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Why Lube Is ESSENTIAL For Her To Orgasm

By loveandsex

Lube. You’ve heard of it. You might have even used it. However, lube has gotten an infamous reputation for being needed only when either a) a man can’t get a woman turned on enough to get her wet (in which case he is a total dud) or b) a woman can’t get wet enough no matter how hard her partner tries (in which case there is something wrong with her).

Unfortunately, this common misconception about why additional lubrication is needed or useful during sex leads to couples choosing not to use lube and using saliva or nothing instead! This can be absolutely detrimental to a woman’s orgasm – as in, she won’t have one if she’s not lubricated enough.

Is There Something Wrong If She Can’t Get Wet Enough?

No. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your technique or her bodily functions if she’s not wet enough during sex. Some women just don’t produce a lot of natural fluids, while others produce copious, copious amounts and you might actually need a towel or two to mop it all up. Does this mean that a woman who produces more vaginal fluid is more turned on than the woman who is not? Hardly. The “wetter” woman persay may actually only be moderately turned on, while the girl who feels like her vagina is the Sahara could be on fire!

It is a myth that a woman’s production of vaginal fluids has a direct correlation with her level of arousal – there is some correlation there, yes. But not for every woman and not every time. So no, there’s nothing wrong with her. And there’s nothing wrong with your technique. Even if she’s as dry as a bone, she may really be digging what you’re doing. She just might be a girl who takes longer to produce fluid, or who doesn’t produce that much at all. No big deal if you’ve actually got some lube on hand.

What Lube Does For Her (And You) During Sex

When you use lube during sex, it provides a slicker, slipperier “work area” so to speak. Imagine sliding on a Slip N’ Slide that doesn’t have any water on it, or only has a little. You’re not going to get very far, are you? In fact, you might get plastic burn on your belly. Not cool, huh? The same goes for sex. Without adequate lubrication (her own or manufactured), it’s like a dry Slip N’ Slide. Turn the water on though, and you’re ready to have fun!

When you lube your girl up, everything feels better. Your tongue feels better, your penis feels better and it’s much, much easier for her to reach orgasm. Every sensation is heightened, whereas without a slippery surface to work with, she’s going to experience discomfort, chafing and pain. Her clitoris, for example, is going to be much more sensitive and responsive when it is lubricated than when you’re rubbing a dry finger or dry tongue over it. In fact, if you’re using a dry finger on her clit, get ready to be smacked! It hurts! A drop of lube really never hurt anyone. It is much, much more difficult for your lover to reach orgasm if she’s not adequately lubricated.

She can’t feel what you’re doing as well and she’s more likely to be experiencing discomfort than any kind of pleasure. If you’re too proud to use lube for the reasons that have already been disproven, you’re only fighting a losing battle and the only losers are you and your partner. Don’t forget that when she’s nice and wet, you’re going to benefit too! Every sensation is going to feel much better to you too – kind of like masturbating with lube! A dry hand isn’t all that awesome, but once you’ve got a buffer there, watch out! When she’s dripping wet, sex is going to feel even more amazing for you too.

Lube, Lube For Everyone!

There’s no reason not to use lube! No reason at all! Don’t think that water or spit works just as well, because frankly it doesn’t. It dries out way too fast and you’ll be in the middle of doing it when all of a sudden it’s like…well, the dry Slip N’ Slide again. Who turned off the hose? Do yourself (and your lover) a favor by keeping a few bottles of lube stashed wherever you like to have sex. Don’t get just one – get a few different kinds and experiment with them to find out what you like best.

Some people like thinner lubrication while others like more gel-like consistencies. Some people just can’t get enough of the smell of strawberries when they’re giving their lover oral sex. Lube is fun and it will help turn sex into something frustrating or plain old boring into something incredible!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

How To Play With HIS Nipples

By loveandsex

Playing with a man’s nipples might seem like a very strange thing to do in the bedroom, but there are a lot of guys that love this. The nipple is a very common erogenous zone on the female and male body. Knowing how to properly kiss, touch and such on his nipples can be something that sets you apart from all of his past lovers. Much like other body parts, nipples come in different sizes and shapes. If your boyfriend or husband wants you to play with his nipples you need to know how to do it the right way. Here is a short guide to help you along.

Sensitivity In The Nipples

A man’s nipple is much like a woman’s. There are going to be varying degrees of sensitivity in his nipples that will affect the amount of pleasure and pain that he feels. When you are to use this during sex you need to know what kind of sensitivity he has and how you can use this to your advantage. Some guys are really into rough sex so making it hurt a little could be a turn on. When you are rubbing or sucking on his nipples, don’t be afraid to get a little rough. See how he reacts when you take this type of approach. Smaller nipples are going to be a little more sensitive than larger ones so make sure that you are careful if your guy has a smaller set.

Ask Him What He Likes

There is no greater way to find out what he likes than to actually ask what he likes. Asking your man how he likes his nipples to be played with might take a little of the mystery out of the equation, but you’re taking the shortest route to finding out what he likes and how you can really turn him. Ask him to get specific when he tells you. Guys might be a little nervous at first, but encourage him that you’re not going to judge what he likes. Some men find it a little effeminate to talk about getting their nipples played with, but creating a comfortable environment without judgment should bring him out of his shell. Taking the time to make him more comfortable with you and what he wants is going to bring you both closer together.

Nipple Biting

Biting can be a turn on but like everything in life, too much is never a good thing. If your guy wants you to bite on his nipples, make sure that you aren’t biting him to hard or it will not only send him running out of the room, it’s also going to give him a less than pleasurable experience. If you do decide that this something you’re going to do to him, gauge his expressions. Is he giving you looks of desire or does it look like you’re torturing him? Being able to tell when he’s really enjoying something is not very difficult. He will probably tell you when you’re not doing something right or will let out a shrill. Watch him while you bite and you will be able to get it just right.

Variety

Nobody likes the same moves over and over again. When you are playing with his nipples make sure that you are putting a lot of variety into it. Pull on his nipples for a little bit and then let go. Kiss him or give him oral sex and then come and suck on them. The last thing that you want to do is give monotony. Men who like to have their nipples played with are very open minded so keep this in the forefront of your process when you are trying to get him turned on. Once he is turned on you will be able to go much further with your nipple play.

Extremes

There are going to be guys out there that want you to go to the extreme with their nipples. Be careful with this. Some guys think that they want you to do things and then once they’re done they realize that it was a bad idea. If he says he wants it, make sure that you ease into any extremes. Playing with a guy’s nipples are one thing but biting hard, slapping or pinching hard can cause bleeding and damage to his body. Don’t go to the extreme unless your guy tells you it’s alright. It’s always good practice to have a safe word for when it’s too much for him to handle. 😉

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: nipples

Your Blowjob Questions – Answered!

By loveandsex

Oral sex isn’t something every girl knows how to do. Most women have some things they need worked out. Here’s what you want to know about giving fellatio!

What If I Don’t Like The Taste Of Semen?

Many women are afraid to give their partners a blowjob because they’re afraid he will ejaculate in their mouths. Some girls are terrified of this simply because they’ve heard that semen tastes bad, or because they’ve actually tasted it before and didn’t like it. Either way, there are plenty of women out there that don’t like the taste of semen and either stop a blowjob well before their lovers are about to have an orgasm, or just don’t give head at all.

Not liking the taste of semen is no reason not to give your lover the gift of oral sex. If you do happen to bring him to orgasm with a blowjob, you don’t have to swallow, or even spit if you don’t want to. Make sure your guy lets you know when he’s getting close to the point of no return, so you can be prepared to finish him off with your hand. If you have lots of practice, you can also sense that he’s about to have an orgasm by the way his body begins to react to the stimulation.

When he’s about to blow his load, slide your mouth off of him and slide your hand on in one fluid motion and begin masturbating him until he’s finished with his climax. You can allow him to ejaculate anywhere you like – he may like to do so on your breasts or your face, or he may not even care if you hold a towel over his penis to avoid lots of clean up later. He may even want to finish off himself. To put it simply, there are lots of different ways to finish up the blowjob without having to get semen in your mouth.

How Can I Change The Taste Of His Semen?

Since many women are so grossed out by the taste of semen, it’s no surprise that they’re looking for ways to make their partners spunk taste better. Even if you don’t allow your lover to ejaculate in your mouth, the “pre-cum” that seeps out of the head of his penis while you’re stimulating him orally can taste just as bitter or just as chalky.

Fortunately, there are ways to change the taste of your partner’s semen, although it requires his full cooperation and it won’t happen overnight. If your lover’s ejaculate tastes really terrible, it’s likely due to what he’s eating or ingesting. Start by looking at toxins – cigarette smoking, drug usage or alcohol drinking. All of these things will make his semen taste fairly nasty, because the toxins in these products are leaving his body through his ejaculate.

Next, eliminate foods that are well known to cause gas, like cabbage and asparagus. These can make your partner’s semen taste bitter as well. To improve the taste, have him eat more fresh fruits or drink fruit juices. Fresh pineapple or pineapple juice is very popular, because it will sweeten the taste of his semen significantly with regular consumption.

If your lover starts leading a healthy life, eliminates toxin usage, eliminates eating processed junk food and cleans up his diet, as well as getting enough sleep and exercise, he’s going to have much better tasting semen because he’s taking care of himself and his body will begin to show it.

How Do I Keep From Biting Him?

Biting a man’s penis accidentally during oral sex is a very valid concern for both women giving a blowjob and men receiving one. Getting bitten or even lightly scraped by a woman’s teeth while getting a blowjob is the fastest way to completely ruin it and turn him off for the whole night – not to mention it’s the fastest way to cause pain and discomfort.

Although this is one of the biggest concerns with going down on a man, it’s also one of the easiest to avoid. Simply curl your lips in your mouth over your teeth, covering your teeth with the inside of your lips, top and bottom. When you move your mouth up and down over your lover’s shaft, he’ll actually be rubbing up against the outside of your lips and the skin there.

You can even use your lips to cushion him against your teeth so you can put more pressure on his penis, which many men really enjoy. This simple maneuver will keep you from hurting him while you’re sucking him off, a gesture he is sure to greatly appreciate.

How Do I Keep From Gagging?

Gagging is a common problem when it comes to going down on a guy, especially if he has a long penis or is particularly well endowed. A longer penis will bump up against the back of the throat and the gag reflex more easily than a shorter penis, making it more difficult for a woman to keep from gagging while she’s going down on her lover. If your partner has a smaller penis, you may not be as worried about this. However, if your lover makes you gag every time you give him head, even when you’re not deep throating, this can pose quite the predicament.

However, even if your man has a big penis, you don’t have to worry about gagging if you use certain techniques. You may not be able to fit your man’s entire penis in your mouth if he’s big, and if you try, you’ll likely stimulate your gag reflex. So don’t sweat it and use the hand-and-mouth technique. Place your hand at the base of your man’s penis and place your mouth over the top of it, with your mouth and hand touching each other in the middle of his shaft.

As you suck up and down on the top of his penis, your hand should be in sync, stroking the bottom of his shaft at the same time. You want your mouth and hand to go up and down at the same time, as if your hand were an extension of your mouth. This will stimulate his entire penis during the blowjob without you having to cram the entire thing down your throat, causing you to gag.

On the other hand, sometimes a woman will gag if her lover has a particularly strong smell down there. Ensuring that he keeps his pubic hair short and showers well right before oral sex can cut the smell down significantly, reducing the chance a woman will gag during oral sex because of the way his genitals smell.

What Is The Best Blowjob Position For Him?

A man might answer this question with the word “any,” and this is true to an extent. Most guys are going to prefer oral sex positions that allow him to see you lavishing attention on his genitals, but some guys like laying back, closing their eyes and relaxing while you go to work on them. Every guy is going to like something different! So in all honesty, the best oral sex position for him is the one that is best for you.

You need to be comfortable while going down on him, and if your neck is sore after two minutes or you’re cutting off the circulation to your hands because all of your weight is on your wrists, you’re not going to be able to go down on him for very long. Cutting a blowjob short because you’re uncomfortable is the pits for your man! Select an oral sex position that allows you to keep going for longer without getting uncomfortable as quickly (or at all if you can manage!) will make him happier, because you’ll actually be able to get into it as opposed to continuing to shift your weight around.

He’ll be able to tell you’re uncomfortable and he’ll know instantly that you’re not as into it. He won’t care what position you choose if it’s one you can throw caution to the wind in and really go to town on him.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, fellatio, oral sex, oral sex positions, semen, sex tips

5 Ways To Get Her To Give You Head More Often

By michaelfiore

Blowjob tips are essential if you want to get good head in your relationship. Getting head is something no guy wants to turn down. But what if you’re not being offered? Here are five things you can do to get your girl to want to suck you off.

OK, even if your wife or girlfriend “sometimes” gives you head now, I still recommend you read (and reread) this article. It’s all in the name of getting a great blowjob, but what I teach you in the next few pages will do wonders for your sexual connection, your woman’s desire to try new things and the amount of FUN you guys have in the bedroom together.

Here’s a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Get Her Turned ON!

If you don’t already have a sex life with your wife or girlfriend, or don’t know how to get things heated up, learn! It’s not all about techniques – it’s about igniting her sexual desire for you. Also, don’t be shy about giving her oral sex. She’s not going to want to go down on you if you never do it for her.

2. Change How You Feel About Getting Head

You need to permanently change your thinking around getting a blowjob. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat them as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

3. Do Not Beg!

Don’t beg… EVER. Your woman needs to see you as a sexually powerful man. Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and feel confident about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

4. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

5. Share The Experience With Her

Start thinking of oral sex as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. She will love this! This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: better sex, blowjob, fellatio, foreplay, oral sex, sex tips

Test It! – Discreet At-Home STD Testing Kit

By loveandsex

Ok, sometimes we come across something pretty cool that we want to share with you and this is pretty cool – at-home STD testing! No more embarrassing or expensive doctor visits… So take just a minute to share this post and help a good cause!

Test It Foundation, a Washington nonprofit organization, plans to run a crowd-funding campaign on Indiegogo.com to raise money to research and develop an easy, affordable, and discreet at-home STD testing kit. This technology was developed through Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory and is capable of diagnosing six major sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Test It! also plans to partner with health organizations that serve 3rd world and developing countries to distribute this product around the world.

At-Home STD Testing KitTest It’s home STD testing kit will work in the same way as a pregnancy test, using a urine sample that shows a clear reaction if STDs are present. The STD test kit is projected to cost under $50, significantly cheaper than alternatives. Once developed, the kit should be available in major drugstores, where it can be easily and discreetly purchased. “Our goals are to develop this technology so that it is available to the general public and can be purchased at a drugstore or supermarket and to distribute this technology to third-world and developing countries where healthcare is not readily available,” says information officer Jacob Randall. The kit will screen for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, bacterial vaginosis, and herpes.

Advantages Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Small, easy-to-use, perfect for privacy considerations – rapid diagnosis – reduced feedback time – Lower medical costs for the patient
  • Utilizes easily accessible biological samples (urine) -Lower clinical costs for both patient and health care provider.
  • Uses lateral flow technology (similar to home pregnancy tests) – Simple, Cost-Effective to build – Lower production costs for the manufacturer.

Potential Applications Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Use in the privacy of the home.
  • Point-of-care diagnostic testing
  • Save on Doctor visit costs

Many people avoid STD screening due to their embarrassment or the associated expenses. As a result, the incidence of some infections have grown exponentially because people who are unaware of their infection inadvertently infect their sexual partners.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the US reported over 1.6 million STD cases in 2009, and this number is likely only a fraction of the total, since many infections go unreported and undiagnosed. Estimates suggest there are 1.9 million new cases every year, costing the US healthcare system $16.4 billion. A simple and affordable home STD testing kit will provide a convenient way to obtain instant results and will allow every sexually active adult to test themselves regularly.

Test It Foundation plans to distribute these STD tests to developing countries and to make them available to people who cannot afford STD screening at little or no cost. Test It is going to run a crowd-funding campaign on its website, as well as on indiegogo.com starting the first week of December. Many great perks such as being one of the first to own the home STD testing kit, along with fun “Safe is Sexy” t-shirts and apparel will be available along with custom Swiss watches for those that participate in the crowd-funding campaign.

Test It Foundation can be reached at www.testit.org as well as on Facebook at Test It STD kit and on Twitter.

For more information contact
Jacob Randall
Information Officer
Test It Foundation.
info@testitstdkit.com or
360-907-2631

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: STD Testing

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