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Why Foreplay And Preparation Before Anal Sex Is Essential

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Anal sex can be one of the kinkiest experiences for any couple to take. However, it can also be one of the messiest if not handled properly. Preparing for this kind of sex is a key ingredient to having a great time. If you have ever had a bad experience with anal sex then you know just how wrong everything can go. Being prepared for every aspect of the action will leave little room for surprises. Here is a prep guide to help you out.

Change The Sheets Beforehand

Darker sheets are recommended for this kind of sex sex. Lighter sheets are more likely to show stains. When you change out the sheets for a darker set, you are less likely to see any stains that might occur during the act. Choose blue, black or a dark green for best results. Sex has a way of getting passionate quickly and the last thing that you want is for her to look down and see a stain while in mid thrust. Change the sheets before you get started to add to the spontaneity and the aesthetics of the occasion.

Consider Using An Enema First

Using an enema first is a necessity for most couples. There are a lot of couples that do not do this, but most will. Depending on your partner’s diet and regular bowel movements, she will need to use an enema herself beforehand in order to remove the majority of fecal matter from her anal cavity. Some women even think that this feels good. Make sure that she is not over-rinsing her anus. This can lead to dryness inside her and cause micro-abrasions during sex. These micro-abrasions can lead to the passing of STD’s or bacterial infections.

Engage In Plenty Of Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for anal sex. Make sure that you’re not just shoving your penis into her anus before she’s ready. Start out with normal foreplay. Kiss her, suck on her breasts and give her oral before you even think about doing anything to her anally. Use your own spit on your finger and then ease it into her anus. This will get her muscles prepared for your penis. Make sure that she is relaxed during foreplay. It’s best to use a sex toy on her anus before you use your penis. Using a small vibrator or a dildo on her will allow her to relax the muscles and get accustomed to the size.

Use Lots Of Lube

The anus does not produce it’s own lubricant. This is much different than the vagina. In order to make your anal sex more pleasurable and less painful, you need to use a lot of lube. Get a bottle specifically for anal sex and apply it to your anus. Using lube on a sex toy before you enter her with your penis is the best way to get her accommodated to the size that will be inside her. This will also apply the lube to her anal cavity.

Use Condoms, Even If You’re Monogamous

Always, always, always use a condom for anal. There are two reasons for this. First of all, a condom is going to have less resistance inside her. It will react with the lube to make the experience much more enjoyable for her. Secondly, a condom will cut down on the chance of spreading diseases and bacteria. Even if you are in a committed relationship, the spread of bacteria can easily be transferred from her anus to your penis. More than likely, you’re going to want to penetrate her vagina during your session. Instead of having to wipe off your penis with a disinfectant, you can simply take the condom off.

Clean Your Sex Toys Well

After you have had anal sex, it’s imperative that you clean all of the toys that were used anally. The toys can house diseases and bacteria, so keeping the toys clean is essential to keeping you and your partner safe during anal sex. A lot of porn stars recommend running your dildos and vibrators through the dishwasher to kill off any bacteria. This will not work on some materials like Cyberskin. Glass and silicone dildos and vibrators can go through a dishwasher without incident. You can also buy cleaner to disinfect your toys afterward, however, antibacterial soaps work just as well.

Anal sex is a great way to keep you and your partner on your toes sexually. But you must stay safe and comfortable throughout. Anal sex is fun, but it requires a little preparation. Don’t be caught off guard. Stains and smells can easily ruin the session and anal sex for life. Following these guidelines will help you get through the anal experience with grace and poise.

How To Get Through First Time Anal Sex

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Anal sex is something women tend to either love or hate. If you have decided that you’re going to do it for the very first time, there are a few things that you need to keep in mind. Being prepared for your first time with it is essential to doing everything right and keeping your body safe.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable when done the right way. When it’s done the wrong way you could wind up at the hospital. Here is a short guide to get your prepped for your first time with this special sexual activity.

Relax!

The muscles inside your anus are designed to contract and expand. If you are not relaxed while having anal sex it’s going to hurt a lot. You need to learn how to relax your anal muscles before your partner inserts his penis or a sex toy. Take a breath and practice relaxing your anus before you begin. There are two muscles that will be used during anal.

The first muscle is the external sphincter. The second muscle is the internal sphincter. You will be able to relax your external sphincter quite easily. However, the internal sphincter is more reactionary. Focus on being relaxed and it will not hurt as much the initial penetration.

Consider An Enema

Under most normal circumstances, anal sex is not that messy. However, there are certain instances where it can be a very bad situation. Using an enema before you have anal sex is recommended. Even if you have normal bowel movements, there is a cleanliness factor.

Making sure that your anus is clean and that your partner will not come out with feces on his fingers or penis is essential. An enema will keep you clean and will make the process a lot more spontaneous.

Bacterial Safety

There are bacteria in your anus that can be dangerous to your vagina. Before you have anal sex, make sure that your partner understands that he can’t go from your anus to your vagina. This is essential to keeping infections at bay. If your partner wants to go from your anus to your vagina, make sure that they change out the condom or wipe down their penis and hands with disinfectant.

Use Lube!

You need a lot of lubricant during your first anal experience. Get the big bottle from the grocery store or from an adult sex shop. Lubrication is going to make the experience much more enjoyable as there will be a lot less resistance when you or your boyfriend penetrates your anus. Use the entire bottle if needed and make sure that you’re buying water based lubricant.

Water based lubricants work well for all types of penetration, but they are really good for anal sex. Have your boyfriend use his finger to lube up your anus before he puts his penis in. This will help you gauge how big of an object you can take.

Getting Ready For Penetration

So now that we’ve gotten all of that out of the way, it’s time for the big show. When you’re having anal sex for the first time it’s natural to be scared. Having something shoved up your butt can be terrifying. If you have followed the guidelines thus far then you should have nothing to worry about. Have your partner apply the lube to your anus and his penis.

Even if he’s using a lubricated condom he should pour a lot of lube on his penis. Choose the position that you want to use. Doggy style works well, but an elevated missionary style can also work well. Place a pillow under your butt for the elevated missionary style. Have your partner enter your anus slowly and with just the tip of his penis. Make sure that he is going slowly.

If you feel the need to make a number 2, resist. This is normal. Relax your muscles and your anus should start to get used to the penis. Have your partner slowly go deeper and deeper until he is in as far as he can go or until you start to feel uncomfortable.

Anal sex is a great way to keep things interesting in the bedroom. It is recommended that you follow all of these guidelines before you have anal sex for the first time. If you do not feel comfortable after your first time, don’t be discouraged. It takes time to get acquainted with anal sex. Once you have done it a couple of times your anus will get used to the sensation and you will start to feel the pleasure.

Learn The Forbidden TRUTH About Anal Sex & How You Can Make It HOT!

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Do you wish you could have anal sex with your partner? 

Have you tried it before, only to watch your lover shrink away in pain? 

Do you fantasize about putting it in your lover’s backdoor, even though she won’t let you do it?

If anal pleasure is your thing, but you haven’t had the opportunity to have INCREDIBLE anal sex with your partner, your life is about to change.

Believe it or not, anal sex is one of the most INTENSE, SEXUALLY CHARGED experiences you can ever give your lover or experience yourself. Almost every couple tries it at least once, but many don’t stick with it because they’re just not doing it right. It CAN be comfortable and it can be incredibly pleasurable – but only if you’re following the right guidance.

Are the right tips out there for free on the Internet? Maybe. But who knows what is really out there? You could try something someone suggests online and wind up in the emergency room!

Gabrielle Moore, bestselling author of guides on female orgasms, foreplay and sex positions, covers the topic of anal pleasure and gives you the information that has been FORBIDDEN for so long!

You can trust that THESE are the tips you want to use and have confidence that when you follow these guidelines, you’re going to have pleasurable and orgasmic anal sex!

FREE Video Reveals The 7 Biggest Lies About Anal Sex You Have Been Brainwashed To Believe!

Free Anal Sex Video

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Anal Sex Is Common – It’s Just Not Talked About

Lots of people – even the world’s foremost sex experts – are afraid to cover the taboo topic of anal sex. In reality though, almost everyone’s tried it and a great deal of people continue to engage in it on a regular basis?

So why the heck is everyone so afraid of it?

Because if you do it wrong, you can really hurt yourself or someone else. 

So many sexual educators stay away from this topic to avoid the backlash if someone uses their tips and ends up getting hurt. Here’s the thing though – the lack of education on how to properly engage in anal sex is what is causing all the problems! 

Gabrielle Moore isn’t afraid to tackle this topic in Anal Pleasure For Her – in fact, she gives you EVERYTHING you need to know on how to make it a SAFE & PLEASURABLE experience for both you and your partner!

  • What if you only had to do 3 easy things to get your partner to agree to anal sex?
  • What if you could do it with NO PAIN for your lover?
  • What if you could make your partner CRAVE it all the time?

Why Anal Sex Can Be So Awesome

The truth is, the anus is absolutely jam-packed with pleasurable nerve endings, which can result in amazing, orgasmic pleasure when stimulated the right way. So your girl can definitely get off on anal sex! And most guys DREAM & FANTASIZE about it, but can never get it! The firm grip of the anus on a man’s penis can be more intense than any blowjob or traditional intercourse – so there are a LOT of men who want to do this. But they can’t, because their partners almost always say no!

All that is about to change!

You’re going to find out WHY your partner is saying no and how you can change her answer to “YES!” every single time you ask!

You’re going to get to know how to make it CLEAN and not messy at all!

Even if your lover is an anal sex virgin, you’re going to find out how to unleash her naughty side and her INNER FREAK and get her to LOVE it!

Gabrielle’s new sex guide, Anal Pleasure For Her, will reveal the top secrets that cause a woman to not want to engage in anal play, and how you can get past those for the most amazing sex you’ve ever had. The best part is, when you follow these guidelines, it’s going to be amazing for HER too!

What You’ll Get In Anal Pleasure For Her

  • The 7 BIGGEST lies about anal sex that you have been brainwashed to believe
  • How anal play can bring your sex life to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL!
  • Why most guys’ #1 fantasy is anal play
  • The simplest, 3-step technique to get your girl to have anal sex with YOU!
  • Why it isn’t a “gay” thing
  • How to have PAIN FREE anal sex!
  • The 2 biggest reasons women don’t like it (it’s NOT what you think!)
  • What sex toys to use for pain-free, pleasurable orgasms!

What Else Will You Find In Anal Pleasure For Her?

  • What religion REALLY says about anal play (this is totally DIFFERENT than what you’ve been taught!)
  • Why orgasms during anal play are much more intense than any other orgasm you or your lover have experienced, ever!
  • Why anal play might be the missing piece in your sex life that you’ve looked so hard for
  • Why trust is such an important aspect of this sexual act
  • What kind of lube to use (this is a BIGGIE that most guys ignore! If you do, you can ruin everything!)
  • When NOT to try anal play & what to stay away from even if you like it (there are some things that are off-limits and you DON’T want to ignore them!)
  • EVERYTHING about anal sex that no one has ever told you!

Are you ready to say GOODBYE to a boring sex life forever?

Are you ready to give your lover more pleasure than she has ever experienced before?

Do you want to feel sex tighter than with any virgin?

Do you want to explode in your lover’s backdoor and have her enjoy it just as much as you?

If you want the secret to a SUPER HOT sex life and to have crazier, wilder sex than you ever have, then get Get Anal Pleasure For Her TODAY!

If you’ve ever dreamed of having incredibly hot, shuddering anal sex with your partner, there is no time to waste!

If you get this guide right now, you can convince your girl to do it with you TONIGHT!

And… Don’t forget to watch the Free Video on the 7 Biggest Lies About Anal Sex:

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Anal Sex Orgasm: Myth Or Fact?

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Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for some women. Others don’t like it at all. However, you might have seen or heard of girls that can climax from anal stimulation. But is it really possible to have an orgasm from anal sex alone?

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Is It True?

Can you have anal orgasm? Yes, you can. “Can” being the operative word here.

Theoretically, all people can have anal orgasms. Some think it’s from the excitement of anal sex, and while there are people who can orgasm from anal sex only, most people will require additional genital stimulation to get off.

Anal Play For Guys

For men, anal orgasms typically are achieved through prostate massage or stimulation. Ladies, that entails you giving him the finger while blowing him. If you don’t feel comfortable with that for safety or other reasons, you can use sex toys specifically designed for that.

Ladies, be gentle. Some men may be tough, some men may like it rough, but nobody likes a finger (or toy) jammed up their bum without some warning first. Everyone loves surprises, unless it’s a finger up the butt. So people, please, talk about this before hand. Use ample amounts of communication and lube before you put your finger up there.

Anal Play For Girls

If you want your girl to have an anal orgasm, try slipping your finger in her anus while giving her oral sex. Sneak it in – sort of. You don’t want to sneak it in, literally, but you need to gradually introduce it while giving oral sex, especially if it’s the first time you’ve done it in the relationship. You can’t just ram a finger in there and expect the magic to happen. This isn’t porn. Or Vegas. This is real sex in real life.

A great technique for anal stimulation for women is placing one finger in the vagina and one finger in the anus, and you manually stimulate her that way.

Getting Off On Anal Sex Only

How do you get that point where you get off on anal by itself? Well, you’ll need to start with equal parts anal and genital stimulation in the beginning, and gradually decrease the genital stimulation while increasing the anal stimulation. By this point, your partner will (hopefully) be very used to getting off this way, and then they will have a postive mental pattern associated with anal play. This is super important.

Why? Because despite what porn or sex tips magazines may have you believe, sex begins and ends in the mind. If you think it’s impossible or difficult to have an anal orgasm, you’re right. But if getting off solely by anal play is a common, regular, every day occurrence in your world, guess what? You’re right too. That’s why it’s super important to create that positive mental connection first.

Other Things To Keep In Mind

What else can you do to create anal orgasm? Eat lots of fiber, so you can clean your pipes on a regular basis. Who wants to talk about this? Nobody. Despite the fact that Oprah did an entire episode on poo, the subject still leaves a nasty taste in people’s mouths. An enema is also a good option to keep things clean down there.

Also, do NOT forget to use lube and LOTS of it. There is no other option. Go slow. Rushing can cause discomfort, pain, or damage.

Using sex toys with big bases are critical so you don’t get anything lost up there. Plenty emergency rooms are filled people who lost toys up there. Yes, we are serious. No it wasn’t us. But trust us, this happens a lot. Friends don’t let friends lose anal toys in someone’s butt, so make sure you and anyone else you know is using the right ones.

Above all, don’t force anything. Forcing sex in any way is always bad, but with anal sex it’s super duper bad. Worst case scenario, someone gets injured or has to go to the hospital. Best case scenario if you force anal? Your partner feels used or angry or hurt. None of which are good and you might as well count yourself out of doing whatever you did ever, ever again. So talk about it first! Agree on everything first! Go slow, use a safe word, and again, lots of lube.

Best Anal Sex Secrets Of 2011

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Anal sex can be fun, but only if you know what you’re doing. You can’t just go in there blindly! The anus doesn’t work like the vagina does – you can’t just stick something in there and expect it to feel amazing. You need to go slow, use lots and lots of lube (as in, when you think you have way too much, you probably have just enough) and start small. The person receiving anal pleasure isn’t going to be getting “pleasure” at all if you rush into it without taking some things into account first and making preparations for a positive experience.

Check out our greatest tips of the year.

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best tips ever!

We’ve looked long and hard for good resources for you this year, and have had a tough time finding ones that not only offer the truth about anal sex (that you need to be safe, safe, safe) as well as highlight how it can actually feel really incredible! So without further adieu, our favorite resource of the year is:

  • Anal Pleasure For Her (this guide includes pretty much everything you want to know about backdoor action – and some things you probably didn’t – so if you’re looking for an all in one type of guide, this is the one you want to get!)