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What You DIDN’T Know About Her Orgasm

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An orgasm for a woman is totally different than one for a guy. Here’s how learning the difference between the two will make you the best she’s ever slept with.

Two Phases Of Orgasm Men Have That Women Don’t

A man has two additional phases to his orgasm that women do not: the Point of No Return (PNR) and the Refractory Period. The PNR, as you can guess, is when you have reached the point where you don’t even need to be touched in order to ejaculate.

Your body goes into the Refractory Period after you have climaxed, and you’re “coming down,” in a sense. You feel calm, warm, and tired. There will be absolutely no service in that area until your penis has had a rest. Let’s explore these phases more closely, and see how they make your sex different from hers.

The PNR is both a blessing and a curse. It happens when the semen has entered the shaft, and there is no stopping the load from blowing. Your grandmother could walk into the room, and you’d still be able to cum. Women do not experience this. Her body will not continue to through the orgasm unless stimulated. The minute you stop touching her, she will stop cumming.

She could be in the middle of a body searing orgasm, and if you pull away, that will be the end of it. Some men think this is a cute way to tease their woman, but these men are total idiots. If she is screaming, “I’m cumming! I’m cumming!” then you had better continue to do exactly what you are doing until she’s done, or she just might not let you have a second chance.

Hers Are More Intense

She may not be able to get through a climax with no stimulation, but her orgasms tend to be quite a bit more intense than yours. Typically, you bust out that squishy “O” Face for about two seconds, and then it’s nap time. Her orgasms can last exponentially longer than that given the proper stimulation. You will hear her scream, see her body writhe, and she will be in a totally different world. Guess what, she can do it again.

She Can Go Again And Again

The best part about sex for a woman is she doesn’t have the Refractory Period. When she climaxes, her body doesn’t go into hibernation mode the way yours does. Therefore, if you quit on her after just one sweet burst, you’re not living up to your full potential as a lover.

Now don’t just get her off and then mindlessly keep rubbing the same spot hoping it’ll happen again. Pull back a bit. If you wait a minute, and then go back to touching her, she’ll cum again. Plus, each proceeding orgasm tends to build in intensity. If you get her to the point where she’s going, “Stop, I can’t cum anymore, it’s too intense, “ she may just fall in love with you.

Will A Condom Break If You Have Sex In A Hot Tub?

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Sex in a hot tub can be super fun, but sex that’s not safe isn’t. You can have a lot more fun if you know that you’re protected from sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy. Condoms are your best bet for safe sex, but can you use one in the water or will it get damaged?

Question: I’ve been a loyal fan of your YouTube channel for ages now and my girl and I were thinking about having sex in a hot tub. I was wondering if wearing a condom while in the water would cause it to bust or would we encounter any other problems? Thanks for taking time to read my question!

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Water Is Not A Lubricant

Many people think that if you’re having sex in the water that you don’t need lube, however, quite the opposite is true and especially if you’re using a condom. Water isn’t going to provide enough lubrication inside a woman’s vaginal canal, and if she’s too dry and there is too much friction, it can easily be damaged.

Use a thicker, water or silicone based lube when you’re doing it in the tub or when you’re having sex in the shower, lake or pool. You might be tempted to use an oil based lubricant because you know that oil is resistant to water, however, oil based lube is definitely not compatible with any kind of latex condom. You can use oil based lube with a polyurethane condom, but unless you have a latex allergy and can’t wear regular prophylactics, latex is your best bet for the most comfort and the tightest fit.

You don’t have to use a whole lot of lubricant when you’re getting it on where it’s already wet, but a condom isn’t going to do you any good if there’s so much friction that it busts. A little lube goes a long way here!

Chlorine And Heat Can Affect The Latex

Even if you use a good lubricant during sex in the tub, the heat and chlorine in the tub alone can cause the latex to deteriorate. You may want to try different sex positions in the tub that keep your penis mostly out of the water, such as doggy style with her propped up on the ledge of the tub.

If you’re concerned about the chemicals in the tub affecting a condom, try reducing the amount of chlorine additives you put in. Test the pH regularly to make sure that you’re adding enough, but try to get by with as little as possible. You may also want to turn the heat down some – the hotter it is, the more risk you may be taking that the material will become damaged and disintegrate.

Avoid Oils

Oil is another component that causes latex to disintegrate, and surprisingly enough, there are often oils found in the water of a Jacuzzi. This is because people with suntan oils or sunscreen on their skin will get in the tub, and some of it will come off while they’re soaking. Some bubble baths or additives can also contain oils, so be careful of what you put into your tub.

Don’t Put The Condom On While In The Water

If you plan on wearing a condom while you’re having sex in a hot tub, make sure you put it on first, before you get into the water. This is because if you accidentally get liquid inside the rubber while putting it on – which CAN happen no matter how careful you think you’re being – it can bust or slide off when you’re having sex.

Remember That No Method Is Perfect

Safe sex is all about reducing your risk of contracting STD’s or getting pregnant – there’s no true way to completely eliminate your risk without giving up sex entirely. Abstinence is the only true 100% safe “sex.” That said, understand that you’re taking a risk when you’re having sex at all, whether it be in a bed, a shower, the car or a Jacuzzi.

Using condoms during sex regardless of where you do it at is a lot safer than not using one at all. This is true for sex in the Jacuzzi also – even though oils and chlorine in the water may cause the latex to disintegrate or liquid may get in it and cause it to slip off – you’re still a LOT better off if you’re using a condom than if you don’t.

6 Signs He’s Addicted To Sex

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Sex is on every man’s mind pretty much all the time. But how can you tell when he’s crossed the line? Here are six dead giveaways that he’s an addict.

He Talks About Sex At Inappropriate Times

Even though men think about doing the nasty almost all the time, most men know when to keep their mouths shut about it. Most men aren’t going to try to hold a discussion about sex positions over the dinner table, but a man who is addicted to sex might not find anything wrong with this scenario. If he’s bringing up the topic of sex at really inappropriate times, such as at your parent’s house (in front of your parents) or during business meetings, he might be an addict.

Even if he doesn’t necessarily start talking about the amazing anal sex you had last night at a luncheon, he might still be an a addict if the subject of getting it on makes its way into his conversations often. These conversations may be reserved for you or his friends, but if that’s all he seems to be able to talk about with you, it could be a signal that he can’t stop thinking about doing it for more than a few minutes at a time.

He Watches Porn For Hours A Day

Often, men who are addicts will relieve themselves through watching porn and masturbating. All men masturbate – and most of them watch porn while they’re doing it – but that doesn’t mean that all guys are obsessed with getting it on. Normally, a man might only need to watch a dirty flick for several minutes before finishing the job, but a man with an addiction to sex may watch porn for hours at a time or several times a day.

He Needs To Masturbate Often In Addition To Frequent Sex

Even if a man has sex often with his partner, he’s still going to masturbate on the side. There’s nothing women can do about that and it’s completely natural. However, a man who is obsessed with it is going to go overboard on both counts – he’s going to be masturbating and having intercourse daily or even several times a day.

Even if you and your partner are having great intercourse daily, if he’s addicted to it, you may find him masturbating on the side as often as you have intercourse or perhaps even more. Most men are able to reach a point where they feel sexually satisfied and aren’t driven to have intercourse or masturbate, but men who are addicted to doing the dirty aren’t ever going to get to that “satisfied” place.

The Need For Sex Interrupts His Daily Life

As with any addiction, it becomes a true addiction when it begins to interrupt a person’s daily life. Is your partner adjusting his schedule to make time for more sex or masturbation? Is he late to functions because of intercourse or masturbation? Does he fail to make plans with his family or friends because he’d rather stay home and get it on or masturbate instead? These are all symptoms of a serious addiction. If you find that your partner’s need for sexual release is interfering with his life or your relationship, it may be time to seek help for his addiction.

He Cheats On You

For some addicts, sex with one partner and frequent masturbation isn’t even enough. He may begin to seek sexual release from other partners, especially if the opportunity presents itself. This is in part due to never feeling truly satisfied sexually, but also because getting it on is literally at the forefront of his thoughts all the time. A man who is addicted will have a difficult time looking at a woman and not associating her with sex in some form or fashion.

He Pressures You To Have Sex

A true addict really doesn’t like hearing “no” when it comes to getting it on. Some men who are really addicted to sex can be involved with rape or date rape, but most aren’t. However, a man that has a problem might put more pressure on a woman to have sex with him than an ordinary man would.

Your man might be an addict if he pressures you constantly to get busy with him, or doesn’t listen to you when you say “no.” If you’re constantly having to thwart his advances – especially at inappropriate times – consider seeking help for your partner for an addiction.

How To Get Foreplay Back In Your Sex Life

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Foreplay is an essential part of sex – but it can start to wane when you get comfortable with someone. Here’s how to get it back, stat!

My man and I have been together a couple of years. Chemistry and sex are great, but where’s the foreplay? The anticipation is the best part for me. But now we just go at it. Can I get it back?

What She Said:

I have good news – it is possible! All it takes is a little communication and compromise with your partner. You two are, of course, more familiar with each other now than at the beginning of your relationship. That means you’ll never quite be able to recapture that thrill of the new because it’s morphed into something different. Still more good news – that something different is an intimacy and trust that you didn’t have before.

Just Because You’re Comfortable Doesn’t Mean Sex Has To Be Boring

Familiarity doesn’t have to equal boring. Luckily you’re already ahead of the curve with the great chemistry and hot sex that you share. All you need to reintroduce into this mix is the anticipation. How do you accomplish this? Here’s where the communication and compromise comes in. Let your boyfriend know you’re hot for him – but that it could get even hotter. That will get his attention!

The Importance Of Date Nights

Add date nights that don’t end in full intercourse to your repertoire. Go out for a great dinner, fondle each other at the movies and dry hump on the couch like you were teenagers – but DON’T have sex. Tease each other with texts and flirty emails throughout the week prior to your big evening out. Make it a game to let the tension build. Do this until you both agree it’s time for release. Repeat.

Now you’ve got the best of both worlds: all the benefits of a long-term relationship with the ability to anticipate hot times of fun and frolic. Enjoy!

What He Said:

Important thing to note:

Men like to be pleased, women like to be teased.

If both sides dig in and insist on only getting what they want, nobody wins. Needless to say your man’s not probably going to be super thrilled about the no intercourse thing. Talk to him and come to some sort of understanding where you get what you want and he does to. For my money, there is no relationship problem that can’t be solved with hotel/vacation sex.

Why Hotel/Vacation Sex Can Help

Something about being out of your usual environment gets people going. Try taking a little weekend getaway. You don’t even have to leave your own town, just be somewhere different. If you’re in the same environment you can develop a pattern, and you’re trying to change the pattern. So come up with fun and naughty ways to disrupt it and then install a new one. It make take practice, but is that a bad thing?

How To Become A Sex Superstar

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Sex can be many things – it can be incredible, but it can also be mediocre. Don’t settle for less than the best – here’s how to turn yourself into a sex bomb!

Build Your Confidence

Confidence is the number one thing you need to have in your arsenal. Nothing else is as effective at feeling good about yourself and seducing others as confidence is. Instead of standing in front of a mirror picking out your flaws, check yourself out.

Point out things that you love about yourself, whether it’s something about the way you look or something about who you are. Learn to love yourself and be confident in the real you, and show the real you to other people. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it really makes.

Dress To Kill

Clothes and appearances are overrated, right? Sometimes. However, looking your best will naturally boost your confidence and will also make you more attractive and noticeable to others. So splurge on that dress you were eyeing the other day, or spend ten extra minutes curling your hair. Put a little more effort into the way you look and make sure you’re looking – and feeling – fabulous every time you walk out the door. If you know you look amazing, you’re going to exude confidence and sex to everyone around you and you’ll literally be a walking bombshell!

Explore Your Own Sexuality

Being a bombshell when it comes to sex isn’t about waiting for your partner to figure out the right “buttons” to push to give you pleasure. It’s about taking control of your own pleasure and learning what you like and what you don’t like on your own. Don’t expect a guy to find your g-spot, your clitoris or any other hot spot of yours if you haven’t bothered to find it first.

Masturbation is the best way for women to discover how they like to be touched and what works best to bring them to orgasm during nookie. If you don’t have a sex toy, now is the time to get one. Splurge on a high quality vibrator or other sex toy and lock the doors and dim the lights. Take charge of your own pleasure and explore your sexuality. Learn what you like and what you don’t like, so you can confidently communicate to any partner what you want while doing the dirty.

Learn To Please Your Partner

A sex vixen not only knows what she wants during sex, she also knows how to please her partner. You may think you know all there is to know about getting it on and how to give a guy an orgasm, but chances are, you’re not as well informed as you think. While a guy is pretty much guaranteed a climax if he’s doing it with a woman – heck, all it takes is a little lotion and his hand anyways – but there are ways to make your partner literally explode with pleasure if you take the time to learn the sex techniques that will blow him out of the water.

Take some time to check out a few tips and techniques to give your man an earth shattering blowjob or even how to use prostate massage to intensify his climax. Learn to do things that no other girl has ever done before, and practice them until you get really good. Your guy will love that you’re interested in doing new things, but he’ll also love the learning process! Make sure you have a few tricks up your sleeve for the next time you get it on.

Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things

A sex vixen isn’t afraid to try new things in – or out – of the bedroom. This, in part, is due to having confidence. A woman who has confidence in herself, the way she looks and the ability to please herself and her partner isn’t going to be scared to bring out some new sex toys or to try new sex positions in the bedroom.

Constantly think about new things you can try with your partner, even if it’s only a little different from things that you’ve done before. It doesn’t matter what you do – it could be as simple as tugging his scrotum lightly during a blowjob if you’ve never done it before. As long as you’re constantly looking for new ways to please your partner and yourself, you’re going to evolve into a sex vixen in no time.