Sex Tips & Advice

Is YOUR Vagina Healthy?

The vagina is a mysterious organ. Sometimes it can be hard to realize whether or not your vagina is healthy. There are times when a discharge of mucus is actually healthy. For the most part, the vagina has some of the best “self-cleaning” properties on the female body.

The vagina can maintain a great balance of bacteria and can even make mucous that will wash away foreign substances. When you are wondering if your down there area is healthy, keep in mind that a healthy vagina does not have a bad odor. There are a few different reasons why your vagina could start to smell. Some of these reasons include STI’s, bad hygiene and infections.

Bad Hygiene

Bad hygiene is not something that anybody will admit to. However, when you have great hygiene you are already a one step closer to stopping vaginal odors. You can use a regular bar soap or body wash on your vagina and the outside of the genital area. Make sure that you are drying the vagina properly so it stays clean.

If you use overly scented soaps or body washes, you run the risk of creating irritation in the vaginal area. This irritation could eventually lead to infection so be careful. One of the most common infections occurs due to feces entering the vagina after a bowel movement. Remember to wipe front to back to avoid this.

Combating Infection

One of the best ways to combat infection and odors is to get a little air down there. Start to wear loose fitting, cotton underwear. This will bring more airflow to your vagina and decrease the amount of sweat to the organ. When the sweat builds up in the vaginal odors can occur. If you ever smell “fishy” down there, you probably have a bacterial infection.

There are a variety of medications that will treat bacterial infections. You can either buy something over the counter you can see a doctor to get a prescribed medication. Although rare, some women could mistaken their vaginal odors for infection when they actually have pelvic inflammatory disease. This is also known as cervical cancer. If you think that you might be at risk of PID, talk to your gynecologist about getting tested.

Avoid Douching

While douching seems like a great idea, it can actually hurt you. Despite popular belief, douching does not help treat odors. Douching is usually employed before sex to make sure that everything is clean. The problem is that when you squirt water into the vagina, you wash away the natural fluids that are used to combat infection.

Douching can increase the development of bacterial infections because it increases the acidity level. Douching can also cause the vagina to become irritable. Only douche if your doctor has instructed you to do so. Instead of douching, wet the genitals with warmer water. Do not put any of the water inside. Simply wash the outside of the vulva and then pat down your body with a towel.

Yeast Infections

One of the most common infections to the vagina is a yeast infection. A very usual symptom of a yeast infection is itching. Another sign is soreness in and around the vagina. If your vulva is red or swollen, you probably have a yeast infection. It is never recommended to have sex while you have a yeast infection. This can make your problem even worse. Yeast infections can also lead to abnormal discharges. Sometimes the discharge can be white or clear.

Other times the discharge can be gray or green. If you have a very strong fish smell, you might want to see a doctor. You could have bacterial vaginosis or trichomoniasis. Your doctor will be able to tell you what you have and what will clear it up.

STI’s

STI’s are another cause of vaginal discharge and odor. STI’s (also known as STD’s) are generally given through unprotected sex or when a condom breaks. Gonorrhea is a very common STI that usually appears within 2-5 days after the infection has occurred. Gonorrhea can cause vaginal discharge and increased urination.

This can also cause pain or burning when urinating. Chlamydia is another STI that typically causes vaginal odor. Chlamydia can cause burning during urination and vaginal discharge. This can also cause very painful sexual intercourse. Get tested regularly to you know whether or not have come into contact with these particular STI’s. Both of these can be cleared up in matter of weeks through antibiotics.

Is Monogamy Overrated?

By loveandsex

Monogamy seems to be the popular choice for couples in long term relationships – but is it necessary? Can you have a satisfying relationship without it?

What Other Relationship Options Are There?

You can’t argue that monogamy isn’t exactly the one size fits all relationship type we were taught growing up. Don’t believe me? Just hit the internet! It seems like there are all kinds of relationships out there (open relationships, swingers, polyamorists, just to name a few) and they all seem sexier than monogamy and they’re getting way better press too.

Is It Still Sexy?

Religious organizations will argue that monogamy is under attack. Really? I didn’t know swingers were breaking into people’s homes and making them have sex with other people. While monogamy isn’t exactly under attack, it’s kind of lost its luster. It’s about as sexy as flossing or paying your taxes on time. Sure, there’s something to be said for it, but there’s a good chance that something will put you to sleep.

That doesn’t make monogamy overrated, any more than a gun in and of itself is a bad thing. It depends on the application and the situation. If you go on a date and your date pulls out a hand gun, it’s probably not a good night for you. If a burglar is breaking into your home and you call the cops and all they do is try and put the bad guy on “time out” you’ll be wishing he/she was packing heat (get your mind out of the gutter people!).

It’s Hard Work

Monogamy isn’t what we thought it was. It’s not like you get in a monogamous relationship and then that’s it. Since you’re not having intercourse with other people by design, you have to work to maintain the spark, probably a lot harder than non-monogamous people, because they have the benefit of the spark that comes with being with and being desired by other people.

It’s Also Safer

Then again, monogamy, by default, may not be sexy, but it is safer. Since you’re aren’t fucking other people (as long as there is no infidelity) then you don’t have to worry about AIDS, herpes or any of those STD’s that scare the shit out people who are fucking around. You don’t need to wear condoms, if you’re not screwing other people and since you know you’re both clean and safe, you can do all kinds of crazy sex, wild intercourse, anal sex and whatever else you like with a clean conscience (and clean health record).

That can make monogamy seem a bit more appetizing. If variety is the spice of life, then monogamy is like eating your vegetables. People who practice non monogamy (I wonder if they ever got it right yet) will argue that monogamy is dead and that it can’t work and that it will always end with infidelity or a sexless marriage. That’s crazy. It’s statistically impossible that all monogamous relationships end up like that. Some of them have to be really great. Some married people have to be fucking more than porn stars, right? It’s just simple numbers.

Decide For Yourself What Is Best For You

Monogamy seems overrated largely because we get such a bad view on it. Sex sells and if it bleeds it’s news. Fear sells. No one is going to buy a copy of People Magazine to find out about the happily married celebrity couple that have been monogamous for years, have amazing sex and fall more in love every day. You just don’t hear about that. You know why? It’s nothing compared to the crazy coke head celebrities who go off and have sex with the poolboy all while living in an apartment.

Monogamy is what you make of it, assuming you decide to make something of it in the first place. You may not want to. That’s cool too. If you are into it, great! If you’re not, that’s great too. Just keep your mouth shut to the people who don’t share your view point. You can’t change them and just because monogamy (or non monogamy) doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for them. Monogamy isn’t overrated or underrated. That’s like saying Spicy Brown mustard is over rated or underrated. It’s mustard people. That’s it. You put it on your hot dog, if you like it on your dog, and if you don’t well, you don’t.

It’s really that simple. Monogamy is what it is. It’s not good or bad, it just means you don’t mess around. Well, with anyone other than your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s not rocket science. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t it doesn’t. If your relationship ends it’s not monogamy’s fault. It’s yours.

Dirty Talk For Guys – What They REALLY Want To Hear

By dicksinthecity

Dirty talk will turn a man on like you wouldn’t believe! Here’s what to say to rev his engines and really get him going.

What She Said

Guys are visual creatures so it’s understood that once a lady is naked, he’s not listening to a word you are saying. Then again, even when women are fully clothed, guys have a hard time listening. All jokes aside, there are things women can say that men love to hear. A good place to start is with his best friend (and hopefully yours) his penis.

Praise him for how big it is and how it makes you feel. Regardless of the size, you should tell him it’s the biggest you have ever seen and even letting out a squeal of delight when you first lay eyes on it is a plus. While having sex you can exaggerate your moans and heavy breathing but be careful, there is a fine line between expressing your enjoyment and sounding like a porn star. Saying his name is also a super hot thing to do, as long as you remember what his name is.

Also throwing in some dirty talk is great! You don’t have to know that to say when it comes to dirty talk, you can just describe to him how amazing he is making you feel or even graphically tell him how bad or hard you want it. Words like “hot, wet, throbbing” are also good. Guys love to have their ego stroked and are competitive creatures and they want to know they can get you off and please you.

Basically the right things to say are anything that inflates his ego! Telling him he feels huge, or is the best you have ever had is a major win. Make your man feel like a superhero. If you really want to turn up the heat, saying, “Oh God, I am going to come,” will send him through the roof! So only, use that phrase when you have gotten what you want and are ready for your big strong stud of a man to come too.

What He Said

It be one part porn star, one part weather reporter. It should be hot and nasty (if you think you’re going to dirty or blue, you aren’t going far enough. This is where you tell him how amazing he and his baby maker are, in great, great detail. It’s almost too much to handle, feels so great, you may be sore tomorrow, you might walk funny tomorrow, it’s hitting your g-spot, etc.

Also, you should be like the weather channel: constant updates. If he’s doing it right, tell him. If he needs to touch your clitoris, be sure to let him know. He wants to rock your world more than you want him to, so give him the verbal cues he needs. Hell, draw him a map if you have to. Engraved invitations are good too. Remember to be careful how you phrase this. Don’t tell him he’s doing anything wrong, even if he is. Tell him it would be really hot if he did (fill in the blank).

Basically, your job is to make him feel like the most amazing stud lover on the planet, one that every woman wants but only you have (unless you’re in an open relationship or into swinging, and that’s another column). If you do a good job of it, you’ll be rewarded, day and night. Every man loves to feel like God’s gift to the vagina (gay men not so much) and I would encourage you to go into great detail about how he rocks your world like no other.

You don’t have to lie, that may not be the best idea either. Focus on what he’s legitimately good at and work from there. He’s really eager to learn to do you better. Focus on not just doing it during naked time but giving clues on how to improve in terms of comments you make during boom boom time. He’ll probably pick up quicker than you think and if he doesn’t, just keep dropping hints, and be less and less subtle.

Make him feel like the king of your castle. That’s really what all this boils down to. Men love to feel strong just as much as women love to feel safe and secure. You should do that, and use language that would make Prince blush.

How To Look Really Good Without Your Clothes

By loveandsex

Sex tips aren’t always what to do during sex. Here are some excellent sex tips that show you how to look AH-mazing in your birthday suit before getting it on!

When you look good without your clothes you feel sexy, but the actual process of looking good butt ass naked is anything but. That’s the number one reason people fail on their quest to look good naked. Everyone wants to be rich, but who really is willing to spend less than they make, and invest or save the rest? Not that many.

You Must Pay The Cost To Be The Boss

I myself used to be quite heavy, and I’ve lost a lot of weight. How much weight? Like two or three of those starving kids in Africa. People used to ask me how I did it, many of them looking to look great naked themselves. I would always ask them “are you prepared to go to the gym at 10:30 PM on a Friday night?” Every one of them would say no.

That told me they didn’t want to pay the price. I’ve been to the gym at 11PM on a Friday and Saturday because those were the only times I could fit the gym in and I refused to be derailed from my goals. If you want to get a sexy body that stops traffic you must have that level of dedication, even though I wouldn’t recommend actually doing that.

Have you ever wanted to look like a bodybuilder, fitness model, yoga instructor or your favorite celebrity? Can you imagine how good they look without their clothes? You probably have wanted that body and you can imagine them naked if you haven’t seen them that way in TV and film already.

Do a little research. It’s not hard to find out their fitness programs. Often they will discuss them in an interview or magazine article. Read the article. Then pick your jaw up off the floor. Still sure you want this?

Funny how things work.

There Are No Short Cuts Or Secrets

How do you look good without your clothes? Simple. If you want a great ass, you need to work the one you have off. Literally. You won’t get the ass you want by sitting on the one you have, someone once said. It’s true. If you want to look amazing naked, there is no way around hard, hard work. And most importantly, it must be consistent. There’s no point in going super hardcore in the gym once a month. Or training like a bodybuilder but eating like a sumo wrestler. You don’t have to be perfect, but you’d better be like clock work.

Most people never even make it this far, so if you’re still with me here, then it means you truly are committed to learning how to look good without your clothes and you have a great chance of actually pulling it off. You’re already ahead of like 90% of the population. Believe it or not, most of the people who have made it this far still fail. Why?

Take Action Immediately. Something Is Always Better Than Nothing

There are so many options out there. Yoga, crossfit, P90x, insanity, zumba, bodybuilding, swimming, you name it. We have two political parties in America, and yet 200000 kinds of orange juice in the grocery store. The sheer volume of choices can paralyze even the most dedicated person, because they are trying to find the program that “works.”

Here’s the hint. They all work. The trick is to find the one that works for you. This will require trial and error. Get a personal trainer if you need one. If you don’t, you don’t. Find what works for you by figuring out which type of diet and exercise program is up your alley. Do that. Do it a lot. You will have set backs, you will be subject to the learning curve, which is simply:

At first you suck, then you get better.

But if you are serious about looking good without clothes and you use these three action items, you will be successful. How fast is determined largely by how well you apply them. You will get there, you just don’t know when.

Is Sex On The First Date A Big Mistake?

By dicksinthecity

Sex on the very first date – is it something you shouldn’t do or does it even matter? Here’s the truth about the right time to have sex!

What She Said:

This question drives me crazy! NO NO NO!!! Sex on a first date is not a mistake!! Sexual chemistry is fantastic and if you find yourself drawn to a guy physically on a first date, why not jump his bones? The thing is, if you wait to sleep with a guy until a certain amount of dates or a certain amount of time, you are just putting off the inevitable. What if you invest all that time in a guy and then you get to having sex and you hate it? Maybe he can’t keep a boner, or came too soon, or wanted to wear your panties or wanted you to dress up like a chicken. Or maybe he is just a terrible lay.

Wouldn’t you want to know that in the beginning? So why wait all this time for bad sex? Worse, what if you started to fall for him and then you find out the sex is terrible? Sex should be just like every aspect of a relationship; you want to know if you are similar in your values, ideas, likes and sexual compatibility. Besides, most guys don’t know if they truly like a girl until they have been inside her. By skipping the waiting period before you have sex, you are saving you both time and money.

That being said, if you are on a first date and have absolutely nothing in common with this guy except for the heat between the two of you, might as well have a night of fun, no strings attached sex! Now, if you do like the guy and he likes you, having sex on the first date isn’t going to change that. Any guy that would consider you a slut for sleeping with him on a first date is not worth your time, so again you weed through the crappy men out there.

In all honesty, sex is great weather it’s a first date or a 7th, I just think you should get to it sooner whether then later, you might as well test out the merchandise before you commit to buying.

What He Said:

People seem to think that if you make a guy wait, you’re more likely to make him stick around. If he’s going to bail after he hits it, he’s going to bail after he hits it. Delaying intercourse won’t change that. That’s not something you can control. You can’t control other people. He may be a lying creep, or he may be a legitimately good guy who will hang around.

And if he is the good guy, all the more reason to screw his brains out as early and as often as possible. A little bit of hot steamy intercourse goes a long way in making a guy all about you (and by a “little” I mean “a lot.”) Be safe, of course. That is extremely important to say, and it can’t be understated. That being said, just let go and get naughty.

Life is a journey and love is the ultimate drug. But don’t make love a destination, enjoy the ride. You will find it, sooner or later, being patient is difficult. But practice is important. The more relationships you have, the more you learn, the more skilled you get, and the more tools you have in your arsenal and the better you are and the better prospective partner you can grab. And if the guy has performance issues, don’t just kick him to the curb.

Give him another chance, or maybe get him cock ring if you’re into him, or maybe that little blue pill. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You can always work with that situation. I’ve always maintained for a long term relationship the person attached to the genitalia is always the most important part (no pun intended. Okay, maybe a little intended)

Whenever you choose to screw someone is totally cool. As long as you’re doing it because that’s what feels right. If you’ve got some arbitrary number in your head, that’s when it’s not right.

And remember, never, ever play hard to get. Men do not like the “thrill of the hunt.” They like the “thrill of the hump.” Hand it to them on a silver platter and he’ll be way more likely to stick around.