Sex Tips & Advice

Should You Have Sex During “That Time” Of The Month?

Having sex on your period is a toss up for most couples. Unless you are a vampire, blood in the bedroom can be an icky situation. As women, we are taught to hide our periods, that they are embarrassing, messy and a pain. Many women feel that having sex while on their period is gross or worse, they are afraid their man will find it gross.

What She Said

To Bone Or Not To Bone?

As much as guys love the movie Glory, they do not wish to turn the bedroom into a war zone. But many women find that when they are on their period, they are also hornier, and orgasms can help with cramps during their time of the month. To bone or not to bone while bleeding is something that both partners need to agree upon.

If a woman feels like the period makes her gross, then there is no way she is going to feel sexy. And if her man finds it a bit off putting then again, the woman will not feel in the mood. If it is a red light for a couple, there are tons of other things to do! Massages and blowjobs are top on my list. Now if the couple is OK with it then having sex can be super fun! Some sex positions are limited due to gravity, but I recommend laying down a towel to catch any mess or better yet, hit the shower!

What He Said

The No Fly Zone

I am proud to have coined a new, sexy, and appropriate term for this time of the month, and I’m sharing it with you now: “No Fly Zone.” It makes it seem like some sexy military type operation instead of, well, you know.  Can you do it during the no fly zone? If you’re married and you know that she’s not sleeping with anyone else, then sure, I guess it’s safe.

But my own personal sex tip here is that you should avoid having sex while she’s in the “No Fly Zone.” I’m pretty sure if you look up “high risk sexual activities” in the dictionary you’ll see a picture of having sex on your period and then the dictionary will actually smack you upside the head for being stupid enough to even consider it.

Have you not heard of blowjobs or anal sex? Those are perfectly viable and deliciously naughty sex acts that you and your partner (or whatever the hell you call them) can do while you wait out the “No Fly Zone.” The “No Fly Zone,” like all other sanctions, seems really terrible and oppressive for a few days, then it blows over and then everyone pretends like it didn’t happen in the first place.

The “No Fly Zone” has been a thorne in the side of people (metaphorically speaking) since the beginning of time. Millions have tried to work their way around it, and basically you aren’t going to discover anything that others haven’t been able to. Remember that there are other alternatives such as anal and oral sex for him.

How To Get Him Off With The Handjob Of His Life

By serenapaige

A handjob is probably going to take you back to the days of middle school behind the bleachers or in your parent’s basement. While a handjob is not the most erotic act that you can perform on your guy, it can easily keep them interested in your sex life. This sex act is nostalgic and can be a great form of foreplay right before sex.

If you have never been that great at giving this kind of pleasure, there a few things that you can do in order to increase his amount of pleasure. Here are a few ways that you can easily give your guy the best handjob of his life.

Find The Best Position

Finding the best position for the handjob is essential. You need to determine what hand you are going to use during the deed. Are you right-handed or are you left-handed? Some women find that giving it with their left hand, while actually being right-handed, gives their guy more pleasure. Determining the hand that you are going to use for the job will give you a better perspective on the kind of position you want to be in. This sex act can be used in a variety of positions.

You don’t necessarily have to be on top of him in order to give him a great manual orgasm. Try having him stand in front of you while you sit at the edge of your bed. You can also have him get on top of you and straddle your stomach. If he gets on top of you, he will be able to finger you at the same time.

Use The Right Lube

Lube is going to be essential for all handjobs. When you were first learning about jerking a guy off you probably did not use things such as lubrication or lotion. Using your hands on his penis can easily make foreplay even more erotic for the both of you. Even if you are just going to use your hands to give him an orgasm, the less resistance that you have on your palms and fingers is going to make it feel better for him.

Using lube can also lead to more pleasurable sex if the occasion arises. Don’t just focus on applying lube to the shaft or head of his penis. Make sure that you are also using lube on his balls. This will give him extra sensation.

Grip The Penis The Right Way

While guys love a tight vagina, handjobs are going to be a little different. Your hand is much more firm than the inside of your vagina. When you’re giving him manual stimulation the last thing that you want to do is cut off the circulation to his penis. It doesn’t matter how much lube you use, gripping him too tightly is not going to be comfortable for either of you. A lot of women complain that their hands and their wrists get tired.

Keeping a looser grip will not only increase his amount of pleasure it will also keep your hand from dying out. Grip his penis like you would a cup. You would not hold the cup so tight that you start to bend it and you shouldn’t do this with his penis either.

Invert Your Hand

Invert your hand the next time that you are performing this act on him. Pretend that you are holding a cup of water in your hand and pour it into the sink. Your hand should now be inverted. Use this grip style on his penis right before he starts to orgasm. This is one of the best techniques to giving your guy a multiple orgasm during a handjob. While it may not work the first, second or third time, at some point you will be able to give your guy a multiple orgasm through this technique.

Find The Best Speed

The speed at which you go during the handjob is essential. Some guys like their handjobs fast while other guys like them really slow. In order to gauge his response mix it up during the experience. It’s always recommended to start off slow and work your way up to a gradual speed. Some guys like the motion to be fast right before they have an orgasm while other guys like slow and steady motions throughout the entire act.

Ask him what he likes in the moment and use a little dirty talk. He should tell you exactly what he wants. Asking him what he like during the act is another way to get real feedback of what he wants and how you can improve.

What All Guys Should Know About The Clitoris

By loveandsex

A girl’s clitoris is a complex yet fascinating sexual organ, one that provides many comparisons to your penis! While containing a similar shaft, with many differences in regards to how it looks and where it’s placed, but with comparable functionality. For instance, few men can orgasm without direct stimulation to their shaft.

Sure, it’s possible, but it isn’t the norm. The corresponding body part for a woman is her clitoris – the whole thing, not just the clitoral head. Therefore, trying to get a woman to orgasm without ‘stroking the shaft’ so to speak is possible, but not probable.

The Vagina Isn’t That Sensitive, Guys!

The vaginal opening holds the most of a woman’s nerve endings along the vaginal canal, other than that small disc-shaped space an inch or so up the shaft called the G-Spot. The vagina does feel pressure, but most of its sensitivity lies where the vaginal canal connects to the clitoral network: the G-Spot, the A-Spot further back which controls lubrication, and the exterior contact points in the vaginal opening and the clitoral head/hood.

Normally, men orgasm when they are aroused from direct penile stimulation. The comparable act for women then is when their clitoral head, or somewhere else along the clitoral network, receives direct stimulation. So let’s talk a bit more about this clitoral network, and the clitoral head.

Tip Of The Iceberg

The clitoral head is what most folks call the clitoris, love nub, skittle, button – you get the drift. Many feel that this little exposed piece of flesh is all there is when it comes to the clitoris, but scientists can now prove that the truth is a much bigger story. The clitoral head – the tip of the clitoral network – expands and fills with blood when a woman is aroused, just like a man’s penis does.

The clitoral head even has a foreskin, called the clitoral hood, which protects it from infection and too much stimulation, just like foreskin. When a women gets exited, this hood slides back for better stimulation, and hides the clitoral head again just before climax.

One of the more difficult aspects of a woman’s anatomy is that the clitoral head and network aren’t easily reach – you certainly don’t want to reach out and grab your girl’s clit in the heat of the moment! The clitoris is also connected on both ends. A good analogy: if the top of a man’s penis was attached to his stomach, how would he thrust? He couldn’t.

He’d be dependent on his partner to rub up against him or touch him to receive direct stimulation during intercourse. This is exactly what a woman needs during sex. The fact that hers is buried so deeply makes the challenge a bit more interesting, but by absolutely no means impossible.

Why The Clitoris’ Design Rocks

While it may be difficult, there are some serious benefits to the layout and design of the clitoral complex. For starters, any stimulation to the network affects the entire clitoris. This is why some women are able to orgasm during intercourse with only the movement of a man’s penis thrusting inside of her: because the vaginal opening does have a few nerve endings hiding out there, and the in-out motion pulls the labia down, thus rubbing the clitoral hood and in turn, indirectly the clitoral head.

Basically, even if your wife is able to orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation, just thrusting in and out gives her a taste of the indirect stimulation she needs to make it all the way.

How To Identify REAL Female Orgasms

By loveandsex

A female orgasm gives off specific physical signs. Her pulse quickens, her breathing shortens, and her blood pressure increases. Her vaginal opening also gets smaller while the length can increase up to two inches to accommodate something larger than a finger. The entire length of her clitoris both internally and externally fills with blood and gets hard, in the very same way your penis gets hard when you are aroused.

The G-Spot also sticks out more so that it can be easily felt, and the clitoral head starts hiding again so that it doesn’t get too stimulated before reaching peak. You may even notice her labia majora and minora getting tighter and darker, as they stiffen because of the extra blood flow and sensitivity.

Stage 1 – Prior To The Orgasm

Just before orgasm, your partner’s body will increase the intensity all on its own, by ramping up her blood pressure, skin flushing, heart beat and blood flow to a frenzied pace, one that can’t continue for any length of time. Peaking occurs during orgasm, where all of the built-up tension explodes out through the muscles and fibres of her body.

Contractions overtake her sexual organs, and they pulse rhythmically until she has exhausted the energy and they slow to a stop. Some women will continue to feel these contractions for up to twenty minutes after orgasm, or continue the intense orgasm on throughout your intercourse!

Stage 2 – During The Orgasm

During a female orgasm, her vaginal walls vibrate strongly in tandem with her pelvic floor muscles at a rate of approximately once per second. As her pelvic area contracts, oxytocin flows through her system, especially her uterus, and increases her feelings of comfort and satiety. Some women will experience female ejaculation with some clear, milky fluid along with each contraction, either in a strong gush or a slow trickle, especially with G-Spot stimulation.

The length of time that she can continue to have a female orgasm can range from a couple of seconds to several minutes, with half a dozen contractions on average. Having said that, some women will orgasm very quickly and without many contractions at all, while others have reported orgasmic experiences of an hour or more!

Stage 3 – After The Orgasm

After the orgasmic contractions are finished, the last stage of the process is her body’s release of the frenetic tension from the events building up to the climax. She will get back to her normal state relatively quickly, or with the right kind of touch might be able to start the whole process over again, bypassing the foreplay stage if things get heated again right away. This is where men and women tend to differ the most when it comes to sexual release: gents usually require some downtime to recuperate after climax, and can’t nearly as often sustain an erection after ejaculation.

The only thing you can bank on when it comes to orgasm is this: if you want to get your partner from a non-aroused state to climax, you’ll have to give her consistent, rhythmic sexual stimulation and increase the tension throughout the experience, appropriate to the phase she’s in. This attentive devotion is what will get her all the way to the Promised Land.

The REAL Secret To Longer Lasting Sex

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation is a problem for millions of men all over the world. Sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. Knowing how to properly control yourself when you are with a woman will give you confidence in all aspects of your life. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

Exactly How Long Is Long Enough?

There is something about porn that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Great Sex Does NOT Involve A Stopwatch

Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.
You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!