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2 Secrets To Prime Her For An Incredible Orgasm

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When a man gives his girl sex, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: awesome sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give your girlfriend great sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving your partner some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to have great sex with your partner and give a mind blowing orgasm!

Sex Tip #1

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner to add more romance. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for your partner. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, go to the bathroom and undress her. While you give your lover a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing the inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put your partner into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sex Tip #2

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take your partner to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Talk about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please your lover because women are very imaginative about great sex fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently everything that you have planned to do.

Once you hear your partner ask for more, take it! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her passionate sex (and the best orgasms) ever!

How To Get Your Girlfriend To Masturbate For You

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So you want her to masturbate, and you want her to masturbate in front of you. Question is, how do you get her to do it? Some women are cool with talking about masturbation, but some women just aren’t comfortable clicking their own mouse, let alone talking about it with their lovers.  Whether your girl does enjoys flying solo or has never tried it before, watching her get her freak on by herself is something that can entice both of you and make your sex life hotter. Here’s how you can convince her to masturbate – and then do it in front of you!

Tell Her You Want To Watch

Very few women want to watch men masturbate – so telling her that you want to watch her do it may sound unbelievable to her at first. She may think it’s a crazy idea, or that you’re trying to manipulate her in some way so that you can scrutinize her. Of course this isn’t true, but getting her to believe that the idea of watching her masturbate for you is a huge turn on is a different story all together. Try some dirty talk in the bedroom next time you and your lover have sex. While you’re touching her clitoris, let her know how much it would turn you on to see her touch it. Start small and work your way up to the big stuff. She may only start out with letting you watch her play with herself a little, but with constant encouragment and enthusiasm on your part, it won’t be very long before she’s giving you a show.

Give Her Some Assistance During Foreplay

While you’re fingering her or giving her oral sex, place your hand over hers and take it along for the ride. Slowly rub her breasts, hips and lower stomach with your hand underneath hers so she can feel what you feel when you’re having sex with her. Look into her eyes and show her how hot it makes you when you see her touch herself. As you move your hand down to her vagina, let her take the lead once you feel she is sufficiently turned on to keep going. Again, you want to do this slowly because if you move too fast, you could freak her out. You want to let her take the lead and go however fast or slow she wants to. You can also join in and touch her breasts, her buttocks or finger her vagina while she touches her clitoris. If she wants to fly completely solo while you watch though, you can masturbate on your own while you watch her do it!

Masturbate With Her

It’s no problem if you get so turned on by watching her play with herself that you have to touch yourself also. This will actually encourage her to do more! Sit in a chair by the bed, watching her masturbate while she watches you. If you or your partner want it to be less of a “spectator sport” and more intimate, try laying next to each other on the bed, facing each other. Ask her if she likes watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her. Remind her over and over that you absolutely love what she’s doing and simply can’t help but play with yourself! If you still have a hard time getting her to really let go and masturbate for you, try touching yourself while you give her cunnilingus. Let her know that you find her vagina extremely sexy. If she believes that you really enjoy licking it, sucking it and looking at it, she won’t be as self concious about revealing all in front of you.

Dirty Talk

The real secret to getting her to touch herself for you is to talk to her the entire time and let her know how much it really turns you on. Don’t be afraid to be vocal about it, whether it’s groaning while giving yourself a handjob while she masturbates or telling her with words exactly what you like to see. If you make it absolutely clear that watching her touch herself is what makes you super hot and horny, she’ll end up being more than willing to do it for you. Try asking her for a tutorial on how she does it herself, or try directing each move that she makes and have her touch herself where you tell her to. Get creative and most of all, remember to have fun with it. If she’s still uncomfortable with the idea of masturbating in front of you, let it go until she’s ready to do it.

How To Have A Hot Sex Marathon

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Having a hot sex marathon with your partner is a great way to figure out what you both like, as well as seeing just how long you can really last or how many orgasms you can have! There are a few things to keep in mind when you’re having a lot of really, really hot sex – like eating foods that will give you energy and keeping enough lube on hand so things don’t get dried out. Follow these suggestions for a super fun, hot sex marathon that will last for hours – or more!

Eat Healthy, Vitamin Packed Foods

Having a lot of hot sex means you have to have enough energy to keep it going – something that doesn’t always happen on its own. Prepare yourself beforehand by eating healthy, vitamin packed foods that are designed to give your body the energy and nutrients it needs for physical activity such as trying different, physically demanding sex positions. Don’t overeat, but try a spinach salad for lunch and lean protein such as chicken or fish for dinner if you’re going to be having sex all night. You can also grab a low fat energy bar for a quick burst of fuel before you get started. Make sure to drink lots of water, because it’s bound to get sweaty and it’s easy to get dehydrated. Definitely keep a cold bottle of fresh water by the bedside!

Men Only: Don’t Get Too Close To Orgasm

Ladies, of course, can have multiple orgasms during a hot sex marathon, but many men aren’t capable of the same. While it is possible to orgasm, rest and go again, it’s more taxing and physically tiring than if you had just held out on having an orgasm in the first place. Try using different sex positions if you’re getting to close to orgasm in the position that you’re in, or try giving your partner oral sex and letting yourself rest for a little while. To avoid having an orgasm too soon during super hot sex, don’t allow yourself to get too close to the brink before stopping. If you do, you may end up climaxing anyways and it probably won’t be as good.

Use Lots And Lots Of Lube

It’s unlikely your partner is going to be able to manufacture enough natural body fluids to keep things going smoothly during the entire hot sex marathon. To keep her from getting dried out after hours of intercourse, make sure you have a good, water based lube on hand. Don’t be afraid to be generous when applying lube to yourself or your partner – you can always get more and nothing feels worse than dry sex (for a woman at least!) Using lube doesn’t have to be a mood killer either. Many lubes come with a handy pump handle for easier use. If you’re having a lot of anal sex, try using a thicker, silicone based lube that lasts longer. Also, flavored lubes taste and smell better than regular lubes and might be a good choice for you if you plan to go back and forth between oral sex and intercourse.

Experiment A Little

Having a hot sex marathon doesn’t mean that you have to have intercourse the entire time. Try experimenting a little with a sex fetish or two, whether it be something as simple as fuzzy handcuffs and licking chocolate sauce off each other or something more hardcore, such as spanking or BDSM. Do something fun and different together while you’re taking a break from intercourse or oral sex – choose something that will keep the mood sexy and sensual but allow you and your partner some time to rest. This is a great time for a giving a sensual massage, watching a porn flick or playing dress up with some fun and sexy costumes. Just use your imagination!

Avoid Excessive Alcohol Consumption

Alcohol can be a great way to ease your hot sex jitters (it’s perfectly normal to feel a little nervous before you have marathon sex) but drinking too much can actually put a damper on your night. First of all, too much alcohol can turn your “eased tension” into sleepiness, and if you are really drinking, it can make you pass out. Excessive alcohol consumption can also cause short term erectile dysfunction, where the alcohol has affected the body so much that a man cannot get or maintain an erection very well. If you plan on drinking before having wild, hot sex, keep it to a glass or two of wine or beer and skip the hard liquor.

G-Spot Orgasms – Tantalizing Tips To Give Her Sensational Sex

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The G-Spot is present in every woman and what a man should do is to take extra measures in stimulating it and give their partners a steamier sexual experience. Even if you know where your woman’s G-Spot is, you must also know what to do once you are in contact with it in order to give your partner a series of explosive multiple orgasms.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Let your fingers perform circular movements after you insert them into your lover’s vagina. In order to pleasure your partner even more, make sure the touch of your fingertips against this soft gland is constant. Stop moving your fingers inside it and start an inward and outward motion and then occasionally swivel your fingers while they are inside the vaginal canal, applying an even tempo at the same time.

G-Spot stimulation can be even more exciting for the woman if you let yourself perform oral sex using gentle tongue movements on the clitoris. An eventful release will surely come its way to your lady!

When stimulating the G-spot, always bear in mind these 3 things that will put your partner on the path towards orgasmic ecstasy:

  • Take your time in hitting the G-Spot so as to put your lover into a sexual mood.
  • Always be aware of your partner’s preferences especially with regards to what satisfies your girl the most.
  • Do not forget to stroke the G-Spot whenever your fingers penetrate the vaginal canal.

Penile Stimulation Of The G-Spot

It is not only your fingers that can work wonders. The penis may do a better job in stimulating the G-Spot! This works exceptionally well if your penis is slightly bent when erect, as this enables it to reach this sensitive mound of flesh.

But don’t lose hope, just because your penis is not capable of making a bow shape – there are other ways to stimulate the G-Spot.

What you can do about this curving problem is to try out different sex positions. Move your body so that your penis is directed towards the north since it is most likely that you will reach the G-Spot in this way.

If your penis arches towards the left or right, lie down on the bed, let your woman sit on top of you and allow her to control the penetration movements. If your penis draws downwards, try letting your woman lay on top of you with buttocks facing you.

Aside from using your fingers and your penis, sex toys such as vibrators are also very useful in making the G-spot more responsive and giving your partner intense orgasms.

Communication Is Key Too!

Communication has always been an integral part of an intimate relationship. Although there are many obscurities with regards to the G-spot, it is still important that both parties relate to each other whatever gives them sexual gratification. Let your partner guide you through what is most pleasurable for your significant other, and all you have to do is accomplish what she tells you to do!

Put these tips to good use and a hotter and spicier sex life will await the both of you! You will also feel appreciation for all the wonderful things you have done!

Porn Moves Men Shouldn’t Use – Are You Guilty?

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While porn is a great way to check out your favorite sex fantasies being acted out, there are some things that happen in a porn movie that you don’t want to re-enact with your partner regardless of how adventurous you think she is. These are moves that most ladies will find offensive at best and may even leave you on the front porch with your bag in hand. Here’s what you need to avoid, no matter how much the idea turns you on – leave it to the professionals.

Deep Throating Without Telling Her First

In a porn movie blowjob, the object is not to give the man the best orgasm, but rather to put the woman in a submissive position and the man in a dominant one during sex. Often, the man will deep throat the woman during a blowjob, but will shove his penis as far down her throat as he can. He will usually do this without telling the woman first, surprising her by gagging her and making her eyes water. While many guys enjoy watching this in a porn because of the strong S&M factor, it’s probably not something you want to try at home with your girlfriend or wife. Not only will you piss her off, you may also get a lap full of vomit.

Anal Sex Without Lube

Porn does a great job of making anal sex look super easy. He just slips his penis in her anus and thrusts away, without worrying about a thing. And the best part is that the woman looks like she’s enjoying it, right? The reason that this works in porn but not in real life is that porn actresses are more accustomed to anal sex and large objects in the anus than your average girl off the street. If you want to try anal sex with your partner, start small (like with a finger or a small butt plug) and use lots and lots of good, water based lube. Anal sex without lube can hurt your partner, tear the anal tissues and may even cause an injury serious enough to win you both a visit to the emergency room.

Giving Her A “Facial”

Anyone who has watched porn knows about the “money shot.” When a man is ready to have an orgasm, he pulls his penis out and allows the camera to see him ejaculate on his partner – usually the vagina, thighs or butt. When a woman is giving a man a blowjob in a porn, he may pull his penis out and ejaculate on her face (thus, giving it the name a “facial.”) Some girls do enjoy being ejaculated on (and may even enjoy it in the face) but the far majority of real ladies will consider this demeaning and upsetting. If you want to give your girl a facial, talk to her about it beforehand and see if she’s down with it. If not, find somewhere else to finish the job.

Slapping Her With Your Penis

Guys in porn videos also have a bad habit of “slapping” their partners with their penises when having sex. This may be to help keep his penis hard, but it works the same way as deep throating – it’s another way to make a man appear dominant the woman submissive. Your lover may not mind having her butt slapped with your penis during anal sex or vaginal intercourse, but may get offended if you slap her in the face with it during a blowjob. If you want to smack your girl a little with your penis during sex, talk to her first and let her know that you’d love to try it. She may surprise you with her answer!

Blowjob After Anal Sex

Many anal sex porn flicks will feature the woman giving a man a blowjob right after he’s had anal sex with her. While this may appear sexy to some, it’s actually a very dangerous activity. While you generally don’t see any feces on his penis before she puts her mouth on it (this is because porn actresses will usually go through a regimen of fasting and enemas before filming), it’s covered in bacteria that could make her sick. If you would rather keep your girl out of the hospital with a nasty bout of e-coli, wash your penis thoroughly with soap and hot water after anal sex before doing anything else, including vaginal intercourse. You can also wear a condom during anal sex and take it off before vaginal intercourse or oral sex if you’re with a monogamous partner without STD’s.