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Keep Your Relationship New And Exciting By Expanding Her Sexual Repertoire

Relationship advice can help keep you from falling into boredom. Make your relationship stay fresh by always introducing new elements into your sex life. Your partner has her sexual repertoire – her own skill set and techniques. And women stand on different grounds, based on their erotic offerings. One may give great head but have lame hands. Another may give out-of-this-world sensual massages but be a terrible reverse-rider.

Now, imagine showing a woman the ropes and honing her sexual game. Imagine showing her tricks and positions she’s never done before – bringing her pleasure and excitement she never knew existed. Imagine being the breath of fresh air in her life, opening her eyes to possibilities and making her think, “This guy is something else.” Imagine giving her something that her other relationships have never offered.

The fact of the matter is, your partner is bored out of her wits everyday. Her days are caged in routines revolving around work (or home).

A typical Monday could drone like this:

Wake-up-early-in-the-morning. Have coffee. Drive to work. Answer stupid emails. Have lunch at 12. Meetings in the afternoon. Dinner in front of the TV. Take half a sleeping pill. Dream of a 2 week paid vacation that will never be. Wake up early in the morning. Have coffee. Drive to work, etc.

For many women, sex remains to be the only avenue to unload the stress of a horrendous work week. Unfortunately, these same women become even more deadened as sex further deteriorates their already ho-hum existence – courtesy of lovers boring as hell.

Take pride in your relationship with her. Be the man who teaches her how to please a man. You need to bring something to the table and not simply take from it.

1. Constantly Surprise Her

I don’t mean paying top dollar for anything – that’s just using your money to do the thinking for you. Use your imagination. It doesn’t even need to be elaborate or labored. In fact, the simpler the better – always think simple and little.

2. Teach Her New Positions

Suggest new sex positions that come to mind throughout the day. Tell her about new sex roles you’ve concocted or this month’s codenames for erotic regions or this month’s genre for booty music.

3. Make Sex Exciting

Whisper naughty remarks while in front of her friends or at the ATM line. Tell her how you’ll blindfold her later and have your way with her. Tell her about your plans of inducting her into the Mile-High Club – right there on her first class seat!

And don’t just tell, do it.

Your partner will gladly take the position of student when she knows she’s in good hands. Be her teacher, her guru and lead the way. Give her the joy of just being there for the ride. Make time spent with you a journey of discovery and she’ll conclude she’s better off with you around.

Reality Check

How can you possibly do these things when you yourself are mentally bankrupt?

When you’ve got nothing, no ideas of your own, how can you possibly add color to her experience? When you yourself are bored to death with your own routines, how can you lead the way? You don’t know where the freakin way is!

If I were you, I wouldn’t rely on the size of my penis and start really thinking how to make the sex more exciting. You’re the man, she will look to you for leadership and dominance.

Unlock This Secret To Giving Women Powerful, Earth-Shaking Orgasms!

By lloydlester

A female orgasm can be a bit of a mystery to most guys. Picture this. You are making love with your beloved girlfriend or wife. She appears to be enjoying the moment. Just as you think she’s about to reach the big orgasm, she pulls away and asks you to stop, saying that it is too intense for her. Well, for a guy who prides himself as being a great lover, this can be one of the most frustrating things that could happen during sex. Does this sound familiar? Fret not!

The Truth About A Female Orgasm

Guess what? Statistics have shown that one in seven women never had the good fortune of experiencing an orgasm during sex. The fact that your girl even comes close to one, means that you can actually bring her over the edge, if you know this simple binding principle in any sexual relationship – trust. This means she trusts both herself and you.

Achieving an orgasm while having sex can be fulfilling, but it can also be a scary experience for any woman. Sounds strange? It is but this is a very real fear in a woman. The intensity of the sensations that she is about to experience can make any woman “chicken out” at the last moment. It is like pulling out at the last moment when you are just about to do a bungee jump.

The Element Of Trust Is What’s Going To Push Her Over The Edge

You cannot just rely or learn a new technique to get her to orgasm. You have to let her trust you enough to make her totally surrender and release all her hang ups and inhibitions, before she is ready to let herself go.

So how do you give her that element of trust? Simple. Give her the confidence that you know what you are doing, and that you are doing all you can to give her the most powerful sexual experience any woman could have. Ask her to close her eyes, lean back and relax. Continue talking to her during lovemaking, even in the throes of passion so that she knows you have her emotional well-being at heart.

Once she knows there is NO judgment on her and that you are giving her the emotional space to go crazy and let it all out, she will be ready to take the plunge with full gratitude! This is the key to giving her a powerful female orgasm on the spot that will rock her world!

What You’re Doing Wrong In Bed (And How To Fix It)

By loveandsex

Foreplay is an essential, but no-one is asking you for perfection, honey. This isn’t about being a Casanova or a foreplay aficionado – though neither hurts, that’s for sure! No, what we’re talking about right now is giving your wife what she really wants when she’s at her most vulnerable and receptive, open and honest.

Fear

According to husband and wife team Kim Catrall and Mark Levinson in their book “Satisfaction: The Art of Female Orgasm,” which addresses the many issues that face the modern couple working toward a female orgasm, fear is a primary source of recurring anxiety and emotional stress in a lover’s life. I was terrified to tell my husband that I wasn’t satisfied with our sex life, scared that I would hurt him or cause the kind of anger and resentment that ultimately. This kind of anxiety breeds resentment and serious stress, both of which are the opposite of sexy.

Discontent

Open, honest communication is the bedrock upon the foundation of a happy relationship. Your partner will have good reason to be afraid to talk to you about their sexual experiences. We don’t exactly have the best reputation for effective communication. Dr. DeAngelis identifies ten archetypes describing rote male reactions to talking about sex that make women cringe, especially when it comes to talking about sex.

1. Mystery Men are vague.
2. Slippery Men avoid discussion.
3. Invisible Men withdraw and hold back.
4. Secret Men can’t express their own needs and desires.
5. Volcanic Men bottle up their feelings until they explode.
6. Vanishing Men storm out in the middle of discussions.
7. Commando Men bark orders and make demands.
8. Sarcastic Men make jokes and poke fun at women’s feelings.
9. Chicken Men lie and tell stories to avoid the hard talks.
10. Reactive Men always expect the worse and react accordingly.

Each of these responses to our genuine concerns about desire and satisfaction can cause deep emotional wounds that will fester and poison relationships without help. When it comes to talking about what we want in bed, if you aren’t willing
to listen, you’ll never learn.

Judgment

During my many years of study and exploration, I learned that becoming orgasmic really was my responsibility. Every woman should take the opportunity to learn her own body – but you need to be open to listening to and learning from her discovery.

If you respond to your wife giving you suggestions or discussing her worries with an attitude of blame, how can you expect her to want to improve her sexual experience with you? The pressure to perform when I knew how hurt or angry my husband
would be if he didn’t feel like he had “done his job” is what led me to begin faking it in the first place.

If you really want to know what your wife is feeling in bed, you need to learn how to tell exactly how she’s doing, take the pressure off her, and give her the chance to be open and honest about her experience. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship and an embodied sexual experience.

Divorce

Sex is rarely cited as a woman’s reason for divorce – only about 5% of female divorcees reported this as the cause (compared to 17% of divorced men). But the emotional effects of fear, discontent and judgment from a sexless or orgasm-free
marriage certainly contribute to the 27% of divorced couples with “emotional problems” and 22% who had extramarital affairs.19

There was a time in my marriage where I was at the end of my rope. I considered cheating and even thought about how awful a divorce would be if things came to that. I realized that the hard work it would take to learn and teach my husband about sexual fulfillment was a better choice than the easy route of finding someone else to give me a hand with the sex education. Put simply, my husband got lucky!

2 Easy Ways To Control Your Orgasm!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation is one of the most embarrassing problems that can happen in the bedroom. It can sneak up on you when you become extremely aroused, and any slight movement or extra friction on the penis can bring you to the point of no return. Very often, ejaculation occurs within one minute of sexual intercourse, and this ill-timed event can frustrate both you and your partner.

But the simple truth is also that PE can be permanently reversed. Any man can learn how to re-train his ejaculatory reflexes and keep an impending climax at bay until he or his partner is ready for it. Here are two simple tips that will add minutes to sex and amp up your lovemaking.

1. Learn The Sensations That Precede An Orgasm

Unlike women, men are far more easily aroused during sex. Thus to control your ejaculation, you first have to learn to recognize the sensations that come immediately before an orgasm, as well as associate the sensations while you are climbing up the arousal curve. This will help you become aware of the amount of stimulation your penis can take before you come to a climax. Such “cognitive feedback” will enable you to modulate your actions and movements during sex so that you will stay clear of the “point of no return” until you are ready.

2. Establish Physical Control To Delay The Orgasm

Start things SLOWLY. Adopt a gradual, sensuous build-up to sex. Unlike men, women take FAR longer to warm up to your advances, so take your time to arouse her mind and body first. She will love your undivided attention… plus, it also helps buy you more time in bed!

Pay close attention to the things that cause you an early ejaculation. For instance, if a certain sex positions speeds up your climax, switch things up when you feel your arousal climbing. (Hint: for most men, the missionary position is the culprit of quick-fire sex). Do you get aroused too fast during foreplay? If so, ask your partner to avoid making excessive contact with your genitals.

Try adopting a different thrusting method during intercourse. Instead of penetrating deeply, alternate between shallow and deep penetrations. This helps you in two ways. Shallow penetrations, coupled with gyrating hip movements, will give your woman greater clitoral stimulation and gets her aroused faster. On the other hand, deeper thrusts create less friction on your penis glans and helps you last longer!

Remember, premature ejaculation is NOT permanent. By understanding your own sexual arousal patterns and making simple changes to the way you have sex, PE will soon become a long-forgotten past!

Why Foreplay And Preparation Before Anal Sex Is Essential

By kendallashley

Anal sex can be one of the kinkiest experiences for any couple to take. However, it can also be one of the messiest if not handled properly. Preparing for this kind of sex is a key ingredient to having a great time. If you have ever had a bad experience with anal sex then you know just how wrong everything can go. Being prepared for every aspect of the action will leave little room for surprises. Here is a prep guide to help you out.

Change The Sheets Beforehand

Darker sheets are recommended for this kind of sex sex. Lighter sheets are more likely to show stains. When you change out the sheets for a darker set, you are less likely to see any stains that might occur during the act. Choose blue, black or a dark green for best results. Sex has a way of getting passionate quickly and the last thing that you want is for her to look down and see a stain while in mid thrust. Change the sheets before you get started to add to the spontaneity and the aesthetics of the occasion.

Consider Using An Enema First

Using an enema first is a necessity for most couples. There are a lot of couples that do not do this, but most will. Depending on your partner’s diet and regular bowel movements, she will need to use an enema herself beforehand in order to remove the majority of fecal matter from her anal cavity. Some women even think that this feels good. Make sure that she is not over-rinsing her anus. This can lead to dryness inside her and cause micro-abrasions during sex. These micro-abrasions can lead to the passing of STD’s or bacterial infections.

Engage In Plenty Of Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for anal sex. Make sure that you’re not just shoving your penis into her anus before she’s ready. Start out with normal foreplay. Kiss her, suck on her breasts and give her oral before you even think about doing anything to her anally. Use your own spit on your finger and then ease it into her anus. This will get her muscles prepared for your penis. Make sure that she is relaxed during foreplay. It’s best to use a sex toy on her anus before you use your penis. Using a small vibrator or a dildo on her will allow her to relax the muscles and get accustomed to the size.

Use Lots Of Lube

The anus does not produce it’s own lubricant. This is much different than the vagina. In order to make your anal sex more pleasurable and less painful, you need to use a lot of lube. Get a bottle specifically for anal sex and apply it to your anus. Using lube on a sex toy before you enter her with your penis is the best way to get her accommodated to the size that will be inside her. This will also apply the lube to her anal cavity.

Use Condoms, Even If You’re Monogamous

Always, always, always use a condom for anal. There are two reasons for this. First of all, a condom is going to have less resistance inside her. It will react with the lube to make the experience much more enjoyable for her. Secondly, a condom will cut down on the chance of spreading diseases and bacteria. Even if you are in a committed relationship, the spread of bacteria can easily be transferred from her anus to your penis. More than likely, you’re going to want to penetrate her vagina during your session. Instead of having to wipe off your penis with a disinfectant, you can simply take the condom off.

Clean Your Sex Toys Well

After you have had anal sex, it’s imperative that you clean all of the toys that were used anally. The toys can house diseases and bacteria, so keeping the toys clean is essential to keeping you and your partner safe during anal sex. A lot of porn stars recommend running your dildos and vibrators through the dishwasher to kill off any bacteria. This will not work on some materials like Cyberskin. Glass and silicone dildos and vibrators can go through a dishwasher without incident. You can also buy cleaner to disinfect your toys afterward, however, antibacterial soaps work just as well.

Anal sex is a great way to keep you and your partner on your toes sexually. But you must stay safe and comfortable throughout. Anal sex is fun, but it requires a little preparation. Don’t be caught off guard. Stains and smells can easily ruin the session and anal sex for life. Following these guidelines will help you get through the anal experience with grace and poise.