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Dirty Tips For Great Sex!

Foreplay is the cornerstone of creating an intense sexual experience for a woman. Use these foreplay suggestions for incredible sex!

Have you ever wondered how you could become a better lover in bed? Not the kind who seeks to pleasure himself, but one who goes out of his way to make sure his lover gets her sexual fulfillment first. So what are the secrets to becoming a sex stud that possesses this inherent, natural ability to pleasure any woman at will?

Emotions Are The Lifeline Of A Woman’s Sexual Fulfillment

Emotions play a vital role in ensuring that a woman is sexually fulfilled. So how do you leverage on her emotional repository and give her the most tantalizing sexual experience? The secret lies in building anticipation. This is where women are fundamentally different from men. Guys are ready to mount and thrust right away during sex and get off at a moment’s notice. Women are different. They prefer a slow build-up to sex. This is how they are biologically wired. And it is not their fault that most women take at least 10 to 15 minutes to reach an orgasm (compared to just 4 minutes or less for most guys).

So don’t jump the gun when it comes to sex. It is probably the worst thing you can do during lovemaking.

The Art Of Teasing Women Into Erotic Anticipation

Women loved to be teased. If you want to become a masterful lover in bed, you have to learn how to tease. Make her curious about what you are going to do to her next. Keep her guessing. This will keep her on her toes and bring her sexual emotions to an erotic boil. This makes sex far more exciting, titillating and challenging for the both of you.

Okay, Teasing Is Easy – Or So You Think!

The art of sexual teasing is based on the “push and pull” concept. What do I mean? This means you bring her to a state of heightened anticipation, and then pull away or strategically back off from what she would expect you to do next. For example, if you are undressing her, stop halfway and then proceed to kiss her. When she is expecting you to perform oral sex on her after some heavy foreplay, turn your attention to her breasts instead. Tenderly move AROUND her hot buttons, not ON them.

This sensual art of unpredictability will add plenty of sizzle and excitement in the bedroom. A slow sensuous build-up of sexual anticipation will soon turn into a frenzied sexual craving for you to perform the actual deed on her.

Guys, if you want her to have a genuine screaming orgasm during sex, this is the secret behind it! Your bedroom will never be the same again once you learn this.

Why A Woman Can Have More Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Than A Man

By loveandsex

Female orgasm isn’t always easy to achieve. There are many things that can stand in a girl’s way! Here’s why the female orgasm is more elusive than the man’s.

The truth is, it can be more difficult for a woman to reach orgasm than a man because of the way her body and brain work. Her body is wired differently from his and goes through the stages of sexual pleasure, orgasm and release in a different way. Her brain is also wired differently – sexual pleasure doesn’t just automatically shut off all thinking like it does for a guy. In fact, if she’s thinking too much, she won’t be able to climax. Here are some reasons she might have difficulty reaching orgasm.

She’s Stressed & Tense

A woman’s brain going 10,000 miles an hour will completely and utterly make it impossible for her to reach climax, while she’s having sex or masturbating. Doesn’t matter whether she’s using sex toys, you’re going down on her like it’s your last meal, whatever. It just won’t happen if she can’t get her brain to shut up. This is partly why women require so much warm up time before sex. She’s got to be able to stop thinking about everything that happened today, everything that could have happened, everything that will happen tomorrow as well as everything she should have done, could have done and didn’t do before she can start thinking about sex. This is a process.

The to-do list begins to fade as the sexual thoughts start to creep in, but at any time, the to-do list can rear its ugly head and make a reappearance. She’s got to be in full throttle sex mode to quash the stressful thoughts completely, and this takes some time and lots and lots of warm up. If she can’t banish these thoughts, she’s not going to orgasm.

You can try all you like, but she’ll be thinking about what she’s going to tell her boss tomorrow about the report that was due that isn’t finished while you’re thinking about how hot her breasts look naked and wondering why the hell you’ve been going down on her for twenty minutes and still, nothing. Fortunately, with time, patience, foreplay and some romance, you can slay the to-do list dragon and get her thinking about how good everything you’re doing feels until she’s coming like there’s no report due tomorrow and there is no tomorrow.

She’s Too Focused On Having An Orgasm

Another thing that will keep her from having an orgasm is being too focused on it. Yeah, it seems kind of backwards from a man’s standpoint, but it’s true for the gals. She’s worried about taking too long to come, what will happen if she doesn’t come, wondering if she’ll ever come, what she or you must be doing wrong to make her unable to come – oh hell, there’s those stressful thoughts again and she can forget about coming completely.

For a woman to reach orgasm, she’s got to be relaxed and she’s got to be able to go with the flow. Sadly, this is not something you can make her do or tell her to do – it’s something she’s got to learn how to do on her own. It’s kind of like finding your car keys – as soon as you stop looking, there they will be. As soon as she stops being so focused on having an orgasm and gives up the notion that she has to climax, the orgasm will find her. Until then, she can count on ending every sex session frustrated and this time, it’s not your fault.

She Feels Pressured To Have An Orgasm

This one may be your fault. She could be pressuring herself to have an orgasm (see above), but men often unknowingly pressure their partners without realizing that doing so will make it impossible for her to have one. How many times has this sentence killed your orgasm? “Are you close yet?” Yeah, that one. The sentence that pretty much says, “I’m tired of doing this, you’re taking too long, is this almost over?”

Unfortunately for women, that attitude can be conveyed fairly easily without her partner every having to say anything. (The same can happen for men, but men see things at face value so much that a woman pretty much has to say it for him to understand that’s what she’s getting at). A sigh here, complete silence there – there are a great deal of body language signs that you can give without thinking about it that will make her feel like you want her to hurry up or that you think she’s taking too long. Which will make her take longer or not climax at all.

If you want her to orgasm easily, be wary of conveying that you’re pressuring her to reach the finish line. Act like there’s no where else you’d rather be and that she can take as long as she needs or wants. “Wow, honey, I didn’t even realize I was giving you oral sex for forty minutes – it tasted so good and I love giving you pleasure so much that it felt like five!”

She Can’t Let Go

Many women have problems letting go right before orgasm, which can be very frustrating for her. Her brain is usually the culprit here, but there are likely some deeper psychological issues at play that you really can’t do anything about. She’s unknowingly and unconsciously preventing herself from crossing the finish line – even if she’s only a few steps away from it. To her, this feels like every time she has sex she’s “almost there” and right before orgasm, her body stops the action and goes back to square one. If this is the case for your girl, she may have trouble allowing herself to let go.

She may be afraid of silly things like losing control and passing gas (who cares, right?) or even squirting – like you wouldn’t think that was incredibly hot or something. Or, the issue may go deeper than that – a history of sexual abuse might be at play, or she may have had past lovers that didn’t care to give her an orgasm or thought she shouldn’t have one. She may have been raised to believe that women aren’t supposed to get sexual pleasure, or that if a girl orgasms, she’s “dirty” or doing something “wrong.”

Any of these things could be causing her to be unable to let go when she’s on the brink of climax, or it could be something else. This is where being sensitive to her feelings and being able to communicate with your lover about what she is thinking and feeling will come in handy.

She Doesn’t Know How

Even though during sex you are primarily responsible for doing the physical work to get her to reach orgasm, there’s a lot that she’s still got to do as well. If she’s never had an orgasm before or hasn’t had them very often, she may not know how to get up and over the orgasm hump. While orgasms can just happen, more often than not, it takes a certain degree of recognition and body response for her to go along with it and propel herself over the edge.

Women who rely solely on a man to make them come are usually disappointed. Women learn this skill during masturbation – which is why female masturbation is so gosh darn important if a girl ever wants to climax, either by herself or with her lover. If she refuses to masturbate or thinks is dirty or wrong, well, she can kiss her orgasm goodbye forever and that’s not your fault – not even a little bit.

She’s got to learn what an orgasm feels like and how to move her body and what to do to be able to orgasm consistently during different types of stimulation. If your girl has trouble reaching orgasm no matter what you do for her, she may very well not know how.

You Didn’t Spend Enough Time Warming Her Up

This is another one that unfortunately, is usually a man’s fault. You already know that women require a great deal of foreplay if they’re actually going to get into it, and many men fail at giving their partners as much foreplay as they need. Unfortunately, many women expect their lovers to automatically know what to do and how long to spend doing it without communicating what they want and need, but this is a different problem entirely.

Men and women are wired differently – men are like a blowtorch while women are like ovens. Men heat up fast and hard, and when they’re done, they’re off. No more fire. Women, however, take a while to preheat and they stay warm longer. It also takes them time to cool off and while the oven is hot, she can bake 10 batches of cookies without breaking a sweat. Allow your partner plenty of time to “preheat.” She’s doing lots of things during this time – allowing her body to relax, as well as killing those nasty stressful thoughts that take so much effort to get rid of.

Don’t put a time limit on her and make sure to pay attention to her body language. If you pay close attention to her, she’ll let you know when she’s ready to move on. If she seems disinterested in sex after foreplay, seems like she’s been let down or stops caring as soon as you switch to intercourse, it’s likely you didn’t spend enough time getting her warmed up. This, of course, makes it very difficult for her to have an orgasm.

The 4 Do’s And Don’ts While Getting Head

By michaelfiore

Oral sex is something every guy wants, but if you make any of these mistakes, you’re likely not getting it again. Here’s how to mind your oral sex p’s and q’s.

1. DO NOT Grab The Back Of Her Head And Shove

Yes, I know this one should be obvious, but it’s amazing to me how many guys try to turn their women into Linda Lovelace on day one. Remember, you’re trying to make giving head a pleasurable and FUN and POWERFUL experience for her.

Especially the first few times, you’ve got to make sure she feels like she’s in charge and can start or stop the process whenever she wants.

At least at first, keep your hands out of the equation entirely. Don’t touch her head. Don’t grab her. Down the line she might discover she likes it when you grab her head and when you treat her a little roughly, but for now you gotta keep things basic.

2. DO Make EYE CONTACT With Her

Remember that whole “women don’t like fellatio because it’s degrading/dehumanizing?” Yeah, we’re nipping that one in the bud. While she’s giving you head LOOK AT HER. Look her right in the eye and smile with pleasure and appreciation.

By making eye contact you establish a real connection between you while she’s blowing you and make it much more something you’re SHARING than something she’s doing TO you.

3. DO Give Her Gratitude And Appreciation

OK, guys, if you lie there like a dead fish your chances of getting ANOTHER blowjob are pretty much nil. Women are nurturers. They will do almost anything for that gratitude and appreciation. Where guys make the mistake is by making oral sex too much about them. Even if you’re the one getting the PHYSICAL pleasure, you’ve got to make the woman feel good about herself.

While she’s giving you head you’ve got to let her know how GOOD it feels, how much you APPRECIATE what she’s doing and how INCREDIBLY SEXY she is!

4. DO Show Her Technique And Give Constructive Criticism

OK, once you finally get the blowjob you’ve been dreaming of for who knows how long, you might be afraid to criticize her technique at all.

But I’m going to tell you right now that just staying quiet or ONLY giving positive feedback is a bad idea.

Here’s why:

Women are more observant than men and they can tell when we’re faking something.
If you don’t tell her something doesn’t feel good, she might assume it DOES feel good and keep doing it. Do you really want her to think you like it when she uses her teeth when you really want the opposite?

So how do you “guide” your woman without her taking offense?

Simple, you do it with the time tested and proven “Criticism sandwich.”

Step 1: Compliment her on something she did that you really like. “Oh, baby, your tongue on my cock feels soooo good.”

Step 2: Gently push her away from whatever she’s doing “wrong” (wrong is subjective. It’s just something you don’t like as much as you like something else) and towards what you want “OK, just loosen your lips a little bit and . . .”

Step 3: Give her HUGE positive reinforcement when she switches over to what you really want you to do. “OH, that feels soooo good. Thank you. You’re amazing.”

Get it?

Your Blowjob Questions – Answered (Part II)

By loveandsex

Oral sex isn’t always easy to figure out. Here are the answers to your most common oral sex questions!

What Can I Practice Giving Head With?

Learning how to give great head takes lots of practice, but you’re probably wondering just what you can practice on to get really good at it. The best way to practice is to practice on your partner – he can give you feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t, and let’s face it – a banana isn’t going to give you any responses about what it likes and what it doesn’t. Experimenting with new oral sex techniques and positions with your lover is part of the fun of discovering fellatio!

If you want to get really good at giving head before you go down on your man and surprise him with excellent blowjob skills, you can use other items to practice with, but you still won’t know if you’re any good or not because again, these items just can’t give you any feedback.

Food items like peeled bananas and cucumbers are popular for practicing giving head, but these can often pose a choking hazard – for example, if part of the banana breaks off into your throat and you’re not prepared for it. If you’re practicing a blowjob on an unpeeled banana – or any other food item, you can also risk scratching and scraping the inside of your mouth, your tongue or the back of your throat. To put it simply, food items were created for eating, not sucking off.

The best item to practice giving head with is an actual dildo. Choose one that is as lifelike as possible – complete with vein, head and scrotum details. This will allow you to practice many different oral sex techniques, such as swirling your tongue around the head or gently sucking the scrotum in and out of your mouth.

While a dildo can’t give you any more feedback than a banana can, if it’s realistic enough, it will train you how a certain technique feels. You’ll feel the coronal ridge of the head of the penis beneath your tongue and be able to find that same spot on your man when you go to perform oral sex on him later. You’ll know exactly what that spot feels like and what to do with it if you’ve practiced on a lifelike dildo first. If you get one with a suction cup on the back of it, you can stick it to the wall or a chair to practice oral sex positions as well!

Just lock your door first and make sure you have complete and utter privacy – this is something you really don’t want to get caught doing!

How Can I Get Over The Fear Of Giving Head For The First Time?

First time blowjob jitters can really put a damper on whatever sexy mood you’ve got going. However, there’s less reason to be afraid than you think. Remember how much guys love getting a blowjob? Pretty much any blowjob is a good one, even if all the girl knows how to do is suck up and down. As long as you’re not using your teeth, you’re good to go. Relax and enjoy the process!

Pay attention to his body language and the noise he is making, and do whatever causes him to make the most noise, buck his hips or breathe the heaviest. Know that you’re not going to be an oral sex master the second you put a penis in your mouth, and just enjoy the ride! You’ll get better as you continue going down on your man!

Is It Normal For Some Guys Not To Be Able To Orgasm From A Blowjob?

Sometimes you can give a guy head before and no matter what you did or how long you did it for, he still won’t get to the point of no return. Does this mean you’re bad at oral sex or don’t know how to get him off? Probably not. Some men just can’t let go when it comes to oral sex.

He may be afraid of ejaculating in your mouth or on your face, or he may be afraid he’ll break wind or so some other equally embarrassing thing if he “lets go” while your face is down there. So they hold back mentally and physically and just can’t reach the finish line, no matter how good the blowjob is. This is actually often subconscious – your man is likely not even realizing he’s holding back on his orgasm.

If this is the case, have fun with the blowjob and move on to sexual intercourse when you’re ready. There’s no hard and fast rule that says you have to give a man an orgasm from a blowjob for it to be any good. If you really want to get him to the point of no return, make sure you’ve set the mood well.

Allow him to shower first, go to the bathroom if he needs to and make sure he’s in a comfortable position with the lights down low. Give him every opportunity to relax and get into it. Don’t ask him if he’s there yet, or if he’s close. This will take him back to square one almost as fast as taking your mouth off of him all together. Talk with him about what turns him on the most and what might help him cross the border into Orgasm-land. If you can’t get him there, don’t sweat it too much. He still enjoys getting great head from you.

How Can I Tell If He Really Liked It?

Many guys aren’t going to tell you that a blowjob was really good or really bad – you’re going to have to make a lot of these inferences yourself. You can judge how good oral sex for him is by gauging his body language. If he’s breathing heavy, bucking his hips or grinding them in conjunction with your movements, moaning or talking dirty, he’s most likely enjoying himself. If he’s laying there like a cadaver or his penis starts going limp, he’s most likely not enjoying himself.

You don’t need a fancy litmus test to tell you whether you suck at sucking him off or not. However, keep in mind that if your man loses his erection often, no matter what you do, it may not have anything to do with you at all. That’s an excellent question for his doctor.

Will He Urinate In My Mouth?

Chances are, he’s not going to pee in your mouth when you’re going down on him, unless he’s got a fetish and forgot to tell you – but that’s not likely. When a man is turned on, it’s very difficult for him to urinate because his body just won’t let him do it. The valves from the bladder to the urethra shut and the valves from the vas deferens open. If your partner ever tries to urinate when he’s erect, notice that it takes him longer.

He has to mentally concentrate on relaxing the muscles needed for him to release the flow of urine while his penis is hard. If your lover has to urinate, he likely won’t be able to achieve a full erection or he won’t be able to reach orgasm and may have to stop the action to go take a bathroom break. If you feel a warm gush of thick liquid, he’s probably ejaculated in your mouth. However, it’s not impossible for him to urinate while you’re giving him head – it has happened to women before.

If the liquid is thinner and saltier, it’s likely urine. Go spit it out and brush your teeth. Relax, it won’t kill you. It will probably embarrass him more, so give him a break and don’t make a big deal about it.

How To Make Your Lover Orgasm Faster During Oral Sex

By david

Oral sex is fun, but when you’re going down on someone for what seems like hours, it can get boring!. Here’s how to make your lover orgasm fast during oral sex!

Why You Want To Get Down To Business!

When it comes down to oral sex, some people just dilly-dally. They do one thing or the other. This and that. No rhythm. No awareness. That’s wrong.

Oral sex for a woman isn’t just about a man going down on a woman’s vagina, licking her clitoris, and bringing her to orgasm. That’s just basic stuff that we learn right from the get go.

When a woman goes down on a man, she shouldn’t just suck and lick and that’s it. She should involve her hands!

The hands are the key to making anybody come faster.

Oral Sex For Her

Whenever you go down on a woman, you want to kiss her vagina all around and do it really slow. Kiss all around her lips. Take your tongue and flick it in very slowly. Don’t go for her clitoris right away.

When you finally do kiss it, it’s like almost like the flower opening. Every time you kiss her vagina, it just opens up just a little bit more and a little bit more and a little bit more.

You will be able to feel the moisture on your lips. Take your lips and just move them all around so she can feel and anticipate the gliding. Of course going by her clitoris several times so she starts building up pressure inside her body. When you finally do go for her clitoris, slip one finger deep inside her and go right to her G spot, because if you spend enough time getting her prepped, her G spot at this time will be swollen and spongy.

It will feel great to touch.

Then start licking her slowly, changing your techniques up, figuring out what type of rhythm she likes. At the same time, start taking your finger and moving it back and forth on her G spot, adding pressure and building that pressure up ever so slowly. Now she has two sensations going, she’s got her G spot going and she’s got her clitoris going. She’s going to come really fast. She might come from both spots at the same time and explode all over you!

That’s hot!

That will get her wanting more, desiring more, thinking about more. That will distinguish you as a good lover.

Oral Sex For Him

If you’re a woman, don’t immediately go suck a man’s penis.

Kiss his body, tease him, kiss his inner thigh, lick his balls, get involved in the whole area before you go right for his penis and just start sucking. When a woman just goes and sucks on her partner’s penis instantly, it almost feels like he needs to start masturbating. It won’t work for him at all!

He will love when you start altering between his penis and his balls. It will feel great when you start sucking both of them. A favorite move men love when a woman is sucking his penis and tickling his balls at the same time, or playing with his balls or tickling the perineum.

Get your hands more involved because then you’re going to give him the best blowjob of his entire life.

This is how you master oral sex!

You don’t just go for it, you tease, touch and use your hands. Use everything that’s available to you. You’re going to give your partner and lover one of the best experiences they can ever have.