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How To Give A Woman Wild Screaming Orgasms, Leaving Her With Uncontrollable Spasms!

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Orgasm tips are helpful if you want to give a girl the best climax of her life. Check out these orgasm tips and make your lover go NUTS!

How would you like it if your woman screams in bed every time you have sex? No, not screams of pain, but shrieks of pure ecstasy! Most guys would give anything to be able to pleasure any woman at will and give them the time of their lives. Well, then there are some guys whose partners just lay down there while they are thrusting away, with no emotions or just simply look bored.

Now, here’s the thing: if she looks bored during sex, it is usually not her fault. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make amazing sex (or boring, dreary sex). Either way, if she is not enjoying sex, you probably are not getting the most out of sex either. So how do you give your girl the kind of shrieking joys of screaming orgasms that will put other men to shame?

The Truth About Screaming Female Orgasms

Believe it or not, for many women, screaming is what actually causes them to come to an orgasm. Let me explain. Well, it is not so much the act of screaming that that cause her to climax. It is the act of letting herself go, the act of totally relaxing her mind and body, the act of totally losing her inhibitions, that leads her to a sexual ecstasy like no other. It is like a self-fulfilling cycle. By encouraging her to make some noise in bed, she is actually priming and getting herself ready to achieve a more intense orgasm.

But before you ask your girl to start screaming her head off during sex, you should know this: It is not what she does that helps her achieve an orgasm, but what YOU do to help her reach that pinnacle!

Getting Her Comfortable And All Warmed Up

That is the key. You have to make her sufficiently relaxed in your presence to surrender her body to you. Get her to succumb to the kind of intimacy that she will feel entirely comfortable with you. Music is one utterly effective way to do that. Music serves two purposes here: First, it covers the noise that she will be making so that she can really surrender and let it all out without affecting the neighbors! Second, music inherently affects a woman’s moods and emotions.

And guess what? It is through her emotions that she will arrive at a level of trust and intimacy with you to completely release herself! And this is important – play the music that she (not you) likes. This will work her feelings to a boil and let her embrace sex with all its abundance. This will get her all primed for a tantalizing, screaming orgasm that she has absolutely no control over!

Best Orgasm Tips Of 2011

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake with sex, so make sure that’s where you and your partner are headed. Many women fail to have an climax with their partner during sex, sometimes not for lack of trying. “Getting there” can be frustrating for both parties, especially if he’s too fast or she can’t seem to get over the top. So we’ve put together our best climax articles of the year for you to use to have better sex in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a good look at some of our all time favorite orgasm articles! These have some of the best orgasm tips we’ve ever seen!

We’ve also spent a lot of time this year finding and reviewing the best orgasm tips products out there, so you know which ones are a good buy – and which ones aren’t. Check out the best orgasm resources we found this year:

  • Female Orgasm Secrets Revealed (a great book for guys who want to learn how to give women great orgasms)
  • The Female Orgasm Blueprint (teaches men how a woman’s climax works from beginning to end)
  • Faster Female Orgasm (this guide is directed towards women, so they can learn to take control of their own climax and learn to reach their peak faster and stronger than they ever have before!)

I’m A Girl But….Did I Just Ejaculate? 5 Ways To Tell If You Squirted During Sex

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Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm.

2. It Came Out On Its Own

Sometimes, when a woman doesn’t know she can ejaculate, the fluid will come out on its own during involuntary muscular contractions when you have an orgasm. It may feel like you need to pee when you ejaculate (hence all the confusion on whether the liquid really is urine or ejaculate), and if you bear down and flex your muscles, you can push the ejaculate out. This is what seasoned squirters do. However, many women who have never experienced female ejaculation aren’t aware of this. So when the muscles contract involuntarily during orgasm, the ejaculate may seem to come out on it’s own. It can be a few drops or even a cup full of liquid, and it can either leak out or squirt in a huge gush.

3. It Doesn’t Smell “Too Much” Like Pee

If it’s not urine, then it won’t smell a whole lot like urine. Really, the only exception to this rule is if you drink A LOT of water and your urine is almost always clear anyways (or you drank a lot of water right before sex for some odd reason). Since female ejaculate does come out of the urethra, it may mix with a little bit of urine that was left over – so if it has a “light” urine odor, don’t be too alarmed. If it really smells like pee, it was pee. If it doesn’t and you haven’t drank your weight in water, then congratulations – you’ve just experienced female ejaculation.

4. Your G-Spot Was Being Stimulated

Often, the g-spot needs to be stimulated firmly (very firmly) in order for a woman to achieve female ejaculation. Light tickling or barely touching the g-spot isn’t going to produce female ejaculation. It takes a surprisingly firm touch to stimulate the g-spot to the point of female ejaculation, and the woman usually has been really aroused first too. So if you or your partner engaged in a lot of foreplay, you’re super turned on and your g-spot was really getting massaged right before your gushing orgasm, then you can be pretty sure you just squirted.

5. Your Orgasm Was Killer

A squirting orgasm is intense. REALLY INTENSE. Many women who can’t squirt cannot do so simply because they have the inability to really “let go,” which is necessary to experience female ejaculation. If you’ve been consumed by the moment, maybe forgot where you are (or heaven forbid who you’re with), and just totally let go during your orgasm and expelled a ton of liquid, then you can be pretty sure you actually squirted instead of peed. If your orgasm was AH-MAZING and you’re totally and completely exhausted afterwards (and are so sensitive down there that you couldn’t even stand it if your man lightly blew air on your clitoris) then yes, you squirted.

Q&A: G-Spot Orgasm: How To Push Her Over The Edge

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A g-spot orgasm can be one of the best she’s ever experienced. Here’s how to tip the scales in your favor and give her an incredible g-spot orgasm, using sex toys, oral sex and different sex positions!

Question: My girlfriend has problems having a g-spot orgasm, she says it’s always been that way. So far we’ve gotten close but just not quite managed to nudge her over the edge. What tips could you give to make it easier for me to give her that extra nudge? She says doesn’t care about it but I really want to help her achieve something and make her feel special.

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Lots Of Warm Up And Foreplay

A woman needs quite a bit of foreplay and warm up time before she’s able to have a g-spot orgasm. First of all, her g-spot is difficult to find if she’s not completely turned on – when she is, the area fills with blood and becomes squishier and easier to locate. Second, vaginal stimulation just isn’t going to feel very good if she’s not turned on first. She won’t be as lubricated (you should have a good lube on hand anyways) and it may feel rough or painful to her instead of pleasurable.

Spend lots of time kissing and touching before you move on to sex, and oral sex is always in style. Cunnilingus rarely fails to get a woman so turned on, she’s ready to BLOW as soon as you penetrate her.

G-Spot Accessible Sex Positions

Some sex positions are better than others when it comes to stimulating the g-spot. Doggy style is a good one, because it allows for much deeper penetration than other sex positions. Woman on top is another good one, because it allows the woman to control everything about the sexual encounter, from the angle of penetration, to the depth of it and the speed of thrusting.

Note your anatomy. Does your penis curve to the right or left a little? Up or down? Or is it rather straight? Many guys have a slight bend in the penis which works incredibly well to stimulate the g-spot during penetration if in the right sex positions. Remember that a woman’s g-spot is located about two inches inside the vagina, on the top wall near her stomach. If your penis bends to the left, for example, you can lie your partner on her right side with her legs pulled in towards her chest. These sex positions allow a man with a bend to the left to use his natural anatomy to stimulate her g-spot! If your penis bends to the right, have your partner lie on her left side.

Keeping your natural anatomy in mind when selecting sex positions is an excellent way to give your partner even more pleasure and g-spot orgasms!

Oral Sex And Fingering

Again, oral sex is a tried and true tool to get a woman hot enough to orgasm. If you combine oral sex and fingering, you can actually very easily give your lover a vaginal orgasm or a blended orgasm. Alternate between licking her clitoris and stimulating her g-spot by using the “come hither” motion with your fingers, and as she gets hotter and closer to climax, switch to licking her clitoris and fingering her g-spot at the same time. Sometimes, a blended orgasm is much, much more powerful than a vaginal or clitoral orgasm alone!

Sex Toys

Just like with oral sex and fingering, you’re not limited to your penis when it comes to giving your lover a g-spot orgasm. You want to use any and all tools at your disposal – whatever works, right? Sex toys are no exception. If you have difficulty giving your partner a g-spot orgasm through penetration alone, try oral sex with fingering or sex toys.

If she has any sex toys of her own, check them out – it will give you a better idea of what she likes (or just ask her). Get a few new toys to play with that feature things she likes. When using them on her, the same principles apply – always give her plenty of foreplay first to get her warmed up! Then start using the sex toys.

Women crave intimacy during sex, so continue to kiss, lick, rub and touch all over her body. Look deeply into her eyes and talk dirty as you use the toys on her to bring her closer to orgasm. She’s not going to like it much if all you’re doing is sitting there and holding the toy on her clitoris, or if you’re pumping the toy in and out of her like you were churning butter. If you have to use sex toys, step up the foreplay, kissing and cuddling so she doesn’t feel a sense of emotional detachment from you.

Orgasm Tips – How The Orgasm Cycle Works In Men And Women

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but men and women don’t experience an orgasm the same way. Here’s how to understand the difference.

The “Human Sexual Response” is a cycle of 4 stages. They are:

  • Excitement
  • Plateau
  • Orgasm
  • Resolution

Stage One – Excitement

This happens the first instance you see a scrumptious fox on the street (or on TV). Really, any physical or psychological event that causes parasympathetic nerve stimulation can commence the cycle. The stimuli vary and may also take the form of a sound, emotion or a naughty thought.

Things get ugly right away – your heart starts racing, respiratory rates shoot up, blood flow to the genitals increases. In seconds, little Johnny would have grown a few inches. Your scrotum thickens and the testes rise. It’s official, you’re horny.

A woman similarly experiences increased blood flow to the genital area, causing her clitoris to swell. The vagina increases in diameter & length, her cervix and uterus are pulled up. She starts producing more lubrication and is getting very wet. Her breast and nipples become erect, and she starts breathing heavily as heart and respiratory rates shoot up.

Now, while there are many similarities in how the genders experience Excitement, there is one glaring difference. Generally, MEN GET HOT IN AN INSTANT. Snap! And we’re good to go. Women need a reasonable time. For the life of us, we cannot understand why it takes a woman ages to be ready. For her part, she can’t comprehend the ridiculous speeds with which guys can be neutral one second and insanely horny the next.

Recognize this distinction in arousal speeds. This single disparity will snowball through intercourse. Because they get aroused in an instant, men will often misjudge the readiness of their partners as they lustfully advance to the rest of the stages. As a result, women often feel left behind, even left out of the SEX. Not good.

Stage Two – Plateau

“Plateau” may bring images of restful leisure, but don’t be mislead, PLATEAU is a turbulent stage – no restful leisure here. Remember those ugly things that take over your body during the Excitement Stage? Well, they continue with full abandon during Plateau.

Heart rate reaches as high as 175 lustful beats a minute. Respiratory rates remind you of your track and field days, (who says sex isn’t a sport?) Your penis undergoes extreme congestion and you’ll be seriously thinking if it can explode or fly off your body. This is where you do most of the works – kissing, sucking, penetration, sexual positions etc.

Stage Three – Orgasm

Orgasm, this is the money-maker right here. Lasting only a few seconds, O’s are considered the most ecstatic moments of a person’s existence. After tension building in stages 1&2, blood congestion in the genitals is suddenly and decisively expelled through muscular contractions. This may sound straightforward, but the euphoria of discharging built-up tension sends people through the roof, profanity may be the only sufficient way to describe a pleasure-intensive experience.

Male vs. Female Orgasm

ROUND 1 – The First Blow

Who can orgasm faster?

Both male & female, with proper stimulation, can peak in 2 minutes or less. However, consider the labels. A man who ejaculates in a heartbeat becomes a Premature Ejaculator – a woman achieving the same feat, with moans and everything, is called a keeper.

ROUND 2 – Point Of No Return & Refractory Period

The POINT OF NO RETURN (PNR) is the point of stimulation after which no force in heaven or earth can stop a man from having an orgasm.

During masturbation or intercourse, a man crosses a line after which it is impossible to stop climaxing…even if he stops stimulation. It doesn’t matter if the security guard is about to walk in on them, he will climax, it’s going to happen and there’s nothing anybody can do about it. (Premature ejaculators should back-off or tone down stimulation before reaching PNR.)

Here’s the thing: Women don’t have PNR. Even when she’s on the verge of having an orgasm, you can easily frustrate her orgasm by suddenly changing the rhythm or focus of stimulation, for example. You have to build and stimulate a woman ALL THE WAY, plus the follow through.

Looks like women got the raw deal here, huh?

Not really. There’s something to balance this out – the REFRACTORY PERIOD. Guess what – only men have them too! This is the few minutes after orgasm when the penis begins limping, during which it’s impossible to reach orgasm.

Post climax, the Refractory Period sets in and no force in heaven or earth can make a man cum. A woman may give the best head, but it’s not going to happen, and there’s nothing you can do about it, Anna!

Women don’t have this Refractory Period. Whereas an orgasm returns men to pre-arousal levels, an ‘O’ brings Eve to pre-orgasmic levels. They simply return to blissful levels of the Plateau, capable of approaching orgasm again. That’s why they can hit a string of climaxes – also known as multiple orgasms!

After catching her breath, and about half a minute of extreme clitoral sensitivity, she can simply continue like nothing happened. If she so desires, she can jump off the cliff again and again like an Energizer bunny without any refractory bother. Only guys have the PNR and the RP.

ROUND 3 – Staying Power

For guys, an orgasm often signals the end. For many women, it’s really just the beginning – sort of a warm-up.

She may feel perfectly satisfied after one soulful blow, but she can definitely gun for more. While men find subsequent orgasms less satisfying and more difficult to build, women stack theirs – which means subsequent O’s are easier to build and can be stronger in intensity.

Ensuing blows are sweeter, deeper, more satisfying than the first one, some ladies even have problems when reaching the 4th or 5th because they don’t wish to stop anymore! They enter an “orgasmic cloud” where climaxes become blurred one from another and the whole experience blends into one long-lasting orgasm. It becomes an orgasmic overdrive and if not for sheer exhaustion, they wouldn’t retire.

It may take a girl some time to heat up, but she sure makes up for it later.

STAGE FOUR – The Resolution

After all that orgasmic hooplah, comes the Resolution – the period when genitals return to their unaroused state.

If men don’t gun for another climax after the Refractory Period, then the Resolution Stage automatically sets in. Since women have no refractory period after orgasm, they simply return to pre-orgasmic levels of the Plateau until they decide enough is enough.