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How To Get Foreplay Back In Your Sex Life

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Foreplay is an essential part of sex – but it can start to wane when you get comfortable with someone. Here’s how to get it back, stat!

My man and I have been together a couple of years. Chemistry and sex are great, but where’s the foreplay? The anticipation is the best part for me. But now we just go at it. Can I get it back?

What She Said:

I have good news – it is possible! All it takes is a little communication and compromise with your partner. You two are, of course, more familiar with each other now than at the beginning of your relationship. That means you’ll never quite be able to recapture that thrill of the new because it’s morphed into something different. Still more good news – that something different is an intimacy and trust that you didn’t have before.

Just Because You’re Comfortable Doesn’t Mean Sex Has To Be Boring

Familiarity doesn’t have to equal boring. Luckily you’re already ahead of the curve with the great chemistry and hot sex that you share. All you need to reintroduce into this mix is the anticipation. How do you accomplish this? Here’s where the communication and compromise comes in. Let your boyfriend know you’re hot for him – but that it could get even hotter. That will get his attention!

The Importance Of Date Nights

Add date nights that don’t end in full intercourse to your repertoire. Go out for a great dinner, fondle each other at the movies and dry hump on the couch like you were teenagers – but DON’T have sex. Tease each other with texts and flirty emails throughout the week prior to your big evening out. Make it a game to let the tension build. Do this until you both agree it’s time for release. Repeat.

Now you’ve got the best of both worlds: all the benefits of a long-term relationship with the ability to anticipate hot times of fun and frolic. Enjoy!

What He Said:

Important thing to note:

Men like to be pleased, women like to be teased.

If both sides dig in and insist on only getting what they want, nobody wins. Needless to say your man’s not probably going to be super thrilled about the no intercourse thing. Talk to him and come to some sort of understanding where you get what you want and he does to. For my money, there is no relationship problem that can’t be solved with hotel/vacation sex.

Why Hotel/Vacation Sex Can Help

Something about being out of your usual environment gets people going. Try taking a little weekend getaway. You don’t even have to leave your own town, just be somewhere different. If you’re in the same environment you can develop a pattern, and you’re trying to change the pattern. So come up with fun and naughty ways to disrupt it and then install a new one. It make take practice, but is that a bad thing?

10 Foreplay Tips That Will Thrill Him Again And Again

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Foreplay is far from overrated – in fact, most guys wish their girlfriends and wives would give them more! Instead of giving your guy the usual blowjob before hopping on top of him for a quickie, bust out these new foreplay moves that will excite your guy and have him begging for more. These sultry foreplay tactics are fresh and fun, and will turn the heat up on your sex life!

The Wet T-Shirt

Throw on an old white t-shirt and panties (bonus points if the panties are white too) and hop in the shower for a few seconds. Make sure your t-shirt gets nice and wet so your nipples and the curve of each breast shows through. Tell your honey that you’re “freshening up” and that you’ll be right out. Watch his face as he catches a glimpse of his wettest fantasy.

Finger Yourself – While He Fingers You

When your man fingers you, start touching your clitoris. Then, move your hand down until your fingers are touching his. Slide one of your fingers into your vagina so it’s touching his. He’ll love the feel of your fingers moving together to bring you to orgasm!

Keep Your Hands To Yourself During A Blowjob

While grabbing at your man or running your hands all over his body during a blowjob is definitely hot, it can be even hotter if you keep your hands to yourself. Tie your hair back if you have long hair and go down on him with your hands behind your back. Make it even naughtier by allowing your honey to tie your hands himself.

Give A Handjob…With Gloves

Sure, giving a handjob with lube is great fun, but you can mix it up by using a pair of silky gloves instead. Your partner will love the feel of the soft satin or silk on his penis. Bonus points if you want to turn it into a fantasy dress up sex game – wear long evening gloves and a pearl necklace…and nothing else.

Undress In Front Of Him

While you may be too shy to give him an all out strip tease, let him see you undress after work. Leave the door cracked open and make sure you announce to your partner that you’re going to go change into something “more comfortable.” When you feel his eyes on you, undress slowly and deliberately, giving him a show that he thinks he’s getting on the sly. Give him a run for his money by changing into lingerie instead of your usual pajamas!

Playing Footsie

You may think that playing footsie with your partner is outdated, but it is most definitely a foreplay move that needs to make a return appearance. When out on a date with your lover, slip your stilettos off and run your toes up and down his leg. Look him deeply into the eyes and let him know exactly what you mean without saying a word. If you do want to say something, slip in some dirty talk about what you want to do to him when you get home.

Forgoing Underwear

Never underestimate the power that going commando will have over your lover. Even if you’re simply out at the grocery store, trim or shave your bush and leave your panties in the drawer. Make sure you bend over and let your partner get a glimpse before telling him that you must have “forgotten” your underwear at home when you got dressed. You’ll be on his mind until he can get your pants down and see the missing goods for himself!

Sucking On His Fingers

Give his fingers a licking next time you want to let him know you’re interested in giving him oral sex. Mimic what you do during a blowjob only using his fingers instead of his penis. Let him watch and make sure that you make plenty of eye contact with him. It won’t be long before he’s begging you to unzip his pants for the encore!

Public Foreplay

Public sex is a great way to ignite a fire in your sex life. You may think that if you have sex outside the comfort of your bedroom (or even your own home) that you’re bound to get busted, but the truth is, you’d be surprised at how many places in public there are to get busy without getting caught.

Sexy, Soapy Fun

If you’re not ready to venture outside the house for some naughty fun, why not try it out in the shower? Shower sex is amazingly different from regular sex – there’s nothing like feeling the hot water run down your body as your partner gives you oral sex!

Q&A: I Want Him To Touch Me More When We Make Out

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When kissing your lover, you may want to move on to some heavy petting but he may not seem ready to – at least, on the surface. Is it because he really doesn’t want to go that far or because he’s afraid he’s going to touch you the wrong way and upset you for going too far? Chances are, it’s the latter. Here’s how to get him to try a little foreplay while you’re making out!

Question: I want my boyfriend to touch me more when we’re making out. Can you help me on how to encourage that?

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Is He Afraid To Make The First Move?

A lot of guys – especially guys who have been in relationships before – have been chastised for doing something wrong or touching a woman in the wrong way while making out or using foreplay. He may be unsure where to touch you or how you like to be touched, so he may just be afraid to make the first move in fear of doing something wrong or touching you in a way that might offend you or turn you off.

If you think he’s afraid to make the first move, try talking to him about it when you’re not making out, such as over lunch or a romantic dinner. Let him know without criticizing him that you love kissing him and making out with him, but you would love it even more if you could feel his hands on your body. Be sure to let him know how far is too far though – if you’re not ready for sex, let him know where you’re going to draw the line. It will only make things worse if you give him the go ahead to touch you while you’re kissing each other but you have to reprimand him as soon as he goes “too far.” Make sure he knows ahead of time what is okay and what makes you uncomfortable.

Gently Guide Him Verbally

When you’re in the moment, it’s super sexy to whisper into your lover’s ear what you’d like him to do next. Guys really love this for two reasons – because your hot breath in his ear turns him on and because your guidance means that he doesn’t have to guess at what to do and when to do it. This will help him to learn what you like and when you like it, because a lot of guys (actually, most guys) aren’t sure when to move forward because they just don’t want to cross that line without the go-ahead from you.

This is also a great time to introduce dirty talk! Guys love dirty talk and it’s a great way to really heat things up while you’re making out. Tell your partner in a sexy way what you want him to do – such as saying, “I love it when you pinch my nipples” or “I’d like you to touch my ____.” Also include descriptive words such as “hard, soft, slow, etc.” that not only lets him know where to make his next move, but also how you’d like it. This gives him confidence to actually make the moves, because he’s not scared he’s going to do something that will upset you or turn you off.

Give Him Positive Reinforcement

When he does something that you really enjoy, make sure you praise him and let him know that you liked it. You definitely want to let him know that you like something while he’s doing it by making noise or showing him with your body language that he hit the right spot, but you also want to follow that up with verbal encouragement as well. Men need to hear what they’re doing right if you want them to keep doing it – chances are, if you don’t give him that positive reinforcement, he’ll assume that he’s doing it wrong and stop, even if you absolutely love what he’s doing. Remember to keep the comments positive too – a negative comment will stick with him for a long time and negate all of the nice things you said. If you must redirect him, don’t tell him he’s doing something wrong – instead, let him know that you liked something else even better.

How To Show Him What You Like

  • Use chocolate sauce to highlight the areas you want him to lick and suck
  • Use a feather tickler to trace the path you want his mouth or hands to take around your body
  • Bring home a book on erotic massage and read it together – try the techniques on him first and then let him try them on you
  • Use your imagination to give your partner visual aids on where and how you want him to touch you!

How To Turn On Your Girl Without Touching Her

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You’ve read about foreplay and how to sex manuals before and you just haven’t found the right way to make your woman want you like never before. That’s about to change! You can make your partner want to have sex with you right now, if you use these four little know foreplay tips.

In fact, you’ll get her wetter than you ever have before without even laying your hands on her.

Leave Your Scent On Her Pillow

Your scent is what will really drive her crazy and get her more turned on than she’s ever been in her life. Your scent is actually what drew her to you in the first place, even if it was subconsciously. We’re not talking about your favorite cologne here, however, your cologne can actually play a part in how hot your smell makes your lover.

What makes your partner instantly turned on by you are your pheromones – the special hormones that are secreted by you in your sweat and on your skin. Each person’s pheromones are different, so you can be assured that it’s your smell that she’s so crazy about. Add a hint of cologne to your natural “man” smell and she’ll be head over heels in no time – or is that heels over head?

To make her horny before you even lay your hands on her, switch pillows with her for a night or two. Sleep with her pillow and don’t be afraid to put it under your arm and snuggle up with it. Get as much of your scent on her pillow as you can. The next night she sleeps with it, you’re definitely going to get some.

Compliment Her

Every woman loves getting complimented by a man, especially if it’s her man. While telling her that she looks great may seem like a straightforward compliment, it’s not going to get you laid in and of itself. In fact, a compliment like that won’t even make her horny and want to have sex with you. However, if you choose the right compliment, she will want to do it with you without you even having to make a move on her.

Instead of saying something about how she looks or what she’s wearing, say something about how hard she works or how much her skills amaze you. Talk about how great her cooking is or how awesome she is at her job. Compliment something that she’s really worked hard for and you’ll be in the sack with her before you know it.

Master The Smoldering Look

There’s a reason that there are so many movies out there with “brooding” male characters that make every woman swoon.  Many sexy actors can pull off the “smoldering” look that will make a woman instantly melt and be absolutely powerless against you and your advances. There’s no better foreplay technique.

However, if you get the smoldering look right, you’ll probably have your woman throwing herself at you before you can even get your pants unzipped. Believe it or not, this tip in and of itself is one of the most powerful ways to get her hot and bothered, even more so than dirty talk or any other sex tip out there!

When you’re by yourself one night, rent a few of the popular movies that all the women are talking about. Check out the way the guys in the movie look at the women – almost like their feelings for the woman are so powerful and overwhelming, they’re almost painful. Stand in front of the mirror and practice the look – once you feel comfortable doing it, give your lovely lady the same look. Watch as she melts right before your eyes!

Do Something “Manly” For Your Girl

Since the women’s rights movement, the amount of “manly things” that men do and women don’t has decreased. Now women are mowing the lawns and men are cooking dinner, as well as doing other role reversed activities. Sure, a woman can fix a toilet or a garbage disposal. She can mow the lawn, put oil in the car and do anything else you can. But does she want to? Not hardly!

You can actually turn her on by stepping up and doing something “manly” for her. Don’t insist that she can’t do it or take the task from her because you can do it “right” or better than she can. This attitude will backfire in your face! Instead, you’re going to beat her to the punch and do something manly for her before she can even think about it needing to be done. Fill her car with gas in the morning before she wakes up to get ready for work, or have the water drip in the bathroom fixed before she comes home.

Bonus points if she comes home to a shirtless man in grease covered jeans with a wrench in his hand. You might just find that the wrench doubles as a sex toy and that your jeans didn’t stay on very long.

Foreplay Tips – The Do’s and Don’ts Of Foreplay

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Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Mistake #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kissing instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Mistake #2 – Paying Too Much Attention To A Woman’s Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Mistake #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful orgasm later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In Foreplay

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude, such as oral sex. If giving her oral sex is a chore for you, she won’t enjoy it. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talk

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talk can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skim on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!