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Help! My Libido Is Higher Than My Man’s!

Libido can be a drawback for any relationship. When your libido doesn’t match up with your guy’s it’s best not to the problem fester. It’s a growing phenomena that women are wanting and asking for more sex these days. Sometimes, a woman might want it a lot more than her man. Women are making the first moves and sometimes their partners are saying no. What’s a girl to do?

What She Said:

Chat With Your Man

First thing to do is have a chat with your man. We women are emotional and if our guy is turning us down, we take it personally. We think he is cheating, or doesn’t find us attractive. But before you jump to conclusions, you should see if maybe your guy is stressed, or over worked, or maybe he has money issues on his mind, or career problems.

All these outside forces can affect his libido and have nothing to do with you! Instead of holding a grudge, talk to him. See if something else is on his mind and explain to him your needs. If he is not in the mood, tell him that you aren’t looking for a hot sex marathon, but a little hanky panky would be fun.

Masturbate For Him

Even some cuddling can be amazing; women want to feel closeness with their guy, that doesn’t always-necessary mean sex. If it is the big O that you are looking for and your guy is not in the mood, why not let him watch you please yourself? Who knows, the visual might be all he needs to revive him and have him give you a hand, or penis.

What He Said:

Make An Effort To Turn Him On

Of course women want it more than men, they don’t have to do anything. All you women have to do is lay there and pretend it’s not happening, which you’ve been practicing for centuries. Then he rolls off you and he buys you something. It’s a good deal. There’s no pressure.

A guy has to perform. Literally. And double standards and unreasonable expectations used to be things that society only heaped on women. It was a kinder, simpler time, when men where men and women were the ones slitting their wrists if they couldn’t fit into their skinny jeans or if their man was banging someone else.

Now men have to deal with that stuff too. How messed up is that? What’s worse, now that women have their own money, they have their own power, now their acting just like men expecting more and more of their partners.

Don’t Put Too Much Pressure On Him To Perform

Yes, porn, cock rings, Viagra and all that jazz are great, but maybe make sure he isn’t feeling burdened or pressured. Maybe he can’t fuck all night long. Maybe he only does it in between commercials. Maybe he feels insecure about his penis size, or how long he lasts, how hard he gets or whatever.

Let him know it’s all good, and you’re not expecting anything other than the good loving he is known to deliver. If there’s pressure or stress on his mind, do what you can to alleviate it. A lot of it is out of your hands, to be sure, but whatever you can do to lighten things up, the better.

Taking the pressure off is huge, but so is turning the heat up. Take him to a strip club. Get each of you a lap dance. Take him to a yoga class and dress super sexy. Go to the beach, spend time at pool or hot tub. If you can afford a weekend getaway, do it. That alone can be huge in getting the boom boom back in the bedroom.

Sometimes the act of physically being in a new place makes the mind feel like it’s physically separated from the problems that a person’s going through, despite the fact that they are in their own head.

Let him know quickies are all good, buy some Kama Sutra books or porn, but be advised that it may take a bit of effort to get the sex life ramped up how you like and one partner may still have a stronger libido than the other, but hopefully, if you’re patient and persistent, you’ll be having sex on a more regular basis.

3 Sex Toys That Will Bring You And Your Partner Closer

By rochellestavi

Sex toys can work wonders for couples. They can not only give you an orgasmic experience that feels like it has been pumped up with steroids, but also, it can bring you and your partner closer. Introducing something new in the bedroom, no matter what it may be, involves a lot of trust and communication. It may seem overwhelming or distracting at first but the more you try it and get into it, the more you will want to do it again and again.

Vibrators

A vibrator can come in all shapes, sizes, designs and uses so the possibilities when it comes to this particular toy are endless. Not only can you use them separately on each other, but vibrators also come in the form of a ring that your man can wear around his penis and give you clitoral or even anal stimulation. Sometimes, women need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation or sometimes, all three. It is tough for men to be able to multitask in that way so they need a little help.

Finding one of these toys that you can both use during sex will certainly make it way more pleasurable for both of you. It also gives him a light vibrating sensation throughout his entire pelvic region, making him feel something amazing too. Get your man to use a vibrator on you to explore the depths of your sexual potential or use one together.

You will be surprised how quickly you are able to climax with a little assistance. Also, try locating a waterproof vibrator if you want to get a little wet and wild. Then, not only can you give your orgasm potential a boost, but you can explore it in more places than just the bedroom.

Bondage

Now, don’t get scared. Bondage doesn’t necessarily have to mean extreme fetish things that you more commonly see in the porn world. There are varying degrees of how far you and your man can take bondage in the bedroom. For example, you can participate in light bondage such as tying each other up or down, gagging, or blindfolding.

All you are trying to do is to take away one of your partner’s senses and force them to focus on the others. It will heighten all of their other senses and make the entire sexual experience that much more amazing. Practice light bondage first and pick up your pair of sexy handcuffs today.

Strap On

Now, using a strap-on with your man might be something that is completely out of the picture but if he is willing, then it can be something that the two of you can find so much pleasure out of, you wouldn’t ever know that this kind of an orgasm could exist. A strap-on consists of a harness with a dildo attached to the front of it. Used primarily by lesbian couples, more and more heterosexual couples are finding a great use out of it.

Anal sex is not only enjoyed by women, but it becoming more popular among men, particularly heterosexual men. As a woman, we don’t have that power of being the giver, so to garner that power is definitely an orgasm booster. Anal sex can be really pleasurable for men because it can give the man a prostate massage, which is consider the g-spot in men. Pair your harness with a bullet vibrator so you feel some clitoral stimulation while you are giving your man intense pleasure and you both will be shuddering with desire for hours afterwards.

Use these sex toys as a guideline for how far you want to go in the bedroom. There are no limits to what you and your man do. If you chose to go down the softer route, then do what makes you both happy and satisfied. If you chose to go down the harder route, be prepared to be speechless.

Why Foreplay And Preparation Before Anal Sex Is Essential

By kendallashley

Anal sex can be one of the kinkiest experiences for any couple to take. However, it can also be one of the messiest if not handled properly. Preparing for this kind of sex is a key ingredient to having a great time. If you have ever had a bad experience with anal sex then you know just how wrong everything can go. Being prepared for every aspect of the action will leave little room for surprises. Here is a prep guide to help you out.

Change The Sheets Beforehand

Darker sheets are recommended for this kind of sex sex. Lighter sheets are more likely to show stains. When you change out the sheets for a darker set, you are less likely to see any stains that might occur during the act. Choose blue, black or a dark green for best results. Sex has a way of getting passionate quickly and the last thing that you want is for her to look down and see a stain while in mid thrust. Change the sheets before you get started to add to the spontaneity and the aesthetics of the occasion.

Consider Using An Enema First

Using an enema first is a necessity for most couples. There are a lot of couples that do not do this, but most will. Depending on your partner’s diet and regular bowel movements, she will need to use an enema herself beforehand in order to remove the majority of fecal matter from her anal cavity. Some women even think that this feels good. Make sure that she is not over-rinsing her anus. This can lead to dryness inside her and cause micro-abrasions during sex. These micro-abrasions can lead to the passing of STD’s or bacterial infections.

Engage In Plenty Of Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for anal sex. Make sure that you’re not just shoving your penis into her anus before she’s ready. Start out with normal foreplay. Kiss her, suck on her breasts and give her oral before you even think about doing anything to her anally. Use your own spit on your finger and then ease it into her anus. This will get her muscles prepared for your penis. Make sure that she is relaxed during foreplay. It’s best to use a sex toy on her anus before you use your penis. Using a small vibrator or a dildo on her will allow her to relax the muscles and get accustomed to the size.

Use Lots Of Lube

The anus does not produce it’s own lubricant. This is much different than the vagina. In order to make your anal sex more pleasurable and less painful, you need to use a lot of lube. Get a bottle specifically for anal sex and apply it to your anus. Using lube on a sex toy before you enter her with your penis is the best way to get her accommodated to the size that will be inside her. This will also apply the lube to her anal cavity.

Use Condoms, Even If You’re Monogamous

Always, always, always use a condom for anal. There are two reasons for this. First of all, a condom is going to have less resistance inside her. It will react with the lube to make the experience much more enjoyable for her. Secondly, a condom will cut down on the chance of spreading diseases and bacteria. Even if you are in a committed relationship, the spread of bacteria can easily be transferred from her anus to your penis. More than likely, you’re going to want to penetrate her vagina during your session. Instead of having to wipe off your penis with a disinfectant, you can simply take the condom off.

Clean Your Sex Toys Well

After you have had anal sex, it’s imperative that you clean all of the toys that were used anally. The toys can house diseases and bacteria, so keeping the toys clean is essential to keeping you and your partner safe during anal sex. A lot of porn stars recommend running your dildos and vibrators through the dishwasher to kill off any bacteria. This will not work on some materials like Cyberskin. Glass and silicone dildos and vibrators can go through a dishwasher without incident. You can also buy cleaner to disinfect your toys afterward, however, antibacterial soaps work just as well.

Anal sex is a great way to keep you and your partner on your toes sexually. But you must stay safe and comfortable throughout. Anal sex is fun, but it requires a little preparation. Don’t be caught off guard. Stains and smells can easily ruin the session and anal sex for life. Following these guidelines will help you get through the anal experience with grace and poise.

How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy As A Valentine’s Day Gift

By loveandsex

Your Valentine’s Day gift should be a great one! You want to show your partner that she’s important to you and that you care for her – but you wouldn’t mind if you could also let her know that she’s super sexy and you love getting it on with her. If you want to get your girl a toy, here’s how to make sure you’re getting one she’ll really love.

Pay Attention To What She Likes

If you want to successfully give your girl a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, you really need to know her. You need to pay attention to what she likes in bed! Think about it – does she like it when you stimulate her nipples? What about when you play with or suck on her clitoris? Does she really get off on deep penetration, or does she like anal play? Really think about what she seems to respond to the most during intercourse.

This will help you understand what toy is best to get her. For example, if she prefers nipple stimulation, try gifting her with a high end pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators. If she likes clitoral stimulation the best, why not get her a cute little clitoris vibrator that she can use discreetly? If she likes spanking, get a soft but kinky paddle to use when you do it with her. Whatever it is that seems to float her boat, that is what you want to stick to when purchasing a toy for her.

Go For Quality

Don’t expect your lover to open a box with a $20 vibrator in it and be very excited – she won’t be. She’s seen better stuff at novelty shops in the mall. If you’re going to really get her a toy for Valentine’s Day and you really want her to like it (and not throw you out in the dog house for the night), then be prepared to spend a few bucks. While you can spend over $100 on a vibrator, you don’t have to.

Make sure you’re purchasing something that is made from quality, high end materials. Get her something phthalate free and easy to clean – hard plastic or soft silicone are excellent sex toy materials. If you get her a jelly dildo that stinks like toxic plastic, she’s not going to be very appreciative and she’s certainly not going to want to get it near her nether regions. Most high end sex toys will come in a nice enough package to gift, but if yours doesn’t, either have it gift wrapped or do it yourself. Don’t just slap a bow on a box with a naked chick on the front demonstrating the toy.

Get Another Gift Too

It may sound like you’re racking up the Valentine’s Day gift bill here (and you are), but don’t make a sex toy her only present this year – and don’t give it to her over dinner. If you don’t want to spend enough money to do gifting a sex toy successful, then find something else to do! Sure, sex toys are fun and all, but only giving her a sex toy for her (or one that you can use together) is pretty lame. It will peg you as being only interested in her for the sex!

Instead, give her another gift over dinner, such as jewelry or chocolates – or another well thought out present – and save the sex toy for a more private place such as your house or hers. She’ll be smitten by your earlier gift already, and when you are both in a more intimate setting, she can really look at and enjoy the sex toy without worrying about stuffing it in her bag right away so no one at the restaurant sees what you gave her. Just be classy about it!

A Note On Lingerie

Don’t give your girl lingerie as a Valentine’s Day gift for her. While this is perfectly acceptable to give her on Valentine’s Day, realize that this really is a gift for you. She’s not going to get off on it at all, unless it’s really nice and comfortable lingerie that she can wear around the house or under her clothes. A bustier and garter belt set is not an acceptable gift for her on its own. Get her something else you know she’ll love, and then enjoy the lingerie as a gift for you.

5 Bondage Sex Toys That Will Make This Valentine’s Day RED HOT!

By loveandsex

Valentine’s Day is great for trying new, risque things in the bedroom. It is a time when one or both partners are more open to trying new things, and are more into introducing sex toys, new activities, sex games and the like. If you want to experiment with bondage this Valentine’s Day, these sex toys are awesome for you to introduce to your lover on the 14th!

1. Candy Ball Gag

If you’ve never experimented with gagging before (either yourself or your partner) you don’t want to introduce heavy headgear to start out with. While this may indeed sound like a no brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people who have never tried bondage or BDSM before bring home whips and chains for the first time.

A candy ball gag is a perfect Valentine’s Day treat. It will inspire you and your partner to get a little more frisky in during sex, without going over the top. If your lover is a little weary about trying any type of gagging or submission, this can be just the thing to help ease them into the BDSM world without scaring them away. It’s just “innocent” enough to pass off as a fun toy, while allowing you and your lover to explore your sexual boundaries a little more.

2. Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap

Take doggy style to a whole new level with the Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap. You’ve never tried anything like this before! This unique sex toy is designed to be used only by couples during sex, so it’s an excellent Valentine’s Day gift. If you’re going to give your lover a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, selecting something that can be used by both you and your partner is most definitely the way to go. It’s much less offensive than getting your partner a giant dildo or vibrator, and you’ll get to enjoy it too!

Simply slip the doggy strap around your partner’s hips, with one handle on each side. The “strap” part should be resting against the lower abdomen. Use the handles to help with your thrusting – you’ll get harder and faster penetration, and you’ll both feel extra naughty doing it!

3. LELO Sensua Suede Whip

The LELO Sensua Suede Whip is an excellent choice for Valentine’s Day BDSM fun. While this toy is probably better off being used with someone who has had some experience with mixing pain with pleasure, it can still be used lightly by beginners. However, if your an experienced player, this is great addition to your toy box for Valentine’s Day!

If you’re just starting out with pain and pleasure, gently use the suede whip to tickle and tease your lover into a foreplay frenzy, then turn them over and give them a few light whips on the rear. You don’t want to go leaving any huge welts or anything, but a few light red patches on the supple skin of their hind end can be super sexy!

4. Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit

Take no prisoners this Valentine’s Day! Actually, you can make your partner your sexy prisoner with the Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit. This is an excellent bondage introductory kit that includes a light rubber tickler, a blindfold and Velcro cuffs. It’s totally not intimidating, which makes it a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the lover that hasn’t had a lot of experience with domination, submission or bondage.

Blindfold your partner and restrain their hands with the soft cuffs, and use the feather tickler to get them hot and ready. Play a game where your partner guesses where you’re going to tickle next, or mix the sensations of the feathers with the sensation of your hot mouth and tongue all over their body.

5. Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint

If you really want to get a unique and exciting bondage toy for Valentine’s Day, the Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint is right up your alley! This fun restraint slips over your bed in a “spider web” like fashion, allowing both you and your lover to restrain yourselves to the bed and to each other in different ways. This is almost like the “Twister” of bondage toys, so expect to have a good time when you use this! Use your imagination to find fun new sex positions to try, or restrain yourself or your partner during oral sex for a brand new, exciting Valentine’s Day experience.