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How To Use Anal Fingering In Your Sex Life

Anal fingering has become very common among most couples nowadays, whether they go all the way to anal penetration or not. Chances are that while you were performing cunnilingus on your girlfriend or wife, you played with your fingers on her backdoor without her resisting it.

If you want her to be up for more, your fingering technique should be spotless and leave her fully stimulated and wanting more.

Take Care Of Your Hands

There are some things you should take into consideration before going in. First of all, fingers are, unlike a tongue, rough. This is true no matter how baby-smooth your hands are, or how well-manicured. It’s more true, of course, if your hands are rough or not well manicured.

Caring for them ahead of time with some hand-softening lotion and the careful removal of as much fingernail as comfortable is a good idea.

Use Gloves

Rubber/latex gloves, especially the surgical kind, are definitely worth considering, especially if you are just starting to experiment with anal-finger stimulation. The difference it makes is just astounding. Discomfort which was actually assumed to be from other issues (like being thought a matter of penetration itself, or nervous tightness) sometimes disappears completely.

Since the idea here, unlike condoms, is not to actually keep fluids from being passed between you, oil-based lubricants can sometimes be used with latex gloves.

Because there is going to be a lot of skin-on-skin during this type of sexual activity, you should still use a condom for protection. Though, a water-based lubricant (K-9, Wet, Anal-Ease, whatever you choose) might work fine.

How To Finger Her The RIGHT Way

Now that you’re all good and ready here’s how to tackle the situation so that both of you end up satisfied:

Step 1. Use all your fingers to part her buttocks, putting the tips close enough to her anus to do a
little bit of fiddling.

Step 2. Using your pinkies and your index fingers for anchoring let your ring and middle fingers meet each other over the whole, press gently into it, then stroke outwards again.

Step 3. Locate the exact opening. Don’t assume you know where it is, try to make a point of eyeballing it, sometimes even your partner ca be mistaken if they are trying to guide you.

Step 4. Don’t stick any fingers straight away or too fast; you’re not taking her temperature. Lube up before making any attempt at insertion, and then do it slowly and gradually. Go in a couple of centimeters, then slowly pull out again. Repeat as many times as necessary.

Step 5. Wiggle and vibrate your finger a little bit while you’re inside. Concentrate on stimulating the side nearest to her vagina. Once she’s comfortable with it, press along the same wall from both sides toward the rectum from the vagina, and toward the vagina from the rectum. The wall between them is thin enough and you will easily be able to feel your fingers pressing on each other.

Step 6. If she relaxes under your movements, insert a second or third finger, preparing the area for the actual penis.

Should You Engage In After Breakup Sex?

By david

Sex tips are essential when you are breaking up or going through a divorce. Getting back into the groove can be problematic for everybody.

Divorce is trying on emotions and the sex life. But there’s nothing better than that first orgasm you have after a breakup. And we’re not talking about the orgasm you initiate yourself.

For most people, during the course of a divorce or during a marriage that’s not functional, their hand (or vibrator) becomes their best friend. Where do you think the acronym B.O.B. came from?

You know: battery operated boyfriend. It came from women that were frustrated during the process of being separated and getting divorced or breaking up.

Get Over The Frustration

I understand the frustration that occurs—sexually and otherwise—during a breakup. And it’s too bad really. But there’s nothing better than after breakup sex.

It’s almost like going to a car dealer for the very, very first time and smelling that new car smell. There’s nothing better than the new-person smell, especially after the last one was so stinky and old and had too many miles on it. I’ve been there.

I’ve been married 2.5 times, so I know all about after-divorce sex. The anticipation, the build up—oh my god, it’s so good! I’ve got to tell you, the first time you look at another person’s eyes, you look deep into them and you think to yourself “all I want is sex.”

All I Want Is Sex

“I don’t want to talk about the kids. I don’t want to talk about money. I don’t’ want to talk about anything. I just want you to do me, all night long.”

It’s the best foreplay you will ever have.

The first time you sleep with a new person after ending a relationship—whether it’s divorce or just breaking-up a relationship—consider that the person is literally re-taking your virginity all over again.

Some of you have cobwebs down there; it’s been so long. Some of you are really, really rusty. But here’s the deal—and remember this because it’s really important: the first person you sleep with after you separate is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Don’t Make This BIG Mistake

Think about it. You are full of emotion, full of desire and infatuation. It’s lust.

And a lot of people go into the mistake of getting involved in relationships with somebody right away, because the sex is so good, because that’s what was probably is lacking in your relationship. Usually when people are going through relationship issues, the sex stops.

So, of course, it’s the first thing you want to replace, because you’ve been deprived for so long. But, it’s also the biggest trap. That trap is hot sex. The first person you sleep with after a relationship ends is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Remember that the next time you have that lust. You need to spend time alone after a relationship ends. You need to go back and get some good sex, have some fun, figure out what life is all about.

Don’t Fall Into This Trap!

Don’t fall into the trap of getting with that person that wants to do you in any way, shape or form—they’re really just feeding off of your sexually energy. Because when we get out of a marriage or relationship, we’ve got incredible sexual energy.

It’s almost like a little kid being let loose on the playground. It’s almost like the first day of school. It’s almost like going to the best buffet in Vegas, all you can eat.

But the problem is, you don’t want to hit a buffet every single night. You certainly don’t want to be in school forever, and you certainly can’t be in Vegas for longer than 48 hours.

So, think about that the next time you’ve got some good after-breakup sex. Or if you are going through a break-up right now, don’t get trapped by that great buffet.

How To Get Your Girl To Want To Go Down On You AGAIN

By michaelfiore

A blowjob is a favor. It’s not often that men find a woman who loves to give a blowjob. If your wife or girlfriend is standoffish about giving you oral sex. There are things that you do to increase the odds. Here is a quick guide on how to make her actually want to give you a blowjob AGAIN AND AGAIN!

Right After Your Blowjob

Right after the blowjob there are a few key things you need to do.

1. Help clean up. If she lets you orgasm in her mouth, get her a towel to spit into.

2. If you came somewhere else, it’s your job to clean up. Wipe it off. Show that you’re going to take care of things.

3. Have a positive and THANKFUL and HAPPY attitude. Tell your girl things like…

“That was WONDERFUL.”
“You are AMAZING.”
“Oh my god, thank you so much. That was awesome.”

4. Shower her in affection. Don’t go overboard but really show that you care appreciate what she’s done.

Listen guys, I know you might not love cuddling or hanging out after you climax, but drink an energy drink if you have to, stay awake and make sure she feels appreciated.

The Next Day

The next day is when you really cement the positive experience of giving you a blowjob. If you have my Text Your Wife Into Bed product, use some of the core concepts there to revivify the experience for both of you. Focus on how GREAT she made you feel and how WONDERFUL the whole thing was.

If you don’t have TYWIB, text or email this:

“That was wonderful last night. Thank you.”
“My favorite part was when you ran your tongue along the underside…you looked SOOO sexy.”

KEY POINT: Whatever you do, do not create the expectation that she’s going to do this again. If she feels pressured to make this a regular part of the arsenal, you might lose the fish. You may even want to say “It’s totally up to you if you ever do that again, but it was WONDERFUL.”

You can also focus on how she seemed to really enjoy it. “I can’t believe how wet you were when you were sucking me.” Or “You really seemed turned on.” By bringing the attention to the girl’s own arousal you cement it in her mind.

Days Down The Road

Really all you need to do at this point is rinse, wash and repeat. Continue the games I’ve taught you here. Continue to reinforce the idea of her mouth as a erogenous zone and the POWER of her mouth and tongue to give you pleasure. Remember, you’re basically trying to create a “habit” here and creating a habit requires repetition.

If you let off the throttle the first time you have success, you’ll have a lot more work to do next time. But if you continue at a strong and steady pace you’ll have your wife or girlfriend acting like an “oral enthusiast” in no time.

How To Get Her To Orgasm Faster During Sex

By loveandsex

An orgasm will depend on a woman’s physiology. The only marker you really have on any timeline is based on how long it normally takes whenever the two of you have had sex in the past. But what if it’s been ages since the last time you had sex, or if she has yet been able to orgasm during intercourse?

Give Her Time

There are some ladies who take a long while to get where they need to be before experiencing orgasm. With such a vast number of factors involved in the process, it is a delicate juggle that may or may not line up on any given night. Some women, however, have the self-knowledge, experience, confidence and wherewithal to climax in record time.

Maybe she can elicit what she needs from her body just by thinking sexy thoughts, or maybe she has a partner that really knows how to get her motor running. Maybe, just maybe, your wife is one of the rare few who barely need any assistance at all! These are the women that the rest of us envy.

Know The Factors That Affect Her Orgasm

Many factors affect a woman’s ability to orgasm, such as her mindset, where she is in her menstrual cycle, any positive or negative sexual experiences she may have experienced in the past, where and how she spent her day, how much stress she’s under, even the things she has eaten or ingested including food, water, drugs, alcohol and/or medications.

Some of these things will affect her positively – fond memories from a smell or a touch can send her right into sexy space, or small amounts of booze might help her to loosen up when she’s feeling anxious. Others, like fatty foods, excess alcohol and many prescription medications, will only serve to dampen her sexual fire.

Find Out If She Orgasms During Masturbation

Ask your lady if she masturbates and experiences orgasm on her own. If she does, she’s likely to orgasm during sexual intercourse far more easily than her non-masturbatory counterparts.

Don’t bother asking her how long she takes as an indicator of how long it’ll take while you’re inside of her though; like you when you touch your own cock, she knows her body so well that masturbation will get her to climax consistently much faster than any other method.

What will help to move things along is extended foreplay before penetrative intercourse – fingering and oral sex are sure to get her nice and warm before penetration. You’ll get her that much further along the path to climax this way, so that her juices are revved and ready to go when you make the transition from foreplay to intercourse.

Find Out What She Likes

Ask her to show you what she does on her own, or what angles, pressure and rhythm she really enjoys. If you can get to know what gets her off solo, you’ll be that much closer to learning what really makes her tick.

All of this information doesn’t truly answer the question though, does it? I’m not avoiding it, I promise. I just want to ensure that you understand all of the factors involved before you start checking the clock and timing your lover’s orgasmic process.

In a nutshell, most women take anywhere from ten to thirty minutes to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. That time frame doesn’t include foreplay or aftercare, but rather direct clitoral head stimulation or G-Spot play during intercourse.

Drive Any Girl Wild In Bed With These 3 Raunchy Sex Secrets

By lloydlester

Sex tips are the backbone for men that every woman wants and desires to have in bed. These men know how to fully satisfy women’s innermost desires and get them to respond because they have taken the time to know the art of lovemaking.

And most of all, they love to lavish attention on the beauty that is the female body. Here are 3 steamy sex secrets from the sex gods that you can use to make your woman fall all over you. Pay heed to this “gender intelligence” and become a sex god yourself!

1. The Art Of Silent Conveyance

Let your eyes, hands and body do the talking . A woman should know that you want her without you having to speak the words. This is conveyed in the way that you look at a woman, the way that you behave around a woman and the way you touch a woman’s body.

Let your fingers rest on hers for a second longer than necessary. Look at her with desire in your eyes. Get her emotionally prepared for what is coming next, and have her eagerly anticipating it as well!

2. The Art Of Tender Embrace

Once you are sure that your advances are welcomed, take her into your arms and begin kissing her, caressing her at the same time. Touch her all over, but do not fumble, stumble or grope. Your movements should be fluid and you should embrace her body.

Give her sensual delight and she will be over the moon in no time. Embracing her is not just fumbling around with her breasts and vagina; it is the intimate act of getting her physically and mentally aroused for sex.

3. The Art Of Oral Exploration

Sexual intercourse is not the only way to sexually gratify a woman. Cunnilingus is often billed as one of the “most wanted” sexual acts by women, and for a simple reason. The tongue is your body’s strongest muscle. And the tantalizing touch of a man’s tongue on a woman’s body is like no other, and cannot be replicated by any other things.

Being naturally lubricated with saliva, your tongue is also a far more effective and maneuverable tool than your penis to give her awesome orgasms. Learn how to tease her clitoris orally and you will have her as hot as a tigress in heat, waiting to burst forth with orgasmic pleasure.