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How To Make Your Lover Orgasm Faster During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is fun, but when you’re going down on someone for what seems like hours, it can get boring!. Here’s how to make your lover orgasm fast during oral sex!

Why You Want To Get Down To Business!

When it comes down to oral sex, some people just dilly-dally. They do one thing or the other. This and that. No rhythm. No awareness. That’s wrong.

Oral sex for a woman isn’t just about a man going down on a woman’s vagina, licking her clitoris, and bringing her to orgasm. That’s just basic stuff that we learn right from the get go.

When a woman goes down on a man, she shouldn’t just suck and lick and that’s it. She should involve her hands!

The hands are the key to making anybody come faster.

Oral Sex For Her

Whenever you go down on a woman, you want to kiss her vagina all around and do it really slow. Kiss all around her lips. Take your tongue and flick it in very slowly. Don’t go for her clitoris right away.

When you finally do kiss it, it’s like almost like the flower opening. Every time you kiss her vagina, it just opens up just a little bit more and a little bit more and a little bit more.

You will be able to feel the moisture on your lips. Take your lips and just move them all around so she can feel and anticipate the gliding. Of course going by her clitoris several times so she starts building up pressure inside her body. When you finally do go for her clitoris, slip one finger deep inside her and go right to her G spot, because if you spend enough time getting her prepped, her G spot at this time will be swollen and spongy.

It will feel great to touch.

Then start licking her slowly, changing your techniques up, figuring out what type of rhythm she likes. At the same time, start taking your finger and moving it back and forth on her G spot, adding pressure and building that pressure up ever so slowly. Now she has two sensations going, she’s got her G spot going and she’s got her clitoris going. She’s going to come really fast. She might come from both spots at the same time and explode all over you!

That’s hot!

That will get her wanting more, desiring more, thinking about more. That will distinguish you as a good lover.

Oral Sex For Him

If you’re a woman, don’t immediately go suck a man’s penis.

Kiss his body, tease him, kiss his inner thigh, lick his balls, get involved in the whole area before you go right for his penis and just start sucking. When a woman just goes and sucks on her partner’s penis instantly, it almost feels like he needs to start masturbating. It won’t work for him at all!

He will love when you start altering between his penis and his balls. It will feel great when you start sucking both of them. A favorite move men love when a woman is sucking his penis and tickling his balls at the same time, or playing with his balls or tickling the perineum.

Get your hands more involved because then you’re going to give him the best blowjob of his entire life.

This is how you master oral sex!

You don’t just go for it, you tease, touch and use your hands. Use everything that’s available to you. You’re going to give your partner and lover one of the best experiences they can ever have.

Should You Use A Vibrator?

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Sex toys can improve your ability to reach orgasm more quickly – and it can increase the intensity of your climax. But is a vibrator something you need or not?

This is about whether or not to bring the vibrator into the bedroom with the new guy that you’re dating.

Why You Shouldn’t

The vibrator is very intimidating for a lot of men. Our tongue cannot move 10,000 miles an hour. Our penis is not designed to pulsate as well as penetrate. We’ve seen women have orgasms with the vibrator where they lose their minds, screaming at the top of their lungs, and then we’ve also had women that have had orgasms with us with nary a moan or peep.

As a man, we want to be able to make you scream with our own tools: our penis, our fingers, our hands, our mouth. We want to be in complete control of your body.

It’s our ego. It’s who we are. It’s what we’re all about as men.

We talk about it.

“God, I made her come four times!”

We count the orgasms.

We need to know that we are masters of your body when we sleep with you.

Why You Might Want To

But we do like to also have fun. We don’t mind the vibrator as long as the vibrator’s introduced as a tool to assist our penis, hands and mouth—not as competition.

We want to be able to go back and tell our buddies:

“Yeah, it was great the other night. I was licking her clitoris and then I stuck the vibrator inside and she just came so hard, in so many different ways. Then I was on top of her and she used the vibrator on her clitoris and she was screaming and just so wet!”

That’s how we like the vibrator. We want it to be a tool on our utility belt. We don’t want it to replace us.

We don’t want to see or hear about you using the vibrator and having many orgasms. We don’t want to have sex and be unsuccessful in getting you to come, and then have you look at us and say, “Don’t worry, baby, you got me to this point. The vibrator’s just a finisher.”

As a man, we want to be the only thing your body requires, give or take a little water and a few meals per day.

That’s it.

Food. Water. And our penis. Any more than that, and the insecurities kick in. Because men are insecure also—don’t let the machismo fool you.

So if you’re interested in keeping your man happy, be graceful with how you introduce the vibrator, or consider just leaving it in the drawer altogether.

The Real Reason Why He Didn’t Call Back

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Dating tips are essential if you want to understand how men operate when they start going out with a girl. Here’s how to tell why he won’t pick up the phone.

Why He Didn’t Call You Back

You’ve talked to all your friends.

You still get no answers.

Now it’s been about three weeks and he still hasn’t called.

You’re thinking, “What should I do. How come he hasn’t called back?”

Here’s the deal: he didn’t like you in the way you needed to be liked. Sometimes it’s tough to hear that, but look at the evidence:

You text him and he doesn’t text you.

You call him and he doesn’t call you.

It wasn’t anything you said. It wasn’t any conversation that went wrong. It just wasn’t there for him.

What You Can Do About It

We get so offended in life when someone doesn’t respond to us the way we want it to. The reason why we do that is because we just don’t meet enough people. We stay in our little bubbles and then get upset when our social lives aren’t what we want them to be.

Most women will just go out and meet a few men and that’s it. Most women won’t go on many dates, so the reason why women get so upset about the man not calling back is because they’re not going out and meeting men every single day.

They’re not living from a place of abundance, so they stress over the insignificant few.

It’s an abundant world. There are men everywhere.

The issue is that we all too often separate our normal lives from our dating lives. So instead of chatting up the cute guy at the grocery store, you ignore him and then wait for Friday night out with the girls.

You only give yourself those few hours to meet someone, and ignore the other 98% of your life!

Women don’t realize their feminine power. A woman in touch with her sexuality, who isn’t afraid to start conversations and be flirty, will not have to worry about men not calling her back.

If you meet men every single day, you will not be obsessed about that one guy. You’ll just say “he wasn’t into me” and move on. Plus, you probably have other prospects on the horizon. The real reason why he didn’t call you back is because he wasn’t into you. But that doesn’t matter.

Realize that there are men everywhere for the woman who knows how to flirt, knows how to initiate conversation, and knows how to get what and who she wants.

Follow these dating tips and be that woman!

Why You Suck At Meeting Men

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Dating tips aren’t always right – some lead you in the wrong direction. Here’s the truth about why you’re bad with fellas and the dating tips you REALLY need!

Most women aren’t very good at meeting guys for many reasons, but the biggest is that girls are passive, and they wait for the man to do all the approaching.

Let’s get into reality right now.

Most Guys Are SCARED Of Girls!

95% of men walk around with fear. They’re absolutely terrified of meeting women.

So you’ve only got about 5% of men out there that actually know how to approach women.

The problem is, most of you women think that if a guy’s good at approaching, and comfortable talking to strangers, then you shouldn’t trust him. You tend to think that “he must be doing this all day.”

So, if only 5% of men actually approach women and you don’t trust 4% of them, then you only have 1% of the total population of men available to you.

Isn’t that crazy?

So how do we do change this so you can go out and meet 100% of the total population of men?

It’s simple.

Using Your Sexual Energy

You go and turn on your sexual energy. You stop being the prim, the proper and the prudent, and you let out the woman inside that disregards her inhibitions, and expresses herself courageously.

This is going to be fun, but it’s going to take some mental work on your part. You’re going to access that part of you that you may not have used since grade school: your imagination.

With every guy that you’re attracted to, imagine the best sex you’ve ever had in your entire life when talking to him.

That’s right.

Think about having the best orgasm you’ve ever had with a man. Close your eyes if you need to.

And then when you open up your eyes and you’re staring at a guy, talk to him from that “turned-on” perspective. Imagining that sexual state, and allowing yourself to feel it, is going to change the way you walk, talk and behave. He’s going to sense your sexuality and it’s going to be a huge turn-on. Trust me.

He’ll hang on your every word.

You’ll be in control.

You’ll be able to talk to a lot of men and find the guy that you’re supposed to be with.

You’ll find the one—a love that you need.

But you can’t go out and meet these great men if you stay passive and refuse to express your sexuality. You’re going to find boring, passive men, because that’s what your putting out into the world.

SO you want to meet the right man for you?

Be real, and take action.

Should You Engage In After Breakup Sex?

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Sex tips are essential when you are breaking up or going through a divorce. Getting back into the groove can be problematic for everybody.

Divorce is trying on emotions and the sex life. But there’s nothing better than that first orgasm you have after a breakup. And we’re not talking about the orgasm you initiate yourself.

For most people, during the course of a divorce or during a marriage that’s not functional, their hand (or vibrator) becomes their best friend. Where do you think the acronym B.O.B. came from?

You know: battery operated boyfriend.  It came from women that were frustrated during the process of being separated and getting divorced or breaking up.

Get Over The Frustration

I understand the frustration that occurs—sexually and otherwise—during a breakup. And it’s too bad really. But there’s nothing better than after breakup sex.

It’s almost like going to a car dealer for the very, very first time and smelling that new car smell.  There’s nothing better than the new-person smell, especially after the last one was so stinky and old and had too many miles on it. I’ve been there.

I’ve been married 2.5 times, so I know all about after-divorce sex.  The anticipation, the build up—oh my god, it’s so good! I’ve got to tell you, the first time you look at another person’s eyes, you look deep into them and you think to yourself “all I want is sex.”

All I Want Is Sex

“I don’t want to talk about the kids.  I don’t want to talk about money.  I don’t’ want to talk about anything. I just want you to do me, all night long.”

It’s the best foreplay you will ever have.

The first time you sleep with a new person after ending a relationship—whether it’s divorce or just breaking-up a relationship—consider that the person is literally re-taking your virginity all over again.

Some of you have cobwebs down there; it’s been so long.  Some of you are really, really rusty. But here’s the deal—and remember this because it’s really important: the first person you sleep with after you separate is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Don’t Make This BIG Mistake

Think about it. You are full of emotion, full of desire and infatuation.  It’s lust.

And a lot of people go into the mistake of getting involved in relationships with somebody right away, because the sex is so good, because that’s what was probably  is lacking in your relationship.  Usually when people are going through relationship issues, the sex stops.

So, of course, it’s the first thing you want to replace, because you’ve been deprived for so long.  But, it’s also the biggest trap. That trap is hot sex. The first person you sleep with after a relationship ends is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Remember that the next time you have that lust.  You need to spend time alone after a relationship ends.  You need to go back and get some good sex, have some fun, figure out what life is all about.

Don’t Fall Into This Trap!

Don’t fall into the trap of getting with that person that wants to do you in any way, shape or form—they’re really just feeding off of your sexually energy.  Because when we get out of a marriage or relationship, we’ve got incredible sexual energy.

It’s almost like a little kid being let loose on the playground.  It’s almost like the first day of school.  It’s almost like going to the best buffet in Vegas, all you can eat.

But the problem is, you don’t want to hit a buffet every single night.  You certainly don’t want to be in school forever, and you certainly can’t be in Vegas for longer than 48 hours.

So, think about that the next time you’ve got some good after-breakup sex.  Or if you are going through a break-up right now, don’t get trapped by that great buffet.