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Is Porn Actually Bad For You?

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Porn can be a way to get any guy through dry spell or to spice up the love life between a couple. However, the most common questions is whether or not adult movies are actually bad for you. While it does allow people to indulge in their fantasies, there can be several repercussions to bring pornography into any relationship. If you are a single guy, it can also have detrimental effects to the expectations of future lovers. Here are a few ways that adult films can actually be bad for you.

It Raises Your Expectations A Little Too High

Porn is the equivalency of fantasy. When you start watching it, it is very easy to fall into the trap of living out your sexual fantasies through the characters in the movie. Lusting after porn stars that are willing to do anything can easily be detrimental to relationship that you have been in for a while or a relationship that might just be starting out. When your partner sees women that have an insatiable appetite for sex, it can put a lot of pressure into the relationship.

Guys who are single can also expect new lovers to try different positions or activities based on the adult movies they have watched. This expectation for a lover to live up to the porn stars in the movies can also create tension that would not have been there otherwise. The reality is that most women do not have the libido that men have. Not all women are shaped to the way that they are in pornography.

When men watch too much porn, they can easily push women into doing things that they do not feel comfortable with. They can also start to believe that certain sex acts are universally loved by all women.

It Desensitizes You To Sex

Porn can easily desensitize you to actual sex, leaving you with an unsatisfying feeling when you have real sex. Sex is not about getting off as hard or as fast as you can. Sex should be about the love between two consenting adults. The problem with pornography is that it will subconsciously leave you with a feeling of wanting more. This can easily turn into a vicious cycle to lowers the amount of pleasure that you feel when you are not only watching porn, having sex in real life.

If you have been watching it for a long time, you will start to see just how desensitized you have become. A video that got you really turned on two years ago may not do it for you now. Before there were things like the Internet, guys had to rely on things such as magazines or old-school pinup pictures of women. Now that the Internet is a full-fledged information machine and you can basically watch any kind of movie you want after just a few clicks, the desensitization can easily get out of control.

Porn Objectifies Women

Probably the worst thing about the adult industry is that it caters to men by objectifying women. Although there are videos that show women in control, they are not in control because of their mind or because of their physical abilities. They use their sexuality to get what they want. Pornography turns women into things that are pretty much there to satisfy the man’s sexual urge. Women should be loved because of who they are and not because of what they can provide a man sexually.

It’s Easy To Become Addicted To It

Because of all of these reasons, porn can easily become addicting. Anything that offers instant gratification can become addicting, however, pornography is becoming more and more accessible. With the invention of mobile internet, a lot of porno websites are starting to launch mobile versions of their site. While this can be great for mobile commerce, this can lead to temptation for men finding it hard to resist their addictions.

Porn is a different beast than alcohol or drugs. Porn is not illegal if you are of age. It is not even bad for the body in a physical sense, so it’s hard to regulate this for the normal male. Watching too much porn can lead to porn addiction when masturbating.

Porn, like alcohol or sweets, can be fun and harmless in small doses. However, if you start to go overboard, you might find it difficult to form a healthy relationship with a woman who is not as kinky as you. Talk with your partner or any potential partners about their views on the subject before you expose them to the kind of porn that you like.

How To Please A Man From Head To Toe

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Sex tips are a must have if you’re going to rock your man’s world. Sure, bringing a man to orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen – or so you may think. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him.

Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done,” but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm? For example, sometimes a man can have two orgasms in one, meaning that he feels that release sensation at the beginning of climax and then feels a sudden burst of pleasure at the end. Sometimes, a man can have an orgasm and not ejaculate at all while other times, he can ejaculate and not feel a thing. Now that you are aware that you might not have all of the signals down pat, how do you know if you have given him amazing pleasure?

There is one way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction and showing him that you know your way around the male body and that is to give him total body sex. This means that you just aren’t going to go for the gold and head straight to his penis to make him orgasm. No, you are better than that. Instead, you are going to learn how to please a man from head to toe and to really give him an all over amazing sensation that he won’t soon forget.

Above The Neck

There are many spot on a man’s head that can really get him going in the bedroom. Obviously you have his eyes to attract by wearing something sexy, his nose by wearing some delicious scent and his lips to give him passionate kisses to send chills all throughout his body but there is so much more. For example, kissing on his ears, his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck and so on are all things that contribute to pleasure.

Even using your fingers on his lips will get him going. Try biting on his lips or even grazing them with your fingertips. Anything that you can do that will tease and tantalize him is definitely the way to go.

Torso And Arms

The obvious hot spots on a man’s torso are his nipples but stay away from that. Those are the typical spots that he is used to having stimulated by you and are you a typical lover? Of course not! You want to kick this up a notch and truly show him that you know how to give him total body sex all the way from his head and down to his itty bitty toes.

Instead of going for the nipples, try stimulating his back and stomach. Kissing on his back or stomach and even using your nails to scratch all the way down will give him some amazing satisfaction. Remember that men love that rough stimulation so the rougher it is, the better. Also, don’t forget about his arms. Using your fingers and nails to trace along his forearms will give him a sensation he probably never knew he had. The skin is extra thin on his forearms so feeling your nails digging deep will definitely drive him wild.

Don’t forget about his fingers either. A super sexy tip to try is to suck on his fingers to mimic oral sex. Feeling those warm and wet lips of yours tracing along his fingers will make him desperately want to feel that warm mouth on another part of his body.

Thighs And Legs

We all know how amazing it feels to have a man kiss our inner thighs and before oral sex. This move may be a bit too sensitive for your man to handle but that doesn’t mean that you can’t give him stimulation there in a different way. Again, your fingers and nails are capable of so much pleasure it is insane. Digging your nails deep into his thighs will drive him wild because not only is the skin sensitive there but it is also so close to his penis and the closer you are without touching it, the more you are going to drive him absolutely wild.

The best part about giving your man total body sex is that there are no rules. You don’t necessarily have to start from head to toe. You can always mix and match these tips to suit whatever your man’s needs might be in that moment. You can do a lot to him or a little; it is up to you. You are in the driver’s seat when you are pleasing him and it is all up to you how close to the edge you want to take him tonight.

How To Talk To Her About Sex

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Sex can be a difficult subject to broach when you’re dating someone. Here’s how you can discuss sex with your lover without scaring her off!

Get Comfortable With It

For a lot of people, even in this day and age, with a media saturated in sexual imagery, sex can be incredibly uncomfortable to discuss. Even with our most intimate partners. Especially when unsatisfied, your wife may not be articulating what she wants or needs sexually, as she’s afraid of hurting your feelings.

Before you start the conversation, you need to get comfortable saying the words associated with sex – penis, vagina, clitoris, G-Spot, orgasm, lubrication and intercourse. Say them out loud, somewhere private, and just get comfortable with the sound of them in your mouth. When you can say them to yourself without blushing, you are ready to say them to the person you love.

Take The Initiative

In order to open her up, you need to take the first step. If she feels like you are grilling her with some kind of sexual interview, she may retreat. Instead, you need to spend some time – days, maybe even weeks – communicating to her how important her sexual satisfaction and overall pleasure is for you.

When she knows that any helpful tips, comments or critiques she gives you will be accepted as a gift, she can feel as if she is giving them to you, instead of that she is burdening you with them. When she is ready to divulge information about her sexual preferences, don’t take in a list of questions and read it off like an interview. Go in having already thought about what you want to know about her, and take the time to volunteer some of the same information about yourself to encourage her when you start out.

Take care to be positive and gentle when talking about her sexual performance. Tell her what she already does that you like!

Make A Deal

No accusations, no judgments, no huffy remarks or pouty lips; it’s time to sit down and have that chat. Sexpert Tracey Cox suggests three things to remember when it comes time for open and honest communication about your sex life:

First, take the time to figure out what it is you want, and be very specific. You know that you aren’t satisfied with your sex life, and you probably figure your wife isn’t either. Do you want to know how to please her better? Do you want more sex? How much more, and what kind? Do you need to have more orgasms, or do you want to opportunity to touch her more often? Do you want to have sex more in the morning, or during the daylight hours? Are you interested in trying more new things, or is there something you know that you like, that you want to do more often?

Second, how much information do you really want from her? Do you want details of past lovers and how they touched her? Are you prepared to hear about any difficult or shocking experiences? It is important to know how many details you are willing to divulge as well. Tell her how much you are willing to hear, and let her do the same.

Finally, agree that “no” means “no more.” Whether it’s just the sexual conversation, or time to try things out, it is important to have a clear understanding that either of you can say “I’m sorry, that technique (or role play, or sex position) isn’t working” or “Hey, I need a break to collect my thoughts” if things aren’t going quite the way you anticipated.

It can be a bit overwhelming when you try to get into the details, which is why you should think about it for a while before you sit down to talk. Furthermore, you should give your wife the chance to think about it as well. When you sit down to make your deal, take the time to discuss what you really want to know about each other.

Why Sex Gets Better Over Time

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Sex is something you’ll be doing for the rest of your life. It really is.

Maybe not as much when brittle bones and cardiac complications set in, but it will always be an element of your existence. Whether it’s vicarious sex or a simple interlocking of hands with your wife of 50 years, sex takes a whole lifetime to appreciate.

The Good News – Sex Gets Better With Age

Like wine, huh?

You get good at it the more you do it. You’ll soon master its in’s & outs and will be able to calibrate your woman down to the most minuscule detail. Similarly, she’ll also master you, discovering how you want booty served. As you two get to know each other, sex will spiral up.

Really?! Then why do people tend to spiral the other way?

For many couples, this is what happens: Sex was good, no, it was GREAT! They made love like the gods. They were Energizer bunnies who just won’t stop. They thought the passion would last forever… but nobody’s falling for that now.

That was yesterday, viewed through rose-colored glasses. Today, sex (with that same old hag) has become boring – almost a drudgery. All they have are memories of what has been…and they are just 27 years old!

What’s up with that? If sex is supposed to get better over time, then why end up in a rut where it has become soulless, dead, ho-hum and unexciting?

It’s Only Up To A Point

Beyond an optimum point, things start going downhill. The body cannot realistically maintain levels of brain chemistry that cause passion to wax hot. The Law of Averages dictates that over time, all things come back and plateau on the average. Passion has to simmer down when the novelty of sex ceases. If it’s all the same – same partner, same set of breasts, same sexual positions, same moans – sex will definitely get old.

Chances are, a day will come when you’d rather sleep than make-love to that fat ogre beside you. There’s no set time, but it’ll definitely happen. You’ll feel it, she’ll feel it, you two will definitely feel it. When you hear things like, “I’m just not as horny as I used to be,” you’re getting there.

But that’s okay. Things getting old is fine, that’s life. Nothing is wrong with the idea of sex losing its charm, it’s your response to this new sexual dynamic that needs tweaking.

New Challenges Await You

Recognize that when this “up to a point” comes, it only means A NEW STAGE IN YOUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ACHIEVED. This brings with it a new set of challenges and it’s important that you appropriately respond to them. It doesn’t mean your run is over, you don’t need to swear off sex altogether.

Whereas the challenge in the past was getting home in the least amount of time, your new challenge could be finding new and exciting ideas to bring into bed.

And that takes work, a lot of work. Not manual labor, but brain power. You need to don your creative hat for this. And for many people, the very idea of honing creativity for sexual purposes is just too much, they’d rather find someone else new. But in committed, long-term relationships, it’s not that simple – or wise.

Blow By Blow Review

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Blow By Blow contains expert tips on how to give mind-blowing blowjobs. Many many men actually enjoy fellatio (a blowjob) much more than they enjoy intercourse.  But Why? Learning why a man loves fellatio so much is the very foundation of learning the art of keeping your partner satisfied with fellatio and you might even make him squeal and grab the covers (or your head!).

The Good

Blow By Blow doesn’t miss a beat when it comes to educating about blowjobs, and this excellent guide leaves little to be desired. After reading Blow By Blow in its entirety, you will find that not only are your questions answered, but you know more about giving great head than you ever thought imaginable! Easy to read and understand, this guide is a great buy for anyone. Although it has a few drawbacks, overall, this product goes above and beyond.

The Bad

Yes, most “how to” manuals about sex tend to include explicit information and rightly so. However, there are some instances where it is truly a case of “TMI!” One of the very first sections in Blow By Blow is about ejaculation and where it should go. While this is invetably a conversation that you and your partner should have about fellatio before you engage in it, some of the text within this section is not for the squeamish. If the idea of semen grosses you out AT ALL, skip this section.

The Bottom Line

If you want to learn how to give a great blowjob, Blow By Blow is probably the only book you’ll need. It’s a comprehenseive guide that includes everything from male anatomy to tips and techniques. Michael Webb, author of Blow By Blow, has produced a well written and easy to understand manual for everything relating to blowjobs and more. A great investment for those who have never given a blowjob before or those who just want to brush up on their head-giving skills. Plus, Michael includes lots of great bonus guides too, so you’re definitely getting your money’s worth here.

The Full Blow By Blow Review

A blowjob is something guys absolutely love and if you want to give your man real pleasure, learning how to give a great blowjob is a must on your skills list. After beginning Blow By Blow with a very explicit section on ejaculate and where it goes during a blowjob (skip if you’re squeamish), Michael delves right into an excerpt for the guys whose ladies purchased this book. The one and only tip he has for the men? Don’t put your hands on her head unless she puts them there first. A very good tip indeed! Other than that, the guys can sit back and relax while their girls learn how to give great head.

An appropriate section on sexually transmitted diseases is next. While monogamous couples who are STD free can probably skip this section, women who have multiple sex partners will definitely want to read this. Michael breaks down the different STD’s and how they are transmitted. For example, HIV is transmitted in a completely different way than Hepatitis A. It’s nice to finally understand the specifics about sexually transmitted diseases, because what you can get from giving (and receiving) oral sex has always been a bit murky. Of course, Michael urges you to play it safe if you’re ever unsure.

The male anatomy section is a bit overdone, and only women who have never seen a penis before will be interested in this section. It is, however, useful for learning the different areas of the penis that are more sensitive than others. Michael also gives some great information on how other parts of a man’s body, such as his stomach, scalp, chest and buttocks can be stimulated before or during a fellatio session to give your partner even more pleasure.

Perhaps one of the better sections in Blow By Blow – quite unexpectedly, actually – is the section on male hygiene. A problem that many women have with giving their partners oral sex is that he either is too hairy down there or just doesn’t smell that great. This guide tackles this issue head on, giving you tips and techniques to help your guy get cleaned up and make oral sex even better for you.

Now, the fun is about to start. Diving straight into how to turn a man on before giving him fellatio, Michael gives us a somewhat brief but extremely informative section on foreplay for guys. He’ll teach you what you need to visually turn your partner on – because naturally, men are visual creatures – and the number one mistake you don’t want to make when giving your partner a blowjob. Michael then gets down to business with actual fellatio techniques, and they definitely won’t dissapoint.

One of the best things about this guide is that the tips are easy to distinguish from one another (it’s not just a crazy long list of technique after technique) and each tip gives you step by step instructions on how to perform it. Many of the tips actually include a “why you’re doing this or doing it this way and not that way” for women who want to understand what the reasons are behind a particular technique or action.

The Advanced Technique section are where some of the best tips are, however, it is possible to give your man a great blowjob by simply using the “beginner’s” techniques. While you may be anxious to convince your partner that you’re an oral sex goddess by using every trick you learn in the guide, do yourself a favor and master one or two really good techniques at a time. Save the advanced techniques to be used “every now and again” so that you’ll always have something at least somewhat new to offer your partner when you go down on him.

Last, Michael finally gets to the bottom of what really makes a blowjob great. No, you’re not going to read it here! At the end of Blow By Blow, there is ONE single tip that you can use EVERY time you give your partner a blowjob to make it amazing, no matter what techniques you use. It’s a simple tip, but a very, very powerful one. Don’t underestimate it! Get the guide to find out what it is!