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What To Do When HE Is Lazy In Bed!

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Sex tips can often help you get out of a rut, especially when you’re putting more effort in than your lover. Many times in a relationship, the sex gets boring because one or both partners get comfortable and start doing the same thing over and over. If you want a super hot sex life, you have to bring variety to the table! Use these sex tips to get him trying new things!

Normal Sexual Progression In A Relationship

Often, sex can get pretty lame when you’re in a relationship – especially if your relationship is long term and you and your partner are monogamous. Many times what will happen in situations like these is that one or both partners start getting comfortable with the relationship and the sex, and don’t bother to use their imagination to come up with new things. It often happens to guys because once they figure out the “secret formula” to getting their girl to reach orgasm, they stick with it! They don’t want to go trying different strokes, techniques or sex positions because they found what works. If it’s not broken, why fix it, right?

This is not at all uncommon, however, that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Girls don’t always want “A + B + C = Orgasm” sex. They want passion and variety! They want to experiment. A girl can spice things up in the bedroom but she’s got to have a game plan first.

Stop Bitching

One of the biggest reasons guys get less interested in making sex adventurous over time is because their partners get more and more comfortable griping about this and that. Women often do this because as the “warm fuzzies” begin to wear off as the relationship gets older, annoying habits start becoming more and more apparent. Most of the time, they’re not make-or-break-the-relationship types of things – but as a girl gets more comfortable with her guy, she will often want to “fix” him. She’ll think that by telling him what she doesn’t like that he’ll stop and start doing things her way.

You may think your nagging is letting him know that you don’t like a certain behavior, but all it’s really doing is killing his sex drive. He doesn’t see it as you gently guiding him in the right direction – he sees it as nagging, bitching, griping, etc. He’ll still leave his dirty underwear on the floor but he won’t bother taking yours off and throwing them down next to his.

Make An Effort To Be Sexy

While he probably thinks you’re cute in your flannel pajamas, if that’s all you’re wearing, he’s going to start seeing you as non-sexual and just wonderfully cuddly. While this can be an advantage on those cold days when you just don’t feel like doing anything but snuggling up in your man’s arms, if this is all you’re getting, you’re going to wonder what happened to make your guy not want to have sex with you as much anymore, or just not care about trying new things.

The truth is, he wants BOTH sides of you. Sweet, cuddly and wearing flannels without makeup. But other times, he wants to be reminded that he’s with an incredible sex vixen who will ride him all night long! So make a point to wear lingerie to bed sometimes. And heels. When you look sexy, you feel sexy. When you feel sexy, you look sexy. Don’t forget that confidence is truly the sexiest thing you can wear. Rock it like a bombshell and he’ll be on fire!

Don’t Underestimate Sex Games

A fantasy box is an incredibly fun, non-threatening way to introduce your lover to new things and ideas when it comes giving him sex tips and letting him know what you want in bed. This can be as simple or as elaborate as you and your partner want it to be. You can indulge your crafty side and make a fun fantasy box, or use something you have around the house. The more you put into this fun sex game, the more you get out of it. That is, unless you have some damn good imagination. If you do though, it won’t matter one bit if all you have is bar napkins and a Styrofoam cup.

With the “fantasy box” sex game, you and your partner each get to write a secret fantasy that you’d like to try out. Write a few down, three from each of you is a fun number to start with. What you actually write down can range from tame to super kinky, but agree on how hot you’re going to get before you start – you can always start small and up the ante later. It will be pretty awkward if you write down “Spank my ass hard and call me your whore while having sex doggy style” and his says “french kiss for 10 minutes.”  Consider thinking of different “levels” of how hot you want it to be, and decide on a “level” before you start writing down your ideas.

Throw your slips of paper in the box, mix them up and take turns fishing them out. You will, of course, have much more fun trying them out! This is often all that is needed to rev up a “vanilla” guy – simply because they don’t see the fantasy box as a threat to their ego/manhood/pride like they would if you outright told him what he was doing wrong and gave him sex tips.

Reward Him

Men are awesome like puppies – loving, playful and in need of praise when they do something right. When your man does something especially hot that you’re totally into, make some noise! Do NOT let the opportunity slip away – if he doesn’t hear anything, he’s going to assume he’s done something you don’t like and move on to the next ideas or sex tips. So if you don’t let him know when he does something spot on, you’re really screwing yourself because he’ll never learn what you like!

Let him know how much it turns you on when he does something good. Also, reward him by doing something he really enjoys – like giving him an amazing blowjob. This doesn’t apply only to sex either. You can mix and match. Reward him for a sweet gesture like filling up your car with gas by giving him road head. Or taking him on an impromptu shopping spree at the manly store of his choice. Either way, so long as you reward him for anything he does that pleases you. Because when you do, he’ll want to do it again!

5 Things Women Want In A Penis

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Penis size is something men are often worried about, but girls look for other traits too. When she sees you naked, she’s not necessarily just looking at how big it is. She’s also looking at how well it can give her an orgasm! Here are five traits that work best with her anatomy.

It Doesn’t Have To Be That Big

A woman’s g-spot is actually only about 2 inches into her vagina – therefore, the myth that men have to have a huge penis to give a woman an orgasm is just that – a myth. A penis can be satisfying to a woman and cause g-spot orgasms if it’s over 3″ long, however, the average penis size is about 5 inches. So in reality, most men are able to satisfy a woman with the equipment they’ve got.

A Prominent “Ridge”

Many girls will favor a prominent ridge where the head meets the shaft. If you follow this ridge around to the underside, you will see it curve upwards into an upside down “V.” When the shaft is erect, this ridge can get very swollen and when it is prominent, it will “catch” on the g-spot and stimulate it during sex. The ridge is much more prominent in circumcised men than uncircumcised men, because the foreskin that covers the head has been removed.

A Wide Head

Again, the head is where it’s at for a woman. This is what will stimulate her g-spot during sex and give her incredible orgasms. Although her g-spot isn’t very big, the wider the head of your penis is, the more it will rub up against it and stimulate it.

A Thick Shaft

The outside of the vagina, at the opening, is also a very sensitive area. You may have seen the rabbit style vibrators with the rotating beads – those are designed to massage and stimulate those sensitive nerves at the vaginal opening. If your penis is very thin, you’re not going to be able to rub up against the walls of her vagina very well. However, if you have a thicker shaft, you will automatically be causing friction and stimulating those hot spots.

If your penis is thin, it’s not the end of the world. Your sexual technique can compensate for it. Simply thrust your penis in a circular motion during sex instead of the straight in-and-out. It may take some practice to get this technique down pat, but it is well worth it. When doing using this technique, you’re going to rub up against every side of her vaginal walls, right where those pleasure spots are.

Slight Upward Curve

The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, on the stomach side – not the butt side. So if your penis has a slight upward curve, it’s simply going to hit the g-spot even better. If your penis goes straight out, that’s not bad either. If your penis curves downward, you may want to experiment with different sex positions to find a way to stimulate her g-spot with your penis.

Doggy style is actually an excellent sex position to try if you want to stimulate her g-spot but your penis curves downwards. Some men have a penis that curves slightly to the left or right – this usually does not affect a woman sexually, unless you are long enough to stimulate her AFE Zone, which is much farther back than the g-spot.

Confidence (And Sexual Skill) Makes A Difference

No matter what your penis looks like, a girl isn’t going to get off with a weak, wimpy guy unless she has a dominant personality and that’s really her thing. Most women want to have sex with a guy that is confident in bed, confident about his body and confident that he can please a woman sexually. She doesn’t always want him asking permission to do everything. A girl wants to get down and dirty with an alpha male – no matter what his junk looks like.

Learn to work with what you’ve got. Study the female anatomy and learn where all the hot spots are. Learn different sex positions to use that help your anatomy mesh well with a woman’s. If you just don’t think you have a penis that will please a woman, brush up on your oral sex skills. Learn to give a woman squirting orgasms through oral sex and fingering and it’s almost guaranteed that she’s not going to care about your penis size, shape or color at all.

5 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make When Giving Your First Blowjob

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Your first blowjob should be great – not a disaster. A lot of women make mistakes when it comes to giving their guy head, and most of the time, little issues will be overlooked because it feels so good. However, if you screw it up big time, he won’t want it from you again! Here’s what you want to avoid when giving a first blowjob.

Using Your Teeth

It may seem like a good idea to graze your guy’s shaft lightly with your teeth or giving the head of his penis a little nibble (you like your clitoris nibbled every once in awhile, so why wouldn’t he?), but really, it’s not. Teeth can hurt and unless your man is a super masochist and enjoys cock and ball torture, letting him feel your pearly whites during fellatio is going to turn him off before you even know what happened.

Avoid using your teeth during your first blowjob by wrapping your lips tightly over them. Make sure your lips are well lubricated, either by your saliva or a good flavored lube. If your lips are dry, they won’t slide well over the shaft of your partner’s penis.

Sucking Too Hard

Lots of girls think that the harder they suck during fellatio, the more pleasurable it will be for a man. While a little bit of sucking, and even firm sucking if he’s close to orgasm is a good thing, if you do it too hard, you’re going to do much more harm than good. It may actually feel too sensitive or be painful for you to suck on his penis very hard, and it will turn him off when you do.

In this case, light sucking and licking is going to be sufficient here. Start out with light licking to tease him and get him warmed up (guys need foreplay too), and then progress to moderate sucking as he gets more and more turned on. Don’t cross the threshold though and do it too hard or too furiously.

Not Listening To His Cues

It’s crucial to listen to a man’s cues during fellatio. His body language will tell you if you’re on the right track or not. A man will thrust his pelvis towards your face, grab your hair or head and vocalize their pleasure when it’s feeling really good. If you’re not getting these results, change what you’re doing – you’re either hurting him or just not doing enough.

Also, don’t assume that if he likes something at first, that he’s going to like it the entire time you’re giving him head. Your technique should vary throughout the duration (seriously, who wants boring fellatio from a one trick pony?) and increase in intensity as he gets closer and closer to orgasm. His non-verbal cues will vary – he may start out gasping for breath and bucking furiously when you start a certain technique, but he may soon relax and get comfortable with it. In which case, you need to move on to a different technique ASAP.

Seeming Bored With It

Enthusiasm is 50% of a great first blowjob. Don’t ruin great fellatio by acting like you really would rather be doing something else. When guys fantasize about getting head, they often fantasize about whoever is doing it being really excited to do it. If you act bored with the act or don’t seem like you’re into it at all, he’s going to pick up on it immediately.

Some guys don’t vocalize their pleasure during oral sex, making it difficult for a woman to feel into it. Encourage him to show you that he’s enjoying it so you can get off on his pleasure too.

Choosing The Wrong Oral Sex Positions

There’s nothing more awkward than a woman trying to get into an oral sex position that bends a man’s penis a strange way. She may think that she’s being adventurous or exciting by doing it this way, but it really just takes away from his pleasure. Make your first blowjob all about your technique and pick a simple, tried and true oral sex position that you know will work.

Try giving him oral sex while he’s standing and you’re kneeling. Place a pillow underneath your knees so you stay comfortable. You can also have him lie on the bed with you cuddled up in between his legs. This allows you a little less control and makes it difficult for him to watch you, but you can prop his head up with pillows to give him a great view.

6 Amazing Sex Tips From REAL Women!

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The best sex tips come from women themselves – because they KNOW what they like! You can get some good suggestions from guys on how to please girls, but it just isn’t the same as hearing it from a girl. Check out these foolproof sex tips to bring her to orgasm over and over!

Give Oral Sex Or Finger Her In A Pattern

There’s a reason that those vibrators that have multiple settings – and do different things in a pattern over and over – are so popular among the ladies. Women enjoy lots of different sensations, but not necessarily in a random order. The best way to coax a woman to an orgasm is to touch her softly and then progress to a more firm touch, then backing down to a softer touch after several seconds.

You can use this technique during oral sex if you want to give her a climax she’ll never, ever forget. Switch between flicking her clitoris lightly to firm, broad licking from the bottom up. The key here is to be persistent and avoid any temptation to change it up and do something different unless she’s giving you cues or telling you to do so. A huge complaint about men is that they change up what they’re doing at exactly the wrong moment! If she seems to be enjoying what you’re doing, don’t change a thing!

Advanced Technique

Do a pattern of three and alternate between flicking her clitoris with your tongue, sucking on it for a few seconds and then licking her with a flat tongue from the bottom of her vagina to the top of her clitoris. This move will have her clawing at the sheets!

Finger Her G-Spot While You Give Oral Sex

Another thing that really gets a woman off is multiple sensations on different areas of her body all at the same time. This is why so many women love the idea of having sex with two guys at once – the feeling of double penetration and experiencing both sensations at the same time is really powerful for a woman.

Give her intense sensations during oral sex by fingering her g-spot while you lick and suck her clitoris. If you can manage to rub and lightly pinch her nipples while you’re doing this, you’ll really drive her wild!

Advanced Technique

Combine fingering your lover’s g-spot with oral sex using the pattern technique. Be prepared for a sheet soaking, squirting orgasm!

Grind Your Pelvis Against The Clitoris

A common misconception that guys have about sex with a woman is that they think simply sliding in and out of a woman’s vagina is all they need to do to make it feel incredible for them. It’s what feels good for a guy, so it has to feel good for the girl too, right? Wrong! This couldn’t be further from the truth! Aside from possibly stimulating the g-spot, this isn’t going to stimulate a girl AT ALL.

Instead, while having sex with your girl when you’re on top, move your hips in a circular motion and grind your pelvis against the clitoris. This move will also help you feel bigger inside her because you’re putting friction on all sides of her vagina.

Advanced Technique

Take a lubed up finger and rub her clitoris instead. Make sure your finger is lubed, because it’s not going to feel good at all if you do it when your finger is dry!

Don’t Forget About The Nipples

A lot of guys forget about a woman’s nipples as soon as he heads down south. However, stimulating her nipples while you’re going down on your girl or having sex will make your partner feel incredible. This goes back to the fact that women enjoy feeling different sensations on different parts of her body all at the same time.

You can use all different kinds of techniques here, from light rubbing to firm pinching depending on what your lover enjoys. You’ll want to increase pressure as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, but don’t change what you’re doing when she gets close.

Advanced Technique

If you’re giving your lover oral sex and fingering her g-spot, you may not be able to hold yourself up and pinch her nipples at the same time. If you have trouble doing this, try a set of vibrating nipple clamps to give her intense pleasure all over her body.

Touch Her Backdoor

Many women shy away from anal sex, and they may even get upset if a man tries to stick anything in her anus without her permission (and rightly so!) However, that doesn’t mean that these women don’t enjoy anal stimulation at all. There are tons of nerve endings around the anus and you can give a girl intense pleasure simply by laying your finger or rubbing lightly around her anal opening.

Advanced Technique

Do this while you’re giving her oral sex. If she seems to dig it, let your tongue slip down there for a few seconds too.

Talk Dirty During Orgasm

Dirty talk can intensify a woman’s orgasm ten fold if used in the right way at the right time. You may have even noticed that a lot of girls will start talking dirty when they get really, really turned on and get closer to orgasm. Surprisingly, some really nasty things can come out of their mouths that you wouldn’t have imagined would!

Join in with her and start talking dirty when she gets closer to reaching climax. Tell her how hot she is, and feel free to get as graphic as you want. Make her feel like she’s the hottest, best lover on the planet and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Advanced Technique

Describe to her exactly what you want to do, what you’re doing and why you’re doing it explicitly. Make her feel like she’s the only one who could give you an incredible orgasm will make her feel incredible and make her orgasm that much intense.

How To Share Your Sexual Fantasies With Each Other

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Sexual fantasies are something everyone has – but many people are too shy to reveal them. They’ll enjoy their sexual fantasies on their own during masturbation or solo play, but they may be afraid of sharing them with a partner, even someone they are very close to. However, exploring your fantasies together can be a great way to increase intimacy and bring more heat into your sex life! Here’s how you and your lover can accept each other’s desires.

These can be both a blessing and a curse. There are so many men and women that are afraid to tell their partner what they want in the bedroom out of fear of rejection. Telling your partner that you think it would be hot to live out a fantasy is not very easy if they are not receptive.

Having a wife or husband that is willing to engage in your wants and needs is crucial to being happy. When you are in a relationship with a partner who is not willing to entertain your fantasies it is easy to become frustrated or discouraged by their stubbornness. Here are a few way that you can tell your partner about your fantasies and hear some of theirs as well.

1. Have A Meeting

No, you don’t have to get access to a boardroom, but you do have to arrange a meeting with your partner. When you are having a discussion about your it, you want to make sure that you are in a good environment for it. Give the kids some money to go out for ice cream or arrange a time when your partner’s favorite TV show isn’t on.

There can be no distractions when you are discussing your sex life. If there are distractions your partner might just tell you what you want to hear instead of really listening to what you are saying. This isn’t an intervention, but you should kind of take the approach.

2. Engage Them As A Partner

There is no reason to place blame on yourself or on your partner. Sure, either of you might feel like the other is not as receptive to your sexual fantasies as you wish, but that is why you are talking about it now. The last thing that you want to do is turn a discussion into an argument. Talking about your desires should be fun and exciting. It shouldn’t drudge up past problems in the relationship or lead to new problems. Remember that your partner is going to take a part in your sexual fantasies so you need to be respectful and figure out a way to work together so you are both happy.

3. Leave The Judgment At The Door

All judgment should be left out of the room when you are discussing your wants and needs. One of the biggest problems with couples is honesty. There is a lot of judgment in every day lives and couples can feel as if their partners would reject them if they shared something that was too over the top.

For the most part, your partner’s desires are going to be fairly tame. If you’re in a healthy relationship and you are committed to each other, there is nothing that should sway your partner’s love for you. Desires should be used to create more intimacy in the relationship, not to bring a barrier between the two of you.

4. Reciprocity

Each of you should be sharing with each other. It takes two people to make up a couple so there is no reason why one partner’s fantasies should overshadow the others. Make it a point to talk to each about both of your fantasies for a more healthy relationship.

If there are conflicting fantasies then you need to work through them. For instance, if both of you have sexual fantasies about being dominated by the other, you should take turns. There is no reason that the both of you can’t be happy. Work together to get rid of all the discrepancies in the relationship and enjoy your desires together.

5. Start Slow

It’s all too easy to start sharing your sexual fantasies and then get so hot that you can’t wait to put them to work for you. Start off slow. You have no idea how your partner is going to react once you or they finally get what they want. The fantasy might not actually have the same weight that it did in you mind.

Your partner might not even do it right the first time. Start off slow so the both of you can perfect your sexual fantasies and make them mind blowing each time. If you rush it, what you thought would be super hot could actually leave a very bad taste in your mouth. Take your time and build upon what you and your partner feel comfortable with.