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Stripper Seduction: The Key To Dating A Stripper

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Stripper girls are hard to date – but YOU can with these easy to use tips. Follow these guidelines and before you know it you’ll be going out with a stripper!

I’m not guaranteeing that you’ll get laid in the club. But I’ve learned that anything is possible when the mood is right. I’ve had many spur-of-the-moment makeout sessions with girls that I meet in nightclubs; and I do the same in strip clubs all the time.

It’s Not All About The Money

Don’t listen to the player-haters who say that strippers are ONLY about getting your money, and that trying to bang them is pointless. And don’t listen to the strippers, either! Whenever I post articles on the Internet about how to bang strippers, or share my stories in online forums, there are always strippers who respond scornfully: “Don’t listen to this ‘Dean Cortez’ jerk! We dancers are only in the club to do our jobs, not to be picked up! We deserve respect! None of this ‘pickup’ stuff works!”

Yet most strippers met their boyfriends (or the guy they’re currently having sex with) at their job. It’s the truth, and it makes sense. If they’re spending every night interacting with guys in a hard-partying environment, it’s only natural for them to feel attracted towards certain guys and want to hang out with them outside of their work. Why would they pass up the opportunity to land a cool boyfriend, or have sex with a guy they really like, just because they met him “at work?”

They Don’t Have Sex With “Customers”

When strippers say this, what they really mean is that they don’t have sex with customers. This is because going on a date with a customer, who spent a bunch of money on her at the club, sounds an awful lot like prostitution. These girls don’t want to think of themselves as hookers (unless they are hookers, which some are – but most are not). So the key is to re-frame yourself in the club so that she does not view you as a customer, and you aren’t treating her like a stripper. Then she’ll forget those concerns.

Women Are Women

The bottom line is, women are women. Most strippers aren’t as cunning and “untouchable” as you might think they are. When you’ve got tight game and understand the dynamics of her work environment, it doesn’t matter whether she works in the titty bar down the road or behind the cosmetics counter at the mall.

All women are open to being charmed and seduced by a guy with GAME.

Once you’ve mastered these moves, your local strip clubs can become like singles bars—but even better. You’ll no longer be hanging out at strip clubs just to blow your hard-earned cash, only to go home and masturbate at the end of the night.

You’ll be going to the strip clubs with a singular goal in mind: to hook up, close deals, and make it happen. These vixens might be professional manipulators of the male ego, capable of milking chumps out of their kid’s college fund, but even the hottest dancer can be putty in the hands of a true player.

Don’t Use The Word “Stripper”

I might refer to these chicks as “strippers,” but you should never use this term when you are conversing with one. Call them “dancers,” and refer to their profession as “dancing.” Using the term “strippers” will usually offend them. This remains true even if they use the word “strippers.” You never should.

I know, it’s sort of silly to have to use a respectful term for an occupation that involves grinding on the crotches of strange men, but showing respect and understanding for her job is one of the keys to “bonding” with these girls and building their attraction.

Oral Sex – 11 Hot Spots Most Girls Look Over (And Why YOU Shouldn’t!)

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Oral sex is incredible for a guy – but you can make it even more amazing by spending time on each of these sensitive areas before getting down to business.

Yes, there are more erogenous zones than just what lies between your man’s legs. While many of these spots are accessed and pleasured during foreplay, they are often forgotten once a woman’s concentration has moved down south. After learning more about the many male erogenous zones and sensitive spots, you can decide what works best on your partner and whether you should do it before, during or after oral sex.

The Head And Scalp

The scalp can be very sensitive to the touch and a great scalp massage before oral sex can send tingles down your partner’s spine and in between his legs. You can also lightly pull on your partner’s hair during fellatio if this is a sensation that he enjoys. Run your fingers through his hair ~ regardless how much he HAS or HAS NOT!

His Face

Just as a woman wants every part of her face explored and appreciated. Kissing their eyelids, temples, nose, forehead and cheeks should all be savored, not just their lips. Spend some time enjoying their stubble and the variance of their rugged male skin against your soft, supple womanly dermis.

His Ears

Most women probably know that the ears are an excellent erogenous zone in men. Many men get excited just at the thought of having their ears sucked, licked and lightly breathed on. Use this time to lightly moan into his ear to let him know how excited you are about the upcoming fellatio. This kind of foreplay shouldn’t be overlooked.

Before you “go down south”, set the stage for what you intend to do once you get down there. Talk to him and tell him what you plan to do, then ask him, “how does that sound?” He may add to it, which helps you know just want he dreams about you doing to him.

The Neck

Not surprisingly, the nape of the neck (as well as the upper neck, near the earlobes) is a very sensitive place on a guy. You can use light pressure, such as light sucking, licking and nibbling or you can use a slightly rougher technique such as more forceful sucking or biting. It all depends on your man’s mood and what he likes! Try a few different sensations in his neck area and gauge his response – he’ll give you physical cues to let you know that he likes something.

That doesn’t just apply to his neck area though – it can apply to anywhere! Another area to not ignore is their collar bone. The skin is thinner in that area that on the rest of their chest and very sensitive.

The Chest And Nipples

It is fairly well known that men’s nipples are not quite as sensitive as women’s nipples are, simply because there are more sensitive nerve endings (pleasurable and otherwise) in a woman’s nipple. That does not mean, however, that men do not enjoy having their nipples licked, sucked and nibbled before and during an oral sex session (most men do).

If your partner does like to have his nipples licked and sucked (or lightly pinched and rubbed, for that matter), do so during fellatio. You can certainly use this as a move to warm him up before oral sex or during to enhance the sensations of your mouth on his penis. Pulling or tugging on chest hair is a big turn on for some hairy chested fellas.

His Stomach

The lower tummy (near the groin area) is perhaps one of the most sensitive places (other than the penis and surrounding structures) on a man. You will definitely want to “cross this bridge” before you begin oral sex – it will make him crazy with desire! The most sensitive and responsive site is right where the thigh joins the stomach and a little bit above. If your man is really ripped, these places will be even more defined. It is possible that this area may not be as sensitive in a heavyset man, however, you can try licking and nibbling in this area before the blowjob to see if your man gives you a positive response. If he does like it, do use it sparingly.

A few nibbles here and there are just enough to get him going. If you overdo it, the area will get a bit numb and he won’t be as giddy about being touched and licked there. Some men are ultra ticklish, so caressing, not tiny glazes should be used. If you do accidently tickle him, all is not lost. Just remember and remind him that 90% of the time, tickle wars end in sex!

His Inner Thighs

A man’s inner thighs are often a neglected erogenous zone as not many women target them. Here, most men will enjoy some massaging, stroking, licking, and even some gentle nibbling. Pay some special attention to the area where his legs join the trunk of his body. It’s a real hot ticket button for many men – just be sure to use enough pressure that you don’t turn him into a “tickle me Elmo” doll and he loses his erection from all the giggling.

His Toes And Fingers

Okay, maybe not so much toes unless your partner happens to have a foot fetish (and some do). Fingers, however, can entice your man beyond his wildest dreams if caressed correctly. It is not so much the physical sensation here; it is more the visual and the imagination. Huh? Do to your man’s finger (index or middle) what you plan on doing to his penis in just a few short minutes. He will get to see your mouth and tongue action up-close and begin to imagine what it’s going to feel like when it’s on his penis.

Don’t spend too long doing this, however, because as we said – the fingers are not sensitive in and of themselves. If done for too long, he may begin to get bored with it because let’s face it – there’s only so much you can do to a finger! If done just enough, however, you can get his brain in gear for what’s to come.

The Perineum

Also referred to as the “male g-spot“, this is the ridged area of skin between the testicles and the anus. It is a very sensual area – one that when stimulated, creates sensations that most men find irresistible. This area is closely linked to the prostate gland, which is why it is so intensely pleasurable when touched. Some men love for you to run your tongue from the backside of their testicles all over this ridge and report that it’s their favorite “point of no return” when impassioned.

The Butt Cheeks

The buttocks are a definite fun spot to play with! Kiss them, rub them, shake them, smack them, tickle them, squeeze them and pull them into you with both hands while you are giving oral. It’s great to have your hands on both of them, especially if he’s in standing, so you can control the speed and also the depth. Spanking enthusiasts tout the pleasures of the backside, insisting that a good spanking before oral sex can be the perfect foreplay for your man, if he’s into it.

The Anus/Rectum

This area is a very arousing spot for a lot of people. There are many nerve endings located just at the opening of the anus making it a very sensitive and pleasurable place to touch. Try using fingers or a small, well lubricated sex toy, since any dry entry can cause pain, which is the exact opposite reaction you’re looking for. Even stroking gently around the edge while giving oral to your man is sometimes enough to push them straight over the edge.

Of course, every man is different. Your partner may have special spots (other than his penis) that he enjoys having licked, sucked, caressed, fondled, bitten, nibbled or pinched before or during oral sex. Just like with a woman and cunnilingus, you have to get a man ready and warmed up before you begin oral sex.

4 Sex Toys For More Adventurous Couples

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Sex toys range from tame to totally crazy – and everything in between. If you and your partner want to visit the wild side, these sex toys are a must have!a

The Accomodator Dual Penetrator

This little dildo is actually worn by the man during sex. It functions as a cock ring too, because one of the “straps” slides around the man’s shaft to hold the dildo in place. The second “strap” wraps around the scrotum, holding the dildo in place just below a man’s actual penis.

What is incredible about this sex toy is that it’s one of the first of it’s kind. Sure, a guy can use a dildo or a vibrator on his girl, but almost never while he is penetrating her himself. This toy changes all of that – for the first time, a man can have double penetration with his girl with only him! He can enjoy the feeling of doing her in both holes at once! A woman can also enjoy the feeling of double penetration without having to use something on herself and without having to engage in a threesome.

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Waterproof Prostate Massager

Many women love giving their men pleasure. Often, the greatest pleasure a woman can give her partner is with a blowjob. Give a man a killer blowjob and you’ll leave him weak in the knees! For some fellas, a blowjob is even better than actual sex. But what if a woman could intensify the orgasm she gives a guy, even on TOP of her best oral sex skills?

She can, if she massages his prostate at the same time. The prostate gland is often referred to as a man’s “g-spot,” and when stimulated, it can give a guy the most powerful, load shooting orgasms he’s ever had in his life. Try using a prostate massager next time you give your lover a blowjob. Yes, you have to put it up his bum, but the title of the article does say that these sex toys are for kinkier partners. Make sure you’re using plenty of lube and that you get him fully aroused. In fact, start with your finger. It never hurts to “start small” and work your way up.

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The Rhino

The Rhino is a penis extension that has lots of other uses also. Place it over your penis for a much longer, thicker cock (use the sizing core if your penis is too short), or use it as a masturbation sleeve, a dildo all by itself or even a vibrator sleeve! While it’s primary use is the best, this thing is pretty versatile if you want to use your imagination.

The thing that makes The Rhino such a “kinky” toy for partners is that it’s really, really huge! It’s extremely long (about 8″) and very thick. This makes it an excellent sex toy to use if you’re role playing different fantasies or if you and your partner want to experiment with a really huge schlong!

Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers

These vibrating nipple clamps were made with smaller nippled women in mind, so make sure you’re aware of what you’re getting (and what you’re packing in your bra) before you go making a purchase. However, if you do have small nipples (or your partner does) and you want to experiment with some extreme nipple action, these are the ones you want to get.

The clamps are comfortable if you’re small enough and can be worn by both men and women. They tiny vibrating bullets actually cause the clamps to heat up somewhat, so they’re even more fun once you get going. You can also use them as clitoris or labia clamps, which can actually feel better than using them on the nipples. The vibrations and heat are intense, so these really are for kinkier lovers! Use them during sex with your lover or during masturbation for a totally new, orgasmic experience.

Read the full review for the Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers here!

No matter what sex toys you choose for your bedroom fun, how kinky and wild you get all depends on your attitude. Sex toys and other props can help, but you can also have tons of naughty fun without a single prop – just use your creativity!

Last Longer In Bed And Really Rock Your Girl’s World!

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Last longer in bed and WOW your lover with your newfound sexual skills! When you last longer in bed, BOTH of you benefit!

Is premature ejaculation giving you plenty to worry about in the bedroom? Do you find yourself struggling with confidence and self esteem issues? Are you in a constant state of feeling inadequate with your performance in bed? If you are, then you really should stop, because things may not be as bad as you think. Why? Let’s find out below!

How Long Is Long Enough?

This is one question that practically every man wants to know. They want to know if they are good enough for their female partners. This is understandable. After all, the quality of a couple’s sex life is very often a reflection of the quality of the relationship.

According to sex surveys done over the last decade, 75 percent of men want to know how to last longer in bed. That is a huge figure! But here’s a simple truth – you only need to last as long as her! Many men think (and quite wrongly too!) that they need to go on for hours during sex. Nothing is further from the truth. Most women get an orgasm within 15 minutes, so that is the amount of time you should aim for.

Want to know an even better truth? That “15 minutes” can be shortened significantly – if you learn to give her proper stimulation BEFORE you start intercourse.

Find out what SHE likes in bed. Some women prefer a decent amount of foreplay; others crave oral sex; yet others love a little teasing, dirty talk before sex. Give her what she likes first, and you will have a far easier time managing your endurance in bed.

Ejaculating Early Is No Big Deal, Unless You Choose To Let It Become One!

The next time you climax early, tell her it’s because she is so HOT and turns you on so much. Believe me… women are also very conscious about how they “perform” in bed. So if you “blame” her for your early ejaculation problem, she will actually begin to think that she is really attractive. That will take the pressure off you to perform and help you last longer! But you better buck up the next time you make out with her!

Another great way and practical way to improve your sexual stamina is to train and condition the ejaculatory muscles, also known as the pubococcygeus muscle (or PC). Specific exercises such as Kegel and elevation techniques are proven ways to strengthen and bolster these muscles to give you great control and endurance and amazing sex to boot!

Dirty Talk: What To Say & What Not To

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Dirty talk isn’t always easy to engage in. You may be wondering if what comes out of your mouth is okay. Here are dirty talk phrases to avoid – and ones to use.

Never, Ever Make Comparisons

It’s best to never make comparisons during dirty talk. Though you may think your partner would be turned on to hear “You are the best lover I’ve ever had”, or “You give a blowjob like no one I have ever known before!” The only part they might take from that little seemingly harmless statement is to start wondering “Wow, I wonder just how many partners he or she HAS had” or “I wonder how many people HAVE tried that move on him (or her.)”

This can cause the mate hearing these words to have very real feelings of uneasiness and then have them obsessing over every thing from “WHO” the other partner(s) were, “WHAT” you did with them sexually, what you didn’t do with them and just how you really stacked up in their mind against what they view as “the competition.”

No one likes to be compared to someone else when it comes to very intimate sex acts with a spouse. It is regardless of whether it was a long time ago or about a former lover from a now dissolved marriage. You don’t want what should be “fun” dirty talk to turn into something which could ultimately be used to fuel jealousy or cause feelings of inadequacies in the person you are with.

You Don’t Have To Use Dirty Talk All The Time

Once you begin using dirty talk on a regular basis, realize that it doesn’t need to happen every time you have a sexual experience. There are encounters where looks, touches and emotions allow the silence to be perfect. As a matter of fact, If you feel it’s one of those “moments” simply smile, press your fingertips to your lover’s lips and say a sweet “Shhhh… baby I just want to hear us breathing in each other tonight.”

Jumping In, Feet First

The hardest part about dirty talk may be the first step to getting started. Take the initiative and the leading role. Just remember to start out your attempt as a fun filled adventure. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be lighthearted when you bring up your desire to add dirty talk to your relationship and simply look for a willing spirit from your partner.

You may be wondering to yourself, just how do I broach the topic? Try telling your partner, “Have I told you just how much you turn me on?” Chances are they won’t be expecting you to tell them that out of the blue. You didn’t say anything over the top, but it will require your mate to answer back. Once they have responded, tell them that you think you’d really like to try a little playful dialogue in the bedroom during foreplay so that you have another outlet for letting them know just what it is about them that really does it for you. And, as easy as that, the door to dirty talk has just been opened.