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Sex Games That Women Love – Take Your Girl To Orgasmic Heights!

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Sex games can be an incredible way to spice up your sex life. Try these fun sex games and your partner will be all but ripping your clothes off!

It is natural for a relationship to grow dull at each passing years of being together. It is the responsibility of both the man and the woman to do something in order to liven up their sex life. It may be hard for couples to think of what they can do to keep the passions burning in their relationship. The answer to this is to play an adult sex game while inside the bedroom.

Below are three fun and exhilarating sex games that can guarantee you and your woman a more satisfying sexual union!

Be An Audience

One of the most exciting bedroom rituals is in watching your partner masturbate. Let’s face it – we all have skeletons in our closets. Deep inside, we all have a voyeuristic attitude where we find enjoyment in viewing a sexually stimulating act. And when seeing your partner pleasuring herself in front of you, you are also unleashing your wild persona.

Pick your favorite position in bed as she pleases herself with very sensual moves. After she is done, you may handle the rest of the job on her behalf. Then you will arrive at a point where you will no longer have those inhibitions and you’ll just be dominated by the euphoria of having those intimate moments.

You will not only be sexually gratified by what you are seeing but you will also know everything when it comes to your woman’s pleasure points. And when you know how you can give her the addictive ecstasy, you can do better in making her feel blissful the next time you get her to bed!

Enjoy A “Movie Night” Together

This entails watching an erotic film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos, which both you and your woman would prefer. Be sure to pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. You can do the remakes of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes. Like with the first idea, you will be able to learn about things that will keep your other half heated up!

Give An Erotic Massage

The kneading of fingers along each other’s body is a key factor in keeping the sexual bond stronger. The use of fragrant oil plus those heavy yet gentle caresses all over her body is what makes those sexual encounters more exciting.

Of course, there are proper ways to perform a sensuous body massage on her. For example:

Purchase hot oil and plastic sheets for the warm effect on her body. You can heat up the oil, which you will use later on her body.

To begin the massage, pour generous amounts of oil on your hand and rub it all over her body. Then give her a very soothing body massage, which will brighten up her mood. Once she is ready, you may proceed to touch her more private areas. But never forget that you are doing this as a way to give her comfort!

Using body massage is like hitting two birds with one stone. You are not only giving your partner the relief her body badly needs, you are also leading her to a more sexually-pleasurable experience that she will never forget!

Try out these three suggested sex games and you’ll be surprised at how electrifying these can be when mixed with your usual bedroom activities!

Great Sex Tips To Spice Up Your Sex Life In The Bedroom

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Sex tips will undoubtedly make your lovemaking hotter – but these sex tips will set your bedroom on fire!

It appears I’m experiencing “the seven year itch.” I love my husband and all’s well at home – but I am bored in the bedroom. What’s the cure?

What She Said:

The cure is to get into the bedroom, pronto! Don’t delay. You have a lot of great things waiting for you as soon as you can break the boredom barrier. Some things that lie in store include a greater intimacy, a sense of play and lots of experimentation.

What you’re experiencing is completely normal, by the way. No couple can sustain the excitement and passion of the first months or years together. What comes in place of rip-your-clothes-off passion is a greater intimacy – physically, emotionally and spiritually. However, that doesn’t mean your love life has to grow stale.

Re-Introduce Foreplay

Let’s start with the advantages of a greater physical intimacy. Chances are that you know each other’s bodies like the back of your own hand.

You know the likes and dislikes, as well as the things that get each other off. While this is great information to have, there’s a danger in making sex perfunctory in order to expedite the end result, so to speak. The first step towards renewed sexual satisfaction? Stop taking the short cuts! Reintroduce foreplay, anticipation, role-play and time into your lovemaking. Experiment with toys. Check new positions of your list. Get some rubber sheets and whip cream. Whatever you do, make it fun!

Long Term Relationships Allow You To Really Up The Ante

Other benefits to a long-term relationship include the aforementioned expanded emotional and spiritual connections that can only come with time. Work that angle! Communicate with your mate about the need to spice things up. Make it a positive adventure. Don’t forget to take spirituality into the bedroom.

A torrid roll in the hay can be a blast; but so can fully appreciating the magnitude of the person you’re with for the long haul. Look into each other’s eyes. Tell one another what you love and appreciate about your mate. Soon that tenderness will translate into reignited passion.

What He Said:

It’s not rocket science. You guys are in a pattern. You need to break it. It’s that simple. Just sit down and identify the ways you guys do it. It’s probably the same every time, so this won’t take you very long. Resolve to never have sex like that again for the next thirty days. Then sit down and make a list of the things you’d like to do to each other or that you used to do to each other but stopped doing. Each of the next 30 days do one of those things. You can do more than one if you like, but you can’t do less.

New Sex Positions Could Be Key

Buy a book on sex positions. Go on vacation. Or just do it in a hotel in town while you have a sitter.

It doesn’t have to be a big production, though that’s cool too. You just need to do things a bit different and do so in a pressure free manner. Your boring sex life didn’t happen overnight. It was a gradual process so getting back to the hot and nasty sex you had when you first started dating may take a bit of time and effort. It’s worth it.

Kissing Mistakes You Want To Avoid – Before It’s Too Late!

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Kissing tips can keep you from making a lot of blunders. Don’t risk ruining your chances with a girl! Learn how to nix it up front with these great kissing tips!

Kissing can really make or break you as a lover. It is the first real intimate contact you have with your partner, and the way you kiss can alter her feelings for you completely. If you’re too aggressive, too sloppy, or just too much, you could end up killing whatever attraction she had for you to begin with. However, kiss her just right, and she will be putty in your hands. What makes a kiss spectacular really depends on the couple, but here are some do’s and don’ts that are pretty universal.

Bad Oral Hygiene

Don’t fall victim to sewer mouth. You could have lips as luscious as Brad Pitt, but bad breath will ruin the moment. Cigarette smokers especially have to watch the halitosis.

Do take care of your teeth. Brush, floss, and rinse with mouth wash daily. Popping a breath mint right before making out helps, but it won’t get rid of festering gunk already up in there. Nobody wants to make out with a guy who has teeth like a meth addict.

Overwhelm Her

Don’t jam your tongue down her throat. It is the most common kissing error made by men. Once things get heated up, the feel of your tongue will set her ablaze! Ramming your tongue into her mouth before her lips are even parted will bring everything to a screeching halt. What, are you fifteen?

Do tease her with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve been kissing for a bit, fee lfree add a little tongue, but think of it more as a lick than a jab. Keep your tongue soft for maximum pleasure.

Rush Into Sex

Don’t assume a kiss means you’re getting some sex. For a woman, kissing can just be kissing. Physical contact with you helps to build her feelings of intimacy toward you. If every kiss leads to your putting your hands down her pants, she will begin to feel objectified, and a rift will form. Translation, you’ll never get any.

Do learn to love what she loves about kissing. There are a lot of nerve endings in your lips, allowing for sensations you may be ignoring. Close your eyes, and let the kiss be about the kiss.

Forget To Kiss Her When She’s Naked

Kissing shouldn’t be just a tool to get into her pants. It’s an act of intimacy, and will make her feel relaxed and cared for during penetration. Plus, when you’re in the throes of passion your sense of touch is heightened, and this kiss will be felt through your entire body.

How To Give A Blowjob To An Uncircumcised Man

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Oral sex is the same from guy to guy, right? Wrong! If he’s uncircumcised, you need to have a few more tricks up your sleeve. It’s not that different (if you’ve never done it before, you’re still likely to rock the guy’s world, even if you don’t know what you’re doing). However, if you want to really be a pro at giving head, here’s what to do if he’s uncut.

Have A Shower First

Of course, having your man shower before oral sex is a pretty good idea whether he’s circumcised or not. However, if he’s uncut, you’re really going to want him to wash up first. The reason for this is that in between the head of his penis (called the glans) and the foreskin, there can be build up called “smegma.” Yeah, awesome name for it, right? This smegma is a white, cheesy like substance that has an odor (again, awesome!). It’s not harmful to you or your partner if you give him a blowjob before he’s cleaned himself up, but unless you’re pretty kinky, you’re not going to like it a bit.

What you don’t want to do is go down on him and tell him his penis stinks and to go wash it before you continue. That’s a mood killer if there ever was one. Work a shower into your foreplay. Tell him you want to see him wet and naked, and that you want to soap his body all up. Wash his penis for him. Make sure you do it lovingly and erotically – this is still part of the foreplay. If you’re scrubbing like you’ve got to get a stain out, you’re going to turn him off and washing that hard really isn’t necessary. Slide his foreskin back gently and wash his glans and his shaft. If his foreskin is slid back and stretched out, you should be able to clean it easily.

Be Gentle!

A circumcised man has about 10-20,000 less nerve endings than an uncircumcised male in the head of the penis. In a circumcised male, the glans (which is supposed to be wet, soft and tender like a clitoris) rubs up against underwear and clothing. It develops a tough outer skin, but has become very desensitized. Women who give head to circumcised men likely have to work a lot harder, because once a man is cut, those sensitive, orgasmic nerve endings are GONE!

So if your guy is lucky enough to still have those, you’re going to want to be very gentle. Something that might really get a cut guy off might hurt like hell for a sensitive uncircumcised fella! If in doubt, always ask. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, does this feel good? Are you enjoying this? What would you like better?”

Insert The Tip Of Your Tongue Underneath The Foreskin

Take your tongue and form it into a somewhat soft point. Stick it underneath the foreskin, against the head of his penis. Run it around in a circle, swishing your tongue over his entire glans, still while keeping it under the foreskin. This oral sex technique is incredible for him because not only does he get to feel your tongue on his sensitive glans, he also gets to feel it on the underside of his foreskin, where there are many more pleasurable nerve endings.

Use Lube!

An uncircumcised male isn’t used to having any “dryness” down there. You may think that because you’re giving him a blowjob, it’s really not going to be “dry” at all – which is true if you can produce enough saliva. When going down on an uncut guy, think “wetter is better.” If you can’t produce enough spit, consider using a flavored lube to keep things wet enough and going smoothly.

When Using A Condom

If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or just want to have safer oral sex, consider using a condom. Condoms can reduce the sensitivity a man feels during oral sex, so you need to be careful when you go to put it on. Make sure that he’s erect first (duh – a condom won’t go on if he’s not!) and that his foreskin is slid completely back, exposing the head of his glans. Hold the foreskin down at the base of his penis with one hand while you put on the condom with the other.

This ensures that the condom covers the actual sensitive part of his penis instead of covering the foreskin. If the condom is covering the foreskin and the foreskin is covering the head of his penis, how is he supposed to feel anything?

10 Red-Hot Oral Sex Positions (For Him)

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Oral sex positions can make a world of difference during a fellatio session – it can make fellatio exciting, relaxing or even uncomfortable. It is important to find a few that both you and your partner are comfortable with and utilize those (and mix them up) on a regular basis. You can also try new ones to spice up your normal fellatio routine. Here, we’ll list several that you and your partner can try!

On Your Knees

This is perhaps the most versatile fellatio position that there is, and probably the most widely used. You can do this with him standing and you kneeling, or with him in a chair (or on the edge of the bed) and you on your knees in front of him accordingly. This is probably the one that you will want to use if you’re performing fellatio on your partner in different places, such as in the car or in the laundry mat, etc. He may enjoy the feeling of dominance he has over you.

The Captain Morgan

Have your lover stand and lift one leg, placing his foot on either a stool, or the edge of the bed. This slight change in the traditional position allows you access to his testicles and also opens the “breezes” so that when you lick and get him wet, he’s more exposed.

Upside Down

Any oral sex positions in which your head is facing your partner’s feet is ideal for deep throating. This one is most comfortable while lying on a bed or other flat surface and can be incorporated into mutual oral sex (69) or just oral sex for him.

Lying Down

This is much like the above; however, your head will be facing your partner’s head instead of his feet. This is a great one in which your partner can put his legs on your shoulders, spread his legs wide, and raise his knees to his chest or any combination of the above. This type of variation can bring him more pleasure and you greater access to his penis.

The Koala Bear

Remember photos of a Koala Bear hanging on to a tree? When you’re lying down, just shift to the side. He will have a great view of your mouth pleasuring him and you can throw one your legs around him and stimulate yourself against his lower leg. He’ll feel how wet and turned on you are!

Sideways

Or a sideways sixty-nine position – this one is exactly how it sounds. You both will lie on your sides facing each other, with your head facing your partner’s feet. You can use this for mutual oral sex or for pleasing only him. It’s also a good for deep throating!

Sitting (On Your Face)

In this position, your partner will sit mainly on your chest, bringing his penis downwards and into your mouth. Generally, his knees will be resting on either side of you on the bed to avoid putting too much pressure on your body. To do this, however, you and your partner will need some kind of signal that you can use to let him know if he is penetrating your mouth too deeply or if you are gagging or finding it difficult to breathe. This frees up both of your hands because he is controlling the speed from this angle. It gives you time to use your hands to stroke his buttocks and the backs of his thighs and to run your hands up his stomach and onto his chest.

Doggy Style Isn’t Just For Intercourse

Yyou can perform fellatio in a doggy style position too! You can lick your partner’s penis and testicles from behind, if both you and your partner are comfortable having your face so close to his anus and back end, or you can put him on his hands and knees and you work your body up under him and place your mouth where that your vagina would normally be. I call this one a “double decker doggy” since you are both on your hands and knees – but you are up under him facing the opposite direction. Most of the work is on the woman, but it makes for a ‘different’ blow job experience for the man. It is less visual than some of the other oral sex positions but ranked up there with the men surveyed who have tried it!

Him Sitting With His Knees Up

As he is sitting in the middle of the bed with his legs bent – your head is between his legs and your backside is up in the air. Place a large mirror off the bed so that he has a full view of you naked and can look down to see your head between his legs and so that he can see the visual of your naked backside. Arch your back and move as you are giving him a blowjob so that he enjoys the visual stimulation of watching your body move in front of him and in the mirror.

Lying On Your Back

This one is a little tricky, but if situated well, you are at a prime angle for deep throating. Lie on a bed with your head at the edge of the bed (this is important – other flat surfaces won’t do because you’ll need to be raised up a couple feet). Your partner will get on his feet or knees (depending on how far off the ground your bed is) and guide his penis into your mouth.

To successfully do this, you will need to hang your head off the edge of the bed just enough so that your mouth is level with your partner’s penis. In this position though, you will need to utilize that signal in case your partner begins thrusting too hard and you cannot breathe. If done properly, however, this one can be a lot of fun!

This also gives him free reign with his hands so that he can play with your breasts as well.

A great trick is if you are willing to swallow, it to have a glass of warm water on the nightstand. When he is close to ejaculating, have him tap your shoulder, quickly fill your mouth with the warm water and lie back down – the sensation of him ejaculating into your mouth filled with warm fluid and you swallowing it down is something he won’t forget.