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Deep Throat – A Beginner’s Guide To Taking It All In

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Deep throat is the act of putting a man’s penis all the way down your throat during a blowjob. While this might sound like a horrible act, every man and some women thoroughly enjoy it. Having the ability to fit his entire penis in your mouth without gagging or vomiting is a talent that most women have to learn.

Unless you were born without a gag reflex, this is going to take some practice. So settle in and realize that you’re probably not going to be the queen of deep throat right off the bat. If your guy has begged you to take him in his entirety, there are a few things that you should know before your next blowjob. Here are some tips to get you started.

Just Relax

One of the biggest mistakes that women make when they start deep throating is tensing up. You have to relax your entire mouth and throat if you’re going to be able to take him all the way in. When you tense up, the muscles in the back of your mouth are also going to tense up. You don’t have to get this down on the first try and your guy is going to love you practicing on him, so don’t get discouraged if you’re not a master right out of the gate. Focus on relaxing the muscles in the back of your throat before you start to give the blowjob. Take some deep breaths and salivate your mouth a lot. When you salivate your mouth, you should feel your throat muscles start to relax.

Find The Right Position

Deep throating is all about putting yourself into the right position. If you’re not in the right position, you’re not going to be able to deep throat your partner. One of the best oral sex positions that you can get into is the typical position with him laying on the bed and you on top of him. This will allow you to straighten your mouth and keep your throat straight to make it a 90-degree angle from his penis to your mouth. Another great position is to lay down on the bed with your head off the edge. Have him enter your mouth and push his penis down your throat. You’re going to want to give him a sign if you’re getting uncomfortable. This position gives him more control and takes some of the pressure off of you.

Use A Lot Of Lube

Lube is essential for deep throating. Think of deep throating as you would sex. When you are performing the act, you want it to be as lubed up as possible. The natural occurrence of the act will lead to the production of saliva, however, getting an added boost will help you immensely. Use a flavored lube on his penis before you start giving him a blowjob. The flavored lube will react with the saliva to make his penis even slicker. There are all kinds of flavored lubes on the market. Pick a flavor that you will like and you will find that the experience is much easier and pleasing for the both of you.

Work Your Way Down

Don’t start out by taking his entire penis down your throat. Work your way down the shaft until you can feel the tip of his penis in the back of your throat. While you might get enthusiastic about showing off your new talent, you don’t want to strain yourself or him. Shoving his penis down your throat can initiate a gag reflex and easily trigger vomiting. Take it slow and work your way down the shaft until you feel resistance in the back of your mouth. Hold this for a few seconds and then come back up to a comfortable position with him still inside your mouth. Remember that if you’re going to deep throat, you will probably not be able to breathe. Time your deep throating so you are able to breathe and you will find this form of oral sex a lot easier.

Deep throating is a great way to keep your guy happy. If you have never done this act before, you can easily work your way up to it by utilizing these methods. Making sure that you are prepared for the act with lube and relaxation is essential for getting the best results. Make sure that you’re not rushing anything and work your way down his penis to make it more comfortable for the both of you. If you rush the act, you could hurt him. Follow these guidelines and you will see immeasurable results.

Can You Go The Distance? Last Longer TONIGHT!

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Sex tips can help with everything from technique to gauging her reaction on different touches. But none of this matters if you can’t go the distance. Notice how women hurl and laugh the hardest at premature ejaculation gags? You’ll be laughing with familiarity too if you deal with it on a nightly basis.

There’s a female comical recognition when a punch line tags the guy who explodes a mere 13  thrusts into the game. But for our purposes here, we’ll look at “Going the Distance” (GTD) beyond the superficial issue of premature ejaculation.

Get Fit NOW!

It’s not a far out question, is it? In case you didn’t know, sex is very physical. Intercourse is intense. It’s ugly. It’s fierce. Your pupils dilate, your heart pounds so hard and threatens explosion, breathing gets heavier and labored by the minute, body temperature rises to fever pitch and you sweat like you’re on fire. Muscles tense so hard they feel like concrete, your brain lights up like a thousand Christmas trees, and you thrash around, contending with another human being who’s exhibiting the same symptoms.

People die during sex, you know – and it’s not just the battle-tested elderly. Learning how to last longer in bed requires a consenting body. If you can’t even support your own weight, how far do you think will you go? How long will you last if after a few maneuvers, you’re already panting and teetering on an asthma attack?

If you want to go somewhere, you better be fit to go. Settling for less, because your body won’t allow the naughty things in your head, is indeed a sexual tragedy. Especially when you know you deserve to enjoy so much more.

Use Intense Workouts For More Stamina

So shape up! Run like hell. Bike. Get to a gym. Consult your doctor first if the need be. Get fit, eat right! You’re flooded everyday with health information and you actually already know what to do. You just have to get into doing them. (Don’t even try to make your age, schedule or lifestyle be an excuse.)

Good health gives you more sexual options. You don’t know the number of grossly obese people who settle for sex positions just because it’s the only one left that doesn’t pose serious health risks. You don’t know the number of men who fear that a heart attack might be around the corner every time they get their grooves on – living with the constant fear their corpses would be found at a nearby motel and blasted on the evening news. Being healthy simply makes sense, because if you’re dead, you can’t do it no more! No, the dead don’t score!

Visualize Sex Beforehand

Sex is not only very physical, it’s also very mental. How you VISUALIZE better sex will often find itself manifested in the real thing. How you think about it will ultimately be reflected in your style.

Check your imagination; you need a mind that sees beyond the obvious, a mind that can think in ways novel and exciting. GTD means constantly creating, improving and breaking routines. It’s being able to think about sex beyond the bed, the bedroom, penis & vagina and ejaculation. Mentally going the distance means applying your creative energies and discovering that sex is so much more than what you originally thought it to be.

When you see a made bed or a kitchen table, what do you really see? How open and ready are you to engage in the world of sexual positions, sex toys, fantasies and activities available for two horny consenting adults? The limits lie only in your head, in your imagination. Sex is mental, and you got to see it in your mind first before you see it manifested.

Handjob Tips & Secrets Guaranteed to Give ALL Men Intoxicating Pleasure!

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A handjob isn’t something most women immediately go to when they think if giving their man the most incredible pleasure possible. Most girls will go straight to a blowjob (which certainly isn’t a bad option at all) or sex.

But did you know that in a confidential survey, 82% of men admitted they would take an awesome handjob over a “good” blowjob any day?

WOW!

Who knew that a man would want a handjob over a blowjob, especially when he’s so used to feeling his own hand during masturbation?

Unless Your Man Is BEGGING You To Give Him Handjobs, You’re Probably Not That Great At It

When you stroke him, does he seem mildly interested but wants to quickly move on to something else?

Has it been a long time since he’s asked or even cared to get a handjob?

If this is the case, you might just be really bad at it.

Here’s the good news! It’s not really your fault. 

Women don’t have a penis. They don’t know how to stroke it, tease it, touch it and massage it to give their partners the most mind bending orgasms they’ve ever had. In fact, most women are COMPLETELY CLUELESS as to how to give a handjob!

Not to mention, men are harsh critics when it comes to receiving a handjob. He’s been doing it himself for YEARS – so naturally, he’s going to compare what you’re doing to what he can do. And what you do almost never holds a candle to how he can please himself with his own hands. Not so with a blowjob or even sex – he can’t suck himself off. There’s no judgement criteria there, so it’s easy to please him with your mouth.

The other reason most women don’t know how to stroke their partners into orgasmic oblivion is because there’s no one out there teaching it. 

It Feels SO Much Better To Him When YOU Can Do It Right!

You know how you can’t really tickle yourself because, well, it doesn’t tickle? The same goes for a man giving himself a handjob. It’s just not the same as when someone else does it exactly right. Sure, he knows exactly how and where to touch when he gets himself off, but the sensations are really out of this WORLD for him when a woman does it the right way.

To give your man the most incredible pleasure he’s ever felt – even MORE pleasure than he can give himself – you’ve GOT to be able to give him a great handjob. For him to feel totally, completely satisfied in bed (and not have any temptation to stray), giving an excellent handjob MUST be on your sexual skills list or you risk losing your man forever!

Information You Won’t Find ANYWHERE Else

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This information was compiled by surveying hundreds of thousands of men as to what they like when they get a handjob, as well as what makes them uncomfortable.

Stroke By Stroke is an unprecedented resource that contains information from actual men that you won’t find ANYWHERE else – guaranteed. It doesn’t matter how many articles you read on how to give a handjob. You’re not going to learn the TRUE SECRETS of what men really want unless you read this.

What You’ll Learn In Stroke By Stroke

  • The 3 simple things you MUST do before you even touch him to make his experience out of this world!
  • The best positions and techniques to get him to orgasm faster so you don’t get cramps in your hands
  • What to whisper in his ear to make him 5x hotter than he’s ever been
  • The best lube for almost ALL handjobs (and what common lube will give you DISASTROUS results! If you’ve ever used THIS lube, it could be responsible for a lackluster handjob!)
  • What 3 positions almost all men have secretly fantasized about
  • The secret spot you can touch when he is about to orgasm that will make him shoot for longer and farther than he has in a very long time!
  • What 80% of women do WRONG when a man is ejaculating from a handjob  

And much, much more!

Stroke By Stroke will tell you everything your man wants but has been terrified to tell you (most men don’t like insulting the woman they are making love to – and especially if they love her).

Simply put, Stroke By Stroke WORKS for one reason and one reason only – one of the world’s most renowned love, relationship and sex experts has put together actual tips from actual men! These are the things they would NEVER DARE say out loud in the bedroom!

You’ll be learning what guys everywhere secretly wish THEIR lovers knew – and after you give him a handjob THIS good, your man will be bragging about how excellent you are to all of his buddies! They’ll be MORE than jealous of him, and they just might ask you to teach their lovers how to do what you do!

You’ll be the BEST lover your partner has ever had, and he’ll be so smitten and in love with you that he’ll NEVER ever let you go!

Think about it….

Get your copy of Stroke By Stroke today and by TONIGHT you could be giving him the handjob of his life!

Not only will your sex life improve, but your relationship will to and you’ll both be more in love than ever!

7 Common Anal Sex Myths DISPELLED!

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Anal sex is one of the most misunderstood sex acts. Break through these well known myths and learn the real TRUTH about anal sex! It’s NOT what you think!

1. It’s Dirty

A simple look around is enough to convince anybody that we’re living in an age where hygiene is better than ever. Anybody who follows the normal hygiene rules ought to have a clean anus. And anyway, feces are stored in the bowel, not in the anus. If she has a good digestion and she makes sure that she poops before you two decide to go bottoms up, everything should be alright.

Normally, there remains only a small amount of fecal matter in the anal canal and rectum after a bowel movement. And one can always resort to an enema for extra cleaning. Don’t do it right before the act though. While it will clean out the anal cavity and may even feel good to some people, excessive douching can dry out the anal canal and cause micro-abrasions that make the transmission of an STD is more likely.

2. It’s Painful

Not if you use proper technique. In fact, when stimulated, this area can be quite pleasurable.  The anus is rich in nerve endings and participates with our genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm.  However, if you rush things up or you’re too aggressive, it will hurt, but this happens with any kind of sex, not just anal.

It’s critical that you take your time, go very slowly and carefully and use plenty of lube. And yes, saliva just doesn’t cut it in this particular case. Pay attention to her body and the way it responds to your moves and if there is any discomfort, stop immediately. If you don’t, it can make the anus tenser the next time you try it. The body also has a memory of its own, you know.

3. It’s Dangerous To Your Health

If you don’t use a condom or the right type of lube, you can end up with serious health problems. Anal intercourse is the easiest way to transmit HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Using a condom decreases the risk. It also keeps you away from getting a urinary tract infection, which could happen if her anus is not as clean as it should be. Don’t think that it’s enough to wash your penis after anal sex to be safe from diseases.

4. It Causes Incontinence

Anal incontinence is caused either by severe damage to the muscles and nerves of the anus or by the brain’s failure to control
the body. First time anal sex should be done by the book. If you’re so rough and tough that it results in
repeated injury to the internal anal sphincter, then yes, you can make your girlfriend or wife incontinent, but if you’re reading this, it means you want to do it right, so that not only both of you feel pleasure, but you’re also safe from unnecessary injury.

5.  It’s Unnatural

“The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform” said Alfred Kinsey. And right he is. Frankly, anal sex has been around for centuries and no, it wasn’t just something the Greeks did. This century does not have a monopoly on imagination and experimenting with one’s body and people from other cultures and other times had discovered long ago that anal sex is neither weird, nor wrong. The bottom line is that it’s your body and your decision. If you think anal sex is unnatural, then don’t do it.

6. It’s A Gay Thing

The majority of people think that anal sex only happens in porn and in the gay community. There are so many jokes about homosexuals and anal sex that of course the myth started to seem real to a bunch of people. But this is not true. There is no link between anal stimulation and homosexuality.

Across the centuries men and women have enjoyed anal sex free of misconceptions and independently of their sexual orientation. Not to mention that many homosexuals simply refuse to have anal sex because they just don’t like it. In Anal Pleasure and Health, Jack Morin reveals that less than 30% of homosexuals have regular anal sex, oral sex being a much more common practice.

7. Women Don’t Enjoy It

You know how they say that bad news travels fast? That’s the situation we’re dealing with right here. We only hear the awful stories of women being forced to it by pushy boyfriends, but we never hear about those savvy girls that enjoy it really much and practice it regularly.

Sex tips columnist Susan Crain Bakos says: “Anal sex is seen as the ultimate male sexual fantasy. We, as a culture, don’t understand how much women can like it too.” And she’s right. Our culture says that “good girls don’t do that” when, in fact, they do. And a lot, if I’m permitted to add.

How To Have Better Sex RIGHT NOW!

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Better sex comes with consistency. A lot of guys have a real tendency to swing from one extreme to another, thinking that the farther left or right of the continuum they go, the better sex becomes. When a girl asks you to go slow do you not only quit the breakneck speed, but swing to the opposite and equally annoying extreme. This mindset is no good. Instead, hone one of the most important sexual skills.

Pay Attention To Her Body Language

A woman’s body language (and her moans and groans) are your best guide during sex. When you pay attention to her body language, she will show you the way and tell you if you’re doing her right, instead of swinging from one extreme to another. Keep an eye and an ear on what she’s doing and how she’s responding, so that when you’re having sex you can tell what she likes and what she doesn’t.

Look For The Optimum Point

This is home. It’s where things simply flow and sex is “WOW!”  The OP is the zone of leverage – the zone of perfect sensations. Below OP, you get meager result. Beyond it (when you’re doing too much or stay in the same spot for too long), you have diminished effectiveness. One might think that things get better beyond OP. No it doesn’t, in fact the opposite happens, you get diminishing returns. Just because you’re pumping faster and harder doesn’t mean she’s getting happier. Stay at OP – no more, no less.

Be Just Right

It’s the point in clitoral stimulation for example, where you don’t go too slow or too fast. It’s the duration of hot sex where it’s not a quickie but also not a death-defying marathon – it’s what women refer to when they say “just right.”

Discover Her OP

OP’s vary not only from woman to woman but even in the same woman. That doesn’t make your job more difficult, it only makes it more challenging. I’m sorry to tell you that finding OP is not something you can read on a page. To cater to YOUR woman and give her better sex, you’re going to have to learn HER specific OP.

Play around and try different speeds, different strokes and different things on your girl. Since you’re the one in the room with her, you can observe her reactions – her body will talk to you, so listen to it!

This is never automatic, and like many things in life, it’s not mastered by simply sitting around and reading e-books, it’s honed by reading bodies. That means you actually have to dive to the trenches, commit the mistakes and learn from them, only then can you become a master. People have a word for it; I think they call it PRACTICE!