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9 Mistakes That Will Make Her Never Want To Have Sex With You Again

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Sex isn’t as cut and dry as you might think it is. Make any one of these nine sex mistakes and you can guarantee she won’t want to do it again – EVER.

You just had sex with her. Congratulations! You got laid! But will you get laid by her again? The answer is, it depends. On what? How well you rocked her world and how many sexual mistakes you made. What kind of mistakes?

What She Said About Bad Sex:

It’s really not fair what women put men through. I will admit we are a lot of work, and a lot of foreplay but when you get us, you got us and we can make you feel like King of the World. When you don’t get us, we will easily pack up our little self and walk out the door because we are women and there are other men. Some mistakes men make that lead women to never want to have sex with them again are:

  1. Jack hammer her from beginning to quickly reached end. Unless she says to you verbally, “Give it to me like you are 17 and don’t know what you are doing.” Don’t go at her all rabbit style. The huffing and pounding is not good for anyone. It will be hard for her to get into it and will most likely lead you to coming way too quickly.
  2. Skip foreplay. Why, why would you do this? If you want her to think you are the man then you need to warm her up! Take the time and kiss her, feel her, lick her all these things are good things and hell while you are at it, go down on her! She’s more likely to return the favor.
  3. Orgasm too soon. I know sometimes men can’t help themselves and lets face it, us women are pretty damn hot, so it makes sense that they sometimes lose control but guys should last longer then one Bruno Mars song. This is when foreplay comes back into, well play. If you think you are going to blow your load, why not slow down and focus on her. Or switch up sex positions. If none of that helps then think about baseball or your aunt whatever.
  4. Orgasm too late. By this I mean the rare (but they exist) guys that can go on and on for hours without the help of drugs. Don’t get me wrong we are super impressed that you can have hours of sex but after a while (and after we have come a few times) things start to chafe and sometimes we would rather have a sandwich.
  5. Don’t shower. A smelly guy is never ever a turn one and we will not be putting our mouths on anything that smells like sweat, dirt or a port a potty. Irish Spring yourself!
  6. Remind us of our fathers. Enough said.

What He Said About Bad Sex:

Women should give it up more, just for the sheer about of crap we have to go through just to get you naked. I mean seriously. All’s fair in love and war, my ass! Anyways, here are some other mistakes you should avoid making:

  1. Not cuddling. Even if you’re just hooking up with her, women like to feel a certain level of intimacy after sex, even more so if you’re in a relationship. Pumping and dumping will make her never want to screw you again. I know there are reasons you might have your orgasm and then not cuddle. Maybe you have a leg cramp and need to walk it off. Maybe you just have to pee. Hold it. Or you won’t get to hold on to her again.
  2. Not calling the next day. You should always leave a woman better than you found her. Part of that is what I call “the art of the dismount.” That simply means how you end the relationship or the interaction is as important or more important than what you did during the interaction. Always text or call the next day, even if you never want to see them again or if you just didn’t have a good time. You never want to leave her feeling cheap, easy or used, even if she spent her sexual encounter with you bound, gagged and begging to be treated like a whore. (That’s only fun in the moment.)
  3. No oral sex. There’s no excuse for not going down. IF you need tips, and tricks, just tell her. Most women are ecstatic to meet a guy who wants to get better at going down. But not giving her oral sex is a huge way to guarantee that you’ll never get to go down on her again.

Sex Positions He Likes Best

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Sex positions can change up in your sex routine, but what does HE like best? How can you make sex better for HIM (and have him drooling all over you)?

What She Said About Sex Positions For Him:

I’ve always assumed that guys would like “woman on top” best because it offers them a great view of a sexy naked lady, her glorious breasts and her blissful face. Plus with her on top, the man can just lie back and relax a bit. But, I recently came to find out that some men find “woman on top” emasculating! Not emasculating enough to kill the mood, but being ridden by a woman is not always a favorite among men. (I know, I was shocked too!!!)

Naturally, I then assumed the missionary must be a favorite for men. In this position men can control everything and just go buck wild on their women, or so I thought. Turns out lots of men do not like this position due to the large amount of work and effort they have to put into it. One guy told me it was like “Doing push ups constantly.” YIKES! So I am officially done assuming. And yet, I can’t help but make an educated guess that maybe men like doggy style. In doggy style they can rest on their knees and not have to exert so much energy and they don’t have to look at their partners face.

What He Said About Sex Positions For Him:

So, it’s true, dude on top requires quite a bit of upper body strength, especially tricep strength, which I’m sure you are endless fascinated to learn. I prefer the woman on top, not so much because it’s a nice view (it is) or because women get off way easier (they do), but because so many women are lazy when it comes to sex, but they can’t be when they’re on top.

I can’t tell you how many girls just lay there when you’re on top or they expected you to do all the hip action in doggy style. It’s like they just go “okay, here’s my vagina. Now begin dispensing out the multiple orgasms.” Last time I checked, this was a team sport, right? It does take two to tango, yes? Apparently millions and millions of women have not received this message. I blame feminism and Sex In The City. And of course, Oprah, because we all know every woman on the planet is powerless in the face of Oprah and they just do whatever the hell she tells them.

That’s why woman on top is so great. She has to do all the work, she has make the orgasms happen. Reverse cowgirl or reverse woman on top are more great sex positions, especially for ass men. It’s great stimulation (mentally and physically) for both parties.

Doggy Style

It’s hard to beat doggy style as far as sex positions go. There’s something so raw and primal about it. I think all men love the “me tarzan, you jane” aspect to it. It allows deeper and more intense penetration which is a plus for both parties. And there’s something about that position, simply because it allows you to hit it like a home run in the bottom of the ninth, you know? You feel like a god, because you’re tapping it with a vengeance, she’s penetrated like in no other position, and so she’s screaming in ecstasy, which makes the guy feel like a rock star who screws like a porn star, and there’s just nothing wrong with that.

Missionary

Missionary can give many men the same primal power, but as I mentioned earlier, it does require quite a bit of upper body strength and many men find they don’t last as long because their body gets tired, and when that happens, the breathing gets shallow and then before you know it, it’s over and that may not be what you both had in mind. You might want to consider other sex positions.

Standing

If you can handle it, another one of the hottest sex positions is when the man sits on the edge of the bed, the woman sits on his baby maker, wraps her arms and legs around him and then he stands up and they do the horizontal mambo while standing up. A lot of men can’t hold that position for very long, for obvious reasons, so you can either, pick her up and lean up against the wall or do it like that for a while and then sit down on the beg again. You don’t need to hold that one long, women love that one for many reasons! It takes a bit of practice, but is well worth it!

Foreplay Moves That Girls LOVE!

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Foreplay is essential for a woman to enjoy sex, so you’ll want to make sure you’re doing things right. Check out these foreplay moves she will really love! Girls are complicated creatures. Unlike guys, girls take a bit more time and work to get all hot and bothered. Yet, if it is done right AND LONG ENOUGH the payoff of having a woman begging for you is well worth it. Here are some moves that can help get her fire going.

What She Said About Foreplay:

1. Tease Her

Seduce her. Take your time with a woman, even though you may be hard and ready to go, she may need to warm up. So don’t head for her boobs or clit right away, work your way there. Start with kissing her neck and shoulders also rub your hands along side her body. Pay attention to how excited she is getting and go slow.

Spend minutes, note MINUTES, not seconds on her neck, then spend MINUTES on her legs, then spend MINUTES kissing her back. Spend time lots of time on her. Think of her body as a treasure map but before you get to the buried treasure, you need to work your way there. Caress her legs and arms and kiss her everywhere. Make it a game to not touch her near her clit nor on her boobs and see how super excited she gets. This is foreplay!

2. Repeat #1.

Seriously, do what you just did all over again. Even though you may feel like you spent “forever” kissing her, she needs more foreplay. She needs more touching all over her body.

3. Mix It Up

Keep doing the above steps but vary your touch and pressure and use more tongue. Now would be a good time to add massage oil and rub her down.

4. Talk To Her!

While doing foreplay steps 1-3 talk to her. I am not saying you need to have a full blown conversation, nor do you need to get all poetic or dirty talk on her. I mean tell her how sexy she is, how hot you are getting, how you can’t wait to feel all of her. Tell her how fantastic her body is and how you are the luckiest bastard in the world that you get to see her half naked or you get to kiss her.

Praise her whole body with your touch and your words. I know it sounds corny but in the heat of the moment shit like that can really get a girl going!

5. Repeat!

Seriously, do it all again until she is begging you to have sex with her. And if you really want to score major points, tell her that you want to focus all on her. So if she starts to go down on you, stop her (if you can), and tell her you want this night to be about her.

What He Said About Foreplay:

1. Take The Scenic Route

Look we all know where this going. You want to have sex of some variety, but women love foreplay moves that aren’t shall we say as direct. Pay attention to the parts of her that men rarely notice, like the elbows, or the navel. Start to make a beeline towards the boobs or the vagina, then make an abrupt turn to the right and start to work your way away from it, then go back, coming just a little bit closer, but still not making contact with the target. Repeat this, until she just can’t stand it. Then do it again.

2. Tell Her No

Men are usually all about hitting it, getting off and then going to bed. Do number one until she’s literally begging for you to have sex with her. Then don’t. Until you feel like she’ll put a gun to your head unless you sleep with her. If you can do this right, you will own her and she will love you for it.

I have two friends who are masters of this. Some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen are falling all over these guys no matter if the women are single or married, or if the guy’s in shape or not. One of my friend teases women he meets at work to a tee. He’s a bartender and he’ll pick up a girl at the end of the night and take her home. He’ll engage in foreplay and tease her until she just can’t stand it and to where she’s on the verge of having an orgasm just off the anticipation. Then he’ll say “You know what? I’m really tired from work. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick up where we left off in the morning.” Then he actually goes to sleep. This drives the women nuts.

They literally can’t process it. He always gets laid when he wakes up and often then start molesting him as soon as the sun comes up.

Another friend does a similar move, he’ll tease, please a bit, stop, tease some more and then say “Okay, that’s all you get for now. You’ll get more later, if you’re good.” Then he cuts them off. This drives them nuts and this kind of teasing women love.

Should You Date Someone Who Still Lives With Their Parents?

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Should you date a person who still lives with their parents, or should you call the date off without getting to know them? What is the right thing to do?

You’ve met someone. You like them. They like you. You really hit it off. But there’s a small problem. They live at home. With their parents. And they aren’t in college anymore. Should you date them? Should you kick them to the curb?

What She Said About The Date:

Yes, but if it is a temporary living situation. Lots of men (and women) are forced to move back in with their parents for different reasons but that doesn’t mean that they are a loser. People get laid off, people get out of relationships and sometimes they need to shack up with mom and dad for a few weeks. Things happen, but if a guy lives at home and is adamant about getting out soon or knows it is only temporary then cut him some slack.

If you meet a great guy who happens to be in between jobs then that’s okay.  The key is that he knows he needs to be constantly looking for a better job and has drive and passion. If this guy never left home (and he is over 21) then you should not date him! If he spends all day on the couch playing video games and has his mom dad his laundry you should not date him!! Your life is not a romantic comedy and he is not Matthew McConaughey. You should have the instinct to know if he is a loser or not and living at home should not be an immediate red flag. His way of handling it should be.

You can’t fault him for getting laid off or needing to be home to help an ailing parent. And he should talk about getting out there, on his own feet and actually do things that prove he is trying. Dating a guy who has had some financial problems but has passion is a lot better then dating a guy who has his own place but is a douche bag.

What He Said About The Date:

Yes, there was that movie where Matthew McConaughey got tons of sex while living at home, but that’s only because A) it’s a movie and B) he looks like Matthew McConaughey and he can get sex even if he had a strap on dildo attached to his chick. Which is reason 3,432,324,993,120 that ever man hates him and will kill him if they have a chance and think they can get away with it.

Does the fact that your partner lives with their parents make them a bad person? Well, they certainly aren’t a serial killer (that you know of) but it’s not a great sign either. Sure, things happen, but when you have to have wild hot, nasty, “knock stuff over” kind of sex, where are you going to go to have the intercourse exactly? In the car? At your place? In the park? Camping? You definitely want to take into account logistics of actually spending time together (and yes, having sex) when your date lives at home with the ‘rents.

There’s only so many times you can take your partner to the swingers club just so you can have sex without having to worry about waking your parents before it gets old. Sure, that’s at least six months to a year away, but it can and will happen.

Dating a partner who lives at home is like anything else, it can be a deal breaker, but if they’re the right person, then they’re the one? Who cares if they’re in their late 40’s, living at home and their mom is still doing their laundry and cutting the crust of their sandwiches? What’s wrong with that? Nothing, that’s what.

Dating a guy or girl just because they have money isn’t a great reason to date someone, but it tends to be a quite comfortable one. You don’t need money to have a good time and dating doesn’t require money, if you have ample amounts of creativity. So you shouldn’t just kick someone to the curb automatically for lack of funds. Give it a go, and see how it feels. You might really like this person. There’s no point in killing a relationship for no good reason.

You should always give them enough room to hang themselves or rope you in. Then, if you get to that point, where you know definitively how you feel about them and more importantly what kind of relationship you want from them, then you can make the call and go forward from there.

Sex Positions She Likes Best

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Sex positions can make sex even better, but guys don’t often consider what a girl wants. Here are some of HER favorites you can use for great sex tonight!

A happy woman is vital to your sex life! Everyone knows men and women love sex, but which sex positions do women like this? Here are some tasty treats for you and your lover to try out!

What She Said About Sex Positions For Her:

All of them! OK, I know I represent a small majority of women who love sex in every form and position! And I am lucky enough (and work out enough) to have confidence in my body and allow myself to have a healthy body image. I think two naked or half naked bodies doing the horizontal mambo is super sexy! But, there are times when I prefer one position over another.

I have to say that woman on top (WOT is my favorite! When women are on top they can control the speed and depth. Also being on top is perfect for a women to find the right position that rubs her clitoris. Sometimes leaning forward, sometimes leaning back can do the trick. Doggy style is also a winner in my book and great for women who may feel self conscious about their bellies or boobs.

There is something so animalistic about doggy style that I think is a turn on and its also a great position for a guy to bite and nibble on your back and neck! Or he can just hold on to you with his hands, and man hands on a woman’s hip is super erotic. In doggy style, women can control the speed and depth too, just tell your guy to stay still and you can just back your ass up!

What He Said About Sex Positions For Her:

Okay, am I the only one that didn’t know WOT = woman on top? Really? I am? No one sent me the memo? That’s cold.

The sex positions she likes often boil down to either A) which ones she ‘knows’ will get or off or B) the ones that show off her best angles and make her look good.

Ideally every woman would have the confidence in their bodies that old men do. Any guy who has ever gone to the gym knows what I am talking about. They are old, they are fat, and they are naked. Constantly. And they want to have long, in depth conversations with you and they never, ever want to wear clothes. Ever. Not a stitch of modesty, or inhibition, why, I will never know, but every woman should be so uninhibited.

The more uninhibited you are, the more you enjoy sex, and the more sex positions you will enjoy.

Woman on top is great for so many reasons, chief among them the ease in achiving orgasm. I don’t care how unskilled the male lover may be, there’s no way the woman isn’t getting off on top. It’s just not possible. Not only is it guaranteed, her orgasm on top is usually quick and easy. She’s probably going to get off in that position before the man in her life.

I’m not sure it’s as efficient in achieving female orgasm as woman on top, but in my experience, every woman loves to do it standing up. Not every guy has the strength to handle it, but if you can handle it, another great sex position that every woman is sure to enjoy. I’m not sure why they love it so much. Maybe because it’s so primal, and so intense.

Mentally and physically, because you’re being penetrated in a way that is primal and intense, like no other position, and it’s a great measure of trust. He’s literally supporting you and you have to hold on to him in order to not fall and hurt yourself and potential him as well. It is not a position that a couple finds themselves in for super long (as it’s very taxing on the man and easy to get tired and then someone could get hurt), but it’s a pretty intense and amazing position.

How do you pull it off? The simplest way to get into this amazing sex position for women (and men) is to have the man sits on the edge of the bed, the woman sits on his baby maker, wraps her arms and legs around him and then he stands up and they do the horizontal mambo while standing up. A lot of men can’t hold that position for very long, for obvious reasons, so you can either, pick her up and lean up against the wall or do it like that for a while and then sit down on the bed again. You don’t need to hold that one long, women love that one for many reasons! It takes a bit of practice, but is well worth it!

You can then sit back down on the bed, and easily transition back into woman on top or another position.