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Is Sex On The First Date A Big Mistake?

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Sex on the very first date – is it something you shouldn’t do or does it even matter? Here’s the truth about the right time to have sex!

What She Said:

This question drives me crazy! NO NO NO!!! Sex on a first date is not a mistake!! Sexual chemistry is fantastic and if you find yourself drawn to a guy physically on a first date, why not jump his bones? The thing is, if you wait to sleep with a guy until a certain amount of dates or a certain amount of time, you are just putting off the inevitable. What if you invest all that time in a guy and then you get to having sex and you hate it? Maybe he can’t keep a boner, or came too soon, or wanted to wear your panties or wanted you to dress up like a chicken. Or maybe he is just a terrible lay.

Wouldn’t you want to know that in the beginning? So why wait all this time for bad sex? Worse, what if you started to fall for him and then you find out the sex is terrible? Sex should be just like every aspect of a relationship; you want to know if you are similar in your values, ideas, likes and sexual compatibility. Besides, most guys don’t know if they truly like a girl until they have been inside her. By skipping the waiting period before you have sex, you are saving you both time and money.

That being said, if you are on a first date and have absolutely nothing in common with this guy except for the heat between the two of you, might as well have a night of fun, no strings attached sex! Now, if you do like the guy and he likes you, having sex on the first date isn’t going to change that. Any guy that would consider you a slut for sleeping with him on a first date is not worth your time, so again you weed through the crappy men out there.

In all honesty, sex is great weather it’s a first date or a 7th, I just think you should get to it sooner whether then later, you might as well test out the merchandise before you commit to buying.

What He Said:

People seem to think that if you make a guy wait, you’re more likely to make him stick around. If he’s going to bail after he hits it, he’s going to bail after he hits it. Delaying intercourse won’t change that. That’s not something you can control. You can’t control other people. He may be a lying creep, or he may be a legitimately good guy who will hang around.

And if he is the good guy, all the more reason to screw his brains out as early and as often as possible. A little bit of hot steamy intercourse goes a long way in making a guy all about you (and by a “little” I mean “a lot.”) Be safe, of course. That is extremely important to say, and it can’t be understated. That being said, just let go and get naughty.

Life is a journey and love is the ultimate drug. But don’t make love a destination, enjoy the ride. You will find it, sooner or later, being patient is difficult. But practice is important. The more relationships you have, the more you learn, the more skilled you get, and the more tools you have in your arsenal and the better you are and the better prospective partner you can grab. And if the guy has performance issues, don’t just kick him to the curb.

Give him another chance, or maybe get him cock ring if you’re into him, or maybe that little blue pill. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You can always work with that situation. I’ve always maintained for a long term relationship the person attached to the genitalia is always the most important part (no pun intended. Okay, maybe a little intended)

Whenever you choose to screw someone is totally cool. As long as you’re doing it because that’s what feels right. If you’ve got some arbitrary number in your head, that’s when it’s not right.

And remember, never, ever play hard to get. Men do not like the “thrill of the hunt.” They like the “thrill of the hump.” Hand it to them on a silver platter and he’ll be way more likely to stick around.

Why She NEEDS To Climax During Sex

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Female orgasm is something every woman should get when getting busy. But do you know the REAL reason the female orgasm is so important? Find out now!

For sex to be really, really hot, a woman has to get sexual pleasure too. Sure, a woman can still enjoy sex with a man if she doesn’t have an orgasm, but the sex will be simply good, or “okay.” For steamy, forget-your-own-name sex, your girl has to be feeling great and well on her way to having a gut wrenching, thigh shaking climax. If you want the sex to be incredible, she’s got to get off. That’s all there is to it – but there are some other reasons why her orgasm should be at the top of your list when you slide between the sheets.

She’ll Be More Inclined To Get Kinky With You

When a woman is satisfied during sex, she feels like she is getting something out of it too – and she is. You’re giving her the incredible gift of pleasure and sexual release, so she’ll want to give you something back too. It’s in a woman’s nature – she’s naturally a giver. She wants to give you pleasure too, but she can hold back from this if all you care about is your own orgasm. She may start out by giving you great sex, good head and trying new things with you, but if time after time she fails to get off, she really won’t want to give back anymore.

Say for example, you want her to try anal sex or bondage. This isn’t necessarily something she has really thought about, but if she’s with a guy who consistently gives her an orgasm during sex, she’ll feel confident enough that she’ll come out as satisfied as you are and will be more willing to try it. However, if she’s with a guy who couldn’t care less about her orgasm and just wants to get his, she’ll want to ask the question, “What’s in it for me?” Think about it for a minute. Why would she want to try something like anal sex – something that could potentially hurt or be embarrassing – if she’s not going to get diddly squat out of it?

If you were in her shoes and were asked to try something that pushed the boundaries of your comfort zone and the likely scenario is that you wouldn’t even get off, would you do it? Probably not. Don’t be surprised when she doesn’t want to have kinky sex with you if you can’t make her come. On the other hand, however, if you always make sure she’s as satisfied as you are during sex, don’t be surprised when she wants to try everything under the sun with you. When you consistently give your girl orgasms, you unleash her inner sex vixen – and this is a side that almost every woman has.

She only lets it out when she feels safe and cared for by a man in the bedroom – and this is achieved only by putting her pleasure first. When a man has sex with a woman solely for his own pleasure, and doesn’t take the time to make sure she has an orgasm as well, doesn’t feel safe expressing herself in the bedroom and most certainly doesn’t feel like the guy cares about her at all. Once you show her that her pleasure is important to you, and you work hard to give her an orgasm every time you do the nasty, she’ll unleash her inner freak and you’ll be the guy who’s around to enjoy it.

She’ll Want To Have Sex With You More Often

This is a very simple concept, but many guys just don’t get it. If you give her orgasms when you have sex with her, she’ll want to have sex more often. Easy, right? Many guys, however, fail to make a woman climax during sex and then complain when she doesn’t ever want to have sex with him. Why does she want to slide between the sheets when it has simply become a chore for her? Another thing on her to-do list? “Cook dinner, do the dishes, have sex with John, pay the bills….”

You can’t blame a woman for feeling this way about sex when she doesn’t get anything out of it. Wouldn’t you? If a girl never gets off when she has sex with her man, she’s not going to want to have sex very often. Her body just isn’t going to desire it or want it, because truthfully, there’s nothing to desire or want! However, if you consistently give her a climax every time you have sex, her body is going to naturally crave more.

She will want to have sex with you more often, and she will rarely turn you down when she asks. She knows that when she has sex with you that she’s going to feel great, so there’s no reason for her to deny you – because she knows then she would also be denying herself. When she has a climax every time you and her get it on, don’t be shocked when you find that she’s all over you!

She Will Feel More Emotionally Connected To You

Go back to the part where she feels safe and cared about when she climaxes with her partner during sex – this is important. You already know women are emotional creatures (yeah, you can say that again!), but did you know that giving her an orgasm will help her feel more emotionally connected to you? When her partner fails to make sure she gets pleasure from sex, she feels lonely, taken advantage of and uncared for.

She feels like she’s not important enough to her partner for him to spend any amount of time or effort on giving her an orgasm. Therefore, she will begin to emotionally withdraw in the relationship. This can lead to all kinds of problems, and not just problems in between the sheets. The relationship will begin to suffer, because deep down, she believes her partner must not care for her and that he only cares about himself – because he’s demonstrated that during sex by only caring for his own pleasure and sexual release.

She begins to harbor resentment towards her partner and this usually comes out in different ways, outside the bedroom doors. When you do satisfy your lover between the sheets, however, she feels as though she’s important to her partner, and her sexual pleasure is worth his time and effort. When a woman feels confident that her pleasure is as important to her partner as his own is, she feels more like an equal in the relationship and will treat her partner as such.

They’ll still get into fights and arguements like every couple does, however, because she has no deep seated resentment towards him for not caring enough to make her come, the fights will resolve more easily and there will be less of them.

She’ll Nag You Less (Yeah, You Heard That Right)

A woman nags a man when she is unhappy in a relationship – when she is happy and satisfied, she’ll make excuses for him, or make up for his slack. This is just the way women are – they are very willing to trade household chores and other things for feeling loved and cherished. Beware, however, that failing to help around the house at all will in and of itself make her feel like you don’t love and cherish her. So giving her orgasms isn’t your get out of jail free card or anything, but it can certainly help.

You already know now that helping her get off during sex makes her feel great and makes her feel more emotionally connected to you. She feels like you love and care about her, so when you make her come consistently, she will be more willing to make excuses in her head for you when you forget to take out the trash or do the dishes. For example, say your lover absolutely hates it when you leave your underwear on the floor after you take a shower. But the night before, you gave her not one, not two, but three leg shaking,squirting orgasms after which she could barely stand up – all before you even thought about what kind of pleasure you were going to get.

It affected her on so many different levels that she went to bed completely blissed out and woke up that way too. She finds your dirty underwear on the floor, but remembers what went in that underwear and how much pleasure it gave her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and forgets about it five seconds later. Not only will she not bitch you out when you get home, she may very well attack you and rip your clothes off for an encore.

Now reverse that situation. Say you didn’t give her an orgasm the night before. You fingered her for less than two minutes assuming that would get her turned on and wet (which it didn’t, it actually just hurt and pissed her off) and proceeded to thrust into her for a total of five minutes, after which you got yours and rolled over and went to sleep. She went to bed feeling frustrated and unloved.

The next day, she finds your dirty underwear on the floor. She’s already pissed, and now this has made her even more angry, because it just adds to her belief that you are inconsiderate and couldn’t care less about her and her feelings. She remembers what went in that underwear and how it assaulted her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and absolutely does not forget about it – she thinks about it all day and stews over it, getting angrier and angrier and probably finding other things that you did wrong to bitch at you for.

When you get home, be prepared for her to light into you before you even get your work clothes off. In fact, she may very well call you on your lunch break to give you a preview of the verbal reaming you can expect when you get home.

Getting regularly satisfied during sex changes the way a woman looks at her man in a relationship, and it changes the way she thinks about his mistakes. It’s far easier for women to write off their partners’ shortcomings and focus on the things he does to make her happy – like incredible orgasms – than it is to stew over the things he does wrong.

Women prefer to make excuses for their men when they’re getting something out of the relationship. And it’s far easier for you as a man to make her come than to listen to constant nagging. By making sure your lover is regularly and consistently satisfied during sex, you’re really making your own life easier. And hers. It’s a win-win situation and the sex will be super hot.

So are you ready to learn what it takes to give her mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasms?

How To Have Great Sex And Enjoy STUNNING Orgasms

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Sex tips can improve your love life and help you and your girl have better sex than you EVER dreamed possible? Want to know the secret? Here it is!

Giving your woman incredible pleasure and making sure she gets an orgasm every time is a great way to enjoy sex. Now how about taking this up a notch and make your own climax even more awesome and spectacular?

Here are 2 brilliant tips to enjoy sex that is totally mind-blowing – for the both of you!

Prolong Your Staying Power

Let’s face it. The vast majority of men reach an orgasm BEFORE their women. But if you can hold back your own climax until she achieves hers, you will make your own ejaculation stronger, harder and infinitely more pleasurable when it arrives.

Instead of tuning into the sensations that envelop your genitals when you have sex, focus on how the pleasurable feelings surge through your ENTIRE body. When you sense an orgasm is approaching, stop for a while, or simply slow down your thrusts. Or take this opportunity to continue give her a “pleasure continuum” through oral sex (hint: women love this!). This will enable your arousal to come down several notches until you are ready to thrust again. Repeat this process until you ready to let go.

Hold Your Orgasm In

When an ejaculation nears, you will feel some involuntary contractions in your pelvis area. Just before this happens, squeeze your PC (or pubococcygeus) muscle and hold it in for as long as possible. The PC muscle is the same muscle you use to disrupt the flow of urine. When your orgasm finally arrives – because you have intentionally held it back – it will burst forth with all its might, giving you an extremely pleasurable sensation during the final release.

Now here’s the thing. The PC muscle – just like any muscles on your body – needs to be strong in order for you to prolong your ejaculation. For most guys, the PC muscle is relatively weak by default, because it has not been exercised before!

The good news is, it is very easy to strengthen the PC muscle. Start practicing Kegel exercises simply by contracting and holding your PC muscle for 5 minutes each day. Within a week, it will be significantly strengthened to the point that you can use it to effectively hold back an orgasm until you are ready.

A sensational orgasm will turn HER on too!

When you experience an awesome climax, your wife or girlfriend will feel GREAT too. She will feel very turned on and will want to do it with you every time you have sex! So make it a point to give her a great climax first, and use the 2 tips above to achieve a powerful orgasm yourself. Your sex life will never be the same again!

What To Do When He Ejaculates During A Handjob

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A handjob will hopefully end in your lover ejaculating – but what do you do with his semen? Here’s how to handle it when your man has an orgasm during a handjob.

You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job. Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate.

Take Him Through The Orgasm

A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the handjob as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones.

Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll come. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Where Does The Semen Go?

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go!

If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Men Love To Watch

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. We like for you to see our eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. We want to see wonder in your eyes as we shoot as high or far as far as we can (men are competitors by nature). Here is how one of my readers expressed it: “I want you to watch me and my manhood as I proudly throb and shoot jets of splooge for all to see! Don’t turn away, or block the squirts… sharing the full ejaculation experience with you is HOT!”

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels our sexual fires.

Letting Him Take The Reins

Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time.

Handing off to him to masturbate has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong (he’s had a lot of practice), aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself.

There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more handjobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge.

I’ll tell you what will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt. Sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your labia and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a handjob session.

For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards.

Why Some Women Hate Giving Head

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Oral sex isn’t something every woman just loves to give. There are a great deal of women out there that really don’t like going down on their partners. Most of the time, this is due to the fact that a lot of women rate a man’s genitals slightly above insects in terms of things they want coming in contact with their mouths. However, there are actually plenty of reasons a woman might not be so enthusiastic about giving her lover oral sex.

It’s Condescending To Women

It’s true that oral sex on a man is a form of sexual submission for a woman, or it at least can be viewed as such. However, many girls feel as though this type of submission is condescending to women. Oral sex in and of itself is not condescending towards women, but of course, a man’s attitude while he’s getting a blowjob has everything to do with how the girl feels while she’s going down on him. If he’s acting like he deserves the blowjob, that he’s controlling her or if he acts condescending towards her in any way during the blowjob, that’s how she’s going to perceive it.

However, men that treat receiving oral sex as a gift and treat the woman giving it with respect and love, she isn’t going to feel as though he expects it or is looking down on her for doing it. If you’ve had a bad past experience with men treating you poorly during oral sex, don’t assume that it’s because the act itself is condescending towards women. It’s more likely that the partner you were giving head to had a bad attitude about it.

It Smells & It’s Dirty

The far majority of women who don’t like going down on a man feel this way because they view a man’s genitals as dirty and gross. While both female and male genitals have their own distinct odors, if your lover keeps his undercarriage clean, there shouldn’t be too much of an issue here as far as smell and taste goes. Many women, however, have had a bad experience going down on a man who hasn’t bothered to wash his genitals thoroughly or at all, leaving her with an unsavory memory of oral sex. Rest assured that this is not always the case!

Many men are very vigilant about their genital hygiene, especially if they suspect or know that they’ll be receiving oral sex at some point during the day or evening. If your man doesn’t pay much attention to cleanliness, that doesn’t mean that you have to forgo giving him the gift of a blowjob – there are many things you can do during foreplay to get him cleaned up, such as incorporating a sexy shower beforehand so you’re both fresh, clean and ready for action.

He Doesn’t Give Her Oral Sex, Why Should She Do It For Him?

Many guys drop the ball when it comes to giving a woman oral sex, which can be frustrating for girls. It can seem like a man expects it, but won’t give it out in return – which can definitely make a woman feel resentful about giving him head. There are a lot of reasons a man won’t go down on a woman, from being sensitive to her scent to not even being aware of the fact that she craves oral sex too. Regardless of the reasons, it doesn’t help the relationship any for a woman to withhold going down on her man just because he doesn’t do it for her.

The fastest way to get a man to reciprocate is to give him an enthusiastic blowjob! He might not respond right away, but be patient and enjoy the fact that you’re pleasuring him. Communicate with him about what he likes and let him know that you’d like a little oral pleasure too – and make sure you’re clean and well groomed down there. Once he sees how excited you are about giving him oral sex, he’ll likely be so turned on, he’ll want to go down on you too!

It’s Too Hard To Keep From Gagging

If a man is particularly well endowed, it’s likely the head of his penis will aggravate his partner’s gag reflex and cause her to gag or even vomit in worst case scenarios, especially if she’s not skilled or practiced at relaxing her throat. This happens most often, however, when a man is aggressive during a blowjob and holds her head down onto his penis or bucks his hips so that his penis is shoved further down her throat. If a woman is in total control while she’s giving head, she can easily back off or stop all together when she feels like gagging, stimulating him with her hands while she regains her composure.

If she’s in control, she may not even get to the point where she’s gagging, because she can control the depth and angle of his penetration. If your partner gets too aggressive during oral sex, explain to him why you want to be in control. Let him know that you want him to relax and let you please him totally! If you make the conversation about him and his pleasure (and how it will be better for him if he backs off and lets you do your thang), he’ll likely be exceptionally receptive to letting go and letting you take the reins.

It’s Difficult To Get And Stay Comfortable

It’s not easy to get comfortable during oral sex and it’s even more difficult to stay that way. You can get cramps in your neck, back or wrists from holding yourself up while going down on him. Finding the right oral sex position is essential to staying comfortable and giving head for extended periods of time without experiencing discomfort. This will take some experimenting – you may not find the right position right away, but as you continue to try different oral sex positions, you’ll learn which ones cause you more discomfort and which ones allow you to have more stamina.

He Doesn’t Let Her Know What He Likes (And She Thinks She’s Doing It Wrong)

Most guys don’t know how to communicate well at all, let alone communicate what they like during sex. Many guys enjoy getting head so much that they revert into their own little worlds, forgetting to make any noise or movement. Most men won’t tell a woman what feels good and what doesn’t, which can be really frustrating for her! She’ll wonder if she’s doing anything right, and she’ll switch techniques too fast in an effort to find something he actually responds to.

This actually makes the situation much worse – he may like what she’s doing, but if he doesn’t respond to it, she’s going to switch too quickly, without allowing him time to build towards an orgasm. This actually makes the blowjob terrible – so his lack of communication actually makes her fears and concerns about not being any good at oral sex realized.

Communicate with your lover and let him know how important it is for him to communicate with you during a blowjob, even if it’s just moans and groans. Let him know that it is crucial that he let you know what he likes and what he doesn’t, so you can tailor your oral sex skills specifically to what feels good for him. It may take him several tries to open up to you, but be sure to never judge him or be critical of him for what he likes or how he chooses to tell you he likes it.

Be sure to do your best to read his body language and once you both get the hang of it, he won’t have to tell you what he likes anymore and you won’t be afraid you’re doing it wrong – you’ll be confident you’re absolutely ROCKING his world!