EVERY blowjob that your guy has gotten has sucked – and not in the good way! (And this includes the blowjobs he’s gotten from YOU)

Why?

A recent study from Men’s Health magazine shows 44% of men would leave you for some other random chick with better blowjob skills. This actually happens.

You may have a great personality and looks, but when your man discovers another woman who sucks like an angel from heaven, your relationship may collapse worse than a house of cards in a thunderstorm!

Why Is Giving Great Head So Important?

You might think that this is shallow – that guys should be more interested in the mutual love and trust that comes from a great relationship, not how good the sex or oral sex is. But studies and polls show that almost half of guys who are dissatisfied with their sex lives are unhappy because their partners either don’t give them head at all, don’t give them enough head, or are so bad at it that he’d just rather her not do it at all.

Are YOU one of those women?

Listen, finding a woman who can give an intensely satisfying blowjob is a rare find indeed. She is one in a million – a guy who finds a girl who can suck him off and actually ENJOYS doing it will get a ring on her finger in no time. In fact, he may not even get his pants zipped up before he’s running off to the jewelry store. Yes, learning how to give incredible oral sex is the KEY to snagging the man of your dreams.

Then keep reading. We found an incredible resource that will teach you not only the basics of giving a guy head, but tips, tricks and techniques that he’s NEVER had any other girl use on him – guaranteed! He’ll be so surprised when you give him a blowjob like this that he’ll brag about you to all his guy friends – and his guy friends will want you to teach THEIR girlfriends how to give head that good!

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will teach you how to be the one that every man will actually want to keep and truly fall in love with! (Yes, your oral sex skills are that important!)

WARNING: It’s only fair that we warn you that these tips and tricks are SO HOT that your fella will be begging for you to go down on him ALL the time. If you don’t want to unleash the beast and make him think that you’re a complete and total sex goddess, then don’t read this book. But if you’re ready to see how hot things can really get, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will show you how to work your man’s member in a way that will make his knees weak, make his legs shake, and make him say your name over and over!

What You’ll Learn In Jack’s Blowjob Lessons

  • Attitude. This is essential. If you have the wrong attitude when you start going down on him, you’ll be lucky if he can even get it up. This guide will teach just how important attitude is and how to come across the right way. You’ll also learn little tricks and techniques that help him to pick up on your attitude so you KNOW you’re conveying the right thing.
  • Blowjob Positions. Positioning yourself for comfort is also incredibly important – a huge reason that girls don’t enjoy giving head or don’t do it very well is that they’re uncomfortable. So they suck on it for a bit and then move on to having sex, because hey, who wants a crick in their neck? But there ARE blowjob positions that will keep you comfortable for hours while you give your man the greatest pleasure he’s EVER experienced!
  • How to set the atmosphere and how to engage in foreplay. Foreplay isn’t just for women. Sure, men can get hard in a few seconds and get it on, but does that mean it’s really GOOD? This guide will show you how setting the right atmosphere and engaging in plenty of foreplay will get your man so hot, he’s trembling before you even put your lips on his penis.
  • Blowjob Techniques. What would a guide about how to give head be without several specific techniques you can use? These are easy to learn and easy to follow, but your man will wonder where you picked them up and just how you got to be so darn good at giving head! (This includes deep-throating – if you can learn how to deep throat during oral sex, he’ll be yours forever.)
  • Dirty Talk. Guys want to hear how much you love sucking them off. Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will give you specific examples of things you can say that will get your man so turned on, he’s gasping for you to finish him!
  • Spitting vs. Swallowing. Semen is one of the biggest reasons that women avoid blowjobs. They think it’s “yucky” and sometimes it is. But this guide will teach you how to swallow or discreetly spit in a way that still makes your man think that you LOVE it when he ejaculates after a blowjob.

What People Are Saying About Jack’s Blowjob Lessons:

“I tried it when my boyfriend came home, we had dinner, and then I said I wanted desert and he asked me what I wanted and I said, “I don’t know but I want this” touching his penis. He loved that, lol. I did the “smart housewife” and oh my! Lets just say last night was awesome! And the best thing about it is I enjoyed sucking my boyfriend’s d**k!” – Victoria

“Let me start by saying WOW!!!!!  We have been married 19 years and together 8 years before that.  My husband has always been good at letting me know what felt good and we often experiment new ways.  After a blowjob he would say “Oh that was great”  So as you said I thought I was doing a good job.  Bought your book last night browsed through it.  Last night I surprised him with a late evening blowjob. His reaction at the end game point “F**K OH F**K WOW, OH MY, WOW F**K, THAT WAS THE BEST EVER I MEAN EVER REALLY I MEAN EVER!” – Cliona

“Dude I just wanted to say thank you…my girlfriend bought your book and was telling me about it and then tried so much of that stuff on me. I really appreciate all that stuff you had the balls to write in your book. You are definitely one of my new heroes for sure. Thanks again man, also thank the ex porn star also, my girlfriend loved her advice!” – Brian

So are you ready to take the next step and become the BEST lover your man has ever had?

Are you ready to give your fella a blowjob so good, he’s dripping with sweat and can’t even stand up afterwards?

Do you want him to brag to his friends about how amazing HIS girlfriend is at giving head?

Get your copy of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons TODAY and give your guy head so incredible, he’ll never want another girl again!