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Teach Your Man To Give You An Orgasm – In 1 EASY Move!

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Oral sex is hard for a guy to learn – or so you thought. You’ve been with guys that don’t know how to go down on you, and you’ve tried to show him the way but to no avail. Are these men a lost cause? Not hardly! Here’s how to show a guy how to make you have an orgasm, with one simple trick!

Tell Him You Wish You Could Give Yourself Oral Sex

The idea of licking your own clitoris may give you the creeps, but he doesn’t have to know that. Chances are, he thinks the idea is hot – even if it’s impossible. Next time you’re in the mood for your guy to go down on you, tell him that you really wish you could do it yourself. He’ll be intrigued and ask you why – and then you’ll tell him it’s because you know exactly what feels good. This will prompt him to say something along the lines of you teaching him how to do it the way you like – which is precisely what you want him to ask.

If he doesn’t ask outright for you to show him what you like down there, bring it up yourself. After you tell him that you wish you could go down on yourself, ask him if it would be alright if you showed him what to do. “Showed” is the operative word here – he’s been “told” before, probably more than once.

Kiss Him – And Mimic Giving Yourself Oral Sex

If he’s ready for you to show him how you want him to give you cunnilingus, kiss him deeply. When you kiss him, pretend that his mouth is your vagina. Think of his top lip as your clitoris and his bottom lip as your labia. Instead of kissing your partner the way you normally do, think about how you really might give yourself head. Mimic these maneuvers on his mouth. After a few minutes, he’ll get the hint and realize what you’re trying to do – and then start paying attention to exactly what you’re doing so he can do the moves himself.

If he’s not picking up on what you’re putting down, don’t be afraid to tell him. Some guys won’t get it unless you spell it out. So just say, “I’m going to kiss you the way I want you to kiss me – down there.” He’ll definitely be intrigued – he’ll want to see what it is exactly that you want. Plus, this kind of kissing is super hot on its own!

Think Of What Will Turn You On

As you’re kissing your partner, it’s time to think of all the different moves that you do while you’re masturbating as well as the moves other men have used to drive you wild. Think of exactly what you might want, and then use your tongue to do it to your partner’s mouth. For example, if you love to have your clitoris flicked with the tip of a tongue, do so to his top lip. If you’d rather he insert his tongue into your vagina, lightly probe your tongue into his mouth.

Keep in mind the order in which you do things. Try to do different techniques in the order you would like them done to you. He may or may not pick up on this – but if he’s really paying attention, he will.

Don’t Make It Too Complicated

Your guy isn’t going to remember a string of sixteen different things you did with your tongue. Make it easy on him by picking a few of your favorite moves and repeating them in order when kissing him. For example, start with super soft licking and sucking and then progress to flicking his top lip with your tongue to mimic him licking your clitoris. Suck on his top lip for a few seconds, then flatten your tongue out and broadly lick his lips from bottom to top. Then repeat this same set of techniques a few times.

Having only a few techniques to remember as well as the repetition is what will really drive it home and truly teach him what it is you like when he’s giving you oral sex.

Let Him Know When He’s Got It Right

When he starts going down on you, don’t just sit there quietly – if he’s rocking your world, let him know! If you say nothing, he’ll think he’s doing it completely wrong. When he does something right, gasp or moan loudly and shout his name. Make sure that it’s impossible for him to distinguish the difference from a really great technique and one that’s lukewarm.

7 Oral Sex Tips That Will Have Her SCREAMING Your Name!

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Oral sex is probably one of the easiest – and best – ways to make a woman orgasm. If you’re not skilled at cunnilingus and there’s another guy who is – even if you’re better looking – the other guy will win out again and again. So shape up your game with these seven oral sex tips – they are hotter than hot!

Slow Pressure

Make your tongue as broad and as flat as you can. Put pressure on her clitoris and lick slowly – like, very SLOWLY. Mostly what you’re focusing on here is the pressure and very little movement. Let up on the pressure say, to blow air on her clitoris, and then put the pressure back on again, still moving very little – if you’re licking, you’re doing it extremely slowly. You may not think that the pressure is doing very much, but this is a great warm up technique that will prime her for more direct stimulation.

Bottom To Top

A lot of guys skip over a woman’s entire vulva during oral sex, sticking only to the clitoris. While it is possible – and probable – that you’ll make a woman orgasm just by licking her clitoris, she’s missing out on the other incredible sensations that come with oral sex. Don’t ignore her vagina or her labia – instead, lick from the bottom of her vagina, slowly, all the way up to the top of her clitoris. You can come back down with your tongue again, or you can let up and start back at the bottom if you want to tease a little more. This will create intense sensations that she probably has missed out on before now!

Tongue Thrusting

Again, this capitalizes on the fact that most guys ignore the vaginal canal during oral sex. Well, you’re not going to. Instead, you’re going to thrust your tongue in and out of her vagina, mimicking intercourse. Don’t use this move when you first start going down on your lover – save it for when she’s really warmed up and craving your tongue all over her!

Spreading Her Wide

Next time you perform oral sex on your lover, spread her legs wide first. Sit her rear on a pillow so she is more comfortable, but make her aware that you want to see, touch and lick everything. Spread her legs wide and put your hands on them to push them away from you while you’re licking her. You can also spread her labia for more intense sensations on the clitoris and inner vaginal folds.

Enthusiasm And Dirty Talk

Enthusiasm is everything when it comes to giving oral sex. If a girl isn’t excited about giving you a blowjob, do you really still want her to? Okay, the answer is probably “yes,” but the point is that enthusiastic head is better than mediocre “let’s-just-get-this-over-with” head. Don’t hesitate to let your partner know how much you enjoy going down on her, and don’t be afraid to spice it up a little bit with dirty talk. Be vocal with plenty of moans and groans (most guys forget this and just expect the girl to make all the noise) and tell her what you’re going to do and how you’re going to do it. If you act like you’re really into it, her arousal level is going to triple!

Doggy Style

Chances are, your girl has never been eaten out doggy style before and if she has, it probably wasn’t all that often. This is a somewhat “taboo” oral sex position considering the man’s facial proximity to the woman’s anus, but if your partner is very clean or this doesn’t bother you at all (heck, it may even turn you on), then next time you give your partner head, tell her to get on her knees and bend over! She will love the naughtiness of it, and she’ll also dig being able to feel and hear what is going on but not have you in her line of sight at all.

Cuddle Time Afterwards

While women absolutely LOVE oral sex, there is something about it that disconnects her from her partner. It’s most likely because she can’t hold his body, kiss him or nuzzle his neck while he’s down south. Don’t get the wrong idea though – just because she really likes face to face time with you, it doesn’t mean that she’d rather forgo oral sex. Give her the best of both worlds by following up a killer cunnilingus session with lots of sweet and romantic cuddle time. This will reassure her of how much you care, and in turn, make her more open and uninhibited the next time around!

Hot Sex Positions For A Handjob

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A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

What She Really Thinks About Your Big Penis

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A big penis is something to be congratulated on, right? Being well endowed is what every guy wishes for – and what every woman supposedly wishes for. But having a huge member isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when you look at it from the female perspective. Here’s what women TRULY think about a big penis.

Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

  • Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
  • Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
  • Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

8 Sizzling Oral Sex Positions (For Her)

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Oral sex can get boring for women if she’s always laying down to receive. While oral sex is great in just about every shape or form, you can really heat things up with different oral sex positions. In fact, when your partner is going down on you in a variety of different ways, the same moves and techniques can actually feel totally different. Try these new oral sex positions to make him going down on you a lot more fun!

Standing Up

Guys will often get a blowjob standing up – but because a woman’s genitals don’t “stick out” like a man’s does, a woman doesn’t often get to stand while receiving oral sex. Next time your man goes down on you, suggest that he goes “up” on you instead! Stand over his head and let him come up underneath you to pleasure you with his mouth.

Variation: Prop your leg up on a table or a chair to allow him full and total access to your genitals. He’ll love being able to really see what he’s doing down there!

Down And Dirty Doggy Style

If your guy doesn’t mind being close to your back door entrance – or if he enjoys giving you analingus at the same time he’s going down on you – doggy style is definitely right up your alley. Kneel on all fours just as you would if you and your partner were going to have sex and he’s going to enter you from behind. Instead of penetrating you with his penis, he’ll actually bring his face down there and lick and suck you from behind. Seriously though, if your guy is back door shy, stay away from this one.

Variation: Have him flip over on his back and slide up underneath you, facing your genitals. He can give you oral sex this way, without being so involved with your behind.

Sitting With Legs Spread Wide

Sit up on a couch or chair and spread your legs as wide as you can, making your entire genital area open to your partner. Have him kneel down or sit on the floor, about eye level with your vulva. He can reach you easily this way, both with his mouth and his hands – which comes in “handy” for fingering. This is actually a very comfortable position for both you and your partner, provided that you’re both at the right level. If either of you is stretching up or hunched down to get in this position, try to find another chair or place to sit where you can be more comfortable.

Variation: Try spreading your vaginal lips with your fingers while your partner goes down on you. Not only will he love having full access to your lady parts, he’ll also love how unabashed and naughty this move is.

On The Side

This too is one of the most comfortable oral sex positions both for the giver and the receiver. Lie on your side on the bed or couch and have your partner lie upside down behind you. He should be facing your rear. Lift up the leg that is not on the bed and hold it high either with your hands or with some kind of restraint (which could be even more fun with a little bondage!) He’s going to slide his head in between your legs, bringing his face around to meet your genitals. He can rest his head and neck on your thigh while he eats you out.

Variation: Once he’s going down on you, release your leg and rest it on his shoulders. This gives him less access to your vulva, but it does give your leg a rest!

A New Twist On Oral Sex “Missionary”

The “missionary” version of oral sex positions is where the woman is lying down and the man lies on his stomach with his face buried deep in between her legs. While this is an excellent way to reach orgasm during oral sex – after all, there’s a reason it’s considered a “classic” – there are different things you can do with it to make it even more fun. After you lie down, bring your legs together and then raise them up, bringing your knees close to your stomach. Your legs should still be together. This allows your man to come up underneath your legs and lick your vulva. Have him bury his tongue deep in your folds, because light licking isn’t going to do the trick here with your legs pressed together.

Variation: Rest your legs on his shoulders when you get tired of holding them up. This will make it easier for him to go down on you, and it will be more comfortable for you when you get closer and closer to orgasm.

Sitting…On His Face

You’ve probably heard of this one, but it’s not played out just yet. Sitting on a man’s face is incredibly erotic for a woman, especially if she’s into domination and he’s into submission. After giving your man a blowjob with him lying down, crawl up his body and plant your genitals right on his face. He’ll love the idea of you grinding against his face while he’s eating you out.

Variation: Do a “reverse cowgirl” sort of move and face his feet instead. This is a great way to do it if you both love anal play, or at least don’t mind it.

On The Edge Of The Bed

You can use the edge of the bed during cunnilingus easily. The bed is a great tool to use if you want to get into different oral sex positions, because it’s height, size and shape is perfect. However, remember that you don’t always both need to be on the bed to utilize it. Have your partner lie down on the bed with his head as close to the edge as possible. In fact, he may need to scoot up enough so that most of his head is actually off the bed. You’re going to come in and straddle his face while standing!

Variation: Prop one of your legs up on the bed and lower yourself down onto his face. This may be a little difficult for you to do, but the end result is worth it! He’ll love the full view of your vulva above him!

The New “Woman On Top”

While sixty-nine is a great way to both give and receive oral sex at the same time, if a woman just wants to receive (or a guy just wants to give), this is probably not the way to go. Instead, the woman will lie on top of the man facing the ceiling, scooting her genitals up to his face. Her head will probably rest on or close to his penis, but this one is all about her!

Variation: Lift up your legs to expose your anus to your partner for anal play!