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How To Get It On When You Have Kids

Sex tips often cover the “how to” but not necessarily the “how.” If you have little ones, having sex can be a challenge. Check out these ways to get busy!

Baby makes three(or more), but does it make for a happy sex life? Generally, couples have more difficulty maintaining a healthy sex life when they start hearing the pitter patter of little feet. But does having kids really have to mean the end of intercourse, or sex in general as you know it? No, no it doesn’t. But how do you keep the passion going? It’s easy when you know how.

What She Said:

I have no children (at least none that I know of) but I come from a family of 5 kids and I’ve been around enough couples with kids to know that it can be hard to find alone time. With kids around, you almost have to resort back to the ties you started dating and back to quickies. You might not have the time or energy for a whole night but you can always find 10 minutes for a quickie. Have sex in the shower! Or set the alarm a few minutes early you can have some mommy and daddy time.

When kids go down for a nap, you two should also head to bed but for other reasons. Get a lock on your door too, if kids ask, don’t lie but let them know you are just having some of your own nap time. True it might be awhile until you have hours of sex but having a quickie a few night a week is all you really need to keep the spark going and it should not interrupt kid time.

What He Said:

The most important thing is to simply accept the reality of the situation: your sex life has changed. For the next 20 years or so, you have a child and that child requires constant attention. Having a child will change your sex life forever, that is a fact. Whether or not that is a change for the better or worse is up to you and your partner. If your sex life goes in the toilet, don’t go blaming it on your kid. It’s not their fault.

Sex will be different. The biggest thing that is affected by kids is the spontaneity. You will never have that again. Yes, you should have date nights and staycations where you go to the hotel and screw like single people, but your sex life from now on will have to be scheduled. Budget it into your day planner, and don’t worry about whether or not you want to do it or not. Being in the mood is hard when you have kids, and if you wait till you are in the mood to do it, you might never have intercourse again.

The main way to get it on when you have kids is just to plain have sex. Period. Doesn’t matter how long it lasts or if it’s good or not. My philosophy is that sex is like pizza. There’s no such thing as bad pizza. There’s okay pizza, good pizza, great pizza, mind blowing pizza. But it’s never bad. It’s only bad when you don’t have it.

A funny thing will happen to you when you and your partner start screwing regularly after having kids: you’ll remember how much you love doing it. You’ll be happier, more relaxed, and the intercourse will begin to flow freely like beer at a frat party. Then, suddenly, before you know it, you’ll be in the mood again, and the sex will be awesome, if not in quality, certainly in quantity.

Again, the consistency factor is the main way to get it on when you have kids, but ownership is just as important. You’ll need to take ownership of your sex life like never before, and you’ll have to get it in all of your heads (get it?) that your sex life is going to be the best it’s ever been and nothing else will be entertained in the slightest. This may require a various array of tools in your sex kit: swinging, sex toys, vibrators, strap ons, tantra, sensual massage, porn, weekend getaways, whatever it takes. You two are a team and you should be committed to the goal of great sex, and not really care how it gets there.

Remember, above all else, that it is possible to have a healthy, regular, erotic and sensual sex life even after multiple children. It will take a bit of work, but it is totally doable (see what I did there?) And it’s a worthwhile goal. And yes, it takes practice, but isn’t that the fun of it?

How To REALLY Please Her In Bed

By lloydlester

Orgasm is something every guy wants to give a girl. But is that all she wants? Find out how to go beyond a female orgasm and give it all to her.

There is more to becoming a better lover than just the mechanics of sex. A man needs to be both the bad boy as well as a sensitive man in order to please most women. There are techniques that will work in various circumstances that any man can use and will turn any guy into a Don Juan. If you are ready to be the type of man who can please any woman in bed and prime her for wild screaming orgasms, then read on!

“Seductive Orator”

Tell her you want her. Sounds simple enough, right? But so many men just jump right into sex without even saying these words. Women need to connect at an emotional level before they can truly get sexually aroused. Tune her in, get her into the mood. Words have an extremely powerful effect on women.

Tell her how much she turns you on, that you were thinking of her all day and how much you want to give her an amazing time in bed. Get into the head of a woman FIRST and you will be the lover she has always dreamed about!

“Sensual Kisser”

Most men do not kiss long enough. And many women complain that they receive too little kissing from their lovers. In order to be the man of her fantasies, make sure you do not neglect her in this department. Her lips and tongue have millions of sensitive endings waiting to be stimulated, so light up her erotic passions through these areas. Put your tongue to good use and give her long, lingering kisses!

Don’t just focus on her mouth. Kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders too. Kissing is a great prelude to sensational sex and can turn on the “orgasmic furnace” in a woman like nothing else can.

“Whimsical Lover”

Lovemaking can get mundane for both you and her after a while, especially when you are in a long term relationship. That is the last thing you want in bed. In order to keep sex exciting, you need to be a bit unpredictable in the bedroom. One way to do this is to break out of your routine and do something new.

A new position, a new place to have sex – anything to get out of the rut! No one wants the same old, same old when it comes to sex. And an unpredictable move on your part is bound to light her passions and orgasmic fire!

How To Get Her To Make A Sex Tape For You

By serenapaige

Homemade porn made just for you is a wonderful thing to have. But just how to you get your lover to do a sex tape? After you use these tips, she’ll WANT to!

Making a sex tape with your girlfriend can be fun and exciting. However, if your girlfriend or wife is not exactly keen on the idea of being on camera, there are a few things that you can do to convince her. Making sex tape is not like it used to be. Nowadays with the Internet, everybody is extremely weary of where the tape might end up.

The camera on your cell phone has the ability to capture your sex life with the utmost detail. Making a sex tape literally takes the push of a button. If your girlfriend or wife has told you no in the past, you might be able to butter her up with these easy methods.

Build Trust

The number one reason the girl would not want to make a sex tape is the fact that they don’t know whether or not he could hurt them in the end. There are a lot of websites that pay great money for amateur porn. If your girlfriend has told you know in the past it might be because she does not have enough trust in the relationship.

Telling your girlfriend that you would never sell a sex tape to a website or upload it to a free porno site is probably not enough to sway her interest in your sexual fantasy. Her girlfriend doesn’t trust you there’s no way that she’s ever going to make a sex tape with you. Build trust in the relationship so that she knows you would never do anything to hurt her, including releasing a sex tape to the public.

Alleviate Body Issues

Another reason that some girls will not make a sex tape with their significant others is the fact that they have body image issues. Girls are just like guys, they have insecurities when it comes to physicality. If your girlfriend or wife does not have enough confidence in herself or in the way that she looks she will be strongly weary of making a sex tape with you.

Even if she knows that the sex tape would only be viewed by you and her she could be afraid of how she looks onscreen. Reassure her that she is beautiful and that you think making one could be a fun and kinky way of spicing up your sex life.

Ease Her Into It

Making a sex tape is a lot like having sex for the first time. The last thing you want to do is jump right into it. Ease her into it by starting off slow. Start off with a tape of you performing oral sex on her or her performing oral sex on you. Watch the tape together and then delete it together.

Once your girlfriend or wife sees the way that she looks on camera she will probably be much more open to making a full-fledged sex tape with you. She will also be reaffirmed by having the video deleted. Once a girl sees that the video she just made can be deleted forever she will probably be much more open to making a real sex tape.

Get The Lighting Right

The lighting for your sex tape should always be in the favor of the girl. If there is bad lighting in the room imperfections of your girlfriend or wife can easily stand out. Not everybody has perfect skin so it is a very common issue for people to get nervous on camera. Make sure that the lighting in the room isn’t going to show off her bad qualities.

With high definition video imperfections can easily be seen, bringing in and to your sex tape before it even begins.

Film Without The Face

As the cameraman on this shoot, you can easily convince your girlfriend or wife to make a sex tape by leaving her face out of it. The face is the most identifiable part of the human body. If your wife or girlfriend has refused to make porn in the past it’s probably because they don’t want it wanting up on the Internet so that friends and family can see.

If you assure her that you’re going to leave out the face, meaning both your face and her face, there will be no identifying parts to lead back to her or you. Girls are just as worried about somebody seeing you in the sex tape as they are of seeing themselves. Once you have completed the tape without filming her face, watch it together. She may even be game for keeping it since it would not lead back to her or you.

How To Use Flirting To Create Sexual Tension

By loveandsex

Flirting is the most powerful way to engage someone – but what if you want to take it one step further? Here’s how to use flirting to make things sexy.

Use Reverse Psychology

One of the most powerful ways you can attract women is by playfully rejecting them. What’s your instant reaction when someone tries to sell you something on the phone? You reject them. Dating is similar.

If you really want the woman to “make the move” and be naturally drawn towards you, then psychologically push her away.

Turning down a woman is the icing on the cake, the finishing touch to your flirting, that locks in her decision to be with you. While this form of flirting can be done early on, you need a decent amount of flirting and teasing before these techniques become effective.

FACT: People don’t reject ideas that they perceive to be their own.

The keyword here is “perceive.” Curiosity makes women think, and the more that they think about you, the more they believe they must want you.

The best way to come up with your own rejection comments is to “put yourself in her shoes” and think like she does.

For example, you might say:

“No funny business! I don’t even know you yet”

“No hanky panky.”

If she wasn’t thinking about sex with you, she will be after this statement. That’s not to say she’ll actually want to have sex with you, but all you want to do at this point is get the idea in her head.

When To Use Sexy Flirting

At Your House

These are great lines to say when you walk in the door together from a date, or after she arrives for a date at your place. Think about it. How many guys do you think she’s heard even say this? This would baffle most women straight away. It tells her that you have standards, and aren’t just looking for sex. It also tells her that you aren’t that easily impressed.

When She Gets Touchy With You

When a woman touches your arm, leg, or any part of your body, you can say these lines and they work great. This makes the woman look like she’s being sexually aggressive.

After You’ve Piqued Her Curiosity

This is after you’ve asked a question that she wants the answer to. Slowly move away and as she tries to grab you and keep you still.

Once this has happened, a window of opportunity has opened up for you. Now continue to tease the woman about her sexually aggressive behavior.

You might say something like:

“You just want me for my body.”

“I’m not just some piece of meat you can have your way with.”

“I have feelings too you know.”

“Geez, women only want one thing.”

“I need to be careful around you.”

“I’m watching you.”

“When will women ever learn.”

“I’d prefer it if we just TALKED.”

“I may just have to get a restraining order on you.”

“For all I know, you could be a stalker!”

7 Things You Have Been Doing Wrong During Anal Sex All This Time

By loveandsex

Anal sex is something many couples try, but are they really getting it right? Maybe not. Are you making these seven anal sex mistakes?

For generations, anal sex has been considered a no-go by women out there. But although this “national epidemic” is widely reported, the reason that the situation is such escapes most men.

The fact is that women, as much as men, are telling researchers more and more often that they would like to experience anal sex. So what’s the deal, where does this contradiction come from? The answer is simple: in the vast majority of cases, it’s the men that the women are complaining about; men don’t know how to do it properly, so that their respective wives and girlfriends really experience the pleasure.

The secret is to persistently commit to fix the problem. If they don’t, the doors to the women’s derrieres will irreversibly slam shut in front of them.

1. You Don’t Think You Need To Learn Anything

When it comes to anal sex, you don’t just rely on your instincts, on what nature taught you unknowingly. You need to come prepared, with your lessons learned, if you want it to be an awesome experience for both of you, the first time and many times that will follow. Anal is not just sticking your penis inside her bootie and shaking it all around. You should be aware of her anatomy, how her body works, what you can do to stimulate her at the right time, etc. If you don’t enter the situation sufficiently informed, you are not going to rock her world, but convince her that “no” was the right answer after all.

2. Your Manual Is Porn

Another thing that confuses you and stops you from performing at your full potential is the misinterpretation given by the porn industry. Anal sex is not as easy to master and straightforward as you see it in your XXX collection. Those movies never show you that you need a lot of time to warm her up properly, the guy never uses lube and he’s hard hitting right from the start, while the girl screams with pleasure.

Professional porn stars are either stretched out or they are using a numbing cream or gel to dull the pain. Another possibility: they start filming after having injected tons of lube inside her bootie and after she’s been aroused to some extent, so that the act seems real and doable. Don’t believe those that are trying to convince you that it’s not a big deal, because, in fact, it is.

3. You Don’t Talk To Her Beforehand

Women are scared. Yes. They get cold sweats and shivers when they think about it and the only thing that would mend this is just a few words of encouragement from your part. Not the “you’ll see, you’ll like it” whispered by surprise, when you’re in bed, not that one. That doesn’t count as the talk. Approach the subject in a non-sexual environment, and make sure you give her all the support, promise of protection and patience she needs.

Take your time and assure her that it will be ok, it will feel good and it won’t hurt. Talk it over. Find out exactly what makes her hesitant to try it and then see what you can do to belie her fears. Communication is a big deal for women; you ought to know that by now.

4. You Don’t Stimulate Her Enough

It is important that she is very turned on before you even go near her derriere. When she’s really heated up, her body is much more open to you than if she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Otherwise, instead of giving you the moans and groans and “keep doing it” look, she’ll just respond with a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with lube, get her relaxed with kisses and caresses, maybe a good dose of cunnilingus.

It’s also important to create a non-intimidating, sexy atmosphere. Lower the lights, put some good music, massage her, everything you know she needs in order to loosen up both physically and mentally. Anal sex is not suited for a quickie. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools you have — use it to your advantage.

5. Once You’re There, You Lose Your Focus

Once the hardest part is over and you find yourself inside her, you need to continue to be highly aware of every move you make, since being too rough can cause her considerable pain. You cannot thrust into her anus as hard as you would into her vagina. Take it easy and pay attention to how it is making her feel.

If she tells you to stop, then stop. If she tells you to get out, then get out. If you get selfish and focus on your pleasure over her potential pain, this will probably be the last time you’ll have anal sex with her.

6. You Don’t Let Her Set The Pace

A big part of the fear that women feel when it comes to anal sex is that they are helpless in this game of power play. If you want her to agree to it and also love the experience, let the action happen on her own grounds. Let her hold your penis and guide it slowly inside of her anus. Even if it takes her half an hour to insert an inch, let her do it. If you surprise her with a sudden movement, the thought of having lost the control will make her even more scared. Just talk to her while she’s doing the job, seduce her mind and she’ll really let loose.

7. You Neglect Her Other Lady Parts

The sensation of touching the anus or rectum alone may feel uncomfortable for your girl, but couple it with penetration or oral sex, and suddenly it’ll feel much better. If you keep her mind busy with an awesome clitoral orgasm, she won’t mind the back action that much. For example, while you’re fingering her anus, kiss her really deep on the mouth, so that she feels you’re still connected.