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3 Keys To The PERFECT Massage

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Erotic massage is a great way to get things started. A good massage is not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

So to give an excellent erotic massage, you need to imbibe 3 specific attitudes:

1. Be in the Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

In Sensual Massage, both partners win!

2. Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. When having sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about Sensual Massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Attitudes 1 & 2 won’t even be possible if not for #3. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

 

2 Ways To Get Your Girl To Want Anal Sex NOW!

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Anal sex is a very intimate act for women. They are allowing someone to enter the “forbidden zone” of their body, which is a huge deal. That’s why it requires a certain level of trust and a lot of communication. She is not going to agree to do it unless
she is one hundred per cent sure that it will be all right, that you know what you are doing and that she is not going to feel pain.

You have to play your cards right and don’t leave her any room for complaining. Simone de Beauvoir explained it better: “Sex pleasure in a woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.”

If you want to get her to agree to it, you must start small, step by step, seducing both her mind and her body. Tease her to the extent that she can’t take it anymore and she’s the one begging you to do it.

1. Stimulate her mind

You’re probably wondering what goes on through that pretty head of hers while she’s looking at you, indecisive and troubled. Reading a woman’s body language can be tough, Steve Martin made quite the funny joke about it: “You know that look women have when they want sex? Me neither…”

However, there are a few things that you can do to break that cold “no” and that dead silence. You just have to be persistent, calm and methodical. First of all, fix the breach in communication. Talk to her about analingus, if it’s a blurry thing for her or if she doesn’t even heard of it beforehand. Explain your reasons for wanting it, share your deepest desires and fantasies and ask her to tell you what she thinks about it.

You can start by discussing the subject in general, maybe mentioning that a couple of your friends are doing it and it turned out to be a successful venture for them. Tell your girl details, read together articles about it, and then move to asking how she feels about you two giving it a try.

Don’t force an answer on the spot, if she’s not ready. Let your girlfriend meditate on the subject on her own, or with friends, for a couple of days, then demand an ultimatum. Then, talk to her about any fears. After extensive interviews with women all over the country, I have come to the conclusion that, besides the pain factor, most women are simply worried about the mess.

The idea that the whole act could become a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for them. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell good that they can’t accept the fact that you will consider them dirty.

Try and subtly bring that up, assuring your girl that there is no problem from your part and that you will never judge negatively when it comes to this aspect. Tell her that you could never consider her dirty, and that, in fact, dirty is not even the right word to use in this context, because anal sex is not dirty, but kinky.

2. Stimulate Her Body

The most common mistake that men do when they decide to try anal sex with their girlfriends is that they proceed without proper preparations. My secret? Extended foreplay! I have developed a three day routine that is meant to “desensitize” a woman’s derriere and help experience anal sex as she should: an act of pure pleasure. Here’s what you have to do:

Day 1

Start with a sexy shower together. Kiss, stroke and massage her body with all the nicely scented lotions she has in the bathroom. Take time to truly connect through the power of tactile orgasm. When you hear your girl moan with pleasure, reach on the buttocks and massage, stroke and knead the muscles until they relax.

Gradually move your fingers to the space between the cheeks and allow your fingers to slightly pass over the anus, without inserting anything! Give  a deep kiss and let your girl finish the bath alone.

Day 2

Surprise your girl with a good dose of oral sex. As she becomes more aroused, apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to your index finger and begin to gently massage her anus.

Start with long, slow strokes, and as your tongue is caressing her clitoris, move your finger in circles around the opening of the anus. After a couple of minutes of anal massage, begin to gently push your finger against the opening of her anus with steady pressure.

Day 3

Now that she’s ready and eager for more, it’s time to start slowly inserting your well-lubed finger. After warming her up with the steps described above, insert an inch or two of your index into her anus. While she breathes deeply, start to move your finger around in small circles.

If she’s not objecting, you can start moving your finger in and out, simulating intercourse. Re-apply lube every time it’s necessary. I usually advise couples to stop here, but if she’s eager for some penis action (or a sex toy, maybe!), you know what to do!

Once you’ve completed both courses of stimulation, mental and physical, there’s no reason for her to object anymore. If she’s open minded and curious about the multi-faceted aspect of her own sexuality, she’ll have no reason to no want to try it. After all, as I have told you before, women want it just as badly as men.

How To Give Your Girl The SQUIRTING Orgasm Of Her Life!

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Squirting can be extremely hot and surprising if it has never done it before. If she has never squirted before, you could be the greatest lover she has ever been with by employing a few simple techniques. Making your girlfriend or wife squirt is not all that difficult when you understand the physiology of how it is actually performed.

A common misconception is that women who have never squirted before are unable to. This is simply not true. Unless there is an anatomical problem or sexual dysfunction, all women can squirt. Here is a quick guide to squirting so your wife or girlfriend can experience the orgasm of her life.

What Is It?

When most men think about squirting, they think that the girl is urinating. This is not true. Although squirting is a clear liquid, it is not urine.  It does come out of the urethra and not the G-spot, but the liquid has no affiliation with pee. Before you try to make your girl squirt, there are a few things that you need to be comfortable with.

When a girl is squirting, there is a slight chance that she could pee. Being comfortable with this is essential. Don’t freak out on her if she does pee a little bit. This is fairly normal for girls who have never ejaculated before. Make sure that she knows you are okay with her peeing if this occurs. If she is nervous she will not be able to relax and she will not be able to squirt.

Getting Her Ready

Before you ever try to make your girl squirt, you need to make sure that she is warmed up. In order to put your girl at ease and get her in the mood, you must start off with a lot of foreplay. Shoving your fingers into your girl without getting her ready is never recommended.

Use a lot of kissing and teasing to get your girl wet enough to start fingering her. Suck on her breasts and nipples while running your fingertips up and down her inner thigh. When she starts to breathe harder you will be able to tell that she’s ready for you to start touching her vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the inside of her vagina. Play with her clitoris a little bit and brush the outer lips with your fingers to get her ready.

The G-Spot

The G-spot is going to be the primary way of getting your girl to start squirting. There are a lot of women out there that are so in tune with their bodies that they can ejaculate by just touching their breasts or their clitoris. However, most women will not be able to ejaculate unless they are being stimulated manually through their G-spot.

If you have problems finding the G-spot, there is a simple guide you can follow. Insert your fingers into your woman’s vagina palm-face up. The G-spot is located on the upper-most portion of the vagina about three inches in. The G-spot is a very fleshy textured patch and you should be able to feel it with your fingers. As soon as you touch it you should see your girlfriend squirm a bit.

Making Her Squirt

Now that you successfully found her G-spot it’s time to start making her squirt. Start to curl your fingers as if you are saying “come here.” She should moan in delight. If you start to feel the G-spot fill up and get solid, you’re doing it right. Increase the pressure to her G-spot and start going a little faster.

Take your other hand and press down on the area around her stomach and pubic bone. This will give more pressure to the area and add to her arousal. Take direction from her. If she says go faster, then go faster. If says that she feels like she’s going to pee, tell her that it’s okay and to let go. Within a couple of minutes she should start to ejaculate. You might see a small gush of liquid from her vagina or a stream of liquid.

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation & Enjoy Amazing Sex!

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Premature ejaculation really isn’t all that uncommon. The simple truth is that 7 out of 10 men reading this article are likely to be facing a problem with premature ejaculation, or at least are not lasting as long as they want. There are many guys who are avoiding sex just because of the embarrassment of not being able to last long enough during sex.

There is no magic pill to curing premature ejaculation. But if you are willing to commit yourself to learning techniques that can improve your sexual endurance, you will find your confidence rising and sex more enjoyable! This article will share a proven technique to help you go longer in bed.

A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.

A Simple Routine To Improve Your Stamina

Exercise is one proven method to boost your staying power. Masturbation can have a tremendous impact on how long you last. Since their adolescence or teenage years, most men routinely bring themselves to a climax quickly when they masturbate – mostly out of fear of getting caught. Unfortunately this tends to trigger an unintended quick orgasm during real sex.

So the next time you get to pleasure yourself in the bathroom, try this: Apply a strong grip to your penis as you stimulate yourself. This will help reduce the sexual arousal, or at least, increase the amount of time it takes to get you aroused to the same level.

Try to make those self-stimulation sessions last as long as possible using a technique called edging. When you sense you are close to ejaculating, stop the stimulation until the arousal subsides. Then resume stimulation and pull away again when you get close to the “point of no return”. Repeat this process at least 5 times and then let yourself ejaculate.

The next few times you masturbate, incrementally increase the number of times you “stop and start”. This technique works very well in prolonging your orgasm during actual sex. It takes time to practice, but is well worth the effort!

4 Anal Sex Exercises For Increased Pleasure TODAY!

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Anal sex can painful when your girlfriend or wife is not prepared. The anus is a short button-like piece of soft tissue, at the end of the intestinal system. It’s lined with tissue and muscle that connects it to the clitoral network, and it’s densely packed with nerve endings which make it extremely responsive to light touch and deep pressure.

The bad news is that it’s not very elastic compared to the vagina. It also contains no natural lubricant, which means it’s important to take anal sex gradually, to avoid skin getting cut or split.

Surrounding the pink, wrinkled button of happiness are two rings of muscle, the internal and external sphincters, which tighten up to keep the anus closed and relax to release bowel contents. You control the external sphincter, meaning that you can tighten and relax it at will. These exercises are perfect to employ before first time anal sex.

In order for your girl to be more relaxed and anal penetration easier for the both of you, it’s important that she works those
muscles. If you want, you can also do them. In the case of men, they are very helpful when it comes to controlling your ejaculation and increasing erection capacity.

1. Squeeze And Hold

As you slowly inhale, contract your PC muscles (if you haven’t yet found them, just pretend you want to stop peeing; the muscles that contract in order to stop the flow of urine are your PC muscles). Keep the rest of the body relaxed, especially your shoulders.

Hold your breath (and contract your muscles) the time that it takes you to count up to ten, then slowly exhale and gradually relax the tension in your muscles. Do the exercise ten times. If you find them too tiring at first, don’t overdo it. It’s just like with sports, you have to start gradually so that you don’t tire or get clammed up.

2. Squeeze And Push

Start in the same way I described above, but hold your breath and contract the PC muscles the time that is takes you to count up to five. The next five seconds, exhale deeply while pushing out your muscles, like when you poop. Repeat ten times.

3. Quick As A Bird

This exercise is a little more difficult than the previous two. The beginning is the same, the difference is that, this time, while you’re holding your breath, try and quickly relax and contract your PC muscles five times. Start with just five repetitions, so that you don’t tire the muscles, then gradually move up to ten repetitions.

4. Back And Forth

This exercise is only meant for your girlfriend or wife, and it involves all of her down there parts. Here’s what she has to do:
as she slowly inhales, she should tighten both her anus and the muscles inside her vaginal canal, one by one from the opening, all the way back to her cervix. She should stay like that for a maximum of five seconds, then, as she slowly exhales, she can release the pressure first off the vaginal muscles, then off her anus. Repeat the exercise ten times.