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Premature Ejaculation – Stop It By NOT Doing These 2 Things!

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Premature ejaculation can equal no sex life for you. Steer clear of these two problems and say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

Did you know that being able to prevent premature ejaculation comes down to avoiding a few simple mistakes? Soon you’ll know exactly what those mistakes are so you never have to make them again!

Problem #1 – Trying To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

If there’s a sure-fire way to not last long in bed then it’s trying to have sex like a porn star. Many men learn everything they know about sex either through porn or from friends who learned from porn.

The bottom line is, since sex is such a taboo subject no one ever takes the time to teach young men the best ways to have sex and how to last long in bed. So what us men do when we’re young (myself included) is we look to the only source we know to learn from – which is porn.

Unfortunately, porn is VERY much unlike the real thing.

There’s no doubt you know this already, but spending our time watching porn has a deep UNCONSCIOUS influence on our ideas of sex that we can struggle to see ourselves. For starters have you ever stopped to think about the fact that porn is EDITED?

Remember, the directors want the porn to run as seamlessly as possible and be as entertaining as possible, which means if the male actor needs to take 5 minutes out to stop him from reaching orgasm early, then they’ll let him do that and just cut those 5 minutes out during production.

Did it ever cross your mind that stuff like this could actually happen?

There are a ton of other things that are totally misleading about porn that I won’t go into here, but you get the idea. Don’t use porn as a sex guide for lasting longer, because the men involved can take a break whenever they want and they won’t show you if they’re using any special techniques for lasting longer.

Problem #2 – Not Giving Her A Great Orgasm (Or Two Or Three) First

One way to prevent premature ejaculation is to reduce the pressure to perform.

Sometimes when it comes to sex we feel so much pressure to satisfy the woman we’re with that we get incredibly nervous and anxious about sex. Unfortunately, this angst and nervousness only ENCOURAGES premature ejaculation and makes it MORE likely to happen.

So how can you take this pressure off and reduce nerves? A really simple way to help reduce your nervousness is to take the time during foreplay to really satisfy your woman and get her to orgasm.

After you know you’ve already deeply satisfied her a LOT of the pressure is taken off of you to perform, because if you do orgasm early it won’t matter half as much if she’s already had an orgasm. And with this pressure off you’ll find it’s actually a lot easier to last longer, because the anxiety to perform won’t be there.

Just avoiding a few simple mistakes like these when it comes to sex is critical to prevent premature ejaculation, because no matter what you do to try and last longer, if you keep making a few critical mistakes you’ll never be able to last longer in bed.

Oral Sex: Female Erogenous Zones 101

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Oral sex is definitely something you want to include in your sex routine if you want your girl to have an orgasm. Don’t skip these hot spots though!

Don’t Speed Through The Kissing!

Remember making out as a teenager or college student? Remember how you’d spend so much time kissing your partner, kissing her neck and (possibly) touching her breasts through her shirt? You spent so much time on the non-sexual parts because, well, you weren’t allowed to touch down there yet. Now that we’re older and we are allowed to touch “down there,” we always cut to the chase.

If you want to gear your partner up for an extra-special and pleasurable session of oral sex, start by kissing her like you were both teenagers again. You can only touch “down there” if she lets you! Like we said before, depending on the occasion, you can speed this up a bit if you or your partner are not inclined to spend an hour making out, but at least give her a little bit to get her warmed up.

How To Kiss The Right Way

Kiss her, but don’t kiss her while thinking about what body part you’re going to lick next in four seconds. Kiss her while thinking about kissing her. Kiss her as though you were kissing her vulva and give her a preview of what she will feel tonight. Let her imagine those lips on her vulva – deep kissing like this will help you both get into the right frame of mind. Remember not to be too sloppy or too uptight. A little tongue will be nice, but let your lips do all the work.

Kiss Your Girl’s Neck

Not surprisingly, the neck is a very erogenous zone. Be careful not to kiss her too lightly or she will get tickled, but perhaps on this night, a little tickling might be nice. Also remember not to get too rough with her. Find a nice balance in between and stay for a few minutes. While in the neck area, you can also drift up to the earlobe and whisper to her how excited you are about what’s to come, or how tonight is just for her.

Put Your Hands And Mouth On Your Lover’s Breasts

This is most men’s favorite part, but be careful not to dive right onto the nipples – it can be almost as detrimental as going straight for the clitoris. If she is wearing her shirt still, make an effort to caress her lightly with both your hands and mouth through her blouse. She will feel the light touch and become aroused, but she will not be shocked with the more intense touch that will come when her blouse has been taken off. Speaking of, make a big deal about taking off her blouse. Do it slowly and deliberately. Take off her bra in the same manner, and give her the attention you would give her if you were seeing her naked breasts for the first time.

When caressing her with your hands, make sure not to pinch her nipples too hard – you can roll them between your thumb and forefinger like you would roll a cigarette, but don’t press down or pinch. When beginning to lick the breasts, again, don’t go directly for the nipple. Lick all around her breasts for several minutes, working your way down. Once your mouth is on the nipple, you can swirl your tongue around it like you were licking an ice cream cone. This feels divine!

Another technique is to flick the nipple with your tongue. Spend lots of time (unless your partner is nudging you downwards!) caressing and licking her breasts and nipples – studies show that there is a direct link between the breasts and the clitoris. Also, once you do begin cunnilingus, don’t forget about her breasts! Many women enjoy their nipples being caressed while their vulva is being licked.

Don’t Miss The Stomach/Belly Button

This can be a very erogenous zone, but it usually is not. Light kisses work best here, because there needs to be a transition between the top half of the body and the lower half. Extreme licking in this area may turn a woman off, but feel free to use your tongue a little bit – but again, light kisses work best in the stomach area. Don’t stay too long in this zone because it is not directly giving her pleasure. Waiting too long in between the pleasurable zone of her breasts and the actual cunnilingus may cause her to become frustrated.

Kiss Her Inner Thighs

This is a good place to go before jumping right into the vulva. If your partner is self conscious about her inner thighs, don’t spend long here, but you want her to feel the warm wetness of your mouth and your heated breath before putting your lips on her vulva. This will get her anticipating your tongue even more! Be careful of ticklish thighs, however, and avoid nibbling if your partner is ticklish. If she likes it, however, nibble away!

If you want to tease her even more, alternate between licking her vulva a little bit and staying in between her inner thighs. Again, be aware that too long in between pleasurable activities (or in this case, too long before finally giving her vulva pleasure) may frustrate her and turn her off. If you pay attention to her body language, you will know when she is ready for you to begin cunnilingus.

Sex Tips: 4 Lovemaking Mistakes You MUST Avoid!

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Sex tips will guide you in the right direction, but you must also know what to steer clear of. Don’t make these blunders if you want your lover to have orgasms!

Do you want to give your woman an amazing time in bed and more fulfilling orgasms? I am sure you do. Unfortunately many men, in their eagerness to improve their sex lives, ironically make the sexual experience less than satisfactory. Let us take a quick look at 4 common mistakes many guys make in the bedroom. Are you making any of these?

Trying To Get Your Partner To Have Sex When She’s Not Ready

Guys, if your woman is not in the mood to make love, she is just not in the mood, no matter what you do. Women are not like men who can get turned on visually. If she is not emotionally connected at that moment, there is always a better time! But on the other hand, if she’s in the mood for some sensuous lovemaking, you can very easily amp up her erotic temperatures and get her going really fast. Hint: Try deep passionate kissing with her. At the same time, gently stroke the back of her neck. This will drive her wild in no time.

Fear Of Doing New Things

Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to try something new, but held back because of what your woman may think? If so, it is time to break out of that rut. Why? Well, because there is a great chance that she wants to try something new, something sensual too. But like you, she is uncomfortable to bring this up. So don’t let these thoughts hold you back. Get creative, get bold and spice things up a notch in the bedroom!

Skipping Foreplay

Sex is not meant to go from start to finish in under two minutes. Well, that is typically how fast the average man comes to an orgasm during sex. What does this mean for the lady? She will be totally unsatisfied, to say the least! If you want her to enjoy sex as much as you do, take your time and make sure she is adequately aroused first. If you can focus some time on foreplay, you will actually intensity her orgasms later. Or for that matter, she may very well get one during foreplay itself! So heighten her anticipation first and the both of you will enjoy a far more sizzling time together.

Attempting To Give An Orgasm Through Penetration Alone

Truth? Most women are unable to climax from intercourse alone. So don’t waste your time trying to get her off by penetrating her with vigor. How about learning some oral sex techniques? Most women can climax within 5 minutes of good oral sex. Your woman shouldn’t be any different. Have a go at it!

Sex Tips: The Importance Of Communication

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Sex tips can improve your sex life – here’s how communicating with your lover is one of the best sex tips out there!

Couples who communicate the best tend to have the happiest relationships. Those who can communicate about their sex needs, feelings and desires tend to have the best sex. Silence is a big turnoff for most people.

We want to help you take those thoughts in your head and let them be conveyed to your partner. Women are DYING to know what is going on between his ears while you are buried deep inside of them. Men are DYING to know just what the woman they’re with is thinking while she’s losing herself in the throes of passion.

They say silence is golden? Not in the case of lovemaking!

Most women would love for a man to open up and tell them, in great detail, what it is like for them to view and touch our nude body.

What Women Want To Know From Men

  • How does my skin feels under your touch?
  • How do I smell?
  • Do you like for me to dress up for you?
  • What do you like to see me wearing?
  • Do you want to undress me?
  • Would it excite you for me to do a striptease in front of you?
  • How do I taste?
  • How does it affect you when my body responds to yours a certain way?
  • What the sexiest part of my body?
  • What is it that I am doing to you that turns you on the most?

Women are natural born “pleasers.” If you tell them what you like, they want to provide it and then go one step further by being so good at it, you’ll think they invented the act.

Case in point – once a man has told a woman his favorite food, dessert or drink, it tends to turn up often at the dinner table. If he mentions something that his mother made that he enjoyed, she’s going to find that recipe and be sure that NOW, she is the best at providing him what he likes.

The same goes for sex.

What Men Want To Know From Women

  • Do I really excite you?
  • Do you crave me the way that I crave you?
  • Do you fantasize about me or sex in some way?
  • What do your fantasies involve?
  • Where should I touch you that excites you the most?
  • Are there some other sex positions you want to try?
  • How can I make you moan?
  • What can I do to make you want more of me and to have more sex with me?
  • Was there something I did this time that was better or different that really turned you on?
  • What can I do to get you to sometimes initiate sex?
  • Do I last long enough for you?

How To Communicate What You Like To Your Partner During Sex

Healthy communication starts with an easy phrase or two and lets your mate know that what they are doing is something you are really enjoying. Listen to how they breathe as you are making love and listen to the noises that they are making as you make that first connection. Then introduce dirty talk by simply saying something like:

“Ohhhh, that feels good … right there.”

“Mmmmm, that feels incredible!”

“Your body feels amazing.”

“When you enter me, mmmm, it feels so good I have to catch my breath!”

“Ahhh… let me pull you in deeper.”

“That feels great!”

“Yessssss!”

If you feel it, say it!!!! It’s the easiest way to be genuine and tell each other what feels good, what you like and what you want more of.

Groaning and moaning during sex are just “wordless compliments” and totally hot. Simply put, stating what you LIKE is the first step to getting what you WANT.

Q&A: G-Spot Orgasm: How To Push Her Over The Edge

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A g-spot orgasm can be one of the best she’s ever experienced. Here’s how to tip the scales in your favor and give her an incredible g-spot orgasm, using sex toys, oral sex and different sex positions!

Question: My girlfriend has problems having a g-spot orgasm, she says it’s always been that way. So far we’ve gotten close but just not quite managed to nudge her over the edge. What tips could you give to make it easier for me to give her that extra nudge? She says doesn’t care about it but I really want to help her achieve something and make her feel special.

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Lots Of Warm Up And Foreplay

A woman needs quite a bit of foreplay and warm up time before she’s able to have a g-spot orgasm. First of all, her g-spot is difficult to find if she’s not completely turned on – when she is, the area fills with blood and becomes squishier and easier to locate. Second, vaginal stimulation just isn’t going to feel very good if she’s not turned on first. She won’t be as lubricated (you should have a good lube on hand anyways) and it may feel rough or painful to her instead of pleasurable.

Spend lots of time kissing and touching before you move on to sex, and oral sex is always in style. Cunnilingus rarely fails to get a woman so turned on, she’s ready to BLOW as soon as you penetrate her.

G-Spot Accessible Sex Positions

Some sex positions are better than others when it comes to stimulating the g-spot. Doggy style is a good one, because it allows for much deeper penetration than other sex positions. Woman on top is another good one, because it allows the woman to control everything about the sexual encounter, from the angle of penetration, to the depth of it and the speed of thrusting.

Note your anatomy. Does your penis curve to the right or left a little? Up or down? Or is it rather straight? Many guys have a slight bend in the penis which works incredibly well to stimulate the g-spot during penetration if in the right sex positions. Remember that a woman’s g-spot is located about two inches inside the vagina, on the top wall near her stomach. If your penis bends to the left, for example, you can lie your partner on her right side with her legs pulled in towards her chest. These sex positions allow a man with a bend to the left to use his natural anatomy to stimulate her g-spot! If your penis bends to the right, have your partner lie on her left side.

Keeping your natural anatomy in mind when selecting sex positions is an excellent way to give your partner even more pleasure and g-spot orgasms!

Oral Sex And Fingering

Again, oral sex is a tried and true tool to get a woman hot enough to orgasm. If you combine oral sex and fingering, you can actually very easily give your lover a vaginal orgasm or a blended orgasm. Alternate between licking her clitoris and stimulating her g-spot by using the “come hither” motion with your fingers, and as she gets hotter and closer to climax, switch to licking her clitoris and fingering her g-spot at the same time. Sometimes, a blended orgasm is much, much more powerful than a vaginal or clitoral orgasm alone!

Sex Toys

Just like with oral sex and fingering, you’re not limited to your penis when it comes to giving your lover a g-spot orgasm. You want to use any and all tools at your disposal – whatever works, right? Sex toys are no exception. If you have difficulty giving your partner a g-spot orgasm through penetration alone, try oral sex with fingering or sex toys.

If she has any sex toys of her own, check them out – it will give you a better idea of what she likes (or just ask her). Get a few new toys to play with that feature things she likes. When using them on her, the same principles apply – always give her plenty of foreplay first to get her warmed up! Then start using the sex toys.

Women crave intimacy during sex, so continue to kiss, lick, rub and touch all over her body. Look deeply into her eyes and talk dirty as you use the toys on her to bring her closer to orgasm. She’s not going to like it much if all you’re doing is sitting there and holding the toy on her clitoris, or if you’re pumping the toy in and out of her like you were churning butter. If you have to use sex toys, step up the foreplay, kissing and cuddling so she doesn’t feel a sense of emotional detachment from you.