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How To Date Two Women At Once

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Dating tips often tell you how to get a date, or how to flirt with a girl, but what if you want to go out with more than one woman at a time? Here’s how!

Dating two women at once can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you handle the situation. There are a lot of guys out there that simply do not know how to date one woman, let alone two women at a time. There can be significant advantages to dating to her more women at once, however, you must be prepared in the must know how to keep both of these women separated from each other.

If you ever get found out, it could be the end of both relationships. Hiding one woman from another should not be something that lasts a very long time. A lot of guys date 2 to 3 women at a time until they figure out who they like most, and then they make a decision to engage in a long-term relationship with that woman. If you are currently dating to women in your finding increasingly difficult to separate your life with them, here are some tips.

1. Separate Them In Your Mind

Let’s start out by saying that you’re dating two women, Julie and Danielle. Julie is kind of a sporty girl while Danielle is more of a sophisticated girl. While these two women are probably very easy to distinguish in your mind, it won’t always be this easy. If you have two girls that are fairly similar is very easy to get their hometowns, parents names, interests or job titles mixed up.

Before you ever go out on a date with one of them, right down exactly what they do, where they live, any names that are associated with them and where you had your last date with them. Writing this information down will keep it fresh in your mind for when you go on a date. One of the easiest ways to use this method is to put the information into your phone after the first date so you have notes that you can refer to the next time you go out.

2. Always Know Where They Live

You may not be able to find out exactly the apartment number of each girl, but you will easily be able to figure out what part of town they typically go out to eat in. A good rule of thumb is to never take one girl to another girls’ part of town. For instance if Julie lived on the East side of town and Danielle lived on the West side, you would never take Julie to the West side nor would you ever take Danielle to the East side.

The last thing that you want is for a girl to see you out with another one. While getting caught will not happen, it has been known to occur in smaller cities. If you are meeting for a lunch date you also don’t want to take one girl close to where another one works. It’s very easy for somebody to walk out of the office and head right down the street to pick up lunch in a hurry. Until you decide which one you actually want to engage in a relationship with, keep them physically separated at all times.

3. Avoid Your House

One of the best pieces of advice that anybody could give you is to avoid your own house when you are dating several women at once. If you believe that you are going to end the night at somebody’s home and possibly have sex, make sure that it is not your own. It is much better for you to go that to the girl’s place than it is to host her at your home. At some point she will have to see your apartment or house, but you don’t want her staying there.

The reason for this is that she might leave something at your house such as a necklace or even a pair of underwear. If you take another girl back to your home she could find this and the whole game could be over halfway through. Until you decide which girl that you really want to be with, do not allow any sleepovers at your home.

4. Pick

The last bit of advice that you’re going to get is to pick which girl you actually want to be in a relationship with. Dating multiple women is fine but aching to exhausting after about three weeks. Give each of the women 3 to 4 dates to prove themselves and then choose the one that you want to be with.

Arranging dates every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night is not only exhausting on the body, it can also be exhausting on the wallet. Taking out women every week and weekend is going to get expensive. It is worth your time and your money to choose a girl quickly and without hesitation.

What Is An Anal Orgasm & How To Give One

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Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable, but you have to know what you’re doing. Here’s how to give an orgasm through anal penetration alone.

You might think that an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter which hole was being penetrated, but let me tell you that is not the case.

What Is An “Anal Orgasm?”

The anal orgasm is, as you’ve already figured out, an orgasm brought on by anal stimulation, such as from an inserted finger, penis, or sex toy. All women are able to achieve it, but only a few have the luck to actually experience it. The sexual climax can be either complete or incomplete, depending on your ability to touch, and thrust her at the right moment. Some lucky ones may come to experience an anal orgasm without even stimulating the anus, but by stimulation of the buttocks and anal cleft with the tongue.

How it actually happens: typically, through stimulation of the G spot, through the wall shared between the vagina and the rectum. Yes, it’s an indirect stimulation, but perhaps that’s why so many women (and men!) praise its intensity. As a matter in fact, anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or vaginal orgasm.

So yes, anal orgasm is not just a ‘convenient’ theory promulgated by men who want to get their respective girlfriends to try it. It’s real, it’s happening and it can be taught.

There are probably three different sources of sexual stimulation produced by anal intercourse: sensation from the anus, the rectum, and the G spot. Each of these tissues send sensory signals to the brain through different pairs of nerves- the anus through the pudendal nerves, the rectum through the pelvic nerves, and the G spot through the hypogastric nerves.

The orgasm thus achieved is described ‘deeper’, more global and intense, longer lasting and associated with greater feelings of ecstasy.

How To Give An Orgasm During Anal Sex

  1. Start with a firm/soft massage of her buttocks. Use contradictory moves- to enhance pleasure- light vs. firm, teasing vs. real pinching, etc.
  2. After separating the buttocks a little bit, start massaging the area near the anus, but this time use gentler moves
  3. With a well lubed finger start by circling the anal opening with light moves.
  4. Try the analingus technique called Rose Petals, in which you move your tongue in tiny circular loops, as if you are tracing the sepals (the small green leaves at the bottom) of a rose, and then move your tongue in a circle around the rim of the anus (this is known as rimming).
  5. 5. Once you insert a whole finger or a penis and you reach the rectum, another set of pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Rectal pressure is particularly important to enthusiasts of fisting, a form of anal sex in which several fingers or even the entire hand are inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower colon.
  6. 6. When you feel she’s ready to come, if you want to facilitate its appearance, additional manual stimulation of the clitoris is advisable.
  7. Also, for women who love a full feeling, try simultaneous penetration of the anus and the vagina, pairing it with clitoral stimulation, as mentioned above.
  8. The intensity of the anal orgasm can be achieved by psychological aspects as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most common myth against anal sex (it’s dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of kinky excitement. Rimming enthusiasts may enjoy the feeling that they are being delightfully perverse. Other people regard the anus as a secret, special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.
  9. The easiest way to NOT have an anal orgasm is to become determined to have one. Seeking it will create new pressures and disrupt the pleasure.
  10. Diet also contributes to the feeling of anal pleasure. Regular bowel movements and a sufficient amount of fiber in the system prevents irritation of the bowel tissues, which causes discomfort and adds up to muscular tension.

How To Prep For An Amazing Blowjob (For Her)

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A blowjob not only requires hygiene for him, she also needs to do a few things to get ready as well. Ladies, here’s what to do to get ready for a killer blowjob.

You might think that hygiene during a blowjob only applies to your partner being showered and trimmed or shaved down there. While his hygiene is important for both you and him, your hygiene matters too. There are a few things you want to observe before you go down on him, and many of these things may already be in your grooming repertoire. However, keep these things in mind before you go down on your lover and the blowjob will be that much sweeter.

Brush Your Teeth And Make Sure Your Breath Is Fresh

While a surprise blowjob in the morning can be lots of fun, morning breath isn’t. But dragon breath isn’t only present in the morning – you need to be aware of how your breath smells throughout the day. Most people are already concerned with this and keep gum or mints handy, especially if they have a profession in which they talk to people often or are in close quarters with others. You certainly don’t want to give your man head after you’ve just eaten garlic bread or had fresh onions on your sandwich!

To ward off bad breath before you go down on your man, consider carrying a toothbrush with toothpaste with you, tucked in your purse or pocket. There are actually travel toothbrushes out there that only require only water – they can typically be found in gas stations and grocery stores where you would find the gum. If you can’t carry something to brush your teeth, at least carry with you a pack of mint or cinnamon gum (fruit flavored gum will rarely kill dragon breath) or breath mints. Altoids are excellent because they’re small and travel friendly, but do an excellent job of fixing bad breath!

Make Sure Your Lips Are Soft

You don’t want to give your partner head if your lips feel like lizard skin. If your lips are dry or cracked, they can make your lover uncomfortable when you rub them up and down the skin of his penis when you’re giving him head. You want your lips to be kissably soft – because you’ll likely be kissing him on the lips too!

A great way to soften your lips on the fly is to use a toothbrush with plain water (another reason you should have a toothbrush handy). Dip the brush in water and “brush” your lips like you brush your teeth. You don’t want to do this as hard as you brush your teeth – make sure you’re using soft, gentle strokes. This will exfoliate your lips and remove the flakes of dry, dead skin that are responsible for rough lips.

When you’re finished brushing your lips and they’re soft and smooth, apply a good lip moisturizer or lip balm. This is something else you want to keep handy. Apply it regularly to keep your lips soft and in fellatio ready condition.

Have Clean, Soft Hands And Trimmed Nails

You’ll likely be using your hands at some point on your lover’s genitals when you’re going down on him, whether you’re just holding his penis in place for you to work on it, or using your hands as part of the action. Keeping your hands clean and soft is just as important as brushing your teeth and keeping your lips soft!

First thing’s first – you’ll want to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed or filed. Hangnails or ragged nails can be exceptionally uncomfortable if you accidentally end up poking or scraping your man when you’re giving him head. It’s an excellent excuse to get a good manicure! Exfoliate your hands with a good scrub and lotion them up afterwards, so you have the most gentle touch possible when you put your hands on your partner’s genitals. If you do get a manicure, they’ll cover the exfoliation and the lotion as well – so getting pampered with a manicure means you’ll actually leave the salon with blowjob and handjob ready hands!

Is Monogamy Overrated?

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Monogamy seems to be the popular choice for couples in long term relationships – but is it necessary? Can you have a satisfying relationship without it?

What Other Relationship Options Are There?

You can’t argue that monogamy isn’t exactly the one size fits all relationship type we were taught growing up. Don’t believe me? Just hit the internet! It seems like there are all kinds of relationships out there (open relationships, swingers, polyamorists, just to name a few) and they all seem sexier than monogamy and they’re getting way better press too.

Is It Still Sexy?

Religious organizations will argue that monogamy is under attack. Really? I didn’t know swingers were breaking into people’s homes and making them have sex with other people. While monogamy isn’t exactly under attack, it’s kind of lost its luster. It’s about as sexy as flossing or paying your taxes on time. Sure, there’s something to be said for it, but there’s a good chance that something will put you to sleep.

That doesn’t make monogamy overrated, any more than a gun in and of itself is a bad thing. It depends on the application and the situation. If you go on a date and your date pulls out a hand gun, it’s probably not a good night for you. If a burglar is breaking into your home and you call the cops and all they do is try and put the bad guy on “time out” you’ll be wishing he/she was packing heat (get your mind out of the gutter people!).

It’s Hard Work

Monogamy isn’t what we thought it was. It’s not like you get in a monogamous relationship and then that’s it. Since you’re not having intercourse with other people by design, you have to work to maintain the spark, probably a lot harder than non-monogamous people, because they have the benefit of the spark that comes with being with and being desired by other people.

It’s Also Safer

Then again, monogamy, by default, may not be sexy, but it is safer. Since you’re aren’t fucking other people (as long as there is no infidelity) then you don’t have to worry about AIDS, herpes or any of those STD’s that scare the shit out people who are fucking around. You don’t need to wear condoms, if you’re not screwing other people and since you know you’re both clean and safe, you can do all kinds of crazy sex, wild intercourse, anal sex and whatever else you like with a clean conscience (and clean health record).

That can make monogamy seem a bit more appetizing. If variety is the spice of life, then monogamy is like eating your vegetables. People who practice non monogamy (I wonder if they ever got it right yet) will argue that monogamy is dead and that it can’t work and that it will always end with infidelity or a sexless marriage. That’s crazy. It’s statistically impossible that all monogamous relationships end up like that. Some of them have to be really great. Some married people have to be fucking more than porn stars, right? It’s just simple numbers.

Decide For Yourself What Is Best For You

Monogamy seems overrated largely because we get such a bad view on it. Sex sells and if it bleeds it’s news. Fear sells. No one is going to buy a copy of People Magazine to find out about the happily married celebrity couple that have been monogamous for years, have amazing sex and fall more in love every day. You just don’t hear about that. You know why? It’s nothing compared to the crazy coke head celebrities who go off and have sex with the poolboy all while living in an apartment.

Monogamy is what you make of it, assuming you decide to make something of it in the first place. You may not want to. That’s cool too. If you are into it, great! If you’re not, that’s great too. Just keep your mouth shut to the people who don’t share your view point. You can’t change them and just because monogamy (or non monogamy) doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for them. Monogamy isn’t overrated or underrated. That’s like saying Spicy Brown mustard is over rated or underrated. It’s mustard people. That’s it. You put it on your hot dog, if you like it on your dog, and if you don’t well, you don’t.

It’s really that simple. Monogamy is what it is. It’s not good or bad, it just means you don’t mess around. Well, with anyone other than your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s not rocket science. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t it doesn’t. If your relationship ends it’s not monogamy’s fault. It’s yours.

Are You Following These 4 Rules Of Foreplay?

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Foreplay is essential for great sex, but do you really know what you’re doing? Here are some before sex musts that you definitely don’t want to avoid.

Most men and women do not understand these rules and are, as a result, not as good at foreplay as they could be. These are important to learn now because when you and your partner are in the heat of the moment, you won’t have time to check back with each other. So let’s take a look at how the rules of it work.

1. No Genital Touching

Foreplay does not involve genital touching. Some couples I’ve worked with had the belief that if the woman was giving the man a handjob or if the man was playing with her clitoris, then they were engaging in foreplay. WRONG! It does not involve touching your partner’s genitals in any manner.

So when it comes to it, keep your hands away from your partner’s vagina until you know that she is well into the second stage (plateau). Also, if she tries to touch your penis, you should pull her hand away. By holding back, you’ll be increasing sexual tension in both of you.

2. Oral Sex Isn’t Foreplay

Foreplay is not the same as oral sex. Another problem I’ve encountered with couples is that they falsely believe that oral sex counts. While it’s true that some people would agree with that idea, the truth is that oral sex is just another variation of vaginal intercourse.

Also, refer back to the first guidelines and keep your hands (and your tongue) off of each other’s genitals.

3. Go Slow!

It should be slow. It is not meant to be a quick hurdle men have to jump over to get to the finish line. Instead, it is supposed to be a slow, gradual increase in sexual arousal and tension. When it’s done properly, women become so aroused that they will actually beg for penetration. Imagine how that would make you feel as a lover!

4. Foreplay Can Happen Anywhere!

It can begin anywhere. Another misconception about foreplay is that it must begin in the location where sex is going to happen. For example, if you are going to have sex in the bedroom, then foreplay starts when you get into the bedroom. WRONG!