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Female Orgasm – 3 Ways To Make Sure Your Girl Gets A Jaw Dropping Orgasm Every Time!

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The female orgasm can be elusive, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are three ways to give your girl the best orgasm she’s ever had!

Penetration Alone Won’t Do The Trick

Did you know that direct penetration during sex is unable to bring most women to an orgasm? That is indeed true. Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex. It is far easier to stimulate a man to an orgasm than a woman. But when a woman climaxes, she usually does so with greater intensity than guys.

It is not easy to bring a woman to an orgasm through intercourse alone. In fact more women are known to achieve a climax through masturbation than through sex. So what are the tricks to make sure she gets one when you make love to her? Keep reading – these tips would keep her orgasmic furnace burning hot…

Clitoral Stimulation: The Right & Wrong Ways To Do It

A woman’s clitoris is a key instrument to bring her to an orgasm. Thus the way you stimulate this super erogenous zone is really vital. You see, when a woman is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable for her.

The trick is to give her stimulation indirectly at first. Try running your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, you will feel her breathing heavily and the clitoral hood swelling up. This is when you know she is ready for more.

The Rhythm Of Sex

Many men are mistaken that women are equally attuned to the speed and rhythm of a man’s touch. This is a fallacy. How you touch and caress her can vary in speed but the rhythm should not alter. Starting sex slowly is a great way to get her all warmed up to the act. As the sex progresses, women prefer the speed (including that of thrusting) to increase, culminating to a boil as an orgasm approaches. But make sure the overall rhythm or tempo remain the same.

The Tantalizing Grind

Many men simply engage in straight thrusting motions during sex and wonder why their partners never get an orgasm. No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax.

The right way to perform penetration is this: instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pelvic bone will rub against her clitoris and sufficiently stimulate her to an intense orgasm.

Foreplay Mistakes That Will KILL Your Sex Life (And How To Fix Them!)

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Foreplay is an essential part of sex and if you make any of these blunders, you could really do damage to your sex life! Here’s what NOT to do!

Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Problem #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kiss instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Problem #2 – Paying Most Of Your Attention To The Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Problem #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful series of orgasms later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In What You’re Doing

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talking

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talking can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth!

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skimp on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

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Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

Oral Sex Aphrodisiacs – How To Enhance The Experience!

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Oral sex can be incredible, but you can make it even more amazing by using aphrodisiacs. Here’s how to make oral sex even HOTTER.

Who wouldn’t want to heighten the experience of you or your partner during sex? That’s where aphrodisiacs come in. Not only do they tantalize the sense and bring passion to a whole new level, but also many of them are everyday items that are easily added to sex play or a meal before a big event so as not to be noticeable.

Many of the aphrodisiacs listed have been around for centuries; many people believe that they originally started with Greek mythology’s goddess of Love, Aphrodite, who bore Cupid as her son.

Origins Of Aphrodisiacs

It doesn’t take a much of a stretch of the imagination to understand why plants with heart shaped leaves were what ancient civilizations used to increase one’s sex drive or cure heart problems. Imagine how these people used foods that looked sexual in nature such as asparagus, oysters or juicy fruits as vitality and libido boosters, and spicy foods for increasing lustful thoughts.

While most sex researchers don’t agree on the actual aphrodisiac qualities for these types of foods, there is a placebo effect in play, where merely thinking that they will help will improve your lovemaking ability because truly good sex comes from as much the body as it does the mind.

The Proof Behind The Pudding

There are a few circumstances where myth and reality meet for aphrodisiacs, specifically with caffeinated foods and drinks. Cola, chocolate, tea and coffee all increase blood flow and in turn, one’s libido. Additionally, chocolate holds antidepressant qualities in the form of phenylalanine, which is sometimes referred to as the molecule of love.

Sexual Stimulants

While chocolate and caffeine are great stimulants, there are also some not so common aphrodisiacs that may greatly affect your randiness, such as:

  • Garlic: Great for getting the blood flowing, garlic is an excellent health tonic, but has to be taken in moderation as too much can do some harm, or may interact with other medications.
  • Fish: Fish such as salmon, mackerel, herring and halibut have been known to get things moving similarly to how garlic works. Fish oil is especially good for getting blood moving in the genital region, which can greatly boost a man’s ability to get an erection and a woman’s to get aroused.
  • Ginkgo: This is a relatively new comer to the list of aphrodisiacs. Ginkgo has been shown to increase blood flow to the penis and clitoris, as well as to the brain.
  • Ginseng: Korean researches claim this herb works wonders on the libido. Ginseng is mostly used to promote feelings of well-being.
  • Licorice: Researchers out of Chicago claim that the smell of licorice and fresh donuts create the most blood flow to the penis over any other scents. So next time you want a night in with your partner, try lighting some licorice scented candles or massage oil to heighten the mood.
  • Oysters: Oysters are high in zinc, which is crucial to maintaining sexual health. Therefore, if either of you suffer from a low sex drive, it is recommended to add zinc to your diet as a libido enhancer.
  • Oats: This is where the expression of sowing your wild oats comes from. Ranchers around the world swear that by feeding wild oats to their horses, it makes the horses much friskier and libidinous.
  • Maca: Found to be a sexual enhancer by people who lived in the Andes for centuries. Chinese researchers also agree with the claim after testing it on male rats. You can find Maca root at the health store in powdered or tablet form.
  • Wild Yam: Wild yam has been used for many years and regarded highly for gynecological ailments, such as vaginal dryness.

Explosive Female G-Spot Orgasms – Tantalizing Tips And Tricks To Give Her Sensational Sex

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The G-Spot is present in every woman and what a man should do is to take extra measures in stimulating it and give their partners a steamier sexual experience. Even if you know where your woman’s G-Spot is, you must also know what to do once you are in contact with it in order to give her a series of explosive orgasms.

Let your fingers perform circular movements after you insert them into her vagina. In order to pleasure your partner even more, make sure the touch of your fingertips against this soft gland is constant. Stop moving your fingers inside her and start an inward and outward motion and then occasionally swivel your fingers while they are inside the vaginal canal, applying an even tempo at the same time.

Things To Keep In Mind

G-Spot stimulation can be even more exciting for the woman if you let yourself perform oral sex on her using gentle tongue movements on the clitoris. An eventful release will surely come its way to your lady!

When stimulating her G-spot, always bear in mind these 3 things that will put her on the path towards orgasmic ecstasy:

  • Take your time in hitting her G-Spot so as to put her into a sexual mood.
  • Always be aware of your partner’s preferences especially with regards to what satisfies her the most.
  • Do not forget to stroke her G-Spot whenever your fingers penetrate her vaginal canal.

Penile Stimulation Of The G-Spot

It is not only your fingers that can work wonders on her. The penis may do a better job in stimulating the G-Spot! This works exceptionally well if your penis is slightly bent when erect, as this enables it to reach this sensitive mound of flesh.

But don’t lose hope, just because your penis is not capable of making a bow shape – there are other ways to stimulate the G-Spot.

What you can do about this curving problem is to try out different sex positions. Move your body so that your penis is directed towards the north since it is most likely that you will reach her G-Spot in this way.

If your penis arches towards the left or right, lie down on the bed, let her sit on top of you and allow her to control the penetration movements. If your penis draws downwards, try letting her lay on top of you with her buttocks facing you.

Aside from using your fingers and your penis, sex toys such as vibrators are also very useful in making the G-spot more responsive and giving her intense orgasms.

Communication Is Key Too

Communication has always been an integral part of an intimate relationship. Although there are many obscurities with regards to the G-spot, it is still important that both parties relate to each other whatever gives them sexual gratification. Let your partner guide you through what is most pleasurable for her, and all you have to do is accomplish what she tells you to do!

Put these tips to good use and a hotter and spicier sex life will await the both of you! You will also feel her appreciation for all the wonderful things you have done for her!