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Erotic Massage: Melt Her Tension With A Head And Face Rub

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Erotic massage gets a woman relaxed and ready for sex – but before you head down south, start with an erotic massage for up north for complete relaxation..

Women love attention around their head and face. Massaging these areas can be a delightful experience to your partner. It’s also a great way for you to connect in a sweet and intimate way. With you being so close to her ears and face, this proposes a great opportunity to whisper something sexy to her and then follow up with a few tender, loving kisses to her face as well.

Touching and stroking her delicately and softly along her neck, sides of her face and shoulders are very stimulating areas of arousal. As well, stroking her hair and top of her head will give her a sense of comfort.

Erotic Massage On The Scalp

Run your fingers through her hair with your fingers spread, slowly and delicately slip them through her hair while applying a slight pressure downward to her scalp. As you do this, you can also move your fingers around in small circular motions onto her scalp. The sensation is one of the best you can create while giving her an erotic massage. It is rare to do this one without lots of very pleasurable moaning and groaning going on. Use your thumbs here as well as you will be able to apply a bit more pressure with them.

The neck muscles in the back of your partner’s head where they connect to her skull are also very good points to massage. They tend to be very major stress holding points and giving them a good rub will help her to relax and release any tension she has in that area. With your hand facing up, walk your fingers way down the back of her head until you feel where her neck muscles meet her head. Then, begin pulling your fingertips towards you in a “come here” motion while stroking these muscles up and down. The closer you massage to the connection points the better. You can even stop along the way and just hold pressure there for ten seconds or so and then continue on.

Erotic Massage On The Face

After massaging her scalp, lets move up to her face and temples. Located on the sides of her face directly behind her eyes and just over her cheekbones you will find her temples. Applying a very light pressure with your fingertips, make slow soft circular motions to these areas. Your movements should reach as far back as the fronts of her ears, up to her the sides of her forehead, and down to her cheekbones. Vary the sizes of your circles from the center outward from small to large and then back in again. This will ensure that every area of possible tension is addressed.

Now, taking the flat part of your downward turned and closed fingers, move up to her forehead. Starting from the center of her forehead with your fingertips from each hand touching each other, begin pulling them away from each other across the skin of her forehead until you reach down to just above her temples, then place your fingertips back together over her forehead again and repeat a few more times. Light pressure is the key here, especially on a woman’s face, as you don’t want to overstretch her skin or muscles.

From her forehead, move down to her cheeks. Again with the flat part of your closed fingertips, make slow soft circular motions over the skin and muscle. Do this a few times. The best direction is to start your motions inward towards her nose at the top of the cheek, and then outward towards the sides of her face at the bottom of the cheek.

Be sure to spend 5-10 minutes massaging your lover’s scalp and face. When done, you’ll want to move your attention to the rest of her front side—starting with her belly and then moving on to her breasts.

Sex Toys: How To Use Them During Oral Sex

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Sex toys can add an extra element of surprise and pleasure during oral sex. Here’s how to use sex toys to give your lover amazing orgasms during cunnilingus!

For the really advanced cunnilingus masters (or those who are just looking to try out a few new tricks), the use of toys during cunnilingus may spice it up just a bit. Of course, you will want to make sure that your partner is comfortable with using toys first. She may not be comfortable with the idea at all or she may be comfortable with some things and not others. If you’re really lucky, she’ll be up for anything!

Communicate First!

Communication is key to avoiding a potential argument and canceled cunnilingus session – take a trip to the adult toy store and let her pick out some of the things she would like to try during cunnilingus. If she seems apprehensive about it, don’t push the issue. She may need to get warmed up to the idea first. Of course, if she isn’t willing to use toys in the bedroom period, it is important that you leave it at that to avoid making her feel uncomfortable. If your partner feels uncomfortable or pressured, she will not open her mind and body fully to cunnilingus and your efforts will be unsuccessful.

What Kind Of Sex Toys To Use?

There are lots and lots to choose from in this department. To simplify things, we’ll separate them into two distinct categories – toys that stay outside of the vaginal canal and toys that go in it.

Outside The Vulva

These sex toys are probably the best to start out with, especially if your partner or you are at all apprehensive about bringing toys into the bedroom. These can be any number of things – they don’t have to be specially purchased toys, although they do manufacture some great ones just for the occasion. We should probably note that most of the toys that are used outside the vulva offer some sort of vibration, like a clitoris vibrator. This can feel wonderful coupled with long, soft strokes by a tongue! There are so many different vibrating toys available for clitoral stimulation; it’s difficult to know exactly where to start. If you’re not keen to visit an XXX store to purchase something specially designed, a trip to your local department store or general store should suffice.

Back massagers and neck massagers work well – even a consistently ringing cell phone on vibrate will do the trick (just kidding). Foot massagers and the like generally won’t get the job done, so stick with a good back massaging wand for maximum effect. Your partner may even want to use it if you’re out of town! If you’re in the mood to see what the local XXX store has to offer, you’ll find dozens of devices specifically with a woman’s pleasure in mind. Most of these are small, wand-like vibrators (some are even waterproof) that stimulate the clitoris in just the precise way. Some have jelly tips with different textures on them and others will strap on to the thighs and be controlled by remote to provide constant stimulation. Do be careful however – it is important that your partner be involved in both making the decision to bring toys into the bedroom

Inside The Vagina

These types of sex toys are generally not for beginners. Both partners must be extremely comfortable with sex and cunnilingus before bringing these to the table. These toys are generally phallic-shaped and some are even made with silicone to directly resemble an erect penis. Other models of this type of toy are more simply designed (think bullet or dome shaped) and are sleeker. There are many shapes and sizes, so it is important to choose one that both you and your partner are comfortable with. This type of toy can come with or without vibration, and with or without extra “pieces” that can stimulate the clitoris and other parts of the vulva. Generally, you will only find toys such as these in a XXX store.

How To Use Sex Toys During Oral Sex

Like everything else, you want to introduce it gently. It is never good to rely solely on a toy during an oral sex session (unless this is something your partner has directly requested), so be sure to provide most of the stimulation with your warm, wet tongue utilizing the techniques described earlier in the book. For toys that stimulate the clitoris, you can gently move them around the vulva first (never place them directly on the clitoris at first) and then move in to the clitoris when your partner is more aroused.

It is important to pay attention to your lady’s cues at this time as well – you’ll need to find out how fast she likes it, what kind of pressure she likes, so on and so forth. For toys that go inside the vagina, you can use them just as though you would use your penis for intercourse.

Be careful though! This must always be done gently and you must take your cues from your partner or it could spell disaster. Inserting anything into her vaginal opening without her arousal and consent may end very badly.

Once you and your partner become more comfortable with sex toys, this may not be necessary for every cunnilingus session – the key is, of course, to follow your partner’s cues. Keep in mind that when purchasing toys for use in the bedroom that your partner needs to be very involved in the decision of what to buy. Do not purchase something you think she’ll like and whip it out seconds before a cunnilingus session! She will need to determine the size, shape, color and intensity of every toy that is going to be used during cunnilingus (or intercourse) and she may even feel like different toys based on her mood. As long as you pay attention to your partner and listen to what she’s saying (both verbally and non-verbally), you can almost guarantee cunnilingus success.

What Dirty Talk Can Do For Your Relationship

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to heat up your sex life. Here’s how to make dirty talk work for you!

Dirty talk can increase the intensity and actual frequency of your sexual experience. It will improve your lovemaking as you communicate your desires with each other more often. And it will increase the amount of lovemaking as it becomes more exciting. When it comes to sex, don’t settle for “common” – trusting each other and a lifetime of learning together makes for a great relationship. Spend time really getting to know your partner, while searching out what “does it” for each of you.

You hear far too often of sexless marriages and relationships where neither feels the romance. Dirty talk is a way to put the spark back into your relationship. If fun, it’s different – and it’s so seductive to be different! To this day, there are still things which my mate finds out about me, that keep me interesting and has her wondering what else might be going on in that brain of mine.

Gaining Confidence For Dirty Talk

A very important note to our female readers:

Many women are naturally insecure about their bodies. The media has not helped. The images thrown at us on a daily basis make a large percentage of women feel that if they don’t have the body of a Victoria’s Secret super model then their man couldn’t possibly be that attracted to them.

Work with what you have. Remember, the old saying “Every man wants a whore in the bedroom and a lady on the street.” It’s true! A Whore you say? Well, maybe just his whore.

Don’t forget, your body is HIS playground!!!! Don’t let feelings of insecurity (“Could I be skinnier? Do I need bigger/smaller breasts? Is my butt too big or too flat?) steal from you the kind of hot and passionate sex that you and your husband both deserve and desire from one another. You are THERE with him – and undressed. He’s completely sold at that point.

The Truth About The Way He Looks At You

He doesn’t care if your lingerie is perfect.

He doesn’t care if you panties and bra match.

He doesn’t care if you missed a day shaving your legs.

Cellulite and stretch marks don’t turn him off.

Jiggling in all the right places – including your hot breasts, butt and thighs – can be a big turn on for him when you are in the throws of him taking you. Women are much, much tougher on themselves and on picking out the flaws on other women than what men are towards judging their bodies.

How To Flaunt What Your Momma Gave You

Don’t undress quickly. Let him take in the unwrapping of the perfect gift you are giving him – your body. Slowly peeling away layers of your clothing and teasing him with little shots of the goods he is about to enjoy is very erotic. Don’t cover yourself with the sheets of blanket or he might as well be having sex with a down comforter. If you get up to go to the restroom – don’t grab a robe!

Walk slowly, stretch, look back over your shoulder and smile, he’s enjoying the view – the view of YOU!

Men are visual creatures and drink in the site of your body nude. Don’t be afraid to walk around the room naked. Confidence is the most beautiful trait any woman can possess. And ladies, after you have brought your man to the heights of pleasure and he has emptied his semen, you don’t have to be “done,” just because he has gone off the edge of the cliff. Take the time and relish in what he has just done.

Turning It Into Dirty Talk

Describe to him the look of it, the feel of it, the amount of it, and should you be so inclined, the taste of it. If he shoots his load on his chest, on your chest, or on to your stomach – play with it – trace your initials or name in it, doodle hearts on his body. Everyone say it out loud  – semen is not BIOHAZARDDOUS!!!!!

If instead he empties himself inside you , once he has pulled out , don’t immediately grab for something to clean up with. Too many times women will make men feel like their semen is toxic. When in fact, it is what you cause him to do just by arousing him. YOU make him EXPLODE!

What a powerful thought that is! Tell your man how warm it makes you feel inside to have this extension and the complete final result of his intense desire for you, to now be a part of your body!

Oral Sex – 3 Naughty Places To Give Your Girl The Wildest Sexual Experience!

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Oral sex can become even hotter when you mix up where you’re actually doing the deed – here are three extra saucy places to have absolutely amazing oral sex!

Are you running out of ideas to spice up your sex life? Is the next trip to the bedroom turning out to be a dull and boring affair? Then it is time to put some creativity to good use! If both you and your girl are game for a little escapade of oral sex, then these hot tips will add some sizzle to your sex life. Get out of the bedroom and give her the best cunnilingus of her life!

Oral Sex On The Balcony

There is something about engaging in sexual acts in the open that turns women on. It is the anticipation of being found out that adds to the thrill. If you have a balcony at home, it is a great place to slowly tease her into having sex “in the open”, so to speak. If your girl is game to try this, great! If not, slowly convince her. You can engage in some light foreplay in the bedroom and when you get her sufficiently aroused, offer to give her a more “sensual service” in the balcony.

Engage In Some Wet And Wild Oral Sex

Wet and wild oral sex is a tantalizing combo! If you have a swimming pool in your backyard, this will be great for some water oral sex with a little privacy. Be a little more imaginative. You can go down on her at the pool side, on the steps or even on an inflatable boat right in the middle of the pool!

Don’t have a swimming pool? Don’t worry! Your own bathtub would do just great! Besides, there are plenty of “sex props” in the bathroom that can come in handy as additional aids (think shower head, jets of water spray etc). If you are feeling a little more adventurous, how about heading down to a secluded part of the beach? Or hire a small boat and head out to the open sea for some good loving oral fun!

Sizzle Up In The Kitchen!

Now, if performing oral sex in the great outdoors is not your cup of tea, you can have a great oral romp right at home in the kitchen. Like the bathroom, the kitchen offers plenty of props that will spice things up a notch. Whipped cream, ice cream or even liquid chocolate are all great companions to give her a sizzling oral session. And there is no lack of locations in the kitchen to perform this either! The kitchen sink, the dining table, the counter all offer comfortable places to give her a great time!

3 Oral Sex Positions That Will Leave You Feeling Like A Gymnast

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Oral sex positions can make things hotter than you ever thought possible – these acrobatic oral sex positions will make you a pro!

Sometimes, the good old fashioned missionary position during oral sex just isn’t enough to make you feel like you’re getting enough variety in your sex life. For those who really want something unique, there are a couple of oral sex positions that few have tried or if they have, mastered. All of these require a healthy partner with some flexibility, and none are recommended for long-term adventures because of their acrobatic requirements. Still, they can inject some levity into your sexual repertoire, just make sure you both stretch and get limber, first.

The Crab

Have the guy lie on his back, propped up with pillows behind his head and shoulders. The lady then sits on his belly with her legs at his ears and her hands by his knees, and pushes her belly towards the ceiling so she looks like a crab crawling. She can then move as close or as far away from her partner as she wants, even using pillows underneath her buttocks if she gets tired. This does, however, require quite a bit of upper arm strength on the woman’s part. If you are actually able to master this oral sex position, it can definitely create some new sensations that you’ve never experienced before!

Partial Headstand

The partial handstand sounds a bit more difficult than it really is. Have the man sit down in a comfortable position where his knees are bent and wide apart. A pillow should be between his feet. Then have the woman climb from behind the man, and wrap herself around him so that her head is on the pillow, her thighs on his shoulders, and her knees around his head. There are some women who swear by this position, as it forces all the blood to their head, thus increasing orgasm intensity, but it can be a challenging pose for both partners, especially in the middle of her thrashing about.

Supported Headstand

Take a thick blanket and fold it so that it’ll support the woman’s shoulders and neck –  if she’s a yoga fan, she’ll know exactly what to do. Then have her put her shoulders along the longest side of the blanket and help her get into the headstand position. The man should hold her legs so that the backs of her thighs are supported by his shoulders, and that when he looks down her body, he looks right into her eyes. The folks that have tried this position say they love it, because it’s one that is very connected, plus it allows for easy access to her genitals and breasts, but for obvious reasons can be quite dangerous to hold for any length of time as well. This is one of the oral sex positions that is the most difficult, however, if you achieve it for any length of time, you’re going to be very pleased with the results!

Remember that if any of these positions hurt or cause discomfort at all to stop immediately! A safe word might be a good idea here, as is a back up plan if you find that the more acrobatic oral sex positions aren’t working that well for you.