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11 Surprising Ways To Have Incredible Sex

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Incredible sex doesn’t have to be something you once had at the beginning of your relationship. It’s common for sex to become blase as you and your partner become more comfortable with each other, however, that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to mediocre sex for the rest of your relationship. Here’s how you can make sex great with these unconventional techniques.

Experiment With Condoms

Condoms are essential if you and your partner aren’t monogamous with each other, aren’t sure of each other’s sexual pasts or haven’t been tested for STD’s. However, most couples who have been tested or are in a monogamous relationship forgo using condoms, especially if they’re using birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. But did you know that condoms can sometimes enhance your sex life, even if you don’t need them? Condoms are great for anal sex, because you can just slip it off before engaging in vaginal penetration. If you experiment with different brands and styles of condoms, like ribbed and studded or twisted, you may find something that actually helps stimulate your g-spot and makes it easier for you to have an orgasm!

Try Dirty Talk

A lot of women are too shy to try dirty talk, but there is definitely a correlation between dirty talk and absolutely explosive sex. If you’re not comfortable with dirty talk, start slow and work your way up to it. Start by simply vocalizing your pleasure when you feel something good, especially if your partner is doing something special to you like giving you oral sex. Next, start describing how much you like what he’s doing and then move on to telling him what you’d like to do next. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be vulgar – it can be as simple as tell your partner what you like and how much you like it.

Start Sexting

Like dirty talk, sexting can drastically improve the quality of your sex life with your partner. While you’re at work or school, send your lover a naughty text that describes what you want to do when you get home that night. It will spark their imagination and get them thinking about you all day. When you finally do get home, it’s going to be all you can do not to tear each other’s clothes off as soon as you walk through the door!

Learn To Striptease

Men are visual creatures. They love watching women, especially naked women. The love dancing naked women even more! There’s a reason that strip clubs are so popular, but most women don’t like their guys going out and ogling other women. You can solve that problem in a heartbeat by learning to perform a striptease yourself! Don’t worry about not being a good dancer or not knowing what you’re doing – your man doesn’t care. Slip on some really great lingerie (a garter belt with thigh highs is a must) and do a sexy little dance for him. Chances are, you won’t be dancing for that long anyway.

Eat Celery

You wouldn’t think that celery would boost your libido, but it most certainly does. Celery contains a steroid called androstenone, which is also found in human sweat. This is one of the components of human pheromones that help attract men and women to each other. Eating celery will increase the presence of the steroid in humans and increase pheromone production – making people much more attracted to each other. Not only will it increase pheromone production, celery will also increase the amount of ejaculatory fluids in both men and women so orgasms will be more powerful and more pleasurable.

Take The BSPI Test

The BSPI Test (called the Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator) is a test that can accurately determine what your true sexual preferences are  through both direct questions and questions that are designed to access your subconscious. Knowing your sexual preferences – what you like and what you don’t like – can help you better communicate what you want in the bedroom to your partner. You can also have your partner take the test to see if you’re sexually compatible!

Wear Socks During Sex

Sure, socks aren’t sexy and most men and women only wear them to bed if they’re not planning on having sex that night. But did you know that if a woman’s feet are warm, she is 30% more likely to have an orgasm? Next time you get it on with your lover – especially if you have trouble reaching the big “O” – try donning a nice, plush pair of socks on your feet before you crawl in between the sheets. You might be surprised at how much better it can be!

Get Sexy

Women feel sexier when they get their bodies ready for sex. Sure, shaving may not seem like a very erotic act, but getting ready for sex by primping will actually make a woman feel more like getting busy than if she hadn’t done any primping at all. So next time you’re thinking about hitting the sheets with your partner, take twenty minutes to shave your legs (or other parts of your body if you like), put on a little lip gloss and fluff your hair. If you’re feeling like you’re looking good, you’re going to be much more receptive to having sex.

Bake A Pumpkin Pie (Or Burn A Lavender Candle)

We all know that scent plays a very powerful role in arousal, but many women (and men) aren’t sure what scents and aphrodisiacs will turn their partners on the most. Women respond best to the smells of vanilla and fresh cut grass, while men respond best to the smell of lavender or pumpkin pie. Next time you want to turn your man on, burn a lavender candle and slip into a bubble bath or bake a fresh pumpkin pie right before he comes home from work. He won’t know that the smell of pumpkin pie is what made him want to jump your bones as soon as he walked in the door, but you will!

Assign Him Chores

While men get turned on by a naked woman, women actually get turned on when men do chores! A woman will get much more turned on by a man in a work uniform covered in grease who has just changed the oil in the car than she will by a man who is primped, shaven and naked. If you want to give your libido a boost and become more attracted to your man, ask him to do something really “manly” like fix the leaky pipe or lift something really, really heavy. Even if you can do these things yourself, you’ll be much more attracted to him if he does it.

Take Some Zinc

Zinc is a great supplement to take when you have a cold or the flu because it can help you get over it faster, but did you also know that zinc will help boost your man’s libido? Zinc is essential for testosterone health and will raise a man’s energy levels and increase their desire for sex. Oysters have gotten their reputation for being an aphrodisiac most likely because they are one of the foods that are highest in zinc! Next time you want your man to really want you, feed him some oysters or just have him take a zinc supplement!

10 Things That Will Make Your Breasts Look Fabulous!

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Seduction involves using your natural accessories – namely, your breasts. Make the most of your breasts (and get tons of male attention) with these ten tips.

Breasts are a natural accessory, much like a necklace. If you pick the right outfit (or even your birthday suit), your breasts can really put a nice bow on the package!

Go Braless During The Day

Your breasts deserve a break! Go braless for a day. Wear a soft t-shirt that doesn’t feel rough against your nipples and just lounge around. It’s even better if you can do this in front of your guy. Turn the air down a little so it gets just a tad bit chilly – and he’ll definitely notice that your girls are standing at attention.

Use Ice Cubes To Harden Your Nipples

Instead of buying nipple enhancers (yeah, those actually exist), just slip an ice cube under your bra and hold it on your nipple for just a few seconds. This will get them nice and hard, although you may end up getting your shirt a little wet. This is a great move if you want to surprise your lover by wearing nice lingerie, or want to parade around nude in front of him. Getting your girls to perk up first will make you look that much sexier. (Also try using ice on him or on your clitoris for even more fun!)

Play With Different Fabrics During Sex

Different fabrics can really feel great on your nipples and breasts. Have some scarves made of chiffon or silk, and see if you can’t get your hands on some velvet or leather. After the seduction and when you’ve already got him in bed, let your partner gently rub the fabrics against your breasts and enjoy the sensations!

Use A Nipple Stain

If you want your nipples to look absolutely divine as soon as you take your bra off, try using a nipple stain. Similar to a lip gloss, this is swiped over the nipples and adds just a hint of color and sheen. Some nipple stains even taste good, so your partner can tell you how sweet you are!

Forget Your Top At The Sauna

Next time you’re at the sauna, just drop your towel. Let your girls sweat too. This will help release toxins and give your chest a nice, sexy and healthy glow.

Use Shimmer Powder And A Low Cut Top

If you’re going somewhere that you really want to be noticed by guys (and possibly get asked out on a date) wear a low cut top. Don the double sided tape if you have to. Before heading out the door, sweep on some bronzer or shimmer powder to highlight your cleavage. The guys won’t be able to keep their eyes off you!

Use A Sports Bra That Separates

Say goodbye to “uni-boob” forever. A sports bra that smashes your girls together is less than flattering and even more uncomfortable. You can look sexy while working out by getting a sports bra that separates your breasts and creates cleavage.

Give Budoir Photos To Your Lover

Take some tasteful topless pics of yourself (or just pictures of your breasts by themselves) and give them to your partner as a gift. (Make sure you trust this person first!) You can also hire a professional if you really want to get some high quality, artistic nude photographs. This makes an excellent anniversary or Valentine’s Day gift!

Sleep Topless

Don’t always insist on going to bed in a bra, even if it’s a soft bra that you use specifically for sleep. Just let the girls go every once in awhile! It will turn your partner on beyond belief when he rolls over, slips his hand over you and feels your naked breasts in bed. You may very well be engaging in morning sex when the sun comes up!

Use Chicken Cutlets

Some women are naturally born with big breasts (or even medium breasts) but others are born with very small breasts. Instead of going for a radical breast augmentation, try using chicken cutlets first. If you’ve never heard of them, they’re silicone inserts that sit in your bra and make your breasts look bigger when you’re wearing a shirt. These can really enhance your look!

However, you want to be careful here, because if you do get a guy to ask you out, he may be disappointed when he realizes you were falsely advertising your goods.

Your breasts are an amazing accessory – show them off! Dress them up, let your partner kiss and stroke them and enhance them whenever you get the chance!

Are You Naughty Enough To Try These Bad-Girl Only Moves?

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Sex tips can help good girls go naughty and your man will LOVE it! Are you bad enough to try these kinky sex tips?

Every good girl knows that bad girls have the best sex ever. Every man loves a bad girl, just like girls love bad boys. But the reality of being with one or being one isn’t as good as the fantasy. So if you’re a good girl, what can you take from bad girls to spice up your life? I’ve got some bad girl only sex moves, but can you handle them? Are you ready to get that naughty?

Take Him

So many times men have to make the first move. And while many men enjoy being dominant and taking charge, there is definitely a downside to this as well. It makes men feel like they are in a position to beg or be rejected. If he makes a move and you’re not into it for any reason, he’ll be depressed, hurt, angry, confused, or just feel plain unappreciated.

Now you can see why making the first move can get old for men. Every guy secretly wants a woman to not only initiate sex, but demand it. Nothing’s hotter to a guy than a woman who says “we are having sex. Right here, right now. Don’t say no.” That’s just plain hot, and it makes men feel wanted, which is just as important to us as it is to you, we just may not say it or even be aware of it, but it’s true. Take him, often. The more you randomly screw your man like a bad girl would, the more he’ll be your man forever or for as long as you want.

Get Yourself Off

Bad girls don’t expect the man to give them an orgasm. They take it. They just happen to use him as a human dildo. The man is simply along for the ride. She’s just using him for sex.

This is pretty awesome for the guy too. So many men feel so much pressure from women to produce sexually. It’s like they just disrobe, lay there naked and say “okay, begin dispensing the multiple orgasms!” Last time I checked, it takes two to tango.

A bad girl doesn’t depend on a man for great sex. She knows she’s an amazing lover. She is so good at sex, porn stars come to her for sex advice. Since she is capable of performing sexually at such a high level, she does so. Always. And not only does she fuck like a rock star, she demands that her partner do so as well. She brings her lover or lovers up to her high level of sexual performance. Not only does that make sure she is way more likely to have intense, incredible orgasms, it makes sure her men become putty in her hands, mouth, vagina or anus.

Pre-Heat Your Own

Ever meet a bad girl? Ever see her when she isn’t turned on? No. A bad girl is hornier than a teenager on Viagra. Now, I understand you might not always be sexually aroused, but you should always be sexually aroused around him. Don’t depend on him to make you feel sexy. Make yourself feel sexy. Wear sexy underwear (or don’t wear any at all), masturbate at work. Look at porn, read erotica, do whatever it takes to get to feeling sexy and stay there.

Open It Up

Bad girls are down with having sex anywhere, any place, any time. Bathroom stalls, backseats, department store dressing rooms, office break rooms, you name it. Take a page from their location book. Screw places you only would if you knew you wouldn’t get caught or if you were on vacation and didn’t care. Screw like teenagers. Be loud. Talk dirty, leaving no stone unturned and put everything on the table.

Own Your Body

Bad girls have no qualms about their bodies. They are comfortable in their own skin yes, but they love using sex toys on themselves and on their partners. They love to dress up in sexy costumes. They’re all about the role play. They love to live out their deepest, darkest, wildest sex fantasies.

Eradicate Your Hang Ups

Bad girls have no issue about anything. IF they like to have anal sex, they live to have anal sex. They will have sex with women if they choose, have ten lovers in one day if they feel like it, and they will enjoy every second of it.

You can’t do any of that if you are sexually repressed or inhibited in any way. If you are, a guy will pick up on it in a second, and that’s a huge turn off for us. Now we know that not every woman enjoys giving blowjobs for example, but if you’re not into it, that’s one thing. If you want to, but don’t have the guts to, that’s another.

How Being ‘Nice’ In Bed Is MEAN To Your Girl!

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Sex tips can take you from being “ho hum” in the sack to being incredible! Here are some great sex tips on how to be the ALPHA MALE she really wants!

It always amazes me at just how many men think that the key to giving a woman great sex is to just be sweet in the bedroom. I’m talking about asking her what she wants, asking her how she is doing, asking her if she’s “there” yet, so on and so forth.

Well fellas, have I got some news for you –

Women are not attracted to WUSSIES in the bedroom!

No sir! We don’t want a guy who asks us what to do and takes orders like a puppy. We want a man who isn’t afraid to pin us down and throw us around and literally ROCK our worlds!

Now, I’m not saying you should be a “jerk” when you are having sex, I but I DO mean that you need to be authoritative and IN CHARGE! This definitely extends to your dating and relationship life as well, but for the purpose of  rapid sexual improvement, I want to show you right now how to use authority in the bedroom and LEAD your woman to stronger orgasms!

It’s All About Being A Man

You see, when you start asking questions and catering to your woman, her sexual attraction towards you instantly shuts off. I don’t mean to get too ” biological” on you, but think about this – women are naturally drawn to men who are leaders and protectors. In caveman days, woman would go after the strongest man, the leader of the tribe. A.K.A. – the guy who would hunt down the prey and clobber any enemies.

I know, I know, your mother and your sister tell you you should be courteous to women. And you should! But in the bedroom, what we REALLY want is the same guy that in the caveman days would be leading the hunt.

How To Take Charge

  • Tell us how turned on you are
  • Doing us HARD! (there, I said it!)
  • Using sex positions in which you have TOTAL CONTROL! Such as “doggy style” (which is often our favorite position – we love it because we feel like we are being “taken”!)
  • Having us go down on you and be there for YOUR pleasure!

I’m in no way saying make your woman do anything she isn’t comfortable with (that goes for you too).

But what I AM saying is your woman is going to be most turned on when you:

  • Do not ask what position to use and INSTEAD grab and her put her into it!
  • Lightly pull her hair during doggy style and give her ass a little slap.
  • Talk dirty on occasion and ravish her – and yes tell her what panties to wear!
  • Set up romantic evenings that you plan without asking her what she wants (Here’s a hint: “Romance” is her feeling that YOU know what she wants EVEN BETTER than she does)

The whole point of this note is to open your eyes that when you stop being “too sweet” to your woman in bed, and start taking authority and taking CONTROL, you will be pleasantly surprised by how much she likes it… AND how much easier it is for her to have intense, mind-blowing orgasms!

Watch Her Be Completely Submissive To You!

Once you start, don’t be surprised if SHE takes it the next level by telling you to do her harder, or being COMPLETELY submissive to you and even having an orgasm on your command! The next step is trying this stuff out – you won’t know just how powerful it is until you start doing it!

5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life!

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So many couples think about hot sex all the time, but when it comes to the big show, they are total duds in bed. If your partner is rolling their eyes every time you try to please, you need to handle the problem quickly. If you have heard from your partner that they are bored and tired of the “same old sex”, it’s probably time to step out of your comfort zone. Here are 5 ways to spice up your sex life!

Live Out Your Fantasies

Everybody has fantasies. If you find yourself in a sexual rut, consider living out a few of your fantasies to get your juices flowing again. Talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies before you just “go for it”. We all like different things and some of your fantasies might not mesh too well with your partner. Be open and honest about your fantasies. There is no reason to only do it at 50%. More than likely, your partner wants you to share your fantasies – so talk to them.

Be Spontaneous

Spontaneous sex is an easy way to spice up your sex life. There are so many couples out there that do it on the same day at the same hour every week for years.  It’s all about shaking thing up and when you’re following the same schedule every week for years it’s bound to put you to sleep. Turn your sex life upside down by getting more spontaneous. Meet your partner for a nooner or wake up an hour early for morning sex before work. There are tons of ways that you can become more spontaneous in your sex life.

Extend Foreplay

Foreplay is another great way to increase both your sexual pleasure. So many guys try to skip out on foreplay and get right to sex. Remember that sex is always half and half. You give a little and you get a little. She will be far more willing to have sex with you, when she’s as turned on as you are! There should always be compromise during sex, but when you’re in a long-term relationship it’s hard to not go through the same sequence of events every time. Women love foreplay just as much as sex so it’s important to remember that the kisses and the licking have as much of an effect as thrusting away at her – maybe even more. Extend your foreplay and you will discover exactly how creative you can be with 10-20 extra minutes to get the juices flowing.

Try New Sex Positions

Sex positions are an often over-looked way to spice things up. Couples tend to rely on a few different positions that seem to work. Missionary, doggy, girl on top and the spoon are the most common, but they don’t exactly spell out excitement after 3-4 years. If you’re looking for a quick way to add variety to your sex life, consider some lesser-known sex positions. Try a new sex position every week, or every day if you’re feeling really adventurous. Being truly sexy is about embracing the unknown and a new batch of sex positions could be the answer you’re looking for.

Get Out Of The Bedroom

The bedroom is the most common place for couples to have sex. Because of it’s comfort and familiarity, the bedroom can quickly become the most boring place for you and your partner to have sex. Taking your sexual activities out of the bedroom is a great idea to add some spice to your sex life. Try having sex in a different room or in a different building all together if you want to breath new life into your carnal activities. Make a pact with your partner to have sex at least once a week in a different room. Make it a game to try to find a new place to do it every time. A lot of couples find that after having sex in a new room they feel closer and more playful.