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5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

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A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

Why Your Attitude Is KEY When Giving A Blowjob

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Blowjob tips aren’t all about how to suck and lick your partner. It’s also about your state of mind when going down on him. Here’s how to improve your blowjob skills.

The most important aspect of giving your lover an incredible blowjob is your attitude. If you have a bad attitude about it, the activity isn’t going to be enjoyable for either you or your partner. However, if you have a good attitude about the blowjob, it will really turn your lover on and get him into it.

Acting Like The Blowjob Is A Chore

Think about the situation in reverse – what if he were giving you oral sex? How would it make you feel if he acted like giving you oral sex were a chore? How would you like it if he acted like he’d rather be doing anything else than have his head between your legs? (You might already have a man that does this – if so, then you definitely have some perspective here.) It wouldn’t make you feel very sexy, would it? You wouldn’t feel desired, or that your lover cared at all about your pleasure. You would probably feel intensely rejected and you would take a huge blow to your ego.

When you act like sucking him off is a burden rather than something fun and enjoyable for you, it makes your partner feel exactly like that – unsexy, undesired and uncared about. This makes it very difficult for him to get lost in the pleasure, or really feel any pleasure at all. His mind will be preoccupied with trying to figure you out than being open to receiving intense pleasure and orgasms from oral sex. So no matter what your blowjob skill level is, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a good attitude about giving head.

How Do They Do It In Porn?

Take porn for example. Although porn is probably the worst place you could possibly go to learn blowjob techniques, there is one thing you could pick up from the porn stars and use in your own oral sex repertoire – and that’s how great their attitude is. Men love it when the girls in porn get excited about going down on them. They love it when a woman is enthusiastic about doing such a naughty, pleasurable and submissive activity.

You’ll notice that in almost every blowjob porn, the girl on the giving end is just plain ecstatic about sucking her man off! Now you most certainly do not have to go to the extremes that these women do – or else it will probably come off as fake anyways – mimicking their willingness and enthusiasm about giving a blowjob will make you really good at it. A great attitude is even more important than learning great blowjob skills.

Smile, And Act Like It’s FUN!

So with a great attitude, you can give your lover the best blowjob of his life – even if you’re not that skilled at different techniques and moves you can do. Just act like you get really turned on by the idea of going down on him and giving him the ultimate pleasure. Bonus points if it’s less of an “act” and you really do get into it. If you can learn to really enjoy giving your lover fellatio, the activity can be super meaningful and super pleasurable for both of you.

How To Give A Woman Orgasms That Are Incredibly Powerful

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An orgasm is something not every girl expects during sex – but they all WANT it. Here’s how to give your lover an amazing orgasm EVERY time!

A lot of guys appear inconsiderate to women when it comes to sex. While this is not your objective, your woman could not be blamed into thinking like this, especially if you continue denying her the powerful orgasm that she deserves. To start changing your reputation in bed, why not start learning more about her anatomy and her sexual psyche? Men are different from women, and you should take this into account whenever you are seeking to give her pleasure.

There are many tips and techniques to completely amaze her and give her a wild time in bed. The following 3 tips are as easy as “ABC,” but they will prime her for “powerhouse” orgasms that will blow her mind – and yours too!

Accentuate Her Comfort

Let her be cozy. A woman’s comfort is a key aspect to consider during sex. To experience a truly powerful orgasm, she needs to let go all her inhibitions. This is not possible without her being at ease with you. Make sure she feels secure and comfortable in bed. When she is completely relaxed, she will be able to experience the most intense pleasure that you will be giving her.

Become One With Her Body

Survey her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris. Know them inside out. One special thing about women is that they are blessed with a lot of erogenous zones, so there are almost infinite ways for you to please her. Find out where her most sensitive areas are, by slowly caressing her body and seeing how she responds to each and every sensual spot that you touch. You will not only enjoy getting to know her body more, she will also increase her responsiveness even to the simplest of your actions!

Call Out Her Deepest Desires

Find out what her deepest and innermost sexual fantasies are, and re-enact these fantasies for her. Some women may take a little coaxing to come forth with their thoughts. Take the lead by revealing yours first! Finding out what she truly wants will make her more open to your moves, and prepare her for what is to come next!

How To Introduce Her To Kinky Sex

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Kinky sex can be lots of fun, but some girls have never tried it. Getting your lover into kinky sex isn’t difficult, but you want to approach it the right way.

The fashion of the more risqué among us has spilled out into everyday culture, with corsets and leather collars becoming almost mainstream. Having said that, most of my clients and friends are curious but aren’t sure how to incorporate a bit of ‘spice’ to their sex lives, even though we’re surrounded by sexy messages on a daily basis.

The Recipe

There are a variety of things to try when it comes to getting frisky with your partner: spanking, bondage, role-playing, or sensation play (like hot wax or ice cubes) are just a few. But the biggest difficulty isn’t in deciding what to do, but rather, how to broach it with your partner. Even if you’ve been together for a long time and trust each other, it’s a scary thing to suggest something new that may not go over well.

Before you broach the subject, applaud yourself for connecting with your sexual being and learning more about what turns you on. In today’s society, that’s a challenging thing in and of itself. Once you’ve patted yourself on the back, try these ideas to get going:

Talk It Out

You don’t need to make the conversation into ‘The Talk’ by blurting out you need to tell her some big secret. Instead, go about it gently, from a different angle. Share what turns you on with your partner on a regular basis. Tell her what makes you hot, and what it is she does that makes you dizzy with arousal. By chatting about sex more frequently, you’ll open the lines of communication so that when you are ready to take another step, you’ll feel more comfortable and at ease.

Dirty Minds Think Alike

Write down the craziest, funniest, sexiest things you’ve heard of, and then draw lines down the page for several categories, like “never in a million years,” or “maybe with some prodding,” or even “I’ve never thought of it, but sure, I’ll try it.” This is a fun game to discover lots of sexual interests you never knew you shared.

Media Sharing

Pick a storyline that explores something you’re curious about sharing with your partner, and be observant of her reaction. Sometimes it’s easier to broach the subject when it’s not coming right at you, and then you can discuss what you thought was hot, and a total turn off, in turn.

Create A Safeword

When folks in the kink community negotiate a spicy interaction, they create a safeword to be shared amongst the participants. Basically, a safeword is something that you wouldn’t normally say in a sexual encounter such as “purple elephant” that tells your partner you need to stop. Some folks just use colors to explain what they are feeling, such as red for stop and yellow for go slower or more gently please.

Start With Baby Steps

Even if what you have in mind is a huge production, and you’ve played out every variation for more than a decade in your mind, you don’t want to start with the whole shebang right away. Start simply, with just one aspect of the concept that gets you going. See how you both feel after, and then decide if you want to do it again, try something different, or incorporate more of the sexual fantasy into your playtime.

How To Critique Your Girl’s Sex Skills

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Sex tips are something you often want to give a woman, but approaching the subject does take some finesse. Here’s how to offer your lover guidance in bed.

Getting your girl to be better in bed? Now that’s a tall order! Considering you have to keep her ego intact along the way. So, how does one give corrective comments?

The objective is not to point an accusing finger but to enrich both your sexual experiences, and you can’t do that by trying to beat her to pulp. Attacking her ego is both stupid and useless – stupid in that it backfires and generates more of what you’re complaining about, and useless in that people will always protect & defend their egos.

Don’t Rub It In

“You’re terrible,” is the last thing you want to say. Why? Because it breaks her, but doesn’t tell her what to do. Real feedback tells the receiver how to make better. “You’re terrible” is not feedback, it’s a waste of spit. She doesn’t suck, she is undergoing the process of becoming “The Best You’ve Ever Had” – so guide her through it.

This is really obvious enough, but you’ll be surprised how some guys treat a lady. Many harbor secret delight in berating their partners, deriving pleasure by making them feel bad.

Be Non Threatening

Use the magic word: TRY. Believe me, she will. Say during a handjob, “Honey, why don’t you TRY to use both hands.” It’s non- threatening, it doesn’t focus on mistakes and it tells her exactly what to do. That’s feedback.

The Sandwich Technique

Use this as a corrective technique to give her sex tips. It is named such because of the specific way comments are sequenced – the negative/corrective comment is strategically sandwiched between 2 positives, so the negative is eased in without unneeded friction. The result? She learns she sucks, but still feels hopeful and happy about it.

You don’t position negative comments in glaring light, therefore sparing the receiver from unnecessary distress, giving her a graceful exit – this is its beauty.

Don’t worry, your sex tips will still get across, it’s not imperceptible, it just won’t be as scarring. She’ll instead bask in the glow of the praise and use that energy to work on her issues. It’s both uplifting and corrective, two birds with one stone!

It’s an effective way to make somebody shape-up their sorry asses. Not everybody can handle “tough love,” and if you’ve been trying it without results, try a Sandwich. Positioning yourself as an ally gives your remarks a fair hearing.

Look For What’s Hot

Look for things your partner is good at. Come up with at least two. There has to be something, something she doesn’t suck at. I assure you, you will find it, you don’t need to lie through your teeth on this one. It can be as simple as how her lips feel when she smiles while kissing or the warmth of her palms on your back when you’re on top of her, or the fact that she makes sure you orgasm first before she helps herself. A simple, “You rock!,” will make her day.

And even if you’re kind of stretching the truth on a compliment, it will still do wonders – because one way of creating a great lover out of your partner is by mentioning that she already is. (Another one of those cheap psychological tricks you may use.) If she’s good at giving a blowjob, make her even better by mentioning how great she is at it.

I assure you, the next time she’s giving you one, she’ll show off her skills and prove you right on that compliment. It’s like telling a girl she looks great in a red dress, making her feel so good about herself, and finding out later that because of your comment, she starts wearing red everyday.

What’s Not

Think of the things she could do better. Is it her tiny mouth? Or the fact that she yells another man’s name when you make love? Think about the things you would change in her sexual technique and how you might change them. Although this is probably easier to do than it is to think of things she does well (if she’s really bad in bed) and you can think of a whole list of things she can improve upon, stick to one or two things at a time. The sandwich technique doesn’t work very well if you follow a compliment with an entire list of things she sucks at. Once she’s mastered something you’ve suggested she do better, you can choose a new “complaint” to use the sandwich technique with.

Sandwich the sex tips between the positives, and you have a comment that not only boosts her ego, but made her a better partner as well. Highlight the positives and teach her something on the side.