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How To Naturally Last Longer In Bed And Give Your Woman The Best Sex EVER!

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Premature ejaculation can make sex terrible for both you and your lover. Here’s how you can last longer in bed NATURALLY, and give your girl amazing sex!

Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, one of the worst things that can happen to a man is not being able to last long enough to fulfill their female partners. The simple truth is that over 70% of women are unable to achieve an orgasm during intercourse. Unfortunately, a lot of the blame is placed squarely on the man’s shoulders. But there is also another truth about lasting longer and giving a woman an orgasm. Curious to know what it is?

Lasting Longer Is NOT The Key To Great Sex

Despite conventional wisdom, that is true. You see, for the vast majority of women, how you bring them to an orgasm is much more important than the end climax. Many guys want to improve their sexual stamina thinking that is the only way to satisfy a woman. It is great to have an exceptional stamina. But the thing is, most women are not able to have penetrative sex for more than 15 minutes without feeling uncomfortable or even painful, due to the vagina drying up from the constant thrusting.

What women want is really simple – proper foreplay and an emotional connection during lovemaking. Many women like oral sex, so it pays to incorporate this into your sexual routine before heading into intercourse.

Why? Well, your tongue has the strongest muscle in the human body. It can easily provide the stimulus to bring her to an amazing orgasm through clitoral stimulation using just the tongue. In addition, having an orgasm BEFORE intercourse can make her multi-orgasmic during actual sex!

So Is Stamina No Longer Important?

It is still vital in a sexual relationship. You just need to last as long as it is required to bring her to a climax FIRST. Most women need about 10-15 minutes on average to climax, so it’s great to be able to last at least that amount of time.

But more importantly, pay attention to HER needs first. Do whatever you can to bring her to an erotic boil. Adequate amounts of foreplay, oral sex or even verbal seduction can get her aroused and prime her for an easier (and faster) orgasm during intercourse.

Something “magical” happens when you are able to satisfy her first. You see, for most men, the inability to last during sex arises from “performance pressure”. But once you have given her an orgasm BEFORE intercourse – for example, through oral sex – you will no longer feel the pressure to perform. And ironically, that will naturally help you last longer and give her the wildest time in bed imaginable!

What To Do When She Won’t Talk To You About Sex

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Sex tips are thought of as a road map for sex, but they are more than that. It’s about communication, and here’s what to do when your partner won’t discuss it.

When it comes to sex, communicating with your partner is absolutely essential. You’re not a mind reader – unless you’ve been with your lover for many years, you just won’t automatically know what she wants or needs in bed. Even if you have been with your partner for a substantial amount of time, it’s still a bit of a guessing game because let’s face it – you’re not a mind reader.

You can’t know what she’s thinking about, or what she wants next or whether she wants you to move a little to the left or to the right. While some women are very up front and straight forward about what they want during sex, many women are not. This is because many women grow up believing that sex should only be pleasurable for the male partner, or that it’s “dirty” and “wrong” to derive any sort of pleasure from sex. Although this couldn’t be further from the truth, their belief systems lead them to never speaking up during lovemaking.

These women aren’t going to say, “That doesn’t feel good, here, I need you to do it like this.” They’re going to smile, act like they’re into it and possibly fake their orgasm. So because communication is so important for a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life, you may very well have to take the initiative in that department.

What Happens When You Don’t Communicate

When you and your partner don’t communicate about sex, it leads to one or both partners being unsatisfied. You’ve got to talk to each other about what you both want and need, and what you like when you’re in bed together! She won’t know what you like and you won’t know what she likes if you don’t talk about it, so you’ll both be a couple of bumbling idiots in the sack, stumbling around blindly, hoping you hit the jackpot and being disappointed when you don’t. Neither of you can expect the other to know exactly what you want and what turns you on, so you have to tell each other.

When you expect your partner to know what to do during sex and they inevitably don’t do it, you’re going to be left sexually frustrated and possibly orgasm-less. The same goes for her! If she expects you to know what to do (and you really don’t) and she doesn’t tell you, you aren’t going to give her the kind of pleasure she wants and needs.

This is going to leave her very unsatisfied and possibly resentful! The problem is, it’s partly her responsibility to communicate with her about what she likes and doesn’t like during sex. Unfortunately, for the reasons mentioned above (and many other reasons) she might not want to talk about it.

Why A Woman Might Not Want To Communicate With You About Sex

Many women don’t like to talk about sex. There are many reasons for this, and if your lover doesn’t want to communicate about intercourse, it may be more than one reason! This can leave a guy feeling confused and wondering what to do. First, take a few minutes to understand her point of view. You already know that some women grow up thinking sex is wrong and that they shouldn’t get pleasure out of sex. However, that’s not the only reason a woman might not want to discuss doing the nasty.

  • She’s never masturbated before and doesn’t know herself what feels good and what doesn’t, so she can’t very well tell you
  • She’s scared of being judged or criticized for what she likes or doesn’t like
  • She’s not confident enough in herself to assert what she wants and needs in the bedroom
  • She’s more worried about your pleasure and you getting off than she is about herself
  • She doesn’t know how to put into words what she wants (or is too shy to use the words that she will inevitably have to use when discussing this type of thing)
  • She has other emotional baggage

These aren’t all the reasons a woman might not want to talk about sex – in fact, since every woman is different and has lived different experiences, the possibilities of a woman being shy about discussing lovemaking are really endless! Take heart though, because even if your girl doesn’t take the initiative to tell you what to do or how to touch her just the right way, you can still glean the information in other ways.

Non-Verbal Communication

Women will almost always give non-verbal cues about what they like and don’t like during sex. Unless you’re having sex with a statue, you’re bound to get some kind of non-verbal feedback on what you’re doing – you just have to be paying attention. Body movements are probably you’re biggest clue here, because even some women who are shy will be too shy to be very vocal during sex. But body movements are often involuntary, so you can use these as sort of a “compass” to tell you if you’re going the right way. Here is some body language that will tell you if you’re on the right track:

  • She bucks her hips towards you and grinds her pelvis against you (either against your face during oral sex or against your penis during intercourse)
  • She begins to breathe heavy and seems as though she is concentrating
  • Her skin turns pink and flushed, particularly in her face and neck
  • Her legs begin to shake
  • Her eyes close or roll back in her head

Her body will also tell you if you’re doing something wrong, or aren’t in the right place:

  • She’ll move slightly to help position you in the right spot (if she does this, go with it! Don’t fight it thinking you’re in the right spot, because you’re not! This movement is very different from what she will do if she’s enjoying it and bucking her hips)
  • She’ll shrink away from you (this usually happens if you’re hurting her in some way – for example, if your facial hair is chafing her or rubbing too hard against her sensitive clitoris)
  • She isn’t breathing heavy and can even talk or carry on a conversation
  • She doesn’t seem as though she’s concentrating or is very into it
  • Her eyes are open and she’s looking around, possibly watching television or checking out photos on the vanity

Apart from body movements, you can use her vocalizations as a clue, although many women won’t make any noise during sex whether they’re enjoying it or not. Here are some ways to tell if she’s enjoying it by listening to what comes out of her mouth:

  •  Again, breathing heavy is a big indicator of pleasure. This may be accompanied by sharp intakes of breath or moans and groans
  • She screams your name, or says, “Oh God!” (This is almost always a winner unless it sounds totally fake)
  • She says disjointed things like, “Yes, Yes!” or “Yeah….right…uh….good…yeah….”

You can also tell if you’re totally bombing it by what she’s saying or how she sounds:

  • She’s screaming your name or other things in a way that sounds less convincing than a porn star in a low budget film
  • Her breathing and vocalizations seem to be on an even keel. For example, a regular “Mmmm” sound that doesn’t seem to be at all connected with what you’re doing or how you’re changing your techniques

Also pay attention to your instincts! As naive as you may be about a woman’s pleasure, if your gut is telling you she’s just not into it, she’s probably not!

4 Secrets To Great Kissing

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Kissing tips are essential if you want to deliver a really excellent kiss. Here are the secrets you might be missing when it comes to kissing!

1. Women Love To Kiss

Certainly not the first time blokes heard of that one, women are nagging for it. But in spite of the flood of headlines for lip action, the response has come in short supply. Either that, or women just can’t get enough no matter what.

Get this. For the ladies, kissing is enough. While guys tend to see kisses as prelude to hot sex, women have no qualms seeing it as an end unto itself. For them, a kiss need not lead to anything, it doesn’t have to be foreplay. It can be a stand-alone, pleasurable, loving act unto itself.

Now, tell that to a horndog and he’ll bitch about how women are a bunch of tease. The XY brain has difficulty processing how women stay happy with simple lip locks when it knows that sex is up for grabs. “Let’s use the bed for goodnessakes!” When one already knows the ruckus of intercourse, kissing, by comparison, becomes lame.

2. Let Kissing Be Enough For You

But here’s the thing: To become a great kisser, accept the real possibility that tongue action may be all you’re getting in a given night.

Go kiss, but don’t expect clothes to come afalling every time. Relish the lip action, relax your jaws, lips & tongue, and don’t think of anything else. Avoid thoughts of sex. This alone already makes you a better kisser. When you’re not wondering where that last condom is, you do better.

3. Learn To Get Good If You Aren’t Already

To be a good kisser is an imperative, there is no other resort. When it comes to liplocks, a woman never excuses the lame ones. She believes she can find out everything just from the way a guy smooches. It’s crazy! She thinks she has this lip-guided intuition – and sloppy kissers always go down the drain. A terrible smooch can change her perception of you.

And guess what, women read something into good kissers – that they’re also studs between the sheets. When she thinks this, you’re making it easier for her to go va-voom with your flow. So read up on some kissing tips and don’t be shy about it!

4. Create Sexual Tension

Now, the secret to a great kiss is the psychological set-up. There has to be some sort of sexual tension‘ before your lips touch. Only dive when there’s enough tension.

Again, this entails teasing, you have to make her want it.

There are several ways to achieve this. You can for example gently caress her cheeks, chin, lips or hair before the kiss. Or look longingly into her eyes and survey her face. Lean in as if to kiss her, then stop a few centimeters before your lips touch, breathe deeply and give her a sigh. Or prelude it by rubbing noses. With eyes closed, you can also nuzzle around the cheekbone, neck and below the ear zone. Set the kiss right so she’ll appreciate it when you finally let her have it.

Is YOUR Vagina Healthy?

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The vagina is a mysterious organ. Sometimes it can be hard to realize whether or not your vagina is healthy. There are times when a discharge of mucus is actually healthy. For the most part, the vagina has some of the best “self-cleaning” properties on the female body.

The vagina can maintain a great balance of bacteria and can even make mucous that will wash away foreign substances. When you are wondering if your down there area is healthy, keep in mind that a healthy vagina does not have a bad odor. There are a few different reasons why your vagina could start to smell. Some of these reasons include STI’s, bad hygiene and infections.

Bad Hygiene

Bad hygiene is not something that anybody will admit to. However, when you have great hygiene you are already a one step closer to stopping vaginal odors. You can use a regular bar soap or body wash on your vagina and the outside of the genital area. Make sure that you are drying the vagina properly so it stays clean.

If you use overly scented soaps or body washes, you run the risk of creating irritation in the vaginal area. This irritation could eventually lead to infection so be careful. One of the most common infections occurs due to feces entering the vagina after a bowel movement. Remember to wipe front to back to avoid this.

Combating Infection

One of the best ways to combat infection and odors is to get a little air down there. Start to wear loose fitting, cotton underwear. This will bring more airflow to your vagina and decrease the amount of sweat to the organ. When the sweat builds up in the vaginal odors can occur. If you ever smell “fishy” down there, you probably have a bacterial infection.

There are a variety of medications that will treat bacterial infections. You can either buy something over the counter you can see a doctor to get a prescribed medication. Although rare, some women could mistaken their vaginal odors for infection when they actually have pelvic inflammatory disease. This is also known as cervical cancer. If you think that you might be at risk of PID, talk to your gynecologist about getting tested.

Avoid Douching

While douching seems like a great idea, it can actually hurt you. Despite popular belief, douching does not help treat odors. Douching is usually employed before sex to make sure that everything is clean. The problem is that when you squirt water into the vagina, you wash away the natural fluids that are used to combat infection.

Douching can increase the development of bacterial infections because it increases the acidity level. Douching can also cause the vagina to become irritable. Only douche if your doctor has instructed you to do so. Instead of douching, wet the genitals with warmer water. Do not put any of the water inside. Simply wash the outside of the vulva and then pat down your body with a towel.

Yeast Infections

One of the most common infections to the vagina is a yeast infection. A very usual symptom of a yeast infection is itching. Another sign is soreness in and around the vagina. If your vulva is red or swollen, you probably have a yeast infection. It is never recommended to have sex while you have a yeast infection. This can make your problem even worse. Yeast infections can also lead to abnormal discharges. Sometimes the discharge can be white or clear.

Other times the discharge can be gray or green. If you have a very strong fish smell, you might want to see a doctor. You could have bacterial vaginosis or trichomoniasis. Your doctor will be able to tell you what you have and what will clear it up.

STI’s

STI’s are another cause of vaginal discharge and odor. STI’s  (also known as STD’s) are generally given through unprotected sex or when a condom breaks. Gonorrhea is a very common STI that usually appears within 2-5 days after the infection has occurred. Gonorrhea can cause vaginal discharge and increased urination.

This can also cause pain or burning when urinating. Chlamydia is another STI that typically causes vaginal odor. Chlamydia can cause burning during urination and vaginal discharge. This can also cause very painful sexual intercourse. Get tested regularly to you know whether or not have come into contact with these particular STI’s. Both of these can be cleared up in matter of weeks through antibiotics.

Is Monogamy Overrated?

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Monogamy seems to be the popular choice for couples in long term relationships – but is it necessary? Can you have a satisfying relationship without it?

What Other Relationship Options Are There?

You can’t argue that monogamy isn’t exactly the one size fits all relationship type we were taught growing up. Don’t believe me? Just hit the internet! It seems like there are all kinds of relationships out there (open relationships, swingers, polyamorists, just to name a few) and they all seem sexier than monogamy and they’re getting way better press too.

Is It Still Sexy?

Religious organizations will argue that monogamy is under attack. Really? I didn’t know swingers were breaking into people’s homes and making them have sex with other people. While monogamy isn’t exactly under attack, it’s kind of lost its luster. It’s about as sexy as flossing or paying your taxes on time. Sure, there’s something to be said for it, but there’s a good chance that something will put you to sleep.

That doesn’t make monogamy overrated, any more than a gun in and of itself is a bad thing. It depends on the application and the situation. If you go on a date and your date pulls out a hand gun, it’s probably not a good night for you. If a burglar is breaking into your home and you call the cops and all they do is try and put the bad guy on “time out” you’ll be wishing he/she was packing heat (get your mind out of the gutter people!).

It’s Hard Work

Monogamy isn’t what we thought it was. It’s not like you get in a monogamous relationship and then that’s it. Since you’re not having intercourse with other people by design, you have to work to maintain the spark, probably a lot harder than non-monogamous people, because they have the benefit of the spark that comes with being with and being desired by other people.

It’s Also Safer

Then again, monogamy, by default, may not be sexy, but it is safer. Since you’re aren’t fucking other people (as long as there is no infidelity) then you don’t have to worry about AIDS, herpes or any of those STD’s that scare the shit out people who are fucking around. You don’t need to wear condoms, if you’re not screwing other people and since you know you’re both clean and safe, you can do all kinds of crazy sex, wild intercourse, anal sex and whatever else you like with a clean conscience (and clean health record).

That can make monogamy seem a bit more appetizing. If variety is the spice of life, then monogamy is like eating your vegetables. People who practice non monogamy (I wonder if they ever got it right yet) will argue that monogamy is dead and that it can’t work and that it will always end with infidelity or a sexless marriage. That’s crazy. It’s statistically impossible that all monogamous relationships end up like that. Some of them have to be really great. Some married people have to be fucking more than porn stars, right? It’s just simple numbers.

Decide For Yourself What Is Best For You

Monogamy seems overrated largely because we get such a bad view on it. Sex sells and if it bleeds it’s news. Fear sells. No one is going to buy a copy of People Magazine to find out about the happily married celebrity couple that have been monogamous for years, have amazing sex and fall more in love every day. You just don’t hear about that. You know why? It’s nothing compared to the crazy coke head celebrities who go off and have sex with the poolboy all while living in an apartment.

Monogamy is what you make of it, assuming you decide to make something of it in the first place. You may not want to. That’s cool too. If you are into it, great! If you’re not, that’s great too. Just keep your mouth shut to the people who don’t share your view point. You can’t change them and just because monogamy (or non monogamy) doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for them. Monogamy isn’t overrated or underrated. That’s like saying Spicy Brown mustard is over rated or underrated. It’s mustard people. That’s it. You put it on your hot dog, if you like it on your dog, and if you don’t well, you don’t.

It’s really that simple. Monogamy is what it is. It’s not good or bad, it just means you don’t mess around. Well, with anyone other than your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s not rocket science. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t it doesn’t. If your relationship ends it’s not monogamy’s fault. It’s yours.