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Second Date Ideas That Will Win You A Third

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Second date ideas can be difficult to come up with – you’ve already made a good impression, now where do you take it? Check out these killer second date ideas!

You can’t repeat yourself and go to the same type of establishment twice in a row! The best second date is a place with some sort of movement, action and opportunity to be competitive. Places such as:

  • Shopping mall
  • Mini golf
  • Movies

Because you now have the ability to move around you can flirt with more than just your words. Think competitiveness. Here are some examples.

Shopping

During a shopping session you’ve got many conversation topics at your disposal. Starting conversations should be easy with all the shops, items and people around.

Shopping is great because it shows you’re not trying to impress. You’re both constantly moving, which makes the experience much more energetic and lively, a great way for her to remember the date.

Mini Golf

Mini golf is a great active date that you’ll both enjoy. Make sure she’s the “fun type;” unfortunately some girls believe they’re “too cool” for activities such as mini golf. If she is too cool to play, it’s a good indicator that she’s not adventurous and fun. The only rule is to take the game very light-heartedly and maintain emotion, drama and tension throughout the entire date.

Movies

While the movies can be a great place to take women on dates, it’s not recommended for the first date. It’s hard to spend time together with someone when you can’t talk during the movie. Regardless of whether it is your first date or a later date, make sure it’s a film that’s been screening for some time so there won’t be that many people in the audience.

How To Create Sexual Tension On The Second Date

The best way to create sexual tension is to mention it. Let the woman know she’s being “too suggestive” by sitting next to you in the theater, or wherever you are. You can pretend to define an invisible wall between the two seats to make it perfectly clear that you don’t want her temptations to get the better of her. Alternatively, move somewhere leaving a gap between the two of you and then wave to her implying you’re now at a safe distance.

You might get a soft hit or disappointed look but don’t give in. After you’ve made your point you can move back to where you were. This technique shows you’re not eager and are accusing the woman of being the aggressive one. It’s fun, flirty and she’ll love it, whether she admits it or not.

BONUS TIP: When you arrange your second date, get the woman to meet at your place first. When she arrives just leave straight away and head off to your destination in your car. This way it’s only natural to come back to your place afterwards.

3 Standing Sex Positions That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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With most standing sex positions, at least one of you will require a fair amount of strength and/or stamina to execute it properly. Most that I came across were either ridiculously difficult or they didn’t provide enough stimulation for the female partner to conceivably orgasm.

That’s why there are only a handful of positions in this section but all of them are great ones to try out and come highly recommended from my clients, fellow experts and readers alike.

1. The Door Is Ajar

Have your lover stand with her back against a door jam and lean her head back. Stand upright and facing your partner, so that your legs are between hers and your back is against the other side of the door jam. In tandem, scoot your legs forward until your penis and her vagina meet; you’ll likely need to bend your legs, and she’ll sit on them slightly. Enter her and grasp her bum firmly. Have her hold onto your shoulders or put her arms around your waist or neck if she’s feeling off balance or wants some support.

Have her push her back firmly against the door jam while you thrust up and push her back and forth along your pelvis. To get out of this position, as it’s a bit trickier than the others, bend your knees until you’re squatting down. When her legs reach the floor again she’ll be able to hop off effortlessly.

Climax Cue

This is a hard position to sustain for any length of time. If her legs come off the ground because of a significant height difference, you can make it easier on both of you by squatting down more. You can also have her bend one leg and drape it over one of your elbows, then lean to the opposite side slightly and put her foot on the ground. It will open her up more as well so you can penetrate even more deeply.

Whatever you do, don’t let on that the position is a difficult one for you. If it is, move on to another position after you give it your best shot for a short period before you try something else. The feeling of weightlessness is a huge turn on for most women, but knowing that you’re struggling will bring her back into reality when all you want is for her to let go. If she wants to move around more, or feels like she’s not getting enough clitoral or G-Spot stimulation, suggest she lean back even more and move her hips in a circle, grinding herself into you and rubbing around to find more G-Spot pleasure.

2. Kneeling Face To Face

Face your partner and kneel on the floor together. Scoot forward so that you are extra close to one another. Place your opposing legs flat on the ground with your knee bent, and slowly inch forward until your privates touch. Lean forward to connect your penis to her vagina. To move, take turns lunging forward.

Climax Cue

There are few better positions than this one to even out the odds between you. With this move, you are both in the exact same position, performing the same moves. Provided you are about the same height and are both doing the same amount of work, plus both your arms are free to roam and play, perhaps to tweak nipples, coddle her clitoral head or pinch her buttocks. There won’t be a lot of heave-ho in this position, but because you are so snug against one another, she’ll get tons of clitoral stimulation grinding up against you, and even better eye contact to slide towards orgasm.

3. Get A Leg Up

Are you ready for this? Get your partner to do the splits mid-air, so that one leg is on the floor and the other is lifted as high toward the ceiling as it can go. Walk up to her and hold the outstretched foot, bending down slightly to enmesh your bodies. When you start having sex, you can use the one hand on her hip and the one on her leg as leverage to move. If her leg gets tired, have her bend it at the knee and lock it over your elbow instead for a rest.

Climax Cue

She’ll be off balance in this position, which isn’t a bad thing if you want to catch her arousal off guard. Just make sure that she’s supported well enough so she doesn’t fall over, and she’ll be able to enjoy the unusual angle and experience. Pull her close when you want to rub up against her clitoris, or ask her to finger herself if she’d prefer. Make sure your knees are bent to offer her enough clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, as you won’t thrust terribly deep in this position.

5 Easy Blowjob Techniques To Start With

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While a blowjob might sound pretty simple, just putting your mouth on your man’s penis doesn’t mean that you’ll actually be able to do it well. To give great head, you’ve got to experiment with different techniques and moves to find the ones that absolutely set your man on fire! Every guy is going to be different – one guy might really get off on you licking his scrotum while you grasp his penis tightly in your hands, while another guy might love it when you suck firmly on the head of his penis.

It’s important to pay attention to a man’s body language when going down on him and if one technique doesn’t work, it’s time to move on to another. Just make sure you give your guy enough time to decide whether he likes the technique you’re using or not. Don’t move too quickly between techniques without giving him enough time to get used to what you’re doing.

1. Licking The Lollipop

While licking alone doesn’t necessarily feel awesome for your guy, it’s a great warm up technique because it gives him an excellent show! You don’t want to use a licking maneuver halfway into a blowjob, because it’s not enough stimulation to work him towards an orgasm. However, it’s an excellent way to get him turned on and wanting more!

How To Do It

Grasp the base of your lover’s penis with your hand, holding it in place. If you grasp firmly (but not too tight), you’ll keep the blood inside the penis, engorging the head and making it more sensitive to your maneuvers.

Stick your tongue way out and lick all over your lover’s penis while looking deep into his eyes and smiling now and then. You want to look like you’re really enjoying it! Enthusiasm is key with this technique.

Experiement with a soft, wet tongue or a pointed hard tongue. Make a mental note of which areas he seems to like stimulated best and when he moans and groans the loudest. Jot these down on your “mental map” of his body and what he likes best so you can focus on those areas more next time – and avoid the areas that don’t seem to do anything for him.

2. Licking The Scrotum

Again, this is definitely more of a warm up technique than it is a main move, but it can be very effective at getting men hot and bothered. Most women tend to ignore a man’s balls when going down on him, either because they’re hairy, they smell or it just seems like concentrating on the penis is a better idea. However, if you can give your lover’s scrotum some sexy attention, he’ll love feeling like he’s getting licked from top to bottom.

How To Do It

This is an excellent maneuver to move into and back and forth from when you’re doing the licking technique we just mentioned. You’ll continue to grasp your lover’s penis at the base, but this time instead of holding it in place for you to lick it all over, you’ll move it up and out of your way, exposing his scrotum and pulling up on it at the same time. As his scrotum is exposed, lick from the bottom of it all the way to the top, and all around. The most effective tongue stroke here is with a wide, soft tongue. Make sure you’re using plenty of saliva or have dabbed on a generous amount of flavored lube. This is a technique much better done warm and wet!

3. Sloooooowww It Down

Part of the incredible experience of fellatio is feeling each and every sensation your tongue, mouth and lips create. Don’t rush it – go super slow for the first several minutes of the blowjob. Hold out for as long as you can, and if you’re really into pleasing him and hearing him squeal with delight, you’ll surprise yourself with how long you can keep this up. No matter what technique you’re using, go sllllooooowww.

Let him concentrate on every movement on every inch of his penis. This will allow him to become super absorbed in the act, forgetting time and space completely. When you finally bring him to climax, he’ll be much more sensitive and his orgasm will be that much more powerful.

4. Tongue Twister

This move feels so incredible when compared to the standard “up and down” or “in and out” moves that a regular ol’ blowjob consists of. It can be hard on the neck, so don’t expect yourself to be able to keep it up for very long. However, when used at the right time – past the foreplay or warm up mode but before you get into the rhythm mode where you’re building his orgasm – it can feel so good it makes his legs shake! He’ll want to be lying down for this one, or his knees just might give out on him!

How To Do It

Get your lover’s penis as far as you can into your mouth and as you’re coming back up, twist your head to the right and left so your tongue and mouth twists over the shaft and head of his penis. Don’t concentrate on how your twisting your mouth – just point the top of your head to the left and then to the right as you slide your mouth up his penis. Don’t do this on the downward stroke – it’s not as effective as you twist while you’re sliding his shaft out of your mouth.

5. Orgasm Grip

As your lover is getting closer and closer to ejaculation, he’s heating up and you’re getting ready to finish him off. Whether you’re getting tired of being in between his legs, your neck has got a cramp and you’re ready for it to be over with, or you’re just excited about giving him a mind bending orgasm, there comes a time when you want to finish things up. This technique is perfect for building his climax even further and bringing him over the edge of an amazing orgasm.

How To Do It

This is a technique best used while your lover is in a sitting position, because you really need to have a lot of leverage here. If he’s lying down and you’re holding yourself up with your hands, you’re not going to be able to do this well, if at all. Grasp the base of his penis again with your dominant hand and move it up and down as though you were giving him a handjob. You only want to go about halfway up the shaft though – you’re going to work your mouth over the head of his penis and your lips should meet your hand.

Move your hand and your lips in sync – both going down and up at the same time. Count in your head to keep your rhythm, or listen to music. You don’t want to break the rhythm, because it will cause him to have to “start over.” Continue to do this faster and faster until you’re really working on him! It won’t be long before he’s ready to shoot his load!

These five techniques are easy to do and will take you from the beginning of a blowjob to the very end. There is, of course, many more techniques you can use, but who doesn’t want to get started right away? Stop reading right now and go treat your man to some intense new blowjob techniques that will make him say, “Wow! Where the **** did you learn that?!?”

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

3 Oral Sex Positions To Use On Him Right Now

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Good oral sex positions are essential to giving great head. Surprisingly enough, this actually has very little to do with his enjoyment. A blowjob is going to feel great in almost any position you put him in, although the positions that allow him to watch are going to be the ones he likes best.

A variety of oral sex positions are important to have to keep you comfortable. You can’t give good head if you’ve got a cramp in your neck or you feel like your knees are going to crack from pressing into a hard floor. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t enjoy giving head very much, because you won’t be able to concentrate on your lover’s pleasure. Your partner will also notice that you aren’t very enthused about going down on him, which will put a damper on his pleasure as well. So any oral sex position that you choose that is good for you is good for him also.

1. Sitting, With Your Partner On The Edge Of The Bed Or Couch

How To Do It

Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed with his legs spread wide. Sit down cross legged in front of him, on a pillow if you need extra support. If your bed is too high for you to achieve this, you can also use the couch. Choose a spot that allows you to be face level with your lover’s penis.

Why This Rocks

Sitting cross legged during a blowjob is actually quite comfortable – much more so than sitting on your knees. If the edge of the bed is low enough, or if you’ve used the couch instead, his genitals should be level with your face, allowing you to use both your mouth and hands to pleasure your lover without having to strain your neck at all. This position also allows you to make excellent eye contact with your lover.

2. With Your Partner Lying On His Side, You On All Fours

How To Do It

This is one of the more typical oral sex positions that women use when giving their lover fellatio, but you’re going to make a few modifications. Women typically begin by coming up under their lovers’ penis, grabbing it and angling it downward towards their mouth. This can put quite the strain on the neck!

Instead, straddle your lover so your face is just a little higher than his penis. Angle your head and mouth downwards towards his penis. This stretches out the neck and provides more natural up and down movement, making it much more comfortable to give head for extended periods of time while he’s lying down.

Why This Rocks

This move actually has a few caveats – because your head is angled downward, your lover can’t see as much of what is going on. You also can’t use your hands much to pleasure him either, because you will be using your hands to support most of your weight. On the plus side, your partner has the opportunity to totally relax and submerge himself in the moment, allowing him to focus on his pleasure and orgasm. This can make the experience much more intense for him!

3. With Him Standing And You On Your Knees

Again, this is one of the standard oral sex positions. It is widely used and many men enjoy it because it gives them an even stronger sense of being in control and having a woman “submit” to him sexually.

How To Do It

Have your man stand against something like a wall or door. This allows him to relax some and the wall will catch him if his knees become weak while you’re going down on him. Some men will not be able to enjoy themselves fully if they’re standing freely in the middle of a room, because their muscles cannot relax – they’re too concerned with not falling (which of course, if your blowjob is any good, is a real concern!) Having him lean up against a wall will help.

Why This Rocks

When you get on your knees in front of your man, make sure you have a pillow or a rolled up blanket underneath your knees! This is essential for your comfort! If your man is short enough, you may be able to rest your butt on your heels off and on while you give him head, allowing you to change your position for comfort without compromising his pleasure too much. This is one of the oral sex positions that allows for great eye contact – although his eyes might just be rolling into the back of his head!