Sex Tips & Advice

5 Ways To Start Getting Oral Sex REGULARLY!

Oral sex can be a fun way for your partner to show you how much she loves you. If you aren’t getting as much oral sex as you want, use these methods to start getting it on a regular basis.

1. Wake Up The Nerves In Her Lips And Mouth

I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t absolutely LOVE this. Next time you’re in bed or even just kissing your woman, kiss her really nicely and then say. “Hold on a second. I want you to close your eyes and just let me kiss you for a second.”

The key is to get her to just stay still with her mouth either closed or partially open. While she’s laying there (or standing there), take the very tip of your tongue and lightly trace it along her lips. You just barely want the tip of your tongue to touch her lip.

You’re not licking her like dog here or anything like that, you’re just gently caressing her lips with your tongue.Women LOVE this when you do it right.

2. Create An “Oral Fixation”

OK, you remember Pavlov’s dogs? The short version is that Pavlov rang a dinner bell every time he was going to feed some dogs he had. Before long the dogs started salivating when he rang the bell even when there was no food.

We’re going to start doing something similar with your wife. We’re going to start creating a connection between pleasure and the idea of having part of YOU in her mouth. Next time you’re in bed with your woman, take time to really focus on HER pleasure.

If there’s a particular way she really likes you to fuck her, do that. Or you can go down on her, use your fingers. Just focus on doing something you KNOW gets her off and that she really enjoys.

While she’s in the throes of passion, bring your fingers up to her mouth. Just bring them right up to her lips. (Quick note: many women really LIKE the taste of their own vaginal juices. You may want to get your fingers all wet, finger her to an orgasm and then bring your fingers up to her mouth.)

The key is to have her suck on your fingers either WHILE she’s experiencing great pleasure (one hand is getting her off while the other is in her mouth) or directly afterwards.

This is largely a continuation of our last “Trick” but it deserves its own section. If/when she starts to lick and suck your fingers, make sure you give her POSITIVE reinforcement.

3. Use “Outside The Bedroom Talk”

Hopefully you’re in the habit of giving your wife/girlfriend/lover compliments. What I want you to do from now on is start mixing in the occasional comment on her lips, mouth or tongue. So at one point you might comment on her eyes, her hair, whatever else you find sexy about her.

But then slip in something like:

“You have the most gorgeous lips.”
Or “Your tongue really turns me on.”
Or “I love the way your lips feel on my skin.”

You don’t ever need to make a direct connection between this and oral sex. Instead just create the idea in her mind of her lips, mouth and tongue being sexy and beautiful and desirable.

Again, we’re going for more self esteem, power and desirability here. With everything you’re doing, make sure you do it with a smile. Remember, sex is FUN!

4. Show Her What It Feels Like

I know, this sounds weird, let me explain. Next time you’re messing around with your woman I want you kiss your way down her arm. Use your tongue and lips liberally here and really let her enjoy it.

Kiss your way across her palm, up her fingers and then (with a smile, this is FUN) take her finger into your mouth. Eye contact is good here. Really have fun with her fingers. Fingers are actually REALLY sensitive. She’ll probably like this a LOT and may even get into it.

Being the “Receiver” in that way can really help your woman get into the idea of blowjobs being fun for both side.

5. Make It Seem Like Her Idea

OK, as I said way back in the first few pages of this (increasingly comprehensive…man, my fingers are tired) training, one of the reason so many women don’t like giving a blowjob is because of trauma from the past.

A boyfriend or husband or some guy they were dating was too rough with her, made her gag, created a bad memory and ruined it for the rest of us.

So what we need to do to get her to be INTO the idea of giving you head is put her in the driver’s seat and make the whole thing seem like her idea. If you follow the first 4 steps I listed out here you should be slowly warming her up to the idea of her mouth being an erogenous zone and oral being fun.

Now it’s time to give her the opportunity to “take the bait” and make the decision all on her own to give you head.

2 Steps To Prepare Her For An Orgasm

By loveandsex

An orgasm doesn’t just happen. But a lot of men think they do. So they sit and wait like a woman expecting the train to chug its way to the girl. But it doesn’t work that way. Orgasms don’t just happen and a woman has to work for climaxes – she is not a passive agent in this drama.

Up to this point, we spoke of an orgasm as if it’s something men GIVE the ladies. But the truth is, men can only do so much, we can only give the stimulation, women have to give the O’s to themselves.

1. Help Her Relax

Free the mind and bring your girl to a place where she can enjoy the moment, loosen up, and let go of her worries. We didn’t go through all that trouble just so she can lie passively, stare blankly at the ceiling, and do nothing but wait for the climax.

Of course not! She has a part in this dance. We went through the trouble of relaxing the mind & body so she can actively FOCUS on the sexual sensations. It’s the girl’s job is to take all stimulation, heighten awareness, and use that to power the climaxes.

An orgasm is not a passive thing; she has to feel the intensifying sensations of an unfolding process. She has to close her eyes, stop worrying about bills or anything fishy, block everything else.

2. Switch To Sexual Rapture

She has to recognize your hand and attend its gig on her vulva. She has to feel your fingers inside her, threatening to enflame her G -spot. She has to follow your tongue as it scintillates her clitoris. She has to feel every thrust and be enveloped with your blissful moves.

But as she’s doing these, she shouldn’t drive for an orgasm, but simply ride the journey to it. If she gets worried with cumming, she’ll merely undo everything in Step 1. Here, she’s not pressuring herself, she’s just enjoying the process, being in the moment. She’s not thinking about the big O, but reveling in the ecstasy you bring each other. She’s just playing around.

And then, just when she’s not expecting it, at a point when she’s just messing around, at a moment when she’s lost all track of time… she begins that familiar writhing. It’s those unmistakable contractions. They’re starting to come in. She moans. Her body thrashes and her head swings side-to-side. Ding. ding. ding!

That’s the two-step process of sidestepping the paradox. First, clear her head. Second, fill it with erotic bliss.

How To Prolong Ejaculation During Sex (Are You Overlooking This One Thing?)

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation is embarrassing for all parties involved. If you are truly serious about becoming a better lover and giving your woman the best sex possible, you will want to keep reading this article.

You see, most men want to know how to last longer in bed. Yet very few guys actually achieve it. Let’s face it. Premature ejaculation is something that millions of men around the world have to grapple with. But only a handful really knows how to permanently deal with it, and it all boils down to one specific difference.

The Law Of The Numbers

It is no secret that most men come to an orgasm BEFORE women during sex. Studies have shown that women on average need 11 minutes to be able to reach an orgasm during intercourse. For guys, it is just a short 3 minutes! And it is clear why the vast majority of women remain unsatisfied during sex.

The Principle Of Outlasting Women

Many men continue to put their trust on pills, sprays and creams to improve their sexual stamina. The simple truth is that these “band-aids” do NOT provide a permanent solution to premature ejaculation. The key to having total ejaculatory control is in re-conditioning and re-training your mind so that you can significantly delay the “point of no return”, or the point where a male orgasm becomes imminent.

“Re-conditioning” simply requires you to reverse the negative thoughts that cause you to climax early. For instance, many men subconsciously “will” themselves to ejaculate early simply because they entertain thoughts such as:

“Am I really good enough to satisfy her?”
“Will I climax early again?”
“What if she thinks I’m really BAD in bed?”

Does This All Sound Familiar To You?

If it does, the first step to fixing premature ejaculation is to replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations, such as:

“I can completely satisfy any woman”
“I am sexually confident”
“I can last all night”

The human mind is a very powerful thing. Repetitive affirmations can subconsciously induce the mind to believe the things it can do and more importantly… to eventually act out that way.

So if you are not lasting long enough, start replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, and your ability to enjoy longer-lasting sex will increase multiple folds!

Kissing Tips Your Girl Wants You To Know NOW!

By loveandsex

Kissing tips is critical to becoming a great lover. Remember that not all kisses are made equal. There are dry & fleeting ones, there are wet & deep as well. Think about it, do you really kiss your grandma that way? We kiss different people differently.

In the same manner, different parts of her body will profit from varied types of oral stimulation. Classically, there are 5 ORAL TECHNIQUES. One may KISS, LICK, SUCK, BITE & BLOW (KLSBB).

Here’s the guideline for each:

KISS – kiss everywhere
LICK – lick everywhere
SUCK – everything “suckable”
BITE – everything “bite-able”…but not too hard.
BLOW – everywhere on the skin except into the vagina and anus (and very gently on the ears)

For the tender and supple parts, we generally use the gentler and softer variety. The breasts for example, enjoy soft sucks & kisses and mellow biting. For firm, muscularly dense areas like the butt, the harder variety may be applied. But extra-light oral sex can sometimes be better.

1. Put Your Hands To Good Use

And not only the hands, but the rest of your body. Sometimes people are so into the kiss that the mouth becomes the center of the universe. While this is not bad, mouth-to-mouth action doesn’t have to be the sole event. Kiss not just with your lips, but with your hands as well. Put them to good use by stroking her face, back, buttocks or sides – (avoid the breasts too early in the game). Time hand strokes with tonguing to add pizzazz to frenching.

2. Use Yummy Sounds While You’re At It

Simple as it may seem, a “Mmmmm” once in a while, is a potent motivator. It narrates pleasure, spurring on the players. Yummy sounds could be the beginning of a torrid sex session. You’re boosting her confidence with those sounds, and when you’ve got a confident woman in your hands, who knows what she’s going to do next?!

3. Relax Your Tongue

When it comes to frenching, a soft and slow tongue is much better than a hard, pointy one, flicking rapidly. Relax your tongue as it dances with hers. A spatula in the mouth is very weird.

4. Kiss Without Gunning For Sex

Kissing for its own sake works wonders. But kissing angled at getting laid could actually turn her off and activate her flight tendencies. In the end, she may give you the “I have a headache” line. When that happens, you’ve lost twice – you didn’t get to enjoy the kiss, and you didn’t have the sex.

By kissing for the moment, you win twice – you not only enjoy the oral event, but also get to be with her. The choice sounds easy, but in reality, when a boy gets into these situations, it’s easier to fall to the temptation of pushing for the lay than allowing the kisses to work their magic.

Let us now get into the business of eye contacts – another untapped powerhouse. A look is just as powerful as a kiss. One can actually affect somebody from a distance just by looking at them – that’s power!

3 Oral Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

By lloydlester

Oral sex is one of the best ways to give your girlfriend or wife intense orgasms. And the most wonderful way for her to experience the ultimate excitement is by making her feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for her.

But with these 3 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give her a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

1. The Art Of Moving Your Tongue!

This can actually be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace.

This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and put her in the mood quickly. To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tonguing strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women).

2. Humming

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged.

The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to her clitoris.

3. Sex Toys Can Be Your Best Friends

Here’s a fact: No matter how good you are in bed, sometimes you need a little “help” to maximize her pleasure. Why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? You just need to know where and when you are going to use these.

I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

By giving your lady the satisfaction from oral sex, you can expect to be amply rewarded with something titillating in return… well, which hot-blooded man would refuse a fellatio (or male oral sex) in return? I bet you wouldn’t!