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Oral Sex – 11 Hot Spots Most Girls Look Over (And Why YOU Shouldn’t!)

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Oral sex is incredible for a guy – but you can make it even more amazing by spending time on each of these sensitive areas before getting down to business.

Yes, there are more erogenous zones than just what lies between your man’s legs. While many of these spots are accessed and pleasured during foreplay, they are often forgotten once a woman’s concentration has moved down south. After learning more about the many male erogenous zones and sensitive spots, you can decide what works best on your partner and whether you should do it before, during or after oral sex.

The Head And Scalp

The scalp can be very sensitive to the touch and a great scalp massage before oral sex can send tingles down your partner’s spine and in between his legs. You can also lightly pull on your partner’s hair during fellatio if this is a sensation that he enjoys. Run your fingers through his hair ~ regardless how much he HAS or HAS NOT!

His Face

Just as a woman wants every part of her face explored and appreciated. Kissing their eyelids, temples, nose, forehead and cheeks should all be savored, not just their lips. Spend some time enjoying their stubble and the variance of their rugged male skin against your soft, supple womanly dermis.

His Ears

Most women probably know that the ears are an excellent erogenous zone in men. Many men get excited just at the thought of having their ears sucked, licked and lightly breathed on. Use this time to lightly moan into his ear to let him know how excited you are about the upcoming fellatio. This kind of foreplay shouldn’t be overlooked.

Before you “go down south”, set the stage for what you intend to do once you get down there. Talk to him and tell him what you plan to do, then ask him, “how does that sound?” He may add to it, which helps you know just want he dreams about you doing to him.

The Neck

Not surprisingly, the nape of the neck (as well as the upper neck, near the earlobes) is a very sensitive place on a guy. You can use light pressure, such as light sucking, licking and nibbling or you can use a slightly rougher technique such as more forceful sucking or biting. It all depends on your man’s mood and what he likes! Try a few different sensations in his neck area and gauge his response – he’ll give you physical cues to let you know that he likes something.

That doesn’t just apply to his neck area though – it can apply to anywhere! Another area to not ignore is their collar bone. The skin is thinner in that area that on the rest of their chest and very sensitive.

The Chest And Nipples

It is fairly well known that men’s nipples are not quite as sensitive as women’s nipples are, simply because there are more sensitive nerve endings (pleasurable and otherwise) in a woman’s nipple. That does not mean, however, that men do not enjoy having their nipples licked, sucked and nibbled before and during an oral sex session (most men do).

If your partner does like to have his nipples licked and sucked (or lightly pinched and rubbed, for that matter), do so during fellatio. You can certainly use this as a move to warm him up before oral sex or during to enhance the sensations of your mouth on his penis. Pulling or tugging on chest hair is a big turn on for some hairy chested fellas.

His Stomach

The lower tummy (near the groin area) is perhaps one of the most sensitive places (other than the penis and surrounding structures) on a man. You will definitely want to “cross this bridge” before you begin oral sex – it will make him crazy with desire! The most sensitive and responsive site is right where the thigh joins the stomach and a little bit above. If your man is really ripped, these places will be even more defined. It is possible that this area may not be as sensitive in a heavyset man, however, you can try licking and nibbling in this area before the blowjob to see if your man gives you a positive response. If he does like it, do use it sparingly.

A few nibbles here and there are just enough to get him going. If you overdo it, the area will get a bit numb and he won’t be as giddy about being touched and licked there. Some men are ultra ticklish, so caressing, not tiny glazes should be used. If you do accidently tickle him, all is not lost. Just remember and remind him that 90% of the time, tickle wars end in sex!

His Inner Thighs

A man’s inner thighs are often a neglected erogenous zone as not many women target them. Here, most men will enjoy some massaging, stroking, licking, and even some gentle nibbling. Pay some special attention to the area where his legs join the trunk of his body. It’s a real hot ticket button for many men – just be sure to use enough pressure that you don’t turn him into a “tickle me Elmo” doll and he loses his erection from all the giggling.

His Toes And Fingers

Okay, maybe not so much toes unless your partner happens to have a foot fetish (and some do). Fingers, however, can entice your man beyond his wildest dreams if caressed correctly. It is not so much the physical sensation here; it is more the visual and the imagination. Huh? Do to your man’s finger (index or middle) what you plan on doing to his penis in just a few short minutes. He will get to see your mouth and tongue action up-close and begin to imagine what it’s going to feel like when it’s on his penis.

Don’t spend too long doing this, however, because as we said – the fingers are not sensitive in and of themselves. If done for too long, he may begin to get bored with it because let’s face it – there’s only so much you can do to a finger! If done just enough, however, you can get his brain in gear for what’s to come.

The Perineum

Also referred to as the “male g-spot“, this is the ridged area of skin between the testicles and the anus. It is a very sensual area – one that when stimulated, creates sensations that most men find irresistible. This area is closely linked to the prostate gland, which is why it is so intensely pleasurable when touched. Some men love for you to run your tongue from the backside of their testicles all over this ridge and report that it’s their favorite “point of no return” when impassioned.

The Butt Cheeks

The buttocks are a definite fun spot to play with! Kiss them, rub them, shake them, smack them, tickle them, squeeze them and pull them into you with both hands while you are giving oral. It’s great to have your hands on both of them, especially if he’s in standing, so you can control the speed and also the depth. Spanking enthusiasts tout the pleasures of the backside, insisting that a good spanking before oral sex can be the perfect foreplay for your man, if he’s into it.

The Anus/Rectum

This area is a very arousing spot for a lot of people. There are many nerve endings located just at the opening of the anus making it a very sensitive and pleasurable place to touch. Try using fingers or a small, well lubricated sex toy, since any dry entry can cause pain, which is the exact opposite reaction you’re looking for. Even stroking gently around the edge while giving oral to your man is sometimes enough to push them straight over the edge.

Of course, every man is different. Your partner may have special spots (other than his penis) that he enjoys having licked, sucked, caressed, fondled, bitten, nibbled or pinched before or during oral sex. Just like with a woman and cunnilingus, you have to get a man ready and warmed up before you begin oral sex.

Last Longer In Bed And Really Rock Your Girl’s World!

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Last longer in bed and WOW your lover with your newfound sexual skills! When you last longer in bed, BOTH of you benefit!

Is premature ejaculation giving you plenty to worry about in the bedroom? Do you find yourself struggling with confidence and self esteem issues? Are you in a constant state of feeling inadequate with your performance in bed? If you are, then you really should stop, because things may not be as bad as you think. Why? Let’s find out below!

How Long Is Long Enough?

This is one question that practically every man wants to know. They want to know if they are good enough for their female partners. This is understandable. After all, the quality of a couple’s sex life is very often a reflection of the quality of the relationship.

According to sex surveys done over the last decade, 75 percent of men want to know how to last longer in bed. That is a huge figure! But here’s a simple truth – you only need to last as long as her! Many men think (and quite wrongly too!) that they need to go on for hours during sex. Nothing is further from the truth. Most women get an orgasm within 15 minutes, so that is the amount of time you should aim for.

Want to know an even better truth? That “15 minutes” can be shortened significantly – if you learn to give her proper stimulation BEFORE you start intercourse.

Find out what SHE likes in bed. Some women prefer a decent amount of foreplay; others crave oral sex; yet others love a little teasing, dirty talk before sex. Give her what she likes first, and you will have a far easier time managing your endurance in bed.

Ejaculating Early Is No Big Deal, Unless You Choose To Let It Become One!

The next time you climax early, tell her it’s because she is so HOT and turns you on so much. Believe me… women are also very conscious about how they “perform” in bed. So if you “blame” her for your early ejaculation problem, she will actually begin to think that she is really attractive. That will take the pressure off you to perform and help you last longer! But you better buck up the next time you make out with her!

Another great way and practical way to improve your sexual stamina is to train and condition the ejaculatory muscles, also known as the pubococcygeus muscle (or PC). Specific exercises such as Kegel and elevation techniques are proven ways to strengthen and bolster these muscles to give you great control and endurance and amazing sex to boot!

Dirty Talk: What To Say & What Not To

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Dirty talk isn’t always easy to engage in. You may be wondering if what comes out of your mouth is okay. Here are dirty talk phrases to avoid – and ones to use.

Never, Ever Make Comparisons

It’s best to never make comparisons during dirty talk. Though you may think your partner would be turned on to hear “You are the best lover I’ve ever had”, or “You give a blowjob like no one I have ever known before!” The only part they might take from that little seemingly harmless statement is to start wondering “Wow, I wonder just how many partners he or she HAS had” or “I wonder how many people HAVE tried that move on him (or her.)”

This can cause the mate hearing these words to have very real feelings of uneasiness and then have them obsessing over every thing from “WHO” the other partner(s) were, “WHAT” you did with them sexually, what you didn’t do with them and just how you really stacked up in their mind against what they view as “the competition.”

No one likes to be compared to someone else when it comes to very intimate sex acts with a spouse. It is regardless of whether it was a long time ago or about a former lover from a now dissolved marriage. You don’t want what should be “fun” dirty talk to turn into something which could ultimately be used to fuel jealousy or cause feelings of inadequacies in the person you are with.

You Don’t Have To Use Dirty Talk All The Time

Once you begin using dirty talk on a regular basis, realize that it doesn’t need to happen every time you have a sexual experience. There are encounters where looks, touches and emotions allow the silence to be perfect. As a matter of fact, If you feel it’s one of those “moments” simply smile, press your fingertips to your lover’s lips and say a sweet “Shhhh… baby I just want to hear us breathing in each other tonight.”

Jumping In, Feet First

The hardest part about dirty talk may be the first step to getting started. Take the initiative and the leading role. Just remember to start out your attempt as a fun filled adventure. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be lighthearted when you bring up your desire to add dirty talk to your relationship and simply look for a willing spirit from your partner.

You may be wondering to yourself, just how do I broach the topic? Try telling your partner, “Have I told you just how much you turn me on?” Chances are they won’t be expecting you to tell them that out of the blue. You didn’t say anything over the top, but it will require your mate to answer back. Once they have responded, tell them that you think you’d really like to try a little playful dialogue in the bedroom during foreplay so that you have another outlet for letting them know just what it is about them that really does it for you. And, as easy as that, the door to dirty talk has just been opened.

Is A Penis All It’s Really Cracked Up To Be?

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A penis is the be all and end all for a woman’s pleasure, right? Wrong! In fact, here’s why the penis is actually the MOST inadequate tool for a female orgasm!

Aaah, The Penis

Monuments have been built for it, product lines have mushroomed for the promise of making it larger, longer and harder – it’s the thing every man wishes 3 extra inches of. The Penis. Every self-respecting guy is expected to get it up, those unable to do so are left feeling psychologically and physically incapacitated – an old fart with a limp tool.

But, what if I told you that the penis is the most inefficient tool used during sex?! What if you find out it’s not the winning ticket to Orgasmville?

Truth Is, Penis Size DOESN’T Matter!

Women of experience know they can have an amazing time regardless of girth, length or color. Contrary to popular belief, the secret to a great encounter doesn’t hang on that thing dangling between your legs.

Besides dart in and out, what can a schlong do, really?

So What Does A Penis Really Do?

Come to think of it, tremendous muscular control is required to simply nod it up and down. One has to rock the pelvis and hips just to swing, push or bat it around. It takes only two forms, flaccid and firm. The first looks wrinkled, spiritless and docile. The second is merely hard, worthy of the name ‘hotrod’ because it’s just that – a rod – maneuvering only in straight line motions, curved at best.

Then, it has the nasty habit of failing guys when they need an erection the most. But sometimes, it awakens when it’s not supposed to, (forcing its bearer to remain seated longer than he planned to.) And it would certainly douse your enthusiasm when you realize that what hardens it is plain old blood.

And yet, men treat it as if it’s the best thing, placing undue prominence on something that’s not even a close third to the real machineries of sexual warfare. So stop peddling the thing as if it’s all that. Stop glorifying the penis, get out of the cult!

You Do Not Need A Huge Cock To Give Her Great Sex

Enough with the SIZE issue. Too many otherwise rational men needlessly lose sleep and hair over it. Do you really think your equipment can be huge enough so your woman’s vagina can’t contain it? I don’t think so! Babies come out of those things! It can expand when it needs to. And do you really think bigger is better? Deeper is better?

Definitely not! A huge cock stabbing a petite vagina only results in an irritated woman and a painful experience. Put yourself in her high-heeled shoes. Women don’t love gagging on those life-threatening logs during a blowjob and they’re not psyched to have it up their backdoors either.

Penile size should instead commensurate vaginal capacity. In this sense, to be average is best. Besides, guys who think they’re small are actually oftentimes average. And those with genuinely diminutive members need not fret, though one may be hung like a mosquito, one can be a better lover than any clueless 12-inch guy.

Another Issue – Getting It Up?

Definitely a touchy subject for the elderly and those with performance anxiety. Zero erections create that feeling of uselessness and unwelcomed termination. As if the limpness declares, “Not tonight buddy! Go watch the Weather Channel.”

This reflects the: SEX = PENETRATION = PENIS paradigm. And if indeed you think this way, it is indeed over. But if you get a sexual reprogramming, widen your horizons and think: SEX = PLEASURE = FUN, then you’re up for something else – even when you don’t have a hard-on. For many are the possibilities.

Ironically, worrying about it chases the erection away. When you worry and pressure yourself, you always lose, always. As one cannot will or worry a penis to life. Instead, focus on other stuff. Be mindful, for example, of the tingling sensations given by your partner – as she touches and kisses your body. In time, that which you don’t chase will come. That’s a paradox in action.

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Killer Butt Massage

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Erotic massage relaxes your lover, getting them ready for sex. You don’t want to neglect the neck – here are the erotic massage techniques you want to use.

The first goal of the erotic massage is to relax your partner. Taking adequate time to apply the following relaxing and stress-reducing massage techniques will help melt away any apprehension your partner may have and encourage her to let go and to trust you. You will want to begin with your lover lying face down on the massage table with her backside exposed to you. Next, take the towel or fabric and gently drape it over her buttocks. This will help make her feel more comfortable about lying naked in front of you.

Next, apply about a teaspoon of warmed massage oil onto one hand and rub it briskly between both of your hands until the oil is warm. Once your hands are primed with oil, you are ready to begin the massage, starting your partner’s back.

Back Techniques

With the flat of your hands facing downward and using long, slow soothing strokes, apply a delicate pressure and move your hands back and forth and up and down the entire area of her back. If you feel too much friction on her skin during your rubbing motions, apply a bit more oil.

When stroking your partner, it’s good to use directional movements. Start at a particular spot on her back and end at another spot. An example of this would be to start at the base of her lower back just above her buttocks, then move up in a long slow stroke to her shoulders, and then down the sides of her arms all the way to her hands. Using both of your hands one on each side of her body simultaneously to do this gives a great effect, but you can as well do it using one hand. After finishing a stroke such as this, you can then repeat it in reverse by starting from her hands up to her shoulders and then back down to the base of her lower back. Or, start by following in reverse and then continue a transition to another area of her body.

Remember that any suggestions in this book are only to give you ideas on how to get started as a great giver of sensual touch massage. By getting a good idea of what to do through these practices, you will become more confident and be more capable of creating your own strokes and techniques. The main rule here is that whatever you try on her, if you notice that she is enjoying it, expand on those moves and techniques using your own intuition and guidance. In short, be creative! That’s the fun part of the exploring your partner through massage. The more you explore, the more you will learn and the more fun you and your partner will have.

Shoulders And Neck

The neck and shoulders are typically very stressful areas. Most people hold a majority of the tension in their neck and shoulder regions. Women especially carry their stress in these locations. So massaging these areas makes for a great opportunity to relax and soothe your partner with your masterful hands. Learn how to massage these areas well and she’ll be putty in your hands – this is what makes this area such a great place to start!

Standing or kneeling beside her on either side, start your stroke from the outside edges of her upper shoulders where her arms connect and move up towards her neck. You can use both hands simultaneously to do this or just one hand and shoulder side at a time. Continue this stroke a few times up to her neck and then back down again to the outer edges of her shoulders. Using the ends of your fingers and thumbs works well for this move versus the entire palm of your hand. Circular strokes are also effective.

If you want to apply a bit more pressure on her shoulder muscles, you can lightly grab (like a light pinch) and knead them between your thumb and fingers. This works well when using both hands together, with one hand on each side of her shoulders. And remember, if she expresses any kind of pain while you are doing this or any other massage techniques on her, back off the pressure or move to another location.

Remember to keep an eye on her facial expressions and body language, as well as any verbal moans or groans. Be sure to check win with her from time to time throughout the beginning phase of the massage so that you can get a better understanding of what feels good to her and what doesn’t.

Now on up into her neck. Again using the ends of your fingers flat against her neck, rub gently up the sides of her neck starting from bottom to top. The lower point of the neck muscle you are massaging here starts around the base of the shoulders, and the highest point is where the muscle connects with the back of her head. These muscles tend to hold quite a bit of tension and stress, so it’s important to spend some extra time in this area.

Another effective technique for massing the back of the neck is to lightly grasp the muscles between your thumb and fingers as shown in the picture below. With an in-and-out kneading motion (grasping and releasing), work your way up and down her neck. This technique will feel especially good to her as you can really work those muscles deeply to release the tightness and tension. The amount of pressure you use depends on what she personally likes. The best way to find out is to ask her how it is. Is it too much? Is it too little? Good communication is essential when giving massage.

As mentioned previously, women tend to contain a lot of their stress in their shoulders and neck, and the more relaxed you can get her by massaging these areas, the better off the rest of the massage will go due to her being able to relax and release her tension. If she expresses a lot of pleasure and relief by massaging these areas, by all means continue for a good amount of time before you move on. Ten to fifteen minutes should do well.